Jesus Yes The Church No?

Many claim to love Jesus but hate His church. Is this Biblical or logical?

We are living in the age that has seem the rise of licenses and the decline of responsibility.

Today many people seem to be looking desperately for some type of Utopia in which there is happiness without any responsibility.

Many children expect their parents to support them or their children and rebel at the idea of putting forth any effort to honor their parents or improve and maintain a home of their own.

Some younger people even expect allowances and cars, the latest fad clothing and yet, they refuse to Submit to their parents in love.

Young men and women want the satisfaction of a meaningful relationship with each other but refuse to marry. Many are co-habituating instead.

Many of those who do marry want security of marriage but decide that the rest of making it work is too much the answer I’d divorce instead of working together to secure their marriage.

Many who marry decide they want children and then decide they don’t want to be tied down with responsibility. Then comes abortion.

In the spiritual realm, this Atticus has fostered contradictory activity.

Sales of religious publications, books and music are skyrocketing but at the same time church attendance is non-existed.

This attitude has fostered contradictory talk. Like.

  • I’m not into organized religion
  • My home is my church.

Many say they go to a church or have a pastor but never go and never even speak to their pastor.

Jesus Yes, Church No

Obviously they don’t understand the church.

Jesus is a relationship not a religion. If you don’t get into the Bible. You will never have a relationship with Jesus.

If we love Jesus, we will obey His commandments.

(1John 2;3-6) says “Now by this we know that know Him,” if we keep His command. He who says, “I know Him,” and doesn’t keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in Him. But whoever keeps his word, says he abides in Him ought to walk just as Jesus did.

(1 John 5;2-3) “By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love Gos and keep His commandments.” This love of God, is that we keep His commandments are not burdensome.

(1 John 8:28-32) Then Jesus said to the, “When you lift up the Son of Man, them you will know that I am He, and that I do nothing of Myself; but as my Father taught me.I speak these things.” “He who sent Me is with Me. The Father has not left Me alone, for I always do those things to please Him.” As He spoke these words many believed Him. Then a Jesus said those who believe Him, “if you abide in My Word, you are my disciples indeed and you know the truth and the truth will set you free.”

This means it is a sin to say a Jesus, Yes. The church no.

You Don’t Have To Feel Ashamed

Today’s Symptoms were yesterday’s coping strategies.

There is a lot of deep and painful shame about what they see as hidden ugliness.

Do you feel there are things you just keep to yourself, things that aren’t for the public eye- things you’re deeply ashamed of? For example, I knew a lady who didn’t trust her husband, she knew she should, but she just couldn’t trust. It was a ugly, shameful part of herself. Or a woman who had such a exaggerated view or her body flaws that she starves herself and feel self-loathing because of it.

We must know it’s profoundly important to realize that everything we do, no matter how dysfunctional it is was meant to be self-persevering at some point on our life.

Sometimes it our past, like me, whether it consciously or unconsciously, we need to find away to feel better, we need to find a coping strategy to help us postpone the emotional or even physical pain.

Here are some strategies that might help us.

#1 we need to recognize the trauma whether it is small or large. We need to become compelled to create a coping strategy.

#2 We need to learn to feel compassion instead of blaming yourself. The person you are now and the person you were then. Only by understanding and forgiving yourself for deploying this coping strategy can you replace shame and self-loathing with empathy and self-acceptance.

The piece of your personality we see as ugly once served us. It’s not easy and it won’t happen overnight, buy by working to forgive yourself, you will be closer to leaving these ugly things behind.

Why Pay It Forward

There are numerous benefits attached to paying random asks of kindness forward and helping someone else in need.

Specifically:

Doing good for others can have a powerful, positive effect on the immune system.

By contributing towards the greater good self-worth and the self-esteem improves. it can prevent people from feeling isolated encouraging them to meet new people and step outside of their comfort zones.

Chronic negativity can be dismantled in the mind as positive energy flows from giving to others.

Studies have revealed that kindness helps relieve stress, which is a huge problem in our world today.

Helping contributes to maintenances first good health, and it can diminish the effect of diseases and disorders both serious and minor, psychological and physical.

