Only Two Paths In Life

There are only two paths in life. The one you take, and the one you don’t take.

If you take a path, you probably get closer to your destination.

If you don’t, you’re still stuck in the same place. Movement and status quo both work. Depending on your life vision.

What doesn’t work- is being in between, sitting on the fence.

Most of life is spent on the crossroads, the path of indecision-thin ability to choose a path and follow it.

Many think the path will choose them. But, in fact you choose the path… Consciously.

Sometimes, many paths in one lifetime. Some paths may show you hill top views and others tsunami-hit villages. Some dark forests with untamed animals. Some bridges with sunsets on the horizon.

But only when you walk the path, will you know the path. And only when you know the path, will you know where it takes you.

Don’t hesitate to choose a path, don’t think too much, just walk. As you walk, you will know that you are guided.

Guided to your destination, guided homework. For every homecoming, and every homecoming is a celebration. A celebration of who you are.

A Celebration of all you could be!

Benefits Of Mindfulness

Being A More Mindful Person

Today was one of those days for me. My entire day was wasted trying to get a tire put on my car. By late this afternoon I had managed to lose my temper, something I rarely do. Why it took them almost 5 hours to put on 1 tire is beyond me. It just put more stress on me, than I needed.

The doctor told me the last time I needed to practice mindfulness again, I had stopped doing this because I thought I had a handle on things.

Practicing mindfulness may be able to help in your journey towards becoming a healthier you. But what it does mean is being more mindful.

Being mindful means to be aware of your thoughts, emotions, and how you’re feeling both physically and mentally. Mindful is a form of meditation with an important aspect to it-acceptance. It means being aware of your thoughts and feelings without judgement. Remember there is no right or wrong way to think or feel in any moment.

Well I completely bombed that one today. My lack of thoughts and feelings with Judgement came through shining in this situation. All I accomplished was to stress myself out, by I’m sure making a scene.

Being more mindful and aware of your thoughts and feelings,you may be able to teach yourself to live in the moment and enjoy life as it happens.

Why mindfulness is good for you.

It may be able to boost the immune system. Research has shown that after eight weeks of practicing , mindful meditation helped the immune system’s ability to fight off illness such as the flu.

It may help reduce stress. Mindfulness may increase positive emotions while reducing negative emotions and stress.

It may help you focus, tune out distractions, and improve your memory and attention skills.

Take a moment right now to think about your own thoughts and feelings and consider starting your mindfulness practice today.

I know I am starting my mindfulness practice again. And make it part of my daily routine.

How To Make Yourself Mentally Strong

In life, there are times when you need to be mentally sharp to make good fast decisions fast.

That means managing your emotions, adjusting your thinking, and choosing to take positive action whatever situation comes your way.

Mental strength doesn’t just happen. It have to be developed.

In my childhood I didn’t have a chance to work on becoming mentally strong, though every situation, I ran away I fled from my life. I received the message, if no-one cared for me, I didn’t cared what happened to me.

As an adult, this view carried on. I wasted almost 45 years away angry, sad, full of hate.

I was hateful toward every one except my children. Then one day I looked in the mirror. I seen a 400 pound thing, I say thing because I felt like a big blob full ofanger, hate, and sadness. The doctors chose to give me pills and more pills to try and fix me, but it only made me a horrible blob. Finally my life had hit rock bottom.

I decided I didn’t want to live like I was anymore. Once I decided this. I began a very strict diet, I lost 200 pounds. My children actually got me to go to church. Things began to change.

Here are some ways I have learned to become mentally strong:

#1. You have to focus on the moment, wherever you are. The challenges that comes along from time to time are a test of how mentally strong you are, and your willingness to stretch and change. The worst thing you can do is to run and ignore or procrastinate in developing solutions. Challenges are here and will always be, and the difficulty is now. Focus your energy on the present moment; don’t lose what is right before you. When you focus on the moment you come to realize where you have the most power to make things right.

#2. Embrace Adversity. Mental strength gives us the ability to see the obstacles in our path as stepping stones. When we become face to face with a struggle, we can be inspired by the knowledge that it’s not the end but a path to deeper knowledge and understanding.

