The Issue I’ve Changed My Mind About

I used to believe I could change people. But then after many attempts I learned. You can’t make somebody change. Unless they want the change themselves, or things get so bad they don’t have a choice.

You can inspire them to change, and educate them towards change and even support them in their change. That’s because making someone do something, even if it for their own good, requires either coercion or manipulation.

It requires intervening in their life in a way that is a boundary violation which it cause damage in the relationship and sometimes hurts more than it helps.

Sometimes we see clearly what a person needs to do, and it seems an easy change for us. Yet the person doesn’t see it or they see things from a different perspective on it, and seem to have no issue with it.