Steps To Set And Achieve Bold Goals

I just applied a Goal Sheet, that I use when I need to set a goal. It is a guide line for when you want to set goals.

I am meeting with a group of friends every week using a weekly goal sheet to help us further our success in life.

I am working on Being Bold in public. I find it difficult to be bold and speak up when in a conversation with others. It is a goal that will take longer than a week, but that’s okay. It’s something I’ve needed to accomplish for a while now.

You’ve heard the saying, and it’s well known for a reason: If your goals aren’t big enough that they inspire the socks off you (even if they simultaneously leave your knees shaking), then you’re going to be hard pressed to stay the course over the long term to make the. A reality.

There’s a catch: You need to write them down.

While it’s now accepted wisdom that having a plan that sets you up for success, versus having no plan, sticking rigidity to a pre-set course of action can actually work against you in the long run.

The Key Is Flexibility

Put another way, if your plan A to get from where you are now to where you want to go isn’t working for you, then be willing to change course and go with plan B, or C or D.

Having a plan to achieve a goal can improve your change for success, but if followed rigidly, it can make you close-Minded and unable to identify better and more viable options as conditions change.

I have set up times during my day, the work on my goal, such as praying and asking God for help. Reading articles of goal setting. Even if it 20 minutes a day. It will help you achieve your goals.

Qualities Everyone Needs To Reach Their Biggest Goals

1. Set Bold Goals. Vision equals power. So as you look out to the year ahead, dare to set some brave, clear and compelling goals that excite and inspire you. Doing so helps you focus your time and energy more effectively and will set you up to accomplish more than you otherwise would.

For example, do you want to change jobs. Do want to watch your mouth. Write it down in ways that specify a clear what and when that enable you to track and measure success.

2. Make A Plan. Create a game plan to achieve your goals. That is, what specific actions and strategies will you use to get from point A to your desired point B? If you want to change jobs you may want to take a few classes to learn a different skill, so you’ll be more capable for the other job. If you have to set your alarm earlier to work on your goal.

3. Review Your Plan. Every few weeks you can dedicate time to compare your progress to your plan and objectively assess how effectively your plan is working for you. If it’s not, look at the underlying reasons why. Are they temporary or permanent? Are they within your control or outside it? Be honest, even if the reality isn’t what you were hoping for.

4. Embrace Failing Forward. No one likes to fail. But unless we gives ourselves permission to fail fast and often we cannot possibly succeed. Often, people can get stuck because they were so attached to their plan A they don’t want to admit it’s not working or needs refining. So ask yourself here, what it might cost me if I maintain my current approach? Again be honest, even if it’s painful.

Sunk cost bias can drive otherwise intelligent people into a cycle of self-defeating (and unintelligent) decision-making. Don’t kid yourself into thinking that doing more of what’s not working suddenly will start working. Smart people fail all the time. They just don’t take years to do it. Learn to fail fast and quit quickly.

5. Tweak Continually. To get where you want to go you need to keep tweaking (experiencing) and adjusting your course until you arrive at your desired destination. This also includes adjusting where you’ve set your sights depending on what you learn as you move

Sometimes as we move toward goals, we gain greater clarity about what we truly want and what we don’t want. This is part of our journey as “human beings” discovering who we are and who we’re called to become in this world. For instance, when I decided to make a career change in Nursing in my late 30’s, I went to college to study Psychology and Criminal Justice. And I learned what my true calling as it was to be a bridge for others who were suffering through life.

Sometimes As We Move Towards Goals, We Gain Greater Clarity About What We Truly Want And What We Don’t Want.

Feel The Feeling But Don’t Become The Emotion

Just like our thoughts, our feelings and emotions are powerful. What we think and how we feel are related.

We must never underestimate the power of our emotions. Our thoughts and emotions are entangled and linked in ways we sometimes can’t comprehend. A common flaw in everyone is the lack of awareness of our thoughts. Most times we tend to react rather the reflect or respond.

The technique to transform is by being aware of what we are thinking, feeling, and witnessing them without judgments. From this space of awareness we can choose to release what’s not needed and connect with the power of choice we have.

Reflect

Close your eyes, take a deep breath and invite a feeling of calmness. With every breath in- be aware of air going in and out with every Breath out- Release, let go of any tensions, worries… Continue to breathe and keep the focus on breath, sensations, and feelings.

