Mini Rules That Changed My Life

Have you ever thought about how many choices you make in a single day?

Here are some mini rules I follow every day. And it’s changed my life drastically.

  • Learn From One Teacher At A Time.

There are so many people out there telling us to do this, don’t do, that. Make a rule that you only learn from one teacher at a time. Whether it be someone to desire to be like, a family member or someone at church, some one at work.

It can be very overwhelming if you listen to many voices at once. You’ll end up not going which direction to go.

Regulate yourself, if it’s buying a book, or take a course. Or just picking someone to pick their brain. Go though the entire book, or course and then implement it all.

I chose the pastor at my church. If I need to talk or learn from him, he always is there to here me out, and I know he will tell me the truth.

He has taught me so much not only about God, but everything else.

Once you’re finished learning it all and implementing what you know. Then and only then move on. It saves a ton of money and reduces the feeling of being overwhelmed. I do this in my life and I love it.

  • Set One Goal At A Time

Instead of setting five goals at a time, just try setting one big goal. Going all-in on one goal and focus every ounce of your energy on something.

I thoroughly enjoy helping Veterans and active duty soldiers. I joined a Veteran Organization that was not profit. When I started out I was Legislative Chairman, I knew all the news and government programs that were put in place to help veterans and their families. After a few years of learning everything there was to know about that. I them moved on to being a Chaplin, taking care of the spiritual part for the Veterans, after about a year of the position, which was a task during the past covid we’ve all had to deal with. Just recently I’ve taken on being Secretary.

It leads to crazy good results and is far more motivating. Next time you want something, immense yourself in it. Don’t just dabble in a bunch of areas. Get committed.

  • No e–mails or Phone calls before a certain time/ No e-mails or phone calls after a certain time

This has helped me tremendously. While most of us communicate for work by e-mail or phone calls. This should apply to your days on as well as days off. For some the mornings are the busiest times of the day. Read and send e-mails later in the day so work doesn’t take over your day.

  • Reduce Screen Time (including TV)

Put a rule in your life that you don’t have screens open during certain times of the day. Example: no screens after 8 P.M, including TV, computer, and phone. You can feel pretty bad after to much social media, so limiting screen time is a great way to be present instead of escaping through someone else’s life.

  • Schedule At Least 15 minutes Of Alone Time Every Day

Depending on how much is going on in your life, quiet time every day might seem impossible. But, make sure you give yourself at least this much time alone where you can be by yourself.

Every night I take 45 minutes to myself. I long quiet bath with some soothing music and a glass of wine. It calms me down after a long hard day, and gets me ready for a peaceful nights sleep.

  • Journal For 5 Minutes A Day

Writing is one of the best ways to organize your thought. When anxiousness enters your life, write down what your thinking for a couple of minutes. The more you can write in a journal the more clarity you’ll have. The more clarity you have to solve the issues that overwhelm you.

  • Set A Baseline In Your Life

If it often feels like you don’t have times to do the things you want to do, figure out the bare minimum you can get away with. Set a exercise baseline, exercising can help you get more energy and help you keep on track with less effort.

  • Separate The Fake from the Facts with it comes to your thoughts

We tend to make circumstances mean so much more than they actually are. When something happens you don’t like separate out the facts from what’s making your life go crazy, not the facts themselves. Start watching your mind and how you think. Are You making your life crazier that it is? When you have a clear mind, you’ll begin to have a clear life.

  • Choose Your Relationships Intentionally

Many of us spread ourselves to thin. Instead of spending .230 seconds with 15,000 people, try spending more time with fewer people. Remember your life is only as good as the quality relationships you keep.

  • Ask Yourself These Two Questions

When you’re making tough choices and deciding what to do in a certain situation, ask yourself. What would my future self be like in 5 years? What is the end goal I want from this?

Signs Your Personality Might Be Intimidating To Others

Sometimes The way we behave or the things we say can push people away. It might be some of our traits we’re not proud of and want to change. Or it might be something we see as positive, and the reason it puts certain people off is the way they perceive you.

Here are some signs why people feel intimidated by you:

We’re Brutally Honest

If honesty is one of the defining characteristics of your personality. You like to be honest with people, even if it sometimes means telling the hard truth or being blunt and hurting someone. You feel that it’s the right thing to do, to speak your mind, rather than sugarcoat things or lie.

