Emotional Scars

The deepest scar is the invisible scar. This is usually considered a psychological and emotional injury experienced by a person. A. Invisible emotional scar is difficult to heal compared to a scar on the body. Because they last as long until the letter part of adulthood. Parental abuse is a form of domestic violence and gives a deep impression to children’s thoughts and personality. Young people criticized or ridiculed by their parents have grown low self-esteem and continue to seek expert assistance.

The abuse leave children’s scars in the rest of their lives. Physical scarring is most painful, but emotional scarring is persistent scarring.

Adults who have been sexually abused as children are more likely to violence, depression, suicide and abuse than children who have not received sexual abuse as children. This theme includes the growth on one or more human beings. Imagine that you must deal with such a horrible environment fear, and you may have to live for years.

I have physical and emotional wounds. Most scars can talk about falling down, or pulling the deep fryer full of boiling grease on top of me showing off an interesting story as a children. I have some scars that represent surgeries. An emotional wound I continue to carry is the remembrance of nerve damage on the side of my face from my mother hitting me, and telling me to shut-up. I have horrible migraines today because of it. I have seen numerous Doctors and so far nothing has helped. I have a appointment to see a neurologist to see what treatments are available. Every time I suffer a migraine I remember those emotional scars, the things my mother said to me I can’t get rid of those emotional scars. Ever time I try to do something and fail all her words keep rushing into my mind.

All abuses are horrible. Each type of abuse leaves a physical and emotional scar.

There’s a quote the says “I suppose I love my scars the have stayed with me long than most people have.”

Yes, we all have scars but the tell our story and simply means you were stronger that whatever tried to hurt you. Wear your scars with pride.

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What Do You Do When You Are Bored To Death

When your attention span growing smaller, impatience is increasing. The more you feel stuck in your situation-listening to co-workers about their weekends, waiting in line at the grocery store or coffee, sitting through a meeting you could care less about the more agitated you feel. You can’t access your social media account on your phone. Or you sit home every hour of every day. The slow passage of time can be painful.

Do you have temporary tedium or chronic dissatisfaction? Temporary tedium is episodic. Hopefully you don’t have to wait for something or tolerate a waste of you time more that a day.

When you have chronic dissatisfaction it comes from feeling bored with your life. Finding joy with your work, the people in your life or your everyday existence.

The effects of negative boredom can lead to harm in your health to your ability to perform at school and work. A lack of external stimulation can lead to drug and alcohol abuse, depression, anxiety based on the desire to checkout of a meaningless or undervalued life. Besides feeling uncomfortable there are reasons to try and limit you’re boredom.

The best cure for boredom is to make sure you have regular challenges and interesting things to do so incidents don’t throw you off too much. We need to have work, and hobbies that are stimulating and fun, you will still need to make sure you maintain an emotional balance. Everything one needs some down and boring time to rest your mind and nervous system. If you are overwhelmed with challenges and interesting things to do, you patience level for time wasters will be slim.

I struggle in this area. My mind never stops going until I go to bed. I never stop. I can actually watch a movie, listen to a podcast and play a game at the same time and still manage to learn something. With my mind going all the time I do not manage to rest and give my nervous system a break. It is very dangerous to do this I know. But I have a difficult time not do it. I tend to just push my way through everything.

An example of this: About 5 years ago, I fell on the ice shoveling snow. I caught myself with my arms. I knew I had hurt my shoulder but thinking it would heal on it’s own. I kept do everything I had to do. About 4 months later it wasn’t healed, so I decided to go to the Doctor,

He did some X-rays and they found nothing wrong. At about six months I went to a different Doctor and they did x-rays again and it showed I had bone spurs caused by arthritis. They told me could have surgery but it would just come back. I said no to the surgery and when on. By this time my shoulder and my upper arm was bothering me. I had decided I better go to Orthodontist. He said I had a torn rotor cuff and bone spurs and that I needed surgery I finally agreed to have surgery. I was told it would be a 30 minute surgery it turned out I had torn my bicep tendon off my shoulder the doctor had to replace it because It was unfixable. I ended up layed up for 6 months.

While this has nothing to do with being bored, it does tell you the more you accept something to worse it becomes. Sometimes without us realizing it.

Have a plan or expectation for how you are going to use your time. The disruptions and delays are bound to be more annoying than if you suspect there will be delays.

Plan ahead for dead zones. Take charge of your time by planning for delays and distractions. Carry something to read or to do with you at all times to deal with lines and waiting rooms. Have you car radio set to an interesting station, or soothing music to cope with traffic jams. If you get stuck in a boring meeting, what an you notice about the people in the room? If you have a piece of paper plan how you will make the next meeting more interesting, or map out your career plan in the future.

