From Pity to Praise

• Set aside a designated “worry time.” Instead of worrying all day, everyday. Designate a 30 minute period of your time where you can think about your problems.
• Step 1- identify the object of worry
• Step 2- come up with a time and place to think of what you identified as the worry.
• Step 3- if you catch yourself worrying at a time other that your designated worry time, you must make a point to think of something else.
• Step 4- use your “worry time” productivity by thinking of solutions to the worries.

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.

Worry itself is not bad- it turns into action, but too much of it can lead to anxiety, when can have a impact on health and happiness. For instance anxiety can take a toll on sleep, affect your immune system, raise your risk of post-traumatic stress disorder, and even affect you risk of dying from disease.

The problem with worrying is that it becomes a cycle of self-perpetuating negative thoughts. Worry is a chain of thoughts and images that are affectively negative and relatively uncontrollable.

Kick the addiction

All that time you spend perusing your Facebook feed, or instagram etc… isn’t doing you any favors. A recent study showed that nearly half of people are “worried or uncomfortable” being away from email or social networks. We need to re-establish control over the technology we use, rather than being controlled by it.

Be mindful

The most effective strategies to stop worrying and rumination may be ones based in mindfulness, which involves nonjudgmental awareness of present thoughts and emotions, as well as cognitive behavior therapy strategies, this encourages you to change your thoughts and thinking style, or disengage from emotional response to worry. Adopt more concrete restructure thinking in a more positive and constructive way.

Have you ever heard of the saying “This too Shall Pass! Worrying is useless. Because every thing will work I self out. I used to worry and overthink everything, and I started realizing that every time what I was getting upset about would work it’s self out on it’s own. It didn’t need me worrying about it.

Accept the worry- and then move on

Worrying about worrying is a dangerous cycle to fall into. People who naturally try to suppress their unwanted thoughts end up being more distressed by said thoughts, meanwhile people who are naturally accepting of their intrusive thoughts are less obsessional and have lower levels of depression, and are less anxious. Therefore people who get caught up in worry when they try to force themselves to stop worrying may need a different strategy- acceptance.

Write your worries down letting all you emotions out emptiness your fear out of your mind. You release that situation so that you not as likely to worry about the situation.

Cut yourself some slack

Live a little, breaking the rules won’t break your health. Enjoy your life. Take risks, life is about being happy, not worrying all the time.

Don’t worry about tomorrow. Tomorrow will worry about itself.

Keep your hands busy

Engaging in activities that keep your hand busy, and mind distracted could help prevent flashbacks from traumatic experiences. I have used activities like a jig-saw puzzles or word searches to keep my hands busy. My mind goes 100 miles per hour some days. So if I start to worry when I am busy around the house, I will typically start one chore and then think of another I have to do. I worry about getting everything done by the end of the day. I can put a puzzle in the room I’m working on and when my mind goes to the next room. I stop myself and put a few puzzle pieces in the puzzle and this helps me stay grounded to finish the room I’m in, before I move to the next. Otherwise I get a little bit done in each room and feel like I’ve not accomplished anything. And I start worrying about being a failure. That’s where the 30 minutes of worry time comes in.

Make time for meditation

I’ve mentioned this before, meditation not only lowers anxiety levels, but it has effects on the anterior cingulate vortex and ventromedial prefrontal cortex. In easier terms this region controls emotions and thinking, and controls worrying.

Get your heart pumping

Exercise beats stress. Exercise affects the serotonin ( a so-called happy brain chemicals levels in your brain. As well as effectively reduces effects of oxidative stress. It lowers anxiety levels in people who have tried to stay on the couch.

Years ago I was so depressed because of traumatic experiences in my life. The doctors had be so drugged out trying to end the depression that’s all I did was stay on the couch and eat. I went from being 120 lbs to 400 lbs. now talk about depressed. I wish I had known about these things back then, my life would have been completely different. If it wasn’t for my children and husband literally forcing me to live. I would had just given up on life. About 17 years of that and I knew I had to fight if I wanted things to change. And fight I did, I found different doctors they changed my medicine and low and behold I started to feel I was among the living again. I felt like I just came out of a coma, I had been in for almost 2 decades.