You Don’t Like Small Talk

You don’t like wasting your time chit-chatting with people about the weather, how their weekend was, or any other subject people usually discuss just to be friendly and polite. Small talk seems pointless to you, and you’d rather get straight to the point and discuss things that are really important or have a meaningful conversation.

As a result, you either skip the pleasantries or you don’t talk at all to the people you know you won’t have an engaging conversation with. And that’s why you might come across as rude or cold.

For a long time I had a hard time knowing why I didn’t have many friends. Then I learned the reason why was I came off as intimidating. My husband tells me it’s my tone and not surprising my children have the same traits.

You Have No Tolerance For Ignorance

While you prefer to keep an open mind and like to learn new things, others aren’t always eager to do the same. So when someone gets judgmental, especially about things they aren’t knowledgeable about, it can get on your nerves. Because of that, you try to avoid those people. Or, worse case scenario, you might lose your temper with them and become emotional.

You Can’t Stand People Who Complain

You don’t make excuses and because of that you don’t accept them either, and you expect others to do the same. You’d rather people pull themselves together and deal with their problems, that waste time feeling sorry for themselves. And if you have to work with those people, you feel like they’re also wasting your time.

I remember at time I was the complainer and make excuses. Now, I have no time to waste anymore time and want to move on.

So you might by blunt and express your opinion to then. Because of that, people might see you as heartless and unempathetic, as if you were a robot who only cares about getting results and is indifferent to the struggles they go through.

Even though you have empathy and are not heartless, you may be thick-skinned. Because what has went on in your past.

There could be certain characteristics of your personality that are actually nothing but positive. There might be people who don’t take the time to get to know you.

You Stick To Your Word

With honesty, comes the ability to keep your word. When you make promises, you keep them. However, not everyone can do that. So when everyone sees that your word is your bond, compares themselves to you, and sees the contrast, they might feel humiliated and powerless.

You’re Open Minded

Trying and learning new things doesn’t make you uncomfortable, unlike certain people. You’re open to hearing both sides of the story, and your decisions and opinions take them into account. Some people just assume your intimidating and won’t try to share their opinions with you.

You get inspired by the unfamiliar, which can cause you to start doing things differently than others. But new and strange things usually put people out of their comfort zone. So when you challenge their way of thinking, they might feel threatened by you.

You’re Strong Willed And Opinionated

If your determined to do something, you will do it no matter what, even if it means not conforming to what other people are expecting of you. You aren’t afraid to go against the grain and stand alone if you’re way of thinking or doing things doesn’t match the norm. And if you can’t achieve the desired result right away, you have the confidence and faith to keep trying, no matter how pointless and strange it seems to others.

What Can You Do About It

Try and consider how people will feel after to tell them something with absolute honesty. If someone can handle the truth, go ahead and tell them. But some people are really hurt by your words, and as a result, it can damage your relationships with that people. Try to convey your thoughts in a truthful, but respectable manner.

For example, if you’re giving someone bad news, you can be straightforward, but also try to show support. Or if you have to criticize someone’s work, focus on their actions, and don’t blame their failures on them as a person. Show that you care about doing the work well, and give advice about what they could improve on.

Because people are so used to small talk to break the Ice, try not to skip it. If it really makes you uncomfortable and you feel like it’s a waste of time, keep it short. It can be still worth it to make time for some friendly chit-chat so that people warm up to you and further conversations will flow smoothly.

In a situation where your and someone else’s views differ, try not to get emotional or offend anyone. Imagine what it would be like to be in their shoes, and choose arguments in support of your opinion that could be relatable to the people you’re in the disagreement with. Sometimes it will not work out. But you have to at least try.

Another thing to keep in mind is that sometimes people just need to let their emotions out, even if it means looking weak by complaining and feeling sorry for themselves. Instead of criticizing them for doing so, try to show support and help them get back on their feet after a rough time. They’ll appreciate you for having their back. So in the situation where you could have alienated someone, you made a friend instead.

Will The Lord Jesus Come Back As A Judge?