Respond

If you feel any tension, stress or negative thoughts come back to your breath.

Pick 1 or more Affirmations (Positive statements).

Affirm by repeating them:

“I am Relaxed”

“I am Calm”

“I breathe and leg go”

Intregate

Remember this practice and affirmations. At any time if you feel stress, emotional, angry, anxious, take a pause to reflect and respond by breathing and letting go.

Remind yourself that “you are the captain of your sailboat” the master of your life.

I always combine this quote with an Affirmation “ I allow myself to feel and release” and forgiveness.

Loving Kindness Meditation

In loving mother ndness meditation, one is guided through I imaginary, words to phrases to extend positive thoughts to others and the self. Loving-kindness meditation cultivates feelings of compassion, equanimity, and gratitude. Loving-kindness is a mindfulness meditation that helps with mental calmness, composite, and evenness of temper, especially in difficult situations.

“Feel The Feeling But Don’t Become The Emotion. Witness it. Allow it. Release it!” -Crystal Andrus

Reasons You Should Never Depend On Anyone Else To Find Happiness

Although we need other people in our lives to avoid indefinite isolation we also need to be able to support ourselves when the going gets tough. That being said we should not depend on anyone else to support the need we can support ourselves. Here are some reasons why being independent is the best way to live your life.

You Are The Key To Your Own Success

Truth be told no one is going to walk you through life and hold your hand every step of the way. We luckily have tools built into us, tools like drive, desire, passion, motivation, and got that allow us to leave our mark and reach our goals. These are the tools, no one can take away from us, and although support from the outside can help, how far you will go is ultimately up to you. We all have what it takes, but it’s up to you if you to put in the effort.

Relying Completely On Others Will Only Result In Being Let Down

Although friends and family are key to any healthy lifestyle the truth is we all lead busy lives. Friends, family, and co-workers will listen to your problems, but they won’t solve them, and depending on them for that purpose will only lead to disappointment. With that being said, it’s important to learn to be able to power through on your own sometimes and not always depend on others to help you out of a tough spot. However, know it’s never wrong to ask for help when you need to.

A Helping Hand Will Only Carry You So Far

We all need a helping hand once in a while, but relying on it all the time can be detrimental to your success. You can power through even the toughest of storms, and if you rely on the help of others all the time you’ll never discover your full potential. Remember you can go the distance.

You Know Yourself Better Than Anyone

No matter how close you are to your friends and family only you know what makes you tick. You are beautiful, You are unique, you are one of a kind and you know everything there is to know about you. That being said you know you can always depend on yourself when all else is lost.

You Can Find Happiness Within Yourself

Happiness is not a tangible object you can see, it’s more than a state of mind. Although a large part of our happiness is derived through our connections to our families and friends, we need to learn how to find happiness within ourselves. Once we learn to do thishappiness, takes on a whole new meaning and we discover we appreciate it more than ever.

You Have More Potential Than Anyone You Know

When it comes to achieving your goals, there is only one person who stands in your way. Yourself. Once you become to this realization you know that once you defeat your lack of motivation or whatever stands in your way, all other obstacles are obsolete in your journey of accomplishment.

You Have The Power To Make Change Happen

No matter where you derive your motivation know only you have the power to make your goals a reality. You hold all the power in your life and you decide what makes you happy. Relying on others for something so essential to life will make your life a waiting game and life is too short for that. Instead, make your life a game of action and adventure and derive your happiness from the changes you have the power to make.

Why Assuming Might Be Your Most Dangerous Daily Habit

Assumptions Kill.

This is not an exaggeration, it a fact.

As insignificant and meaningless some assumptions may be, others can change the course of your life. And I’ve witnessed it first hand.

My father would always say, “when you assume you make an “ass out of u and me.” Those words have stuck with me all these years.

We need to make sure assumptions don’t lead to mistakes in our lives.

Assumptions Are Dangerous In Many Spectrums:

From word, business, and for our personal life. How exactly? I’ll give you the short version. But first, understand that even as I am writing this, I’m not perfect with managing assumptions either.

Just like you, I’m make assumptions. Most of them, probably subconsciously. I’m not sure it’s even realistic to try to erase all the smallest assumptions we tend to make daily, the ones that have little to no impact on out lives.

