It has been said that the quality of your life is determined not just by who you are but by who you spend time with. Relationships matter. They are consequential and catalytic. There are no such things as a passive relationship. All relationships are purposeful – they either build you up or they tear you down.
This is why it’s important to figure out how to deal with the inevitable challenges that come with relationships. You can be sure there will be bitterness, unforgiveness, and the residue of resentment that comes with being connected with others.
However, when it comes to living offended, we have a choice in our response. Offense is not necessarily the result of a negative thin done to us, it’s an active choice we make. Painful things will happen to us, but we get to choose whether it turns into an offense that builds into resentment.
God, however, wants to heal past hurts, reconcile pain, and purify the offenses that contaminate our joy and steal our str. Satan would love for us to remain stuck in offense because it would ostracize us from others. Proverbs 19:11 makes it clear that wisdom creates patience. We are told that “ it is to our glory” if we choose to overlook an offense.
Solomon tells us wisdom is referring to a sign of our own growth and spiritual maturity. When we are mature in our faith, we can recognize the area of offense that needs to be healed.
Though it isn’t easy we must find a way to surrender our hurts and brokenness. This enables us to stop being dragged down by the past and enables us to leap into what God has for us in the future. It’s a process that occurs daily, as we resolve not to let our pain dictate our future and distract us from our main purpose in life.
Lay down your offenses and release the pain to receive God love your heart so desperately needs. Don’t let offenses and pain eat you from the inside out. Drop all your baggage at Jesus’s feet and heal the hurt.