From Pity to Praise

Open you don’t up to the possibility of Magic

Keep you mind open when it comes to looking for magic in your own life. Don’t rule out the fact that even the most mundane activity can be magical. That drive to work not leaving you feeling like there are great things in store for you. Switch up your route and pay attention to new things you see. Or offer to give someone else a ride and get a new perspective on your surroundings. Magic is all around you if you just open your eyes and look around.

Seek out magic in every situation.

So you’ve opened your eyes and been unable to see magic in your everyday surroundings? Don’t worry- this is more common than you think. Some of takes a new experience, etc to help us find the magic in our lives. Go somewhere new. Look around. Place close attention. And look for little thing. If you make the effort to find magic in the world, you will be certain to discover it.Have you ever wanted something from a place of business as simple as a shirt, a book, a piece of jewelry, when you were shopping one of those items you wanted was easily found. Or even found the exact thing you had pictured in you mind. That is the magic. Or just thought how am I going to pay my phone bill and right before your phone was going to be shut off. You received the funds to pay for it? That is magic.

Be grateful for small things, big things and everything in between. Count your blessings, not your problems.

Stay focused on the present moment.

One of the biggest reasons we don’t all see more magic in our lives is because we’re not present. I realized that, if someone asked me the color of the fence down you road from me. I wouldn’t have been able to answer that question. I sometimes get on ”auto-pilot mode.” We sometimes are so used to going the same route and in the same routine we do it automatically with seeing anything. This is when we miss the magic that is right in front of us. Be present if you want to be enchanted.

Use your imagination and creativity.

People who are unimaginative are never going to see the magic in a cup of tea or the changing of the leaves from green to yellow. And that’s okay. Some people don’t want to see the magic in life- but if you’re the type the needs a little sparkle in your life- you’ve got to open mind up to more a creative way of viewing your world. Is there magic in a friends laughter? Do they make to happy? That’s magic. Is there magic in a rain-soaked morning? Imagine how the grass in going to get greener or the beautiful flowers that are going to grow. This is magic. But you must be willing to create and imagine it.

See life from a new perspective.

You know how feel when you watch a movie or read a book filled with magic. Christmas movies are my favorite, there is so much magic in them I’m in awe at the type of things someone has come up with in their mind. Think about what it is like to describe things about our lives, cars, airplanes, satellites, the amazing things people accomplish— to someone not familiar with the world. Yes, it might be science and fact but through the eyes of someone else,it would seem like magic.

When you think about it, children see magic through they’re eyes. Children don’t know about elections and gravity why things fly. Yet the see a plane in the sky and amazed. They see leaves changing color and they are awed. They see snow for the first time and are in wonder. Even a song with a catchy tune and cannot help but sing along. It’s about being to open to enchanted, about willing to become surprised by our own mundane lives.

For some this is silly. You might say “I already know how gravity works, or why the leaves change colors in the fall, or even how a computer works. Seeing the magi. In these things is Stupid.” I get that, I see how silly it might sound- me a grown woman explaining, “Find the magic!” But, to be completely honest with you, I’ve found that I’m a lot more positive- and ever more present when I’m looking for the magic in my life. When I stare in amazement when I actually have a animal in my house- another species that I totally connect with, I feel excited about life. I feel like I cannot wait to see what else I’ll uncover in this crazy world it’s worth the silliness that comes with claiming that I’m striving, everyday to find the magic in the mundane.

Many times in your life you know what is the right thing to do, but for some reason you don’t do it.

We take wrong actions every day, and we make the wrong choices every day only to regret them later. Why is this?

That’s because the actions that we take aren’t the ones we really want to take. We do what we do only to please everyone else around you, even when know what your doing is wrong.

And you continue to do one wrong thing after another, only to look back and that you have walked to wrong path for your whole life.

Though this sounds sad, the good thing is once you realize your mistakes you can correct it by walking the right path for the rest of your life.

What is this right path made of? While it’s not possible to be sure about it. These area few things in general which make up the right path.

The right path is made up of nothing but right actions that you take every day. It means to live every minute in your life in sync with the welfare of being in this planet- be it human, a plant, or a animal. It means be compassionate to every being with whom you come in contact with.

It means to live a life with honesty and integrity all the time. It means to take care of your loved ones in health and sickness without complaining. It means do your duty that will benefit others, but never cause anyone any misery to anyone else.