At the end of His life on earth, the Lord Jesus Himself told us He would come back. “ In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were or so I would have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you I will take you myself, that where I am you shall also go. (John 14:2-3).

This promise makes us realize the Jesus’s second coming is not something to be afraid of for believers, but something to look forward to. The Bible ends with a prayer that Jesus would come again and that we will be with Him forever.

In His second coming the Lord Jesus will come on the clouds and everyone will see Him. (Luke 21:27, Revelation 1:7) Well this is the time of rejoicing for God’s children, it will be a time of judgment who have not put their faith in Jesus: This will happen when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven and breathing fire with a powerful angels. He Will punish those who do not know God or do not obey the Gospel of our Lord Jesus. They will be punished with everlasting destruction and shut out of the presence of the Lord and from the majesty of his power on the day he comes to be glorified to his holy people and he marveled among all those who have believed. (Thessalonians 1:7-10)

The day of the second coming of the Lord Jesus will also be called the last day. (John 6:39-54), because it is the end of the world. The heavens will disappear with the roar, that elements will be destroyed by fire, and the earth and everything in it will be laid bare. (2 Peter 3:10) but God will make a new heaven and a new earth. All believers in Christ will be raised from the death, and will enjoy this new earth where there will be no more death, no more morning, no more crying, and no more pain. And best of all: Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people and God himself will be with them and be their God. ( Revelation 21:3)

Repent and Believe

No this is a time before Jesus’s Second coming. We still have time to repent and believe in the Lord Jesus. Then will be we will be among those who will be working just forever on the new earth that He is preparing preparing for us, i’m not a mound those who will be punished with everlasting destruction.

Ways To Stop Overthinking

While everyone overthinks situations once and a while, some people are plagued with a constant barrage of thoughts all the time. Chronic over thinkers rehash conversations you suck over thinkers rehash conversations They had yesterday, second-guess every decision they make and imagine Disastrous outcomes all day every day.

Thinking too much about something often involves more than words over thinkers conjure up disastrous images too. Their mind resembles a movie where they imagine their car going up the road or we play distressing events over and over again.

Drinking too much present you from getting anything done. And, it wrecked havoc on your mood.

Destructive Thought Patterns

Overthinking often involves two destructive thought patterns-ruminating and incessant worrying.

Ruminating involve dwelling on the past. That may include things like:

I shouldn’t have said those things at the meeting yesterday everyone must think I’m an idiot.

I should’ve stayed on my last job I will be happier than I am now.

My parents didn’t teach me how to be confident my insecurities have always held me back.

Persistent worrying involves negative often catastrophic predictions about the future. that’s that may include things like:

I’m going to embarrass myself tomorrow when I give that presentation. I know I’m going to forget everything I’m supposed to say.

Everyone else will get promoted before me.

I know we won’t ever be about ready to retire will be too sick to work and will run out of money.

Like, all habits changing your destructive thought patterns can be a challenge. But, with consistent practice you can train your brain to think differently. Here are some ways to stop overthinking everything.

Notice when you’re stuck in your head.

Overthinking can become such a habit that you don’t even recognize when you’re doing it. Start paying attention to the way you think so that you can become aware of the problem.

When you’re replaying events in your mind over and over or worrying about things you can’t control, acknowledge that this isn’t productive. Thinking is helpful when it leads to positive action.

Keep the focus on problem-solving

Welding on your problems isn’t helpful but looking for solutions is. If it’s Some thing you have control over, consider how you can prevent the problem, or challenge yourself to identify the potential solutions.

If it’s something you have no control over like a natural disaster think about the strategies you can use to cope with it. Focus on the things you can control, like your attitude and effort.

Challenge your thoughts

It’s easy to get carried away with negative thoughts. So, before you conclude that calling in sick is going to get you fired, Where that forgetting one deadline will cause you to become homeless, acknowledge that your thoughts may be exaggeratedly negative.

Remember that your emotions will interfere with your ability to look at situations objectively. Take a step back and look at the evidence. What evidence do you have that your thought is true? What evidence do you have that you were at that isn’t true?

Schedule time for reflection

Doing on your problems for long periods of time isn’t productive, but brief reflection can be helpful. Making about how you could do things differently or recognizing potential pitfalls your plan could help you perform better in the future.