Then I realized what I looked like a complete slob. I started on the adventure of dieting.i managed to lose 250 lbs. in the process of becoming a entirely different person I had to build my self-esteem up from nothing. That was only 10 years ago. Some days I think back and think of my son, if it had not been for him. I don’t know if I would be here writing this today. I feel guilty both my children had to go through what they did growing up. And through all this my husband never left me. Now that’s love. We have all been through a rough journey. But, I’ll tell you we are one strong family.

The morals of my story: don’t give up, there will be some rough times you have to go through. If you feel like you need to see a doctor see one, tell them your entire story from the bottom of your heart. They cannot help you if they don’t know what you’re going through. If you feel drugged out on any medication they prescribe tell them, if they keep pushing this and that drug on you. Don’t be afraid to tell them “I don’t want to do this anymore.” Sometimes you may have to tell them goodbye and try other doctors.

Find a doctor that will help you find the root cause of your problem. And prescribe medication to help you, not hurt you. If your not sure about the medication ask them what are the side affects of this? How is this supposed to help me? Don’t be silent. Ask, and tell them everything. You are paying them to help you, not hurt you or make you worse.

It was difficult for me because of the ways my childhood was. I didn’t learn how to socialize. And felt completely worthless. Don’t make it mess up your life like it did mine for so many years.

Find the root cause of the problem you will start healing.

Charlie Chaplin lived 88 years. He left us 4 statements:

1- Nothing is forever in this world, even our problems.

2- I love to walk in the rain because no one can see my tears.

3- The most lost day in life is the day we don’t laugh.

4- Six of the best doctors in the world:

• Sun
• Rest
• Exercise
• Diet
• Self-respect
• Friends

Keep them in all stages of your life and enjoy a healthy life:

If you see the moon, you will see the beauty of God…

If you see the sun, you will see the power of God.

If you see a mirror, you will see God’s best creation. So believe it.

We are all tourists, God is our travel agent who had already defined our route, bookings and directions… trust him and enjoy life.

Life is just a journey! So live today!

Tomorrow may not be.

Empathy is the ability to recognize, understand, and share the thoughts and feelings of another person, animal or fictional character. Developing empathy is crucial for establishing relationships and behaving compassionately. It involves experiencing another person’s point of view, rather than just one’s own, and enables pro social, or helping behaviors that comes fromwithin, rather than being forced.

Some surveys indicate that empathy is on the decline in the United States findings that motivates parents, schools, and communities to support programs that help people of all ages enhance the maintain their ability to walk in each other’s shoes.

Empathy helps us cooperate with others, build friendships, make moral decisions, and intervene when we see others being bullied. Humans begin to show signs of empathy in infancy and the trait develops steadily through childhood and adolescence. Still most people are likely to feel greater empathy for people like themselves and may feel less empathy for outside of their family, community, ethnicity, or race.

Can you be too empathic, or not empathic enough?

People who regularly put the feelings and perspectives of others above their own may have feelings of emptiness or alienation and develop generalized anxiety or depression.

How do you know whether you’re a empathic person?

Empathy are often characterized as being highly sensitive and overly focused on the needs of others. They may benefit from time alone if they find it draining to be in the presence of other people. People who are very empathic are more likely to be targeted by manipulating individuals. For this reason, it’s important to create healthy boundaries in all relationships with energy vampires that are draining to empathy and non- empathy alike.

Intuition is a form of knowledge that appears in consciousness without deliberation. It is not magical but rather a hunches that’s are generated by the unconscious mind rapidly shifting through past experience and cumulative knowledge.

Often referred to as “gut feelings,” intuition tends to arise holistically and quickly, without awareness of the underlying mental processing of information.

Psychology believe that intuition relies on powers of pattern-matching, as the mind combs experience stored in long term me for similar situations and presents in-the-moment judgements based on them. The automatic information processing that underlies intuition can be seen in the everyday phenomenon known as a “highway hypnosis,” which occurs when a driver travels for miles without conscious thought about the activity of driving the vehicle.