The right path also means a lot for your personal development. It means to live your life in mindfulness.it means to discover your true self that is universal in life. It means to see and understand life for what it is. It means to think and act as in your state of consciousness and do things and do things that are universally right to do.

That’s how you walk the right path in life. If you are afraid to walk on it then you will never reach your ultimate goal in life, which is to be one with your true self.

The reason we don’t walk the right path is because you are afraid of something. What’s that something? Most of the time it’s so irrelevant that once you know what it is you will laugh at yourself for being afraid of it for such a long time.

Are you often afraid of what others will think of you? Will they think you are in the wrong, or will think you don’t know a thing about life? Will they think you are mean and selfish, or will they think you lost your mind.

There will be no end to what others will think of you walk if you walk down the right path in life. The only thing you can do to win them over is to ignore them, and let their words go away without affecting you in any way.

It is difficult to walk the right path in your life because you see everyone else take short cuts and walk the wrong path all the time. Ask yourself how common it is to see someone break the rules, or talk rudely, or at selfishly. What difficult is to be kind to every person, and follow the rules that meant for the good and welfare of everyone.

Yes, you will have to face trials on long your way, but without trials can anything be worth having ever be gained?

It can’t

If you look from a positive view, you’ll see the reason that the right path is so hard to walk because it’s rewards of walking this path are huge, and they can only be given to someone who deserves it more than anyone else. We you walk the right path, you feel compassionate, kind, happy, grateful, and peaceful. That’s something you can never feel if you walk the wrong path in life.

So don’t doubt anything today, and remove every thought and feeling that scares you. Make a firm decision to walk the right path in your life today.

Don’t do what others tell you to do. Do what is right and life will take you towards peace, contentment, and happiness; do the wrong things and it will take you towards misery, chaos, and unhappiness.

If you need to make any sacrifices to walk the right path, that’s the price to have to pay, but if your willing to pay to price, then what you get in return is more than you could ever sacrifice.

Your life can only improve and get better that what it’s ever been.

When you start walking the right path you will find others that are walking the same path as you you will be inspired to keep walking and get help on your path.

You will not receive closure, in every situation, but you can create your own closure.

Most of what people do is about them, not you.

Somethings can not be explained.

Some people won’t apologize because they don’t know how.

You can not change other people no matter how much you think they need to change. When you meet someone know that’s who they are for life. Only they can change themselves.

Everyone feels stressed for time sometimes. Sometimes I just had and bad day and want to go home to peace and quiet.

It’s seems like on those days everything that could go wrong does. That’s when we made mistakes. I have accidentally hit the “reply all” instead of instead of “reply” in an e-mail or a text. As soon as My finger left the key, panics struck. I almost immediately begin worrying about the negative actions I will get and who I might make mad.

Can you relate to this feeling of dread and panic? Does your behavior when stressed tend to harm other people. Do you get upset when you overthink things.

Given the demands most of us experience. I’m sure everyone has wanted a done over from time to time.

If we could stay calm in stressful situations or not to overthink our mistakes with meaningless scenarios. We could stay much calmer.

Training your brain

If we can train out brain to be our ally instead of our foe when stressed, we would be able to stay calm.

Here are some behaviors you help you stay calm under pressure.

Be Grateful- people who are grateful for the positive things in their lives have lower stress levels. Being grateful can give you increased energo, positive moods, and a healthy sense of well-being. If you begin your day calmer it will be easier to stay calm when you feel stressed.

Think positive- when under stress, if you can think of a positive situation or thought. It will distract you brain from dwelling on the stressful situation. Which feeds off its self. Think positive thoughts allows your brain to keep stress low and shifts it’s attention to a stress-free in your brain.

The greatest tool against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.

Go off the grid- turn off your electronics, cell phone, computers and totally disengage. Other wise you are in danger of frying to brain or getting burned out. Feeling overwhelmed is your emotions reaction to stressful situations and are bound to put you over the edge.

Not allowing yourself to unplug will not give your brain the opportunity to rest, de-stress and recharge, making manageable irritations feel unimaginable. Nothing is that important to not take time for yourself and relax.

Get sleep- when we are sleep deprived normal stress are blown out of proportion, often feeling insurmountable. After a good night’s sleep the same stress with not feel like such a big deal. Rest easy that everything will turn out just fine.

Be active- physical activity keeps your mind and body healthy. You don’t have to be a health nut to gain the benefits from physical activity has on your health and well being.