Incorporate 20 minutes I was thinking time into your daily schedule. During that time let your self worry, rumination, or more over whatever you want.

When your time is up, move on to something else. And, when you start overthinking things outside of your schedule time simply remind yourself that you will need to wait until you were thinking time, To address those issues in your mind.

Learn mindfulness skills

It is impossible to rehash yesterday or worry about tomorrow when you are living in the present. Mindfulness will help you become more aware of the here and now.

Just like any other skill, mindfulness takes practice, but overtime, it can decrease overthinking. There are classes, books, and apps, courses, And videos availableTo help you learn mindfulness skills.

Change the channel

Tell yourself to stop thinking about it something will backfire. The more you try to prevent a butt from entering your brain the more likely it is to keep popping up.

Can you channel in your brain I changing your activity. Exercise, engage in conversation on a completely different subject, or work on a project that distracts you. Doing something different will put an end She’s a barrage of negative thoughts.

Train your brain

Paying attention to the way you think can help you become more aware of your bad mental habits. With practice, you can train your brain to think differently. Overtime, Building healthier habits Will help you build the mental muscle you need to become mentally stronger.

Five Types Of People Who Can Ruin Your Life

Some people aren’t satisfied until they sabotage someone else’s happiness. Be careful who you trust not everyone who smiles at you if your friend.

In your everyday life, you get to deal with many people, and you just can’t trust the person you just met. Be careful in associating with people for your peace and well-being as bad company ruins good morals. A personality disorder is a class of mental disorders, behavioral traits, cognition, and dealing with different people and situations that differ from the cultural norms.

I will be the first person to tell you people can change their minds, and their behaviors for the better. But you still don’t want everyone to know your innermost secrets.

Personality disorders intensify as long as you surround yourself with toxic and venomous interactions. And dealing with a person with a personality disorder with effect your mental health, self-esteem, reputation, confidence, and peace.

I am in the habit of watching people before I speak to them. It may seem weird but you can tell a lot about a person from watching their actions.

Don’t destroy yourself by allowing negative people that add gibberish and debris to your character, reputation, and aspirations”

Micheal Bassey Johnson

90% of the people are what they say they are, but the other 10% are the ones with High Conflict Personalities that can ruin your life. You must know some basic parameters by which you can judge people’s personalities to avoid that 10% for the sake of your self-esteem and confidence.

It’s sometimes hard to escape being around one now and again. Listen to your instincts. I have the opportunity of dealing with one of these people. She is nice to your face but she will stab you in the back every chance she gets. I have to watch my mouth and her every move when I am around her.

Here are five types of people who can ruin your life.

Narcissists

Narcissists are self-obsessed people demanding constant attention and admiration. They harbor a sense of superiority and feel empathy for others.

A person with narcissistic behavior always keeps talking while you on the other side, keep giving and giving. A narcissist does not adopt an attitude of gratitude, rather they prefer to say “I deserve.”

Don’t confuse it with self-esteem or self-confidence. Observe that people with self-esteem forge relationships while narcissists need an entourage.

They have a whole set of rules for others, and they believe in their own lies.

They appear charming but can destroy your mental peace by making you feel less of yourself, by insulting and humiliating you in front of others, and it will impact your life’s positively.

They are master manipulators that don’t believe you are smart enough to discover the depth of their disloyalty.

Sociopaths

Sociopaths are also known as antisocial people. They tend to dominate others. If you hang out with some such people you are going to lose your self-esteem and confidence as they humiliate people in public. They always need someone to blame on and put all their energy into deceiving others. They are also called con-artists because their behavioral traits also include pathological lying, stealing and in extreme cases, murder.

Such people figure out weak spots and vulnerabilities and may play words to boost your ego, switch back and forth between charm and treat to achieve their purpose.

They wear a mask of sanity. It’s easier for them to make you crazy than it is for you to expose them, for who they are.

Sociopaths are charming and tend to dominate. They are remorseless with no conscience. They slip masks at times, and you will catch them in lies. If such a sociopath came across you, then you might need an exit plan.

