The Destructive Power Of Hate

Poison isn’t always something you are or drink – it can be an emotion. And hate is one of them, eating you up inside and causing destruction. Do you have hate in your life? There are ways to control it before it damages you or your love ones.

Hate is a very strong emotion. This mental venom can pollute your spirit, poison your soul and seep into all of the relationships that surround you. Anyone who has found themselves wrapped up in the arms of hate know how damaging and Mind consuming it can become. Even the word Carrie’s power, particularly if it comes from a friend, family member or a child.

While hate can be directed at almost anything- animals, food, jobs, movies – the most destructive is hatred toward other people.

I hated my mother for almost 35 years. I just couldn’t forgive her for what she did to me. It almost destroyed my life. Along with the hatred of my mother I also hated myself. The word hate has a lot of baggage that comes with it. Hate implies an emotional aversion often coupled with enmity or malice.

Today, I want you to ask yourself these questions:

  • Does hate have a place in my life?
  • Do I harbor any feelings of hatred toward myself or anyone else?

If you do, I urge you to address this negative feeling before it becomes much more dangerous. Hate, when unchecked, will drain your spirit, tarnish your soul and darken your days. It can lead to high blood pressure, anxiety, depression, and even chronic illnesses

Generally speaking, there are two kinds of hate, the kind that’s turned inward (implosion) and the kind that’s turned outward (explosion). Both of these will eat you up inside, so if you find yourself living with hate, perhaps today is a good day for a little wellness house cleaning.

Hating Others

Hate turned outward is both tangy and ugly. It can motivate violent crime and damaging behaviors. Rioting,, and murder, come from hate. Hatred toward anyone and the perceived rejection is fueled by desperation, insanity, and carnage that cost people their lives.

At the heart of all hatred is blame, and this is particularly true of hatred turned outward. When one feels like they’ve been seriously wronged or victimized by someone, their discontent and anger Carrie’s with it the potential seeds of hatred.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot piece of coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, you are the one who gets burned.

The antidote for hatred is definitely within our reach. That hand that hurts other people and yourself, can also be the hand that comforts .

It’s like the story of the boy and his grandfather where the boy has two wolves inside of him (the white wolf)The first wolf has peace, love, and kindness, the other wolf (the black wolf) had fear, greed, and hatred. Which wolf will win? The one you feed.

The more you hold onto hatred, the more likely it is that hot coal of the emotion will burn you. And if you feed it, the stronger it becomes.

However, you can control the feeling that lead to hatred. If we change our mindset we can counter the emotions of hatred.

Here’s the way I learned to counter hate to get rid of this destructive emotional assault.

  • H- Healing
  • A- Aggressive
  • T- Thoughts
  • E- Emotionally

Consider these steps to diffuse your hatred:

1. When you begin to feel hateful thoughts, stop, and take a deep breath, let it out very slowly and repeat this process for five repetitions.

2. Consciously challenge your irrational hatred thoughts.

3. Replace those hateful irrational thoughts with calmer rational thought.

4. If your feeling are directed at another person, limit your contact with this person.

5. Employ a “distraction strategy” to refocus your mind – watch a movie, listen to music, go for a walk, read a book, exercise.

I find that when I start to hate someone I get my Bible and start reading before too long my hatred is defused.

Are You The Object Of Hate?

If you’ve ever been the target of hatred, you know how upsetting, frightening, and emotional it can be. Actually, since the overall effects of hatred are so physically harmful and emotionally devastating, perhaps we should think of hatred as another type of. “H- Bomb.”

H-bombs are Hydrogen bombs that generate most of the energy the produce from something called “nuclear fission.” In addition to producing energy, nuclear fission is also what ignites the initial explosion of a nuclear weapon.

In a similar way, hatred produces energy for destructive power. And the fission – what actually ignites the explosion- is driven by the intense hostility, fear, anger, or sense of injury the person feels.

When you’re confronted by this kind of extreme dislike, you basically have two choices regarding your response:

  • You can either sink to the hater’s level and toss a few H-bombs of your own.
  • Recognize this behavior as a character flaw and not respond to it.

Overcoming Self-Hatred

Too often, we turn our feeling of dislike on ourselves, which is equally damaging. Hate turned inward can crush your spirit and impact your health. Take overeating, for example, which many say is a symptom of self-hatred. By compulsively overeating, you’re actually making yourself sick, putting on unhealthy weight and contributing to a feeling of unattractiveness- all of these forms to self-punishment.

