4 Things To Always Walk Away From

1. Conversations The Involve Hate And Gossip

2. Walk Away From Unnecessary Drama

3. Walk Away From People Who Put You Down

4. Walk Away From A Table Where Disrespect Is Being Served

Folding without actually getting up and walking away is like throwing your trash in the trash bin inside your house and then refusing to take it out to dispose of it properly (and permanently).

It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve thrown away (folded from). If you don’t take out the trash (known when to walk away), you are setting yourself up for more pain and humiliation that whatever it was that caused you to fold in the first place.

Don’t self-sabotage yourself. “Well I’ve identified what was trash and put into bags, but I’m just fully ready to take it out yet” so I’m just going to leave it here and let it stink awhile. People have no problem disrespecting you if you disrespect yourself.

The Styles Of Anger

You probably knew that there are various styles of communication that people use to express their anger. But, it may be surprising to learn that there are 5 styles – aggressive, passive, passive-aggressive, assertive, and projective-aggressive.

Once you learn about what types of anger people have, it will open your eyes to learn more about who they are and who you are.

Aggressive Anger:

The person using the Aggressive style of anger often feels the need to be in control of themselves, other people, and situations. They do not take no for an answer and they use hurt and/or anger to manipulate others into feeling guilty or backing down. Some patterns that typically emerge are the aggressive use sarcasm, humiliation, put downs, complaints, threats, and abuse to get what they want.

Passive Anger:

A Passive anger style tend to want to avoid conflict and confrontation. These individuals do not tend to express their needs and feelings and have a difficult time saying no without feeling guilty. A passive anger style tries hard to avoid hurting others because if leads them to feel guilty. They also avoid angering others so that they can avoid feeling uncomfortable and/or fearful.

Passive-Aggressive Anger:

People with Passive-Aggressive anger style are not as outwardly aggressive toward others as the Aggressive style and they do not want to avoid the conflict as the Passive style instead, when they are mad, they want to get even and may use seduction and/or manipulation to get what they want. They are often nice to your face and use behind the back techniques to get even. They may use the silent treatment, withdraw their love/affection and their attention, gossip, tattle, or refuse to cooperate. When asked what is wrong , they often say “nothing” even though their body language or behavior clearly communicates that their is something wrong.

Projective-Anger:

A person using Projective-Aggressive anger style may appear passive but they are not. They are usually pretty angry and are afraid to own and express their anger. Instead, they project their anger onto others and/or may get others to act out their anger for them. They may say to you that you appear angry when you are not.

Assertive-Anger

Lastly people using Assertive anger style state they need a direct, open, and honest way and do not wait for others to read their mind. At the same time, they consider other people’s needs and feelings. They respect themselves and expect others to treat them with respect and dignity. They feel responsible for their own life and choices.

How To Achieve Self-Empowerment

What ever you are thinks about whether it is going back to school, applying for a promotion or just setting new goals in your personal life. You’ll need to empower yourself if your going to stay motivated.

The first steps should be to nurture and embrace the confidence to put yourself forward. Confidence only he,os to understand where your starting line is; it helps you lay out the path you’ll need to reach the finish line. This is where self empowerment comes in.

Self-empowered people take control of their lives by setting goals and taking actionable steps to achieve them. They no only understand how to get things done. But their also confident, focused, and comfortable making decisions that guide them toward their future. If you’re confidence is shaky or your insecure about you ability to achieve your goals in life, you can take several steps to live a more empowered life.

What Is Self-Empowerment?

Self-empowerment means making a conscious decision to take charge of your life and your destiny. It involves making positive choices, taking action to advance and being confident in your ability to make and execute the decisions in your life. When you’re self-empowered you understand your strengths and weaknesses and are motivated to learn and achieve.

For example, if someone is laid off from their job, they can be passive in their job search and wait for the employers to contact them after they’ve put in applications. Instead of taking proactive steps toward finding a new and better job. To do this they can begin to contact former colleagues, researching opportunities, updating their job skills and revamping their resume. Learn everything you can about the goal you want to achieve, the job your applying for. Self-empowerment allows people to recognize that they have the power to make choices that can help them achieve their goals. Don’t sit on the sidelines and think opportunities are going to come to you.

Here are Some Tips To Help You Achieve Self-empowerment:

If you’re striving to attain personal empowerment, focus on your drive, identify what you can control, and keep an objective, goal- oriented mindset. The following tips can help you achieve self-empowerment.

1. Develop A Positive Attitude

People who believe they control their own destiny – rather then giving into external concepts such as fate, luck, or circumstance are more likely to take charge of their future. Cultivate a positive attitude and outlook by evaluating your strengths, pursuing your passions, and trusting in your abilities.

2. Set Reasonable Goals

Measurable, achievable goals are an important component of empowerment, and understanding how to shut them and help you feel good about your achievements. If you want to run a marathon, start smaller, and increase distances rather than trying to run 26.3 miles on one day.

3. Surround Yourself With Positive People

Laughter is contagious and with so much pessimism and negativity in the world today. By surrounding yourself with like-minded, motivated people that can help you feel empowered to reach your goals is a good place to be. If your self-esteem takes a blow, Schedule time with positive friends, peers, and family members. Experiencing their positivity can improve your mental well-being and minimize your negativity and empower you to follow your dreams.

