Do You Like The Person You Are Becoming?

A Greek philosopher is credited as saying, “Change is the only constant in life.”

Change happens all around us, all the time. The weather changes, leadership changes, cultural changes, our job change, our families change, and we change.

Sometimes quickly, but often slowly, we change.

Our worldview changes, or attitude change, our goals strange, our habits change, or hobbies change, our fears change, our relationships change, even our bodies change.

With that in mind. I have a question for you today:

Do you like the person you are becoming?

We ask a lot of questions of ourselves and each other. But one of the most self reflective and most helpful questions we could ever ask ourselves focused less on what we are doing, and more of who we are becoming.

Because if something is changing, there are only three possibilities:

  • It is getting better.
  • It is getting worse.
  • Or the change is neutral.

The same is true of you and true of me. We are changing. And we either becoming more like the people we want to be or less.

Sometimes it is helpful to stop and evaluate and see which direction we are headed.

I want to have a friend who is very excited about the changes taking place in her life. It won’t change your informant or external circumstances necessarily, they were deeper, heart changes about the way she saw the world and the way she began interacting with people. He was excited to tell me about the things she had been learning and who she was becoming.

During our conversation, she asked me about some accomplishments that she had seen in my life. She asked how I felt about them. He was anxious to see how my view on my life had changed over the last two years.

I responded to her question, “I’m excited about the work I’m doing. But I don’t think I always like the person I’m becoming. In fact, if I’m being honest, I think I’m a little less patient than I was 10 years ago. And maybe even less kind sometimes. “

I don’t think she was expecting that answer, but her question gave me an opportunity key to articulate some rumbling in my heart that I have been feeling for a while. Not all change is good, And I can see some changes in my life moving me away from the person I want to be.

Either we are becoming more like in person we want to be, or we are becoming less like the person we want to be, or the changes in our life on neutral in this regard.

But if we’re moving further and further away from the person we want to be, it is why you should notice that as soon as possible so the course of correction can be easier, more efficient, and more effective.

Of course, it isn’t always an easy question to answer. In most cases, it’s not a simple yes or no. Remember our trajectory and be proud of some of the changes, but regret others.

We may be excelling at our work but becoming more demanding along the way.

We may be getting ahead financially we’re spending less time at home than we used to.

We may be losing weight but becoming more prideful or focus on outward appearances because of it.

We may be excited about specific accomplishments, but worried about the ways we are coping with the stress of them.

In each scenario, we should ask ourselves, do I have to be giving up positive progress in one area of my life just to succeed in another? When you get down to the heart of the matter, do you like the person you’re becoming?

If you’re not happy with the person you are becoming, here are some thoughts to help you take course:

1. You can always change.

Nobody can take away your right to change. No employer, no spouse, no toxic relationship. Positive change is always possible. You are the only person who gets to decide who you’re going to be home.

2. Don’t change your goals, change your habits.

Often the goals pursue, when they are new, bring out these unexpected changes that move us away from who we want to be. If that is the case, and you can pinpoint the pursuit drawing you away, you have two options: Either remove it or alter how do you chase it.

Maybe you are striving to start a new business but in the beginning you notice it is taking more time away from your family than you imagined- and you can see that is not who you want to become. Maybe the answer is to stop pursuing a new business venture. Or maybe there’s a different approach that you need to adopt in chasing it.

3. We love to see people trying to change for the better.

Our world loves to see people making positive changes. Oh, some get jealous and envious, and might try to keep you down. But for the most part, we are a society that cures for the underdog. Take comfort in that and know how many will see your changes and cheer you on to succeed.

4, It’s never too late to change.

The best time to change for the positive may have been yesterday or ten years ago, But the second best time is right now. If you’re still living you’ve got time to change. And why you can’t change the past, you can redeem it. And no matter how much time you have left, you can set an example for others.

5. People are remembered most for who they were, not by what they accomplished.

If the accomplishments you are pursuing a resulting in negative changes in your life, remind yourself that who you are is more important. The people who know you best will always remember your character and values more than your personal accomplishments.

May we all be changing for the better.

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