Overeating however, is only one way that self-hatred manifests itself. Being your under the influence of hate, some people are driven to injure or cut themselves, engage is risky behaviors and cut off those who live them.

Self-haters are driven to punish themselves for a variety of reasons, such as feeling insecure, guilty, alone, unattractive, unproductive or self-critical. These negative, internal feeling shape and give life to the destructive impulses of self-hatred.

Self-hatred is characterized by a dislike for oneself and, often, low self-esteem. What’s particularly difficult about self-hate is that we cannot avoid the hater.

I see self-hatred as a corrosive virus of the mind. It weakens you emotionally and makes your body more vulnerable to sickness and disease by compromising your immune system. The antidote for self-hate, it to refer to the story of the grandfather and the boy. You simply have to stop feeding it!

So, how do we do this? We just forgive ourselves for whatever it is that caused this toxic and inflicted emotional wound. I started by actually writing myself a letter of forgiveness. Write it for a real or imagined offense, just as you would if you were forgiving as if a dear friend.

I also wrote one for my mother, and took it to her gravestone with a helium balloon and let it go. Sadly I was not able to forgive her when she was living.

If your going to do this. Here are a few guidelines as you compose the letter:

  • Write it out by hand to make it more personal.
  • Be honest and very specific about your hatred – what is it about?
  • Take responsibility for this hatred and explain why it’s unfair and unjust.
  • Forgive yourself and others for this hatred. You have felt.
  • Express in detail what you’ve learned from this hatred, make a written promise to be kinder to yourself and others and end your letting by stirring “I love you.” ♥️

You can keep the letter (s) or burn them and give them away. My sending my mothers letter with a helium balloon helped me to forgive my mother. If the person is living and you give them the letter, know you will probably have to face them and hate a discussion. If your still feeling weak, I don’t suggest giving the person the letter. Burn it or keep it.

Hate, whether turned inward or outward creates a destructive state of mind the wreaks havoc with your physical health and emotional well-being. And like a hot coal, the sooner you rid yourself of this toxic emotion, the less damage it can do and the healthier and happier you’ll be.

Feed hatred and it will grow. Confront it understand it and disassemble it and You will grow.

Make today the day you address this darkness and let the sunshine in.

Childhood Emotional Neglect

It seems that the world getting crazier and crazier. As lives get more chaotic our children and grandchildren are suffering the most. What kind of future will they really have?

I can see it in some of their faces, at the grocery store, a church, or children just outside walking alone. It breaks my heart every time it happens.

As a survivor of Childhood Emotional Neglect. I might be more in tuned to feel for these children. And while I am sometimes not in a place where it’s my business to speak to these children. My heart aches for them.

I wanted to share with you the challenges they may be feeling. So if your in a place to speak up you’ll know what their feeling. I tell you, sometimes even a quick hello or positive word to them helps them tremendously.

The First Challenge

They feel invisible, like they don’t belong or are no value to anyone. “I became invisible so that every one walks by me like I wasn’t there.” They feel they don’t belong, especially in group settings, whether with family or friends. I know I always felt that if I walked out of the room no one would notice. Although they rationally see that no one is superior to them, they still feel inferior to other people.

The biggest challenge for me was believing that my wants and desires were not as important of those of others. I had a huge fear that paralyzed me. My unconscious motto became “If anyone really knew me they wouldn’t like me. I longed to be seen by others but my fear of actually being seen kept it hidden, isolated, independent, anxious and afraid.

I remember one time at age 12 years old. I did an experiment of my own. My Father always had alcohol in the fridge. One day I went to fridge and grabbed 3 beers and went outside and sat on the front porch and drank them all. Just seeing if anyone would pay attention. It was a busy street and town was about a block away. No one even noticed. I learned 3 things that day. I really was invisible and that no one really cared what I did. along with that beer helped me deal with the pain I felt inside. From that moment on I did want I pleased, I talked to strangers, took alcohol from the fridge, came and left as I wanted. No one cared. By the age of 13 I think I was an alcoholic. By age 14 I started smoking weed, and by 16 I was snorting cocaine. No one seemed to have any issues with it and I stopped caring about myself by that point.