#3. Exercise Your Mind. Just like muscles, your mind needs to be exercised to gain strength. Growth and development take consistent work, if you have not pushed yourself recently, you might not be growing as much as you can. Mental strength is built through lots of small wins, maintained through the choices we make every day. To gain stamina, take on a daily task that strength and mental endurance.

#4. Challenge Yourself. Albert Einstein once said “One should not pursue goals that are easily achieved. One must develop an instinct for what one can just barely achieve through one’s greatest efforts.” Understanding yourself and playing it safe holds you back from success. When you believe in yourself and your abilities in yourself and your abilities, you often can go beyond the imaginable.

#4. Respond Positively. You can not control everything that comes your way. But you are in absolute control of how to react to everything that comes your way. What happens to you is important-but not as important as your response. Incredible progress can happen in your life,and leadership when you take control of your reactions.

#5. Be Mindful. Mindfulness means taking control of your focus and being intentional about what you give your attention to.

#6. Don’t Be Defeated By Fear. To be resilient and mentally strong means knowing Horton deal with fear. When you enter frightening situations with the awareness that it’s an opportunity for you to grow trust outweighs fear.

They say that love overcomes fear. Silence is a source of great strength. Being silent with others are upset gives you peace.

Imagine

I’m going to share with you something that happened to me. I usually don’t share things like this. Because someone might thing I’m crazy. But, this was so intense for me. I had to share.

Last Night I was at a Prayer Worship Summit. At a church I never go to. There was musicians there, I’d never heard.

As the band began to play and the singer began to sing. The room went dark. We were singing Praise the Lord Over and over. I began to see the entire room go from dark to completely white and a bright light brighter than the sun.

Their was a massive amount of people bowing to this intensely bright figure. He has white and light. That’s all I seen.

Then I heard a voice, but it was as if nothing was said I heard it in my soul. God said: I’m rolling up my sleeves for you. I’m sending my strength to you to stop the darkness in the world.

A great peace came over me. I couldn’t remember walking up front. But I remember repeating what had just happened.

When I returned home, I was praying and asking God what am I supposed to do to with the information I had witnessed.

He have me two scriptures:

The people who are living in spiritual darkness have seen a great light, and those who were living in the land and shadow of spiritual and moral death upon a light has dawned. (Matthew 4:16).

God has rolled up his sleeves, all the nation’s can see His Holy Muscled Arm. Every one from one end to the other, will see Him at work doing His salvation. (Isaiah: 52:10-12).

Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone.

Why moving beyond the safe and familiar is essential for growth.

Each of us had our own “comfort zone’ which, more than an actual place, it is a psychological/emotional/behavioral construct that defines the routine of our daily life. Being in ones comfort zone implies familiarity, safety, and security. It describes the pattered world of our existence, keeps us relatively comfortable and calm, and helps us stay emotionally even, free from anxiety and worry to a great degree. Creating a comfort zone is a healthy adaptation for much of our lives. But so is stepping out of our comfort zone when it’s time to transition, grow, and transform.

Experiencing a little stress and anxiety now and then is a good thing, too. If all you ever do is stay wrapped in your little cocoon, keeping warm and cozy, you may be missing out on a lot of new experiences, challenges, and risks. Looking at the bigger picture, if you can’t step out of your comfort zone you may experience difficulty making changes or transitioning, growing and ultimately, transforming ; in other words all those things that define who you are and give your life meaning.

Very simply, what we fear most about challenging ourselves is that we may fail and/or get hurt. But most of us have the ability to arise to the occasion, overcome hurdles and obstacles, and actually succeed in accomplishing something new and challenging.

I always try to step out of the my comfort zone. Everyday at work I meet different people from different places in their lives. Even if I don’t agree with Someone I am able to learn from them. I sometimes go to different churches for events the are holding. I get exciting about meeting new people and learn how they think. And different aspects.

Your real life is waiting for you. Heal life exists beyond the bubble of your own personal thoughts. Your real life is the sum total of all of your experiences, not just the one’s your comfortable with.