4. Practice Self-Care

Self-care includes any activity that you do by yourself to feel happy and healthy. It can include everything from eating right exercising or treating yourself to a spa treatment. Scheduling time to relax and rejuvenate will make you more productive. Being kind to yourself and help you be confident you wereBeing kind to yourself and help you

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5. Use Positive Self-Talk

To live a self empowered life focus on what you do I supposed to what you can’t. For example if you want to apply for a promotion that requires a second language like Spanish instead of saying “I don’t speak Spanish” try “ I don’t speak Spanish yet. But I can learn.” Practicing self affirmation and displaying confidence in your ability to achieve goal and help you take steps to achieve them.

6. Be Assertive

People who strive for personal empowerment must be comfortable expressing their thoughts, ideas, and needs. If you and why did your party but have an important presentation today, let the host know you’ll be leaving early to prepare. Or if you and a coworker Are collaborating on a project, but you’re doing most of the work, don’t feel guilty about addressing the situation head on and asking them to do their fair share.

8. Create An Action List

Empowered people take action, exhibit a growth mindset, and are comfortable learning and developing their ability. They also understand that success is not home overnight but is an accumulation of decisions and actions. If your goal is to finish college with him for years, it’s the actions you need to take you achieve that goal, such as researching financial aid options, enrolling in an online program, and establishing a study schedule that you can stick to.

People who consciously decide Can you take control of their lives are often happier, more fulfilled and were satisfied with your lives. Taking steps to live a life that you design offers numerous benefits. If your goal includes starting, completing, or advancing anything in your life. Take the steps forward to doing what you can do, whether it’s college, technical programs, or online studies. Begin to live yourself empowered life that will bring happiness and success in your life today.

We Are All Slaves

We’re all slaves, the question is, to whom or to what? Everyone is willing to make sacrifices, the question is, to whom or for what? We all follow rules, the question is, whose or for what? We all give our hearts to something the question is, to whom or to what? We were never hardwired to be free, if by “freedom” we mean as independent, self-sufficient life.

We were created by God to be connected to something vastly bigger than ourselves. We were designed to have our lives organized and directed by an agenda that is bigger than our true personal desires and goals. We were carefully built by God to have every aspect of our personhood connected to Him and His plans for us, and when we reject Him, we don’t live autonomously; we replace Him with something or someone.

So God in grace doesn’t set you free, because He knows you wouldn’t be free. You and I would quickly enslave ourselves once again. Because sin still lives in our hearts, we’re all slaves going somewhere to happen. And the sad reality is that it doesn’t take much to enslave us again to a person or a thing that begins to function as our replacement messiah. So what does grace offer? The answer is the world’s most wonderful, heart-satisfying, life-changing, and hope produced slavery. The one who alone is able to give us life enslaves our hearts to Him. His absolute ruler ship over every area of our lives is not a deadening law but a life-giving grace. He is freeing us from slavery to what is not true and cannot deliver. He is rescuing us from serving what will never give us life. He is protecting us from seeking hope where hope will never be found. It really is true – His call to obey is a tool of His rescuing grace.

He really does know how short-lived our resolve needs to be. He really understands our wondering eyes and our disloyal hearts. So He commands our allegiance so that we will not serve other masters. The Apostle Paul says it well in Romans 6:22, “But not that we have been set free from sin and have become slaves of God, the fruit we get leads to sanctification and it’s end, eternal life.” God’s call to obey doesn’t end our life; it’s meant to protect the life that only He can give us.

With The World In Chaos, Control What You Can

There are times in our lives when we are confronted with the reality that we are not in control of the world around us.

As hard as we try, and as much as we’d like to think we’re in control, the reality is, that we are not. And some seasons and circumstances remind us of that fact,

A natural disaster, a terminal diagnosis, a wayward child, an unexpected layoff… are some examples.

At this current moment in time, almost everyone in the world, simultaneously, is being confronted with the reality of the lost control of Covid-19, a tiny virus, invisible to the naked eye, that sent our reality out of control. (it will take years to recover). It disrupted everything in it’s path, even life as normal.

The control we thought we had was updated.

We of course never had as much control over our lives and the world as we thought we did. (no matter our take on this little virus) it uprooted our way of living.

So, how do we respond when the world is in choas? How did you begin to move forward? No matter how we choose to move forward, we have to begin to take back control of what we can control – even in the smallest of ways.

We’ve all been reminded that we are not in ultimate control of the universe. But that does mean we’ve lost all the ability to maintain control of our lives We need to remember even if our usual day-to-day opportunities are taken away from us by another, there is still much we can control.

We can choose to get up in the morning and get moving for the day ahead.

We can choose what we watch on television and when to shut off the news media when it starts getting to us.

We can always control our attitude and our response to the people and events around us.

We can choose to help others instead of being angry about the way things are. Remember everyone handles situations differently and we need to respect others decisions.

So, while this world is in chaos. Control what you can, and be thankful for what you have. Everything can be taken away in an instant.