I struggled for the majority of my childhood and my adult life with feelings that I didn’t matter much, that I wasn’t important and not interesting enough of a person for others to want to get close to me.

The Second Challenge

They have trouble recognizing their emotions or sharing their emotions. They might say things like:

“I always feel the need to hide my emotions and thoughts, I find it very hard to open up to others, even family members.”

“I am just learning about feelings, emotions. How do you know what you are feeling period!”

Even today I empathize a lot, But I have a hard time being able to feel my emotions. I still to this day struggle with recognizing my emotions and knowing whether they are “real” or whether I make them up (exaggerate).

My mother never expressed or talked about emotions at home and now I find it difficult to know how strong an emotion has to be. Whether it’s real or if it’s even worth being expressed.

My Father spent a lot of time at work or at the bar, and when he would be home he would either have a drink in his hand or sleeping.

I’m normally a very articulate person, but I lack the vocabulary to describe my emotions when I’m feeling them in the moment. I think that’s why I’m good at writing, because I can think things through before putting them out there.

At home my mother would always tell me to shut up, after awhile I just stopped talking. And kept all my thoughts and feelings tucked inside.

The Third Challenge

These children may have trouble determining their needs and desires because they can’t connect with themselves or any one else.

I had trouble understanding what a really wanted, for much of my adult life I did what society told me to do. Most of the time I just went through the actions without knowing what I wanted or feeling anything. I got used to being numb all the time. Trying to find my voice and connect with myself and the things that made me unique was extremely difficult for me.

The Forth Challenge

They may have trouble setting boundaries and saying no to others. They don’t think they have a right to say “NO.” And have a right to their own feelings. I had great difficulty setting boundaries with anyone. I also had a difficult time saying no to the point of my own detriment and I put up with my own needs being ignored. Failing to learn how to set boundaries on how to trust my gut feeling when my boundaries were crossed, the ultimately, how to protect myself. Many times I felt like a doormat.

I had to learn how to set boundaries and establish limits, which express a lot of being able to say no. In adult life it’s really hard for me to say no. I still tend to push my boundaries in relationships too far, not putting myself first but even agree to things I don’t like.

Today I still have issues with addiction but now it’s food (sugar). My life has been and always will be a struggle because of the way I was raised. So please if you see or know of someone who is being abused – emotionally, physically, or sexually, speak up. Maybe you could save the life of a child. Or save them years and years of suffering.

Counseling is available. There are caring people out there. I spent 30 years in counseling trying to undo, the hurt and pain of what happened to me in childhood and adult life. The mistakes I’ve made and the relationships I’ve destroyed. Every day I struggle but I know there is praise in from the pity out there. Or I wouldn’t be here today surviving.

Jehovah Elkanna

El Kanna is the Hebrew name for God meaning consuming fire, jealous God. This name contains a Holy version of jealousy that God has for His people. God is jealous for you and me. We are greatly loved and treasured! God is jealous for you. He wants every inch of your heart connected to His. God’s Holy jealously is rooting in a desire to protect, provide, and bless us. Join me as we unpack the treasure found in this beautiful Hebrew name of God. Jehovah Elkanna.

You must worship no other gods, for the Lord, whose very name of Jealous, is a God who is jealous about His relationship with you.

Exodus 34;14

Understanding The Name Of God, El Kanna-Consuming Fire, Jealous God.

El-Kanna the Hebrew name for God is mentioned six times in the Old Testament. We first see it in Exodus 32:14. After leading the nation of Israel out of Egyptian slavery. God brings them to Mount Sinai where He gave Moses the Ten Commandments. While Moses is on the mountain with God, the people talked Aaron into making a golden calf for them to worship (sadly their are many who are worshipping golden calves today), he became angry and threw down the stone tablet God had given him that His commandments on them. God is ready to wipe the entire nation out, but Moses intercedes for them. You will get a better understanding of the rules that God set out for His chosen people if you read about these accounts in the book of Exodus. It was for their protection, both physical and spiritual. It is the same for us! God gave us these commandments to protect our hearts. (Sadly these commandments are being ignored, and we have been consumed by our ugly hearts). Love God and He loves us passionately. In fact this Hebrew name of God El-Kanna describes God as Israel’s husband, jealous for her affections and ours too. El-Kanna demands an exclusive love relationship with His people. In Deuteronomy 6:5, we learn we are ti “Love the Lord your God will all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.