Here are some examples: pay for the persons groceries behind you, it doesn’t have to be a full basket, even if you pay $5 or $10 dollars toward the price. When I was my car, I usually pay for the person’s car wash behind me. It’s only a few dollars but it blesses their day. In a small way. Pay for someone’s gas when you pay for yours. Buy a couples lunch for them at a restaurant. Help a homeless person, I’m not saying to help everyone. But I usually ask God if he wants me to help a person out. The Answer will be in your soul.

Wouldn’t the world be a better place, if we all did a little to lift people up, instead of always tearing them down.

Habits Of People Who Felt Neglected Growing Up

I was reading a book the other day, and I had one of those “Ah-Ha” moments. I wish I have known this a long time ago.

If you felt neglected growing up. It isn’t uncommon for those feelings to persist, even years later. The effects of feeling neglected as a child can manifest as new habits when you’re an adult.

You may expect low self-esteem, difficulty trusting others or even fear of being neglected again. Although these habits may be difficult to explain, they’re are sign of the powerful, impact feeling neglected can have.

If you experienced neglect growing up, you are still deserving of love, and support. You are worthy of being seen.

Here are some habits that may continue in adulthood from being neglected as a child:

Never Feeling Good Enough. You can Feeling almost disposable. Always having to have a wall up because you know that the people around you are going to leave anyway. The problem I’ve found with putting walls up, is it’s very difficult to tear them down.

Not Trusting People In Fear Of Thinking They Will Just Leave. When you give your everything to everyone in your family. Constantly doing things for them or buying them things because they don’t want them to feel neglected like you did. You want then to feel that someone is there for them always. It’s very easy to exhaust yourself doing this.

Going Our Of You Way To Do Everything For People You Love. They drop everything their doing to help anyone, even if it affects they’re mental or physically.

Having Zero Trust In People. They don’t ask for anything unless it is really necessary. They may feel guilt for letting people care for them. They never want to be a burden. They may have massive abandonment issues.

It’s Hard To Ask For Help. They feel their needs aren’t important enough to bother others with. It’s like it hard-wired in their brains, that their not important.

Believing That Their An Inconvenience To Everyone Around Them. They feel like they bother everyone whenever they need help. They may feel inadequate. They may feel like their not good enough.

They Isolate Themselves. They may feel this way they don’t have to try and impress anyone. It may be the only time they can truly relax.

Complete Fear Of Commitment. They keep pushing people way.

They Lack Self-Confidence. They may always second-guess their actions, ideas, and words.

They Are Overachievers. They always try for perfection in hopes that others finally notice them and their hard work. If their really lucky someone will praise them for it, because they never got it growing up.

They Constantly Need Reassurance. Because they never feel good enough. Reassuring them might make them feel good, because they never had that growing up.

Many Think “Expect the worse, but be prepared for the best.” They are so used to disappointment, they don’t know what to do when things go well.

They automatically expect rejection. They are used to assuming they are unlovable and unwanted.

They’ve developed habits of not talking to much. I was always reprimanded or hit for talking as a child. I tend to be quiet around people. They think I’m super shy. But it reality I was afraid to speak. I tend to write more than I talk.

All of the above habits, I have experienced over my life time.

Don’t judge anyone’s choices if you don’t understand their reasons for acting certain ways.

Walk Away From People That Take Your Peace

If someone makes you miserable more than they make to happy, regardless, you need to let them go. There comes a point when we need to walk away from the chaos, the pain and people who steal your peace.

Some people are toxic to the point they are creeping through the cracks of our resolve. They refuse to respect our boundaries. So why stay around them and let them torture you.

Your life is worth more, and you were not born to be depressed or angered by someone who pushes you around. They just want to bring you down. They tell us we are not worthy and awful. I personally need someone around me that lifts me up not tear me down.

Get them out of your life, delete, ban, or block them. Compassion have some for yourself! You are the only person that can control your own happiness. Do it for yourself and don’t feel guilty because you walked away.

I’m not saying that all people are toxic, cruel or uncaring. Many of these people have good intentions, it just that those intentions are not for us.