Positive activity helps your nervous system to calm down, which is necessary to stay calm in stressful situations.

Meditation-helps with stress, and lowers blood pressure and helps you stay calm in stressful situations.

Don’t play a victim- when things don’t go as planned avoid the “oh poor me”thinking. playing a victim only adds stress to what is already a stressful situation.

We can not control all stressors that happen in our life, but we can control how we respond to them.

Eat a Healthy diet- food provides food and gives us a foundation for a healthy brain. If the brain is not oxygenated it is impossible to stay calm under stress.

Breathe deep breaths- inhale deeply into your chest filling your chest and stomach up with air,then exhaling slowly and deliberately. Counting to ten in and out on eat breath. To breathe stress out of your body.

Keep it in perspective-ask yourself, what is the worse thing that can happen? Will it make a difference a year from now?

Chances are it won’t matter and will not cause a life disaster. Sure you might get yelled at by a boss or someone else but no-one is going to die. Everyone makes mistakes it’s a natural part of life.

Everyone will calm down and it will blow over. It will be forgotten and people will forgive you. Move on.

Despite our best efforts, we all judge others. It might be over small things, like a co-worker who took too long during a lunch break. Or it might be other issues, such as a person who behaves selfishly or hurts our feelings.

Imagine you are waking through the woods and you see a small dog. It looks cute and friendly. You approach and move to pet the dog. Suddenly it snarls and tries to bite you. The dog no longer seems cute and you feel fear and possibly anger. Then, as the wind blows, the leaves on the ground are carried away and you see the dog has one of its legs caught in a trap. Now, you feel compassion for the dog. You know it became aggressive because it is in pain and is suffering.

What can we learn from this story? How can we be on less judgmental?

Don’t blame yourself. We are all hard-wired for survival. When we see a dog (or a person) that might bite us ( literally or metaphorically), or course we feel threatened. We go into fight-flight freeze mode, and are unable to see the countless reasons for another’s behavior. We get tight or defensive. This is a normal first reaction. The key is to pause before we act out of this mode.

Be mindful. Although judgment is a natural instinct, try to catch yourself before you speak, or send that nasty email and do any potential harm. You can’t take your words back. Pause. See if you can understand where the person may be coming from. Try to rephrase your critical internal thought into a positive one. After all. Like that dog in the trap, we really don’t know the reasons for someone’s behavior.

Don’t Judge me because you don’t know half of what I survived.

Depersonalize. When someone disagrees with us or somehow makes our life difficult, remember that it’s typically not about us. It may be about their pain and struggle. Why not give others the benefit of the doubt? Never underestimate the pain of a person. Will Smith said “because in all honesty, everyone is struggling. Some people, are better than hiding it than others.

Look for the goodness. This takes practice, as our mind scan for the negative, but if we try, we can almost always find something good about another person.

Repeat the just like me phrase. Remember, we are most alike than different. When I feel critical of someone, I remind myself that the other person loves their family just like I do, and wants to be happy and free of suffering m just like I do. Most important, that person makes mistakes, just like me.

Reframe. When someone does something you don’t like, perhaps think of it as they are simply trying to solve a problem in a different way than you would. Or maybe they have a different timetable as you. This may help you to be more open-minded and accepting of their behavior p. People take different roads seeking fulfillment. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.

Look at your own behavior. Sometimes we may be judging someone for something that we do ourselves, or have done. For example, the next time you find yourself yelling at someone while your driving ask yourself. Have I ever driven poorly? Of course we all have.

Educate yourself. When people do things that are annoying, they may have a hidden disability. For example, some people have poor social skills like me (because of my childhood). So if someone’s invading my personal space I tend to get upset. But if you take the time to get to know me, I’m very kind and treat people with respect. Just sometime I get it out in words but actions. Remember everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by it’s ability to climb a tree, it will live it’s whole life believing that it’s stupid.

Give the person the benefit of the doubt. Someone once told me. No one wakes up in the morning and says “I think I’m going to be a jerk this today.” Most of us do the best we can with the resources we have at the moment.

Feel good about you. If You feel good about your parenting, you have no interest in judging other people’s choices. If you feel good about your body, you shouldn’t go around making fun or other people’s weight or appearances. We are hard on each other because we’re using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived deficiency.

And finally remember that judging a person does not define who they are, it defines who you are.

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