There is no room in our relationship with God for any idols. Let’s read this account from Exodus:

Then the Lord told Moses, “Chisel out the two stone tablets like the first ones. I will write on them the same words that were on the tablets you smashed. Be ready in the morning to climb up Mount Sinai and present yourself to me on the top of the mountain. No one else may come with you. In fact, no one else is to appear anywhere on the mountain. Do not even let the flocks or herds graze near the mountain.” So Moses chiseled out two tablets of stone like the first one. Early in the morning he climbed Mount Sinai as the Lord had commanded him, and he carried the two stone tablets in his hands. Then the Lord came down in a cloud and stood there with him; and He called His own Name, Yahweh. The Lord passed in front of Moses, calling out, “Yahweh! The Lord! The God of compassion and mercy! I am slow to anger and filled with unfailing love and faithfulness. I lavish unfailing love to a thousand generations. I forgive iniquity, rebellion, and sin. But I do not excuse the guilty. I let the sins of the parents upon their children and grandchildren; the entire family is affected – even children in the third and fourth generations.” Moses immediately threw himself to the ground and worshipped. And he said, “O Lord, if it is true that I have found favor with you, then please travel with us. Yes, this is a stubborn and rebellious people, but please forgive our iniquity and our sins. Claim us as your own special possessions (Sadly this generation and the ones passed have chosen to be stubborn and rebellious). The Lord replied, Listen, I am making a new covenant with you in the presence of all your people. I will perform miracles that have never been performed anywhere in all the earth or in any nation. And all the people around you will see the power of the Lord – the awesome power I will display for you. But listen carefully I command you today. Then I will go ahead of you and drive out the Amorite’s, Canaanites, Hittites, Perizzites, Hivites, and Jebusitrs. Be very careful never to make a treaty with the people who live in the land where you are going. If you do, you will follow their evil ways and be trapped. Instead, you must break down their pagan alters, smash their sacred pillars, and cut down their Asherah poles. You must worship no other gods, for the Lord whose very name is Jealous, is a God who is jealous about His relationship with you. You must not make a treaty of any kind with the people living in the land. They lust after their gods, offered sacrifices to them. They invite you to join them. Then you will accept their daughters, who sacrifice to other gods, as wives from your sons. And they will seduce your sons to commit adultery against me by worshipping other gods . You must not make any gods of molten metal for yourselves.

Exodus 34:1-15

Read Deuteronomy 6:17-19

God’s jealousy is more about us than about Him. He wants us to be passionately searching and consuming with Him. He wants a relationship with you. This involves surrendering everything in your life to Him and following His commands. God wants us to reach our full potHe has created us to reach. Take Note of verse Deuteronomy 6:18. Do what is right and good in the Lord’s sight, so all will go well with you. Then you will enter and occupy the good land that the Lord swore to give our ancestors.

God promises that all will go well with us when we surrender everything in our lives to Him and love Him passionately like a husband with no unfaithfulness in our hearts.

Why is that Important?

Why does God have to be jealous for us? When we surrender everything to Him and love Him passionately. It provided a track, or apathy for Him to work in our lives and bring Hid blessings.

The word ‘jealous’ “is to become intensely red” and refers to how rising emotion colored our face when something or someone very dear to us is threatened.

But if we the world doesn’t wake up soon to this Jehovah Elkanna will persecute this land and bring judgement to us. I know this because we are following the past history of the Israelites. History always repeats itself. We have become a spoiled people and if we don’t wake up soon. All God’s warnings will come to pass.

The Three Heavens

2 Corinthians 12:2 talks about a man who was caught up in the third heaven. Logic dictates that if there is a third heaven one and two. The third heaven is Scripture is where God Almighty rules and reigns over the universe with His Holy angels. This is where the righteous receive their crowns of life after hearing the words, “Well done good and faithful servant.”

There are mansions of spend or and times that are dazzling white. The third heaven is our eternal home as children of the Highest God. It’s the city where the Lamb is the light, where tears are never shed and goodbyes are never uttered. There is no sorrow or pain, only joy, and sheer perfection, it’s the city where we will one day join the angels in singing, “Holy! Holy! Holy! God Almighty!” around the throne of God.

Heal Is For Real!

