Favorite People

Who are your favorite people to be around?

Have you ever wondered why our favorite people hurt us the most? Maybe it’s because we are more vulnerable with them, we share our deepest thoughts, feelings, and dreams, which means that when they let us down or act in a hurtful way, the impact is much greater due to the level of trust and intimacy we have established with them. The closer we are to someone the more potential there is for deeper pain we have if they hurt us.

When we love someone deeply, we open ourselves up to being hurt by sharing our vulnerabilities, and expectations with them.

Because we care so much, we have higher standards for the people we love, which makes us more likely to be disappointed when they don’t meet those expectations.

Sometimes, we can repeat patterns from our childhoods where loved ones hurt us, which leads to similar dynamics in our adult relationships.

Close relationships can sometimes lead to misunderstandings and misinterpretations which can escalate into hurt feelings.

Some people put up walls to keep them from being hurt. But those walls not only keep the hurt from us, but they also keep love away from us. It’s up to us to decide if we are going to risk the chance of being hurt, for the sake of true love.