Think about this. You are having this because someone or something upset you and you are upset. Why are you suffering for something someone else did to you. No one is going to live your life for you, you have to do it yourself, whether you rich or poor, out of money or raking it in.The beneficiary or ridiculous fortune or terrible injustice. You have to do it no matter no matter what is true.
No matter what is hard, no matter what is unjust, sad, sucky things befell you. Self-Pity is a dead end. You make the choice to drive down that road. It is up to you to decide to stay parked there or to turn around and drive out.