But awareness is the first step to avoiding assumptions that could cost us big time.

Because of my father never assume is one of my top core values.

Once we’re aware and consciously seeking to get ride of assumptions in our daily lives, we get to keep control of situations, we avoid communication problems, and ultimately, we drastically reduce the mistake made by ourselves, and others.

Essentially in our world today, we assume someone is a certain color and we assume they are bad. The fact is no matter what color you skin is, there is good and bad in everyone. Just because they have a different belief system does mean there terrible people.

Assumptions allow you to hide behind your version of the story. This men’s you don’t own your part in the true story. We sometimes prefer to blame others for our misfortune, rather than look in the mirror. They keep you stuck in the past.

It’s easy to make assumptions. All you need is incomplete information about a situation. And an unwillingness to ask the questions you need to complete information. In the absence of complete information, you have to fill in the blanks yourself.

You’ll fill in the blanks with your interpretation comes from past experiences that seem similar. It comes from your past experiences and also from those you’ve heard about from others.

Armed with your information. You tend to connect the dots that aren’t there. Your brain can’t help doing this because you’re missing information. Trying to make sense of the situation, you make connections between today and the past. Connections that don’t really exist. You jump to the wrong conclusions.

Have you ever heard someone say “All men are bad?”They were assuming from their past relationships. The truth is not All men are not bad. There are not bad.

How Assumptions Develop

If assumptions are incorrect when dealing with rational matters, ponder this. What happens when your emotions come into play?

All hell breaks loose. You s to emotions arrive with many sensitive buttons. These buttons are the places where you got hurt in the past. Your memory has stored this past pain. And activates it whenever your nervous system recognizes anything that feels painfully familiar.

Once activated, you react as if you’re experiencing that same pain again. Your old pain feels as real today as it did when you got hurt. Your present situation doesn’t even need to be the same as the past one that hurt you.

What Assumptions Do

Behind the harsh words that come to the surface lies the orginal hurt. And the unwillingness to step up and own part of it.

This is toxic for the people you’re lashing out at, and for you. The negative energy expressed with this can take a toll on health. Theirs and yours. And by pressing your pain buttons again and again, you deeper your hurt.

Why You Should Avoid Making Assumptions Like The Plague

1. They’re an easy out. The path of least resistance is also the path of least growth.

2. They stop you from taking responsibility for your life. Assumptions allow you to hide behind your version of the story.

3. They keep you stuck in the past. Assumptions rely on old information to fill in the blanks and connect the dots. Instead of expanding your horizons, you retreat into the past, a painful past.

4. It’s lazy behavior. Instead of asking questions to get the information you need, you jump to conclusions.

5. They foster a negative mindset. Most assumptions are derived from old information. This reinforces your innate negativity bias that dates back to prehistoric times. And it keeps you thinking the world is a hostile place.

6. Assumptions are always wrong. I have a perfect record of the assumptions I’ve made. 100% of them have been wrong. And it’s hard to believe that I’m unique in this.

Life Beyond Assumptions

These days, instead of making assumptions, I ask questions. Lots of them. Even if this means finding out a truth that might be painful to hear. If my default behavior kicks in and I start to assume something, I notice it. And nip in the bud.

Since I started asking questions and stopped making assumptions, I’m much happier. I’ve managed to release much of my past pain by not activating it constantly. I’ve grown a lot from the information I’ve gathered through asking questions. I enjoy conversations more because I’m not worried about protecting myself. I’ve deepened my compassion for others by understanding the fears that lay behind their assumptions. I’m more positive. And I’m more fun to be around.

Why Is Hope So Important?

To have hope is to want an outcome that makes your life better in some way. It not only can help make a tough present situation more bearable but also eventually improve our lives because envisioning a better future motivates us to take the steps to make it happen.

I don’t know about you but I find myself saying “I’ll be glad when this is over.” whether it a bad day, or trial in my life. I have hope it will be better when it’s over.

Whether we think about it or not, hope is a part of everyone’s life. Everyone hopes for something. It’s an inherent part of being human. Hope helps define what we want in our future and is part of the self-narrative about the lives we all have running inside our minds.

So, What Is Hope Exactly?

The definition of hope can differ depending on the person doing the talking. When people speak about hope in a spiritual context, it might mean believing good things will happen with faith in a higher power. They might direct their hopes outward in prayer.

