There are a multitude of studies in the last 40 years that indicate the way we perceive ourselves determines a large degree and how we act and react in life. That one’s self perception, self-worth, self-esteem tends to be a governing factor in our life. If we see ourselves as a loser, we end up to a large degree acting like a loser. If we see ourselves as a victim, we can’t let people victimize us. If we see ourselves as uncreative, we never come up with any creative ideas. If we see ourselves as a piece of junk, we began to think that we are garbage. If we see ourselves as successful then we can to repeat successes that we’ve made in the past. We set ourselves up, in life. Our beliefs about ourselves determine our behavior.
Sometimes our story indicates the belief that we had ourselves originated in childhood. Unfortunately, so many of those beliefs are false. Many people have negative views of themselves because of enormous information that they have received permission formed an unauthorized sources in their lives.
We need to look at ourselves from a different perspective. We need to hear from an informed an authorized source. For example: A student in architecture enter the nationwide contest for building design. Judge by a panel of architects his design received honorable mention. He was utterly depressed, he believes he is what is the best design. At lunch on the last day of the convention he was sitting over here on eating sandwich, looking at his creation. An old man who was looking at it too. At last he remarked, not knowing who had designed the building,This one I think is the best of the lot.” Judges had merely given his work honorable mention, but the old man had like it. The young student went home elated. Why? Because this old man was Frank Loyd Wright, Probably the greatest architect of all time.
When the authority tells us something we can count on it. God is the authority on who we are. He is our Creator. He gives us correct information. He is the one who should be listening to about who we are. Peter, in the 1st chapter, said what God has done for us. In verse 2, He talks about what God says about us. And believers in Jesus he informed us of who we are.
You are acceptable
. “You are the ones chosen by God… From nothing to something, from rejected to accepted.” (1 Peter 2:9-10, the message). Most of us spend our entire lives trying to earn acceptance. We seek it from our parents, peers, partners. We seek acceptance from the people we respect and the people we envy. Our desire to be accepted . Influences the kind of clothes we wear, the kind of car we drive, the kind of house we buy, and even the career we choose.
Why are we so driven by acceptance? Because we love the feeling of acceptance. We love you know that someone has chosen and accepted us. Baseball players are divided up into teams, usually the two best players would be the captains and they choose which sides each play is on. In childhood children are chosen by the team captain, they remember how great it felt to be chosen by the best player. On the other hand how bad they felt when it got down to the last two or three and they’re still not chosen.
When we are chosen, accepted, it raises our self-esteem.
There’s a story I heard, about some parents on the East Coast that received a telephone call from their son during the Korean War. They were thrilled, because they haven’t heard from him in many months. He said he was in San Francisco and on his way home.
“Mom, I just wanted to let you know that I’m bringing a buddy home with me” he said. “He’s been hurt pretty bad, and only has one eye, one arm, and one leg. I’d sure like him to live with us.”
“ sure son, his mother replied. He sounds like a brave man. We’ll find room for him for a while.“
“ mom, you don’t understand. I want him to come live with us.“
“Well, OK, she finally said. We could try it for six months or so.“
“ No, Mom, I want him to stay with us always. He needs us, he’s only got one eye, one arm, and one leg. He’s really in bad shape.”
By this time his mother has lost her patience. “Son you are being unrealistic about this. You’re emotional because you’ve been in a war. That boy will be a drag on you and a constant problem for us all. Be reasonable.”
The phone clicked dead. The next day, the parents got a telegram: your son had committed suicide. A week later the parents received the body. They look down with unspeakable sorrow on the corpse of their son – Who only had one eye, one arm, and one leg.
Even with our disabilities, character flaws, shortcomings, insecurities, and immaturity. God will accept us as we are. He invites us home. No conditions. Nor restrictions.he chooses us for his team. We don’t have to get cleaned up or stitched up or made up to be accepted by God. He accepts us with one eye, one arm, one leg – Feeling like a piece of junk.
You are Valuable.
How much do you think of your self-worth? I am not talking about your Net worth, but self-worth. We should never compute valuables with value as a person. To answer the question, how much do you think you are worth? We need to ask another question, what determines value? There are two things that determine value in life: value depend on what someone is willing to pay for something. A house, a car, a piece of art, a baseball card are only worth what someone is willing to pay for them. Value depends on who had on them in the past. The Auction of Jacqueline Kennedy and Princess Diana’s personal possessions reveals the value that enhance the previous owners.
Based on these two criteria, what’s your value? How much are you worth? The scripture says “ you have been bought and paid for by Christ, so you belong to him” (1 Corinthians 7:23). Who owns you? What has paid for you? Christ owns you and paid for you with his life. God exchange his own son for you. The cross proves your value. God said I love you this much. Jesus gave his life for you. And Jesus didn’t die for junk.
A frightened woman found her place in a life boat that was about to be lowered into the raging North Atlantic from the Titanic. He suddenly thought of something she needed, so she asked permission to return to her state room before they cast off. He was grounded 3 minutes are they would have to leave without her.
He ran across the deck that was already slanted and a dangerous angle. She raced through the gambling room with all the money that I have been roll to one side, ankle deep. He came to her state room and quickly pushed aside her diamond rings and expensive bracelets and necklaces and he reach to the shelf above her bed and grab three small oranges. She quickly found her way back to life boat and got in.
Likewise, as believers in Jesus we have been rescued into his life vote of salvation. That’s the woman going back for the oranges, Jesus went to the cross for us. Why? Because we are such an incredible value and worth to him. One cannot begin to comprehend the incredible worth we are who Jesus. And societies value system we may seem like nothing more than an orange in comparison to a diamond. But to Jesus, we are the most precious treasure in the world.
You are capable.
No that makes down like a little scary to us. But Peter is saying there are two benefits to how available everybody, whoever is a believer in Jesus. One, we have access to God. We have the right to go directly to God. We don’t have to pray through anyone else. We don’t have to confess our sins to anyone else. We can go directly to God. Two, we have a responsibility to minister to the needs of other people. Every Christian is a minister. God says that you and I have been gifted for ministry to serve other people. We are “God’s instruments to do his work and speak out for him, to tell others of the night and day difference he made for us” ( 1 Peter 2:9 the message).
The Latin word for priest means bridge. The priest is a bridge builder between God and man. Or as the old preacher said, “We are saved to serve.” If we are not serving what in the world were we saved for?
I would never want to reach out someday, with a soft, uncalloused hand – a hand never dirtied by serving – and shake the nail- pieced hand of JesusBill Hybels
Can you imagine the feeling of esteem when one realizes that God has entrusted his work to us?
You are forgivable
In other words, you are forgiven. There are no three words to communicate self-worth than: You are forgiven. God doesn’t rub our sins in, he rubs them out. He doesn’t rehearse your sin, like we do, he releases it.
When we come to Christ our sins are wiped out. We will not be held accountable for them. They are forgo. Gone, Erased. Treated as though they never existed,
Four Pillars Of Self-Esteem
1 I am acceptable
2. I am valuable
3. I am capable
4. I am forgiven
Because of what God did for us we can proclaim the praises of the One who called us out of darkness into His marvelous light ( 1 Peter 2:9). We are God‘s handiwork, his masterpiece, his creation. Therefore, we declare praise to him for who we are. Peter goes on to say, Once you were not a people, but now you are God’s people; you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy” ( 1 Peter 2:10). We are his own – we are chosen, we have worth, we are found capable, we are forgiven. When we have that and know that the world’s judging system just doesn’t mater. We know we are not junk. “We Are God’s.