Don’t Focus On Your Situation, Focus On Your Path

We all have goals. There’s something we want to do, someplace we want to go, someone we want to be. It appears that we don’t intentionally plan to be stagnant.

But are you progressing towards your intended destination? Or are you drifting away unknowingly? That’s okay, because in reality not everything is measurable. Objectives are difficult to come across for every situation, and are often inconvenient.

The problem is that we consciously choose not to take action despite being fully in control of our situation. We would rather take the past of less resistance because we’re programmed that way. We avoid pain and maximize pleasure, to our detriment.

My pastor would say “you gotta get your flesh out of the way.”

One of the reasons why we don’t do what’s best for us is because we don’t immediately feel the consequences of our actions. Pleasure in the present becomes pain in the future.

Consider how most people gain weight. Ice cream in the present seems fine because you’re not over weight. It makes sense then, that you have an occasional treat. But over time, this treat becomes a caloric surplus that leads to weight gain. Fitness experts recommend counting calories and e exercising to lose weight. But life doesn’t work like that. It’s not possible to always measure the impacts of your actions. Once you’ve set into motion a series of events, it becomes impossible to immediately stop the effects from coming into play. It’s like a spouse cheating on you, once they’ve done it, they can’t retract what they’ve done, they will have to deal with the consequences.

We judge ourselves and base our action on the present, but we should really be looking into the future (What are the consequences going to be if I do this?) Any time our life is on a path that is trending either upwards or downwards we are the ones who decides where it will go.

We’ve all heard the phrase “Rome Wasn’t Built In A Day.” One small problem will alway become large one over time.

I learned this the hard way. When I was younger I thought I had all the money in the world, I never saved any. I had a few bills and a few credit cards that I could pay off every month with no problem. But then kids came and emergencies happened. With medical bills along with credit cards and necessary bills. Money was gone fast I couldn’t pay my bills off every month so I just paid with credit cards plus of course with interest. I found my self deeper in debt and no way to pay. I had to file bankruptcy. I lost everything, my car and 4-wheelers. No car meant I couldn’t get to work. I had to bum a ride for awhile and save to buy another, but I couldn’t get a loan because of the bankruptcy.

In life we have to be certain where you’re headed. Being off course put me, in a mess I never thought I’d be in. It cost me dearly in the long run. Trying to figure of things while not thinking of the consequences sounds like a great idea at the time, but it doesn’t pan out in the long run.

It’s a fundamental irony of most people’s lives. They don’t quite know what they want to do with their lives, yet they are very active in looking for instant pleasure.

Contrast this method of mindless living with the alternative of discipline and purpose. While it takes infinitely more effort, it certainly pays off in the long run.

You can decide where you end up a year from now.

Are your values aligned with who you want to be? Are your habits aligned with what you want to do? Are your actions aligned with where you want to go?

These are the things we have direct control over. At any point in time, we have the power to alter out life path by making small adjustments to ourselves. Unfortunately, we often aren’t thinking far enough ahead for ourselves.

Every move we make has a residual impact on where we’re going to be. The most important thing you can do for yourself is to invest in yourself. That is an investment that will pay for itself many times over; it is by far the most profitable business to be in. Make sure that youare becoming the strongest version of yourself. When making decisions always think about the consequences of your actions.

Why’s ever you do, hold yourself accountable to it. Self-justification is a portrayal of the brain that, despite its stated goals or desires, is not interested in truth, but in self-preservation. It will distort the number of mistakes you’ve made in order to protect the narrative about yourself. Don’t give in.

Make sure you know what you want and actively chase it. Don’t go through life simply reacting to your circumstances. If you don’t know where you’re going then stop, find your bearings and think about the consequences to your action (the path you are taking- where does it lead?)

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