For years I had no boundaries. Every time someone asked me to do something my answer was yes, to be nice, but the trust was I was exhausted and never had the time or energy to do anything for myself. Then I chose to set boundaries when I realized I had to set limits because takers don’t have any. I think when setting a boundary we have to ask ourselves a few questions:
What goal or priority of mine does this boundary support?
am I setting this boundary to punish someone else or to protect myself?
Can I hold this boundary in a healthy way while still respecting others?
Am I willing to accept that holding this boundary could have consequences?
This is basically my guide to holding boundaries.
From Pity to Praise 