Intuition, like first impressions, serves the brain’s need to predict and prepare for what will happen next. First impressions are rapid, holistic assessments of people based on subtle perceptual cues and judgement of intent to help or harm. Both rely on automatic processes and as rapid evaluation systems, both are subject to error, especially from biases we hold.

When to Trust your Gut.

Our gut feelings are often correct, but we tend to attach a certainty to the that they are always merit. They do tend to be more accurate in some domains of experience that other, such as in the formation of first impressions. Intuition is often valuable in deception and other forms of danger, and in detecting sexual orientation.

Is intuition always right?

Experts find that no matter how right it feels, is most reliable in some areas of activity that others. For example, it can help you generate new ideas or new figures of speech, but don’t count on it for comprehending vocabulary, where reflective thinking better fits the task, or in judging candidates. Many situations actually utilize a combination of reflective deliberation and automatic intuition.

Open you don’t up to the possibility of Magic

Keep you mind open when it comes to looking for magic in your own life. Don’t rule out the fact that even the most mundane activity can be magical. That drive to work not leaving you feeling like there are great things in store for you. Switch up your route and pay attention to new things you see. Or offer to give someone else a ride and get a new perspective on your surroundings. Magic is all around you if you just open your eyes and look around.

Seek out magic in every situation.

So you’ve opened your eyes and been unable to see magic in your everyday surroundings? Don’t worry- this is more common than you think. Some of takes a new experience, etc to help us find the magic in our lives. Go somewhere new. Look around. Place close attention. And look for little thing. If you make the effort to find magic in the world, you will be certain to discover it.Have you ever wanted something from a place of business as simple as a shirt, a book, a piece of jewelry, when you were shopping one of those items you wanted was easily found. Or even found the exact thing you had pictured in you mind. That is the magic. Or just thought how am I going to pay my phone bill and right before your phone was going to be shut off. You received the funds to pay for it? That is magic.

Be grateful for small things, big things and everything in between. Count your blessings, not your problems.

Stay focused on the present moment.

One of the biggest reasons we don’t all see more magic in our lives is because we’re not present. I realized that, if someone asked me the color of the fence down you road from me. I wouldn’t have been able to answer that question. I sometimes get on ”auto-pilot mode.” We sometimes are so used to going the same route and in the same routine we do it automatically with seeing anything. This is when we miss the magic that is right in front of us. Be present if you want to be enchanted.

Use your imagination and creativity.

People who are unimaginative are never going to see the magic in a cup of tea or the changing of the leaves from green to yellow. And that’s okay. Some people don’t want to see the magic in life- but if you’re the type the needs a little sparkle in your life- you’ve got to open mind up to more a creative way of viewing your world. Is there magic in a friends laughter? Do they make to happy? That’s magic. Is there magic in a rain-soaked morning? Imagine how the grass in going to get greener or the beautiful flowers that are going to grow. This is magic. But you must be willing to create and imagine it.

See life from a new perspective.

You know how feel when you watch a movie or read a book filled with magic. Christmas movies are my favorite, there is so much magic in them I’m in awe at the type of things someone has come up with in their mind. Think about what it is like to describe things about our lives, cars, airplanes, satellites, the amazing things people accomplish— to someone not familiar with the world. Yes, it might be science and fact but through the eyes of someone else,it would seem like magic.

When you think about it, children see magic through they’re eyes. Children don’t know about elections and gravity why things fly. Yet the see a plane in the sky and amazed. They see leaves changing color and they are awed. They see snow for the first time and are in wonder. Even a song with a catchy tune and cannot help but sing along. It’s about being to open to enchanted, about willing to become surprised by our own mundane lives.

For some this is silly. You might say “I already know how gravity works, or why the leaves change colors in the fall, or even how a computer works. Seeing the magi. In these things is Stupid.” I get that, I see how silly it might sound- me a grown woman explaining, “Find the magic!” But, to be completely honest with you, I’ve found that I’m a lot more positive- and ever more present when I’m looking for the magic in my life. When I stare in amazement when I actually have a animal in my house- another species that I totally connect with, I feel excited about life. I feel like I cannot wait to see what else I’ll uncover in this crazy world it’s worth the silliness that comes with claiming that I’m striving, everyday to find the magic in the mundane.