From Pity to Praise

The Destructive Power of Hate

I used to harbor feelings of Hatred toward myself and others. I so hated myself, I learned to hate myself when I was a child. Consistently being told you are a mistake, a horrible child and all the other things my mother said to me. I couldn’t help but hate myself. I hated my mother for the way she treated me. It took many years to learn not to hate.

Poison isn’t always something you eat or drink it can also be an emotion. And hate is one of them eating you up inside and causing destruction. Do you have hate in your life? Read more to control it before it damages you or your love ones.

Hate is a very strong emotion. This mental venom can pollute your spirit, poison your soul and seep into all the relationships that surround you. Anyone who has found themselves wrapped up in the arms of hate knows how damaging and mind consuming it can become. Even the word carries power, particularly if it comes from a friend, a family member, or a child.

While hate can be directed at almost anything- animals, food, jobs, movies. The people especially in today’s world. The most destructive is hatred toward other people.

I want to you to ask yourself these questions. Does hate have a place in my life? Do I harbor any feelings of hatred toward myself or anyone else? If you do, I want you too address this negative feeling before it comes sometimes much more dangerous. Hate, when left unchecked, will drain your spirit, tarnish your soul and darken your days.

There are two kinds of hate-the kind that’s turned outward (explosion), and the kind that’s turned inward (implosion). Both of these will eat you up inside, so if you find yourself living with hate, perhaps today is a good day for a little wellness housecleaning.

Hating Others.

Hate turned outward is both dangerous and ugly. It can motivate violent crime and damaging behaviors. As in the violent rioting that’s going on right now in the United States. The learned hatred of racism. Their perceived rejection fueled by desperation, insanity and carnage that cost many people their lives.

At the heart of all hatred is blame, and this is particularly true for hatred outward. When one feels like they’ve been seriously wronged or victimized by someone, their discontent and anger carries with it the potential seeds of hatred.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

Buddha

I like this quote because the antidote for hatred is definitely within your grasp. The hand that slaps also has the potential to become the hand that comforts.it all depends how you choose to use that hand. The points also made in the antidote in origin. A grandfather talking to his young grandson tells the boy about the two wolves inside him, struggling with each other. The first is the wolf of peace, love, kindness. The other wolf of fear, greed, and hatred. “Which wolf will win, grandfather?” Asks the young boy. “Which everyone you feed” is the reply.

I couldn’t agree more with these two segments. The more you hold onto , the more likely it is that the hot coal of them emotion will burn you. And the more you feed it, the stronger it becomes.

However, you can control the feelings that can lead to hatred. I’ve developed a different meaning for “hate”- an acronym of the mindset you need to counter this destructive emotional assault on your mind and body. Simply think of H.A.T.E. This way: Healing Aggressive Thoughts Emotionally.

When you begin to feel hatred thoughts, stop, take a deep breathe, let it out very slowly and repeat this process for four or five repetitions.

Consciously challenge irrational hateful thoughts.

Replace those hateful irrational thoughts with calmer rational thoughts.

If your feelings are directed at another person limit contact with this person.

Employ a “distraction strategy” to refocus your mind- watch a movie, go for a walk, read a book, exercise.

Are You the Object of Hate?

If you’ve ever been the target of hatred, you know how upsetting, frightening and emotional it can be. Actually, since the overall effects of hatred are so physically harmful and emotionally devastating. Perhaps we should also think of hatred as another type of H-bomb.

As you may recall, real H-bombs (hydrogen bombs) generate most of the energy they produce from something called nuclear fission is also what ignites the explosion of a nuclear weapon.

In a similar way, hatred produces energy for destructive power. And the fission- what actually ignites the explosion- is driven by the entente hostility, fear, anger, or sense of injury one feels. When you’re confronted by this kind of extreme dislike, you basically have two choices regarding your response: you can either sink to the hater’s level and toss a few H-bombs of your own, or you can recognize this as a character flaw and not respond.

To often, we turn our feelings of dislike on ourselves, which is equally damaging. Hate turned inward can crush your spirit and impact your health. Take overeating, for example, which many say, some is a symptom of self hate. By compulsively overeating to make yourself sick, putting on unhealthy weight and contributing to a feeling of unattractiveness- all of these forms of self-punishment.

Overeating however, is the only way that self-hatred manifests, engages. Risky behaviors and cutoff those who love them.

Self-haters are driven to punish themeselves for a variety of reasons, such as feeling insecure, guilty, unattractive, unproductive or self-critical. These negative, internal feelings shape and give life to the destructive impulses of self-hatred.

Ultimately, self hatred is characterized here dislike for oneself and, often, low self-esteem. What’s particularly difficult about self-loathing is that can avoid the hater.