Histrionics

People with histrionic high personality conflict and prone to drama and are attention seekers. They need drama or some tragedy in their daily lives. If they can’t find any drama, they sometimes create it or show a pattern of excessive emotions.

They create problems for themselves and except empathetic behavior from others. You should recognize such people and avoid them for your own sake.

This is the person I cannot get away from, because we have a work situation together. I just avoid having to work in the same area with her.

Borderline

It lies betwe neurotic and psychotic disorders with common issues of love, fear of abandonment, engulfment and emotional dysregulation.

A relationship with a person with borderline personality disorder possesses some challenges like you will need to deal with their wild mood swings, angry outbursts, and hopelessness. The mental health of the people around you affects your mental health.

The person with BPD may display intense anger, repeated suicide attempts, and physical violation. Such people are good with their words and intense in their emotions. Such intensity seems positive at the beginning.

Keep in mind that extreme charm, attention, and love are signs of potential trouble.

Paranoids

People with paranoid personality disorder mostly show distrust and suspicion. They feel insecure and may try to behave aggressively or will preemptively attack whom they fear.

The remainder old grudges and past offenses. They doubt commitment, loyalty, and constantly feel they are being betrayed by their loved ones. They feel like people are trying to harm and threaten them. Even a normal person sometimes gets paranoid, thinking that no one values them or having difficulty relaxing.

Paranoid personalities worry that their partner is unfaithful without their learner having done anything to make them suspicious.

What Is It Like To Be An Old Soul?

An old soul is difficult to find anymore.

There’s no hard and fast definition of an old soul, but here are some most common traits.

Material Possessions Don’t Matter Much.

While they probably have a few cherished belongings, they don’t associate contentment with possessions or money.

Instead of seeking wealth, they only hope for enough money to meet their needs, with a little extra for savings or emergencies.

Rather than regularly replacing technology or decorating the house on a whim, their more likely to use things as long as they last.

Keeping up with current fashions may not interest them, they usually focus more on what money can’t purchase: intangible things like knowledge, compassion, or peace.

They Focus On Meaningful Connections.

Old souls and other sensitive people often have small social circles. Their friend groups might include people of all ages, with different backgrounds and life experience.

Strong intuition is another hallmark of old souls, so they might have a knack for recognizing when someone will make a good friend.

In childhood, they probably found it hard to relate to others their age and felt most drawn to people older than them. They may have wanted more substance from their interactions, but their peers might have considered the socially awkward. They may have even faced some bullying, or teasing.

Maybe they had a difficult family situation, maybe there was not much time to play, especially if they had to take on the more adult role in their family.

They Needed A Lot Of Time Alone.

People with old souls tend to feel more attuned to the emotions of others and the surrounding world. Higher Sensitivity often meant they would need more time to recharge from a regular barrage of feeling.

Old souls find it more comfortable to observe rather than interact. When school or work requires them to have group participation, they are often seen at the outskirts trying to be unnoticed by the noise of others, both to audible noise and the emotional noise.

Many old souls are big readers. Stories of other places and times might appeal to them the most, to where they can almost picture themselves as a part them.

Others might seem distant, distracted, or slightly out of touch with reality.

They Have A Higher Empathy Level Than Most.

Deeply empathic people, or empath, are often seen as old souls.

Their ability to consider the experiences of others and feel what they feel can grant them a sense of maturity and gravity. At the same time, this awareness of the pain people experience can put weight on their shoulders that might prove difficult to shift.

Heightened sensitivity can also make the conflict more challenging, leaving them more inclined to keep to themselves and spend time in nature and other peaceful, quiet places.

This often further emphasizes their displacement of time.

They often Spend A Lot Of Time Thinking About How To Make A Difference.

Old souls often focus on big-picture thinking rather than small details. They know they can’t change the world single-handedly, so they focus on making improvements where they can.

Their desire to do good can make the more impermanent interests of life seem less important.

In short, they drift along largely unaffected by the ebb and flow of day-to-day life.

They feel deeply connected to those they consider important and might find themselves wanting to support them through challenging.

Their intuition might guide them to offer wisdom or helpful problem-solving tips, so the people in their lives might continue seeming their advice.

People who have old souls tend to pick up on deeper nuances of human behavior. They may be more likely to believe in the underlying worth of others, regardless of their choices, and recognize their capability for change.