Challenging yourself pushes you to dip into and utilize your personals store of untapped knowledge and resources. You have no idea what your made of unless and until you venture outside of your familiar world.

Take risks, regardless of their outcome, are growth experiences. Even if you make mistakes or don’t get it right the first time those become experiences you can tap into the future. There really is no such thing as fail if you get something out of the experience. And just so you know Fail reframed is First Attempt In Learning.

Don’t settle for the mediocre just to avoid stepping out of your comfort zone; it’s too big a price to pay. Your challenges and risk experiences are cumulative. Every time you try something new, and allow yourself to be open to whatever experience arises, you are learning, expanding your repertoire of life skills and self-knowledge. As you do this you also expand the size of your comfort zone.

Leaving your comfort zone ultimately helps you to deal with change-and making change in a much better way. Life transitions are all about change. Each time you transition you move to another level. Inevitably, these life transitions transform you.

All you need to do is take that first step out of your comfort zone. And amazing things will begin to happen.

Dealing With Disappointment

When it comes to disappointment, the way we choose to handle it can determine how our life will turn out. When you feel disappointed, all the means is that something or someone failed to meet our expectations. For most people, this occurs when they try to reach a goal and come up short. Everyone will have to deal with this. It is a part of normal life.

The way we choose to handle this situation will determine our success or failure in life. Let’s look at why we feel disappointment and somethings we can do to overcome this feeling.

Expectations are nothing but rules. These rules will dictate, at least in our mind, what has to happen before a satisfactory result is achieved. Let’s say you wanted to lose 15 pounds in 30 days. You start out by working out and eating right. You do everything the experts tell you to, and when 30 days are up, you step on the scale and find out you’ve only lost 10 pounds. Chances are you will feel disappointed.

The reason is because you set a rule on what has to happen before you feel satisfied. So what do you in this situation or any other situation where you fail to achieve what you set out to achieve? If you do what most people do and give up or complain about how you never get what you want, then you are going to continue to feel miserable.

But, if you decide that you are going to adjust and do better next time, you will be able to adjust and do better next time, you will be able to succeed at handling disappointment in a productive way.

Remember that disgusting is just a feeling that is caused by the rules you set up. This works extremely well.

Let’s say you expected your child to get all A’s but they end up with mostly B’s. The only reason you will feel disappointment is because you created the rule that unless your child ends up with all A’s, you will not be satisfied.

How can we use this fact to helps us deal with disappointments? There are two things that we can do. The first is to realize that when we’re feeling disappointed, it’s because certain rules that you created weren’t met. Whether this rule was placed on you or someone else it doesn’t matter. In order to deal with this feeling, one thing we can do is to change the rules.

Instead of saying “If I don’t lose 15 pounds in 30 days, I’m going to be disappointed,” you can say “ I will do everything I can to reach my goal but if I fall short, I will at least know that I gave it me all.” This is an example, hopefully you get the point. You made the rules that caused yourself to feel disappointed which means you can also change them.

The second thing we can do relates to rules you set on other people. If you want to stop being disappointed all the time when it comes to other people, create rules that make it hard for people to make you feel disappointed. The rules of what has to happen for you to be satisfied weren’t something you were born with. You created them. It’s great to have high expectations for yourself because you have control over your actions but when you place too many rules on other people who you don’t have control over, be prepared to have a lot of disappointments.

Dealing with disappointments just requires you to understand what causes this feeling to come up in the first place. Once you understand it’s a result of you or other people failing to meet your rules of what has to happen for you to feel satisfied. Beginning to change those rules to make it harder for you to feel disappointment.

I have always felt that I have had to try extra hard to do things better than anyone else. I’m sure it’s because of my childhood. Like today at work, the owner was there all day. I felt I had to do more work than what was expected of me. I made own rule, that I could not take a break because it looked like I was being lazy. I rationalized that if he paid me for the whole day. I needed to work the whole day, or I would be disappointed with myself. I created that rule for myself. I can change that rule.