I am struggling with my mother-in-law, she absolutely takes away my peace. She isn’t a bad person, she is very loving in her own way. But, I just have different views. My husband and I have been married 31 years in April. I am tired of having to pretend I’m someone I’m not. Enough is enough. I respect her because she is my husband’s mother but that’s all. I’m sure you all have had someone like that in your life. I am learning to deal with my mother-in-law in a different way.

As hard as it is we have to let them go for our own sanity. As much as you care for them you can’t destroy yourself for the sake as someone else.

I was reading an article a few days ago, and I was surprised by what I was reading. That article read “There are 6 toxic people who may be sabotaging your happiness.”

  • The person who doesn’t like you
  • The person you’ve had a falling out with
  • The person who is constantly stressed
  • The person who always argues with you
  • The person who uses you
  • The person who is a bad influence on you

Those are the people that we need to cut out of our lives.

In order to deal with people who focuses on your flaws, you need to focus on your positives. Keep your goals in mind and be around people who make you happy this will keep the toxic out.

I little venting is okay, but if your constantly hashing out stressful topics when your with this person, your health may be taking a hit. Stress is contagious. When your with someone who is constantly strung-out, it can trigger your body’s own bodies

While I don’t know what situation you may be in, but if your letting a friend go and breaking up with someone removing yourself from the situation that feels stressful or painful, you have every right to start making your life a bright and happier place.

We have so much to live for, life is such a beautiful thing. We are always going to come across people who don’t want to support our self-improvement. That’s always going to be a part of life.

Toxic people burn the bridges yet, they always wonder why we don’t go back to visit. My advice is don’t go back. It’s not going to be easy but it will sure be worth it.

We are allowed to terminate toxic relationships. We are allowed to walk away from people who hurt us. We are allowed to be angry and selfish. We don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of ourselves.

Start wanting your own happiness. It’s okay to care for yourself. We are not obligated to just sit there and smile and swallow are the garbage everyone heaps on us.

Our mind is such an important and powerful thing. When we fill it with positive people, our life will start to change. You can’t keep dancing with the devil and keep wonder why your still in hell. Be the change you want to see and you will find happiness you forgot you had.

Don’t Mistake Kindness For Weakness

My Father was the kindest person I’ve ever known.

I find myself modeling after his ability to love every single person he ever came in contact with. He was and is still my inspiration even though he has passed on. I ask myself “what would Dad do?”

Unwavering Love. I feel like it’s a very rare quality these days.

I live in a small rural area but it’s still easy to find people that are not kind. They are constantly fending for themselves, it’s me, me, me, all the time. People will shut doors in your face and not think anything about it. At the grocery store it hurry and get what you want never mind the other person. I’m sure there are people everywhere that act like this.

People have no regard for others everywhere you go. People can easily be rude to even the elderly or disabled.

I always try to think how my Father would act in these situations where people are being so terrible.

Being kind can often be misinterpreted and people can take advantage of that.

Growing up my Father kindness was taken advantage of, because people deemed it as weakness. But I knew one thing- to never make my Father angry. Once my Father knew someone couldn’t be trusted or tried to take advantage of him. That was the end. People respected him for that. As long as you was kind to my Father, everything as good.

I was thinking one day if people weren’t going to be kind to me then why do they deserve my kindness.

I thought where’s the logic in that. But there is logic in that. Realizing life is not a race.

Who are we to judge who is in last place or not?

I don’t care about how much money you make, or how big your house is, or what kind of car you drive. I don’t care about your job title or how many awards you’ve won.

I care about the way you treat me and other. I care about the way you treat those who are less fortunate than you are. I care about how to act when you think no one is looking.

I few weekends ago there was a older man with I think it was his grandson coming out of a store. The boy was probably 5 or 6 years old, he was trying his hardest to open the door for his grandfather but the door being to heavy for him. A lady walked right on by nearly knocking the old man down. I thought to myself WoW, I can’t believe she just did that. Then I man after her held the door so the older man and his grandson could get out. I instantly knew what kind of people they were just by what had happened.

Do you shove a stranger just because you need to get into a store? Do you treat someone unkindly just because they treated you unkindly?

At the end of the day, what matters most is how you treated the people around you and the amount of love you’ve shown to others.

“And, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make”

The Beatles