For others, it might mean always looking on the bright side and seeing challenges as opportunities. In other words, always “hoping for the best.”

Webster’s diction makes “hope” seem close to “wish” or “to cherish a desire with anticipation: to want something to happen to be true.”

Whatever the details, hope in general means a desire for things to change for the better, and to want that better, and to want the better situation very much.

Hope Is Not Optimism

Hope is not the same as optimism. An optimistic generally are more hopeful than others. On the other hand, the most pessimistic person you’ve ever met can be hopeful about something. Hope is very specific and focused, usually on just one issue.

Such as “I hope I get that job I interviewed for” or “I hope he/she calls me.” Or, for a little kid during Christmas, “I hope I get the bike I wanted.”

Why Hope Is So Vital

Most people associate hope with a dire situation. People hope to get out of difficult circumstances. That is often when people do find themselves hoping fervently. But, hope can also provide the key to making every day better.

That’s because just envisioning something hopeful-thr child seeing themself riding they’re new bike for example -gives them a moment of happiness.

According to Psychology Today, it can make present difficulties much easier to bear.

For example Children who grew up in poverty but had success later in life all had one thing in common-hope. Hope involves “planning and motivation and determination” to get what one hopes for.

The Deeper Meaning

In a way, having hope links your past and present to the future. Say you have a vision for what you hope will happen. Whether it does not, just envisioning it can make you feel better. And if it’s something you can somewhat control- like the kids working to get out of poverty-then hope can motivate you to take whatever steps you need to take.

For example: my Grandfather worked in the coal mines all his life, and my father started working in the coal mine at age 12. At age 17 he joined the Military and retired from there, he came home then began working as a painter. To provide for his family, yes we were poor but not as poor as my grandparents were. Today I am not as poor as I was growing up. It is the hope of being better off that motivates us.

The author Dr. Neel Burton who writes about emotions, writes that he always asks patients for what they hope for, because is they say “nothing” then that is a sign of depression or worse.

Having hope is important to the very act of being human. Hope is a match in a dark tunnel, a moment of light, just enough to reveal the path ahead and ultimately the way out.

Always Do What’s Best For You

Some people think that you are selfish when you do what’s best for you. People seem to think that doing what’s best for you makes you a bad person because it hurts others, but what about the people who are hurting you? Should you just let continue to hurt you and and stat in a situation that you don’t want to be in so that you don’t hurt them? The answer is no, you shouldn’t.

I’m not telling you that you should jump overboard as soon as things start getting bad. That’s not what I’m saying at all. Don’t jump overboard until the ship in sinking because there’s still hope that things will be fixed and it will float again. But there comes a point where you have to go overboard, or go down with the ship.

If things get to the point where you are worried about yourself and how the situation is hurting you, then do what is best and extract yourself from it. Whether it leaving one place for another, ending a toxic relationship, or following your dreams and leaving behind those who don’t believe in you, do what’s best for you if you feel that it is necessary.

Ultimately it your life, no one else’s. You are the one that has to live with your choices. You are the one that matters most in your life. I know that may seem selfish, but that’s just the truth of it. If you aren’t happy in the place you are in your life, do something about it. Do what’s best for you.

I know it isn’t easy. Sometimes doing what is best for you, what is right for you, can be the hardest thing in your entire life. But it’s worth it. Your happiness is worth it.

The point of life is to be happy and content. So work towards that. Don’t stay in unhealthy environments because that isn’t making you happy. You aren’t content in those environments, so don’t punish yourself by staying there.

People are going to say that you are selfish, and you know what? Let them. They don’t know how you feel. They can’t understand who you are doing what they your doing, but that shouldn’t stop you. You are the most important thing in your life because it’s your life, not someone else’s.

I used to think that taking care of myself, worrying about myself, and doing what was best for me, was selfish. But someone once told me that looking out for your well-being wasn’t selfish; it’s human. And he was right.

I needed to take care of myself a tad bit more instead of always putting everyone before me. I needed to worry about myself instead of what everyone else thought about what I was doing. And most of all, I needed to do what’s best for me, no matter how hard it was, or how selfish people were going to think I was.

So Be Human

Be human and take care of yourself and make sure you are OK.

Be human and worry about yourself before everyone else once in a while.

Be human and do what is best for you because it isn’t selfish.

It’s human