The Second Heaven

The second heaven is where Satan rules his evil empire with legions of demons are fallen angels. Demons have power. They have personality. They have purpose. Satan has come to steal, to kill and to destroy. If he can mislead you down a wrong path that will destroy your life’s purpose… he has won the battle. The second heaven is his campground.

Make no mistake about it! Satan is a fallen angel who quotes Scripture to deceive and destroy the righteous.

The First Heaven

Is the heaven you can see with your natural eyes. It contains the sun, the moon, and the stars. We are now waiting on the blood moons.

America is fascinated by the supernatural. While our modern society seems to devour books and movies about ghosts and witches in droves, the most supernatural book in the universe is the Word of God. From the very first word in Genesis, the genius of God explodes as the universe is created from a handful of gift. God spoke four words and , right forever conquered darkness. He flung the glittering stars like diamonds against the black velvet of the night to reflect His glory. The sun and the moon and the stars are celestial evangelists who travel across the heavens declaring His greatness.

Psalm 19:1 says, “ The heavens declare the glory of God; And the firmament so His handiwork.”

Let’s talk a moment about angels, God secret agent. I don’t believe in angels because someone told me they saw one, or because I watched a movie late last night featuring Hollywood‘s rendition of a angel. I read in angels because the Word of God said they are real, if God‘s word says it, I believe it…because “His Word is truth” (John 17:17).

What is an angel? Angles are created (Colossians 1:16). They have superior knowledge, and they are without number.

Psalm 91:11 says he will give his angels charge over you and keep you in all your ways. Angles. Plural. Every believer has a right to believe that two angels have been sent from heaven to protect and defend us at all times.

Psalm 34 Tell the angels of the Lord and count around those who fear him. And the angels deliver us from evil. Encamp literally need to surround. So if you are a believer, then angels surround and protect you wherever you go.

Angels are innumerable, invisible and invincible. When you give your heart to Christ, you are under the protection of the Almighty God and his angels. Your protection is far greater than your enemies.

The President of the United States has a secret service. But you have angels, God secret agents, to protect you in all your ways. They have awesome power when executing Judgment of God. They can’t control the power of nature and the universe. They are not intimidated by the forces of evil. In the great tribulation, God is going to release his angels to crush the ungodly in masses. And I tell you, that is power!

What else do and you? Their office is twofold. First, they worship and adore God, the redeemer of mankind. John wrote in Revelation 5:11-12, “ when I looked, and I heard a voice of me angels around the throne… and the number of them was ten thousand times ten thousand… saying with a loud voice: “ worthy is the lamb who was slain Theresea power and riches and wisdom, and strength and honor and glory and blessing!”

The second thing of you is to serve God by carrying out His judgments. God judges nations, and he judges individuals. The Bible tells us that it is “ appointed wants to die and then the judgment (Hebrews 9:27).” There are two appointments every person will keep; One is with death, And the other is Judgement Day when they stand before God Almighty an answer for every thought word and deed.

God judges child abuse! Who ever wrong or injured a child intentionally brings the wrath and vengeance of God upon himself through that child’s guardian angel. On Judgement Day, The same angle that drags Satan into the flames of the eternal hell will chain the child molester, the sex trafficker, men and women who have harmed innocent children…And dragon straight into the judgment they deserved for all eternity. I didn’t say that. I loving and merciful God said that angels defend children.

Numbers 32:23 warn us by saying, “ are you sure your sins will find you out.” Nothing is done in secret! God sees everything! Angels drove Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden.

For every sin, satan is ready to provide an excuse. He is a fallen angel, ready to manipulate scripture so that it sound right…unless you are so familiar with the Word that you can recognize the truth. If Satan missed quoted Scripture in any effort to deceive the Son of God,He would certainly do the same to you.

Let’s be clear on this. Rationalization of your skin is Satan substitute for repentance! Walk away from the forbidden fruit. There is a high price for low living.

God’s way is not always the easiest app, but it will bring you out to Rich fulfillment but no other journey you can ever imagine…if you only will persevere to the end. Gods message to our generation is this…struggle is evidence that you are next in line for a promotion! Don’t quit now! It’s during the struggle you find out who you really are.

The greatest my sentence tells us is that there’s plenty of time. Plenty of time to get our lives right with Christ. Plenty of time to share the salvation message. Plenty of time to sit back and relax.

But the trumpet of God could sound at any moment. Do not wait! Share the celebration message. Because very soon will be called up in a twinkling of an eye and it will just be that fast.