Avoidance of anxiety as self-sabotage. How are running away can bite you in the butt.
You have a choice: Conquer your anxiety, or let it control you.
You are standing in line at your first roller coaster ride. Your heart is racing and your Palmeter sweaty and you watch the ride fly by. Are you going to be able to face your fear and get on that ride? Or are you going to sit this one out and miss out on this real?
Many people turn around and walk away, missing out on the experience. The same situation come up in all facets of life from jobs to relationships. You have a choice to conquer your anxiety or let it control you.
One of the most common experience in life is feeling uneasy about a situation, and the most common reaction to the anxiety is to avoid the situation. Think about it, have you ever walked away from the important goal because it was just too hard to face your fears? I know I have.
Although understanding the causes of your anxiety is important for overcoming it, the most important aspect is to focus on how you respond to your fears. In fact, the ways that we respond to fear can often feed the fear and make it worse! I’m learning how to respond correctly Zaidi and working to change those responses, you can overcome anxiety and accomplish some very difficult goals.
Understanding negative reinforcement will help you combat your fear in your daily life, and it will also help you see the same problem and other people, which may be useful at times. Negative reinforcement refers to a behavior which is rewarded because that behavior removes the unwanted stimulus or feeling. For example, when I get into my car and forget to put on my feet belt, my car start beeping loudly at me.Understanding negative reinforcement will help you combat your fear in your daily life, and it will also help you see the same problem and other people, which may be useful at times. Negative reinforcement refers to a behavior which is rewarded because that behavior removes the unwanted stimulus or feeling. For example, when I get into my car and forget to put on my feet belt, my car start beeping loudly at me. That beeping is extremely annoying. So to get the beeping to stop, I put on my seatbelt. Doing so ends the beeping and restores peace to the car. In this situation my car is negatively reinforcing me by removing the annoying noise, and the next time I get in my car I’m more likely to put on my seatbelt right away to avoid the noise.
Negative reinforcement in the case of anxiety can be thought of as avoidance. Each time you attempt to accomplish our goal, but you let the fear take control and back down, you are avoiding and that’s negatively reinforcing yourself. You are sabotaging your goals just so you don’t have to experience the fear anymore. The more you avoid anxious situations, the more likely you are to avoid future anxiety-inducing situations.
So how do we Overcomer avoidance and accomplish our goals? Part of the key to understanding your avoidance behavior is to understand how you are influenced by negative reinforcement. You have to catch yourself in the moment, when you are about to avoid an anxiety-invoking situation, and recognize that to avoid the situation would be to negatively reinforced yourself.
Once you realize that you were avoiding anxiety, and self-sabotaging, the next step is she for herself to face that fear and see the situation through. it helps to remember that even if the situation doesn’t work out the way you hoped, it isn’t the end of the world and mistakes can actually provide a valuable learning experience. Just remember all those times you thought something was the “end of the world- everything work itself out in the end, didn’t it? It’s like Franklin D Roosevelt said, “ The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
Sometimes, baking one’s fears is easier said than done, however, giving a speech for example can be so anxiety provoking that it’s almost painful for some people, yet, when we force ourselves to make it through the situation, however difficult, you will see that everything was fine even if you made a mistake, and there’s a good possibility that it could work out really well for you. Even if painful, the next time your face that anxiety situation the pain will be less intense. Eventually, the fear may altogether disappear. It’s Important to remember that overcoming your fears and avoidance behavior takes practice. The more you patient’s fears, the easier you’ll will be able to handle new ones that get in your way, and the more goals you will accomplish.
I remember I used to be scared to death to speak in public. But then someone gave me some very good advice. The key is to not look at people in the face. Look at the top of their heads.