I have found that running away from any problem only increases the distance of the solution. The easiest way to escape a problem is to solve it.
All of us have had weak moments in life, when we feel that despite working hard and to the best of our abilities, somehow the world gangs up on us and makes the going very difficult for us. Whether it’s relations, work, finances, health or practically anything and everything in life.
And when the going gets tough, we tend to do what is expected of us – either we put things off or try to run away.
When we can’t see the results of our problems, after a little effort, we can tend to bury the hoping that we woebegone able to get away from it if we don’t pay any attention, or blame circumstances, or people.
This comforts us temporarily, as the blame is now on something beyond us, beyond our control and this gives us a sense of relief. So why does running away from our problems seem to be an easier solution?
Running away from the problem gives us a temporary sense of comfort. That the monster can’t see us any longer, A feeling that you have escaped the danger you have been in, the blame shifts to something else or someone else, and a great sense of optimism that things will get better.
Understand that “running away from your problems is a race that you cannot win.” Because one day no matter how long it’s been or how far away you are, you are going to have to deal with them sooner or later, you are going to have to fix them.
What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance understanding fear; that means watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it, learn about the fear and how to escape from it.
Know that you cannot run away from yourself, you are always right behind you.
Never blame anyone in your life. Good people give you happiness, bad people give you experience, worst people give you a lesson and the best people give you memories.
When you run away from your problems, you might end up having to face them again, when that happens, it will be why is it hard to overcome. Moreover, when you are finished running, you would be 1000 miles away from the people who can help you.
Albert Einstein said, “We can’t solve the problem by using the same kind of thinking that we use when we created them.” when the going gets tough, it’s hard to stick it out. Running away is often an easier way to cope.
Running away from our problems will never fix anything. And when you know you can’t run away from your problems any longer you have to either fight them out or perish. And if that is soul, why not saw them when they first arise.
It’s when we stay and persevere, even when it’s difficult, that we will prevail. Go on fight and don’t ever give up. So, regardless of who you are, what your problems are, and what your fears are, rather than looking outward, start looking inward and identify how you can battle it out with your problems.
Here are a few steps to get you started:
Sit Down, Pause, Reflect And Act
When in trouble, don’t get overwhelmed with what’s happening around you, pay attention to what is going on within you. You can connect the dots only when you look backward. The process of self reflection is a very humbling process, it can open up a new you that you never knew existed. Re-visit the decisions we have made and think about your available choices.
Don’t Pass The Blame Onto Others Or Your Circumstances
If you keep blaming something or someone else for all your problems, you will never learn why problems come your way. And when you keep doing that repeatedly, one day you may realize that you have no one but yourself to blame. You have to stop looking for someone else to blame and start fixing the problems.
Don’t Get Into A Self-Pity Mode
Self-pity comes naturally to all of us because it is our very nature, and it is very addictive. It gives momentary pleasure or eases the pain as we separate the victim from the reality. Be honest with yourself, appreciate your strengths and weaknesses and look for solutions.
Look For A Pattern Or A Trend To Understand What’s Happening
As much as success leaves clues, problems leave clues too. You just need to keep your mind and spirit active to identify the patterns. Once you understand them, you will be able to find a way out. Problems are never stop signs, they are just guidelines to get better, spend time understanding and solving them.
Don’t Be Pushed By Your Problems, Be Pushed By Your Dreams
When you are in trouble, make sure your dreams drive you, not your problems.