Is It A Good Or Bad Thing?

Often people who have old souls simply means they perceive things in different ways. There’s nothing wrong with that.

In fact, most people would argue that a unique perspective on life can benefit them or others in their lives. Perhaps even the wider world, depending on what you do with their insight.

People have different levels of sensitivity, both to their environments and to other people. High sensitivity is simply one end of the spectrum. It’s not all that uncommon: Around 20% of people can be considered highly sensitive.

Certain old souls traits might present some challenges.

Like other aspects of personality, these traits aren’t necessarily good or bad. They’re simply part of who we are. In the end. It comes down to what you make of them.

Why I Don’t Watch The News Anymore

3 Benefits you will get from never watching the news again.

Back in time, I used to watch or listen to the news every day I could. Just to keep up with the trends and stay informed. It felt good on one side to be aware of what happens in the world, but on the other side, it made me feel stressed and sad.

I made the difficult decision to quit watching the news for a while, then go back and see if I missed anything. Guess what? I didn’t miss anything. It was all in my head. It was anxiety and lies.

The world is exactly the same. It didn’t end or stayed just because I didn’t watch the news for a while. But I have to say that it feels amazing not to worry about things that are out of control. From the moment I realized I was wasting my time and my health that’s when I stopped watching the news and it has brought me so many benefits.

Personally I can say if I read the Holy Bible it tells me everything I need to know about what’s going on in the world today without all the propaganda.

Here are 3 of the benefits you get from not watching the news.

Peace Of Mind

This is the most important benefit I received from never watching the news again. With so many people these days struggling with mental health, it imperative to achieve this state of mind. Without it, you simply can not cope with what life throws at you over and over again.

The reason why I decided to put my mental health first is because I watched other’s destroy theirs, and I don’t want to return to the poor mental I’ve had in the past, and I can see it destroying the lives of so many others. Part of the reason why people struggle with frustration, anxiety, and sadness was because of the never ending atrocities that are being preached on the news.

I have a family member who only watches a certain news channel every day and I have seen her go from a bubbly sweet person she was to a mean arrogant sarcastic person she is now, she lives doom and gloom every hour of every day.

One I stopped feed the media with my attention and time and that’s when I knew everything would be okay. I felt calmer, happier, and more resilient. I will never put my mental health in harms way by watching the news.

“Set peace of mind as your highest goal, and organize your life around it.” – Brain Tracy

Living In The Present

Since I stopped watching the news my mind is focused solely on the present moment. I don’t find myself anymore trying to think about the future. When I was watching the news before. I was a reactive person. I reacted to everything that happened around me but not anymore.

Now I am proactive, and since I started implementing this approach, I’ve seen some good results. And even if I mess up sometimes, it’s better than being at the mercy of life.

I simply decided to change the narrative. Since I only have the present and nothing else, I embraced it, and I made the best with what I have.

“I believe in living in the present and making each day count. I don’t pay much attention to the past or the future.”- Mathew McConaughey

Self–Awareness

Another benefit I received from never watching the news again, was that I’ve gained more self-awareness. I don’t say I didn’t have anymore, but now I can think 100% for myself without questioning that.

We become so caught up in all this TV mirage that we forget to trust our gut and think for ourselves – without having someone’s opinion of us change our perspective on things.

I don’t ever need to hear from a man or a woman did or didn’t do that. Or a woman incite with a man with way she was dressed and simply got what she deserved. I’m tired of hearing this kind of atrocity.

I am better off without news like that. What I’m saying is that before you start trusting what’s being preached on TV, first try thinking for yourself. Only then you’ll know of what you heard makes sense to you or not. Let’s stop trusting others and start following our gut instead. It never let’s us down.

“Being self-aware is not the absence of mistakes, but the ability to learn and correct them”- Daniel Chidiac

Never watching the news again allowed me to have peace of mind, and I appreciate more of the present. It made me think, outside the box, and finally it made me trust and follow my gut instead. My life has gotten a lot quieter from all the noise that was happening in my mind, and now I can think clearer.

Maybe a little break from the news would make a world of difference for anyone that struggling with what I struggled with.