Don’t take the delays right distraction personally. You might feel disrespected or that someone has control of your time, which only increases your agitation.

This is a good opportunity to practice curiosity. Does the person who has a hold of your time need some compassion? Is this a good moment to breathe and relax so you have more energy when you regain control of your time? There is often a gem of wisdom in the moment that you can’t see when your impatient, irritated or bored.

Has life become meaningless and hollow? It’s a good time to reflect on the purpose of your life. You boredom may be a sign that you are In a transition. Acknowledge what is changing so you can move on.

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It’s Time To Stop Running

The season you’re in right now is significant. But when it feels like life isn’t going the way you hoped, it’s easy to run from it.

God is working through the season that your in. The time you have is significant but for God to work through it, you can’t run from it.

Be Happy Where You Are

Many of us continually postpone our happiness indefinitely. It’s not that we are consciously set up to do so, but we keep convincing ourselves. Someday I’ll be happy we fell ourselves we’ll be happy when out bills are paid, when we get out of school, or get married, then when our kids get older.

Meanwhile, life keeps moving forward. The truth is there no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be be happy anyway.

Adored D’Souza stated-for a long time it had seemed to me that life was abut to begin-real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. The prospective has helped me see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.

Life Is A Test. It Is Only A Test

There was a poster on a wall somewhere I was visiting the other day. Life is a test it’s only a test. Had this been a real life you would have been instructed where to go and what to do.

When you think of this humorous bit of wisdom, it reminds me not to take my life so seriously.

When you look at life and it’s many challenges as a test or a series of tests, you begin to see each issue you face as an opportunity to grow, a chance to roll with the punches. Whether you’re being bombarded with problems, responsibilities, even insurmountable hurdles, when we look at it as a test, we always have a chance to succeed, in the sense of rising above what is challenging us. If, on the other hand, you see each new issue you face with seriousness that must be won in order to survive, you’re probably in for a rocky journey. The only time you’re likely to be happy is when everything is working out just right. And we all know how often that happens.

As a experiment, see if you can apply this idea to something you are forced to deal with. Perhaps you have a difficult teenager or a demanding boss. See if you can redefine the same issue you face being a problem to being a test. Rather than struggling with your issue, see if there is something you can learn from it, Why is those issue in my life? What would it and mean? What could be involved to rise above it? Could I possibly look at this issue differently? Can I see it as a test of some time.

If you give this strategy a try you may be surprised at your responses. For example last week could have be disastrous for me. If it would have happened a few years ago I would have been a hysterical mess. I was driving to an appointment at a town I didn’t go often. The traffic was horrid, I got lost the address was very difficult, it took me four times to find the office and that was with my GPS taking me around in circles. By the time I made it to that appointment I was frustrated even before I entered the building. On the way home there was an accident that happened right behind me. I had reach home. I went to take my hearing aids out and one cracked apart in my ear. I had to send off for another one. My husband had some issues at work and he came home ornery. It was one thing after another. But, I refused to let it take control of my happiness. Looking to the small blessings I could see. This was a test I did not give up. Giving up only upsets me more. I kept Thanking God for those blessings. And tried hard to put the negative out of my mind. It’s easy to blame yourself or others when things like this happen, to tell myself “ If only I had gotten better directions” If only I would have went to the audiologist sooner,” If only my husband had cooled off on his way home instead of bringing his anger home.” I chose to be happy, my goal wasn’t to have a perfect week but to get through the week without yelling or blaming anyone. In other words my real challenge was to see my struggle as a test. Seeing these issues as a test helped me to cope with the frustrations I had to endure.

Yes, there will always be struggles in our lives. But as we see everything as a test we become more acceptable to the way things are.

Remember That You Become What You Practice Most

Repeated practice is one of the most basic principles of most spiritual and meditation paths. In other wards, whatever you practice most is what you become. Not only In spiritual or meditation but everything in your life. If you are in the habit of being uptight whenever life isn’t going right, repeatedly reacting to criticism by defending yourself, insisting on being right, allowing your thinking to snowball In respond to adversity, or acting like life is an emergency, then unfortunately your life will be a reflection of this type of practice. You will be frustrated because, in a sense you have practiced being frustrated.

However, you can choose to bring forth in yourself qualities of compassion, patience, kindness, humility, and peace again through practice. I guess it’s safe to say that practice makes perfect. Be careful of what you practice.

It not to say that you make your entire life into a great big project where the goal is to be constantly improving yourself. Only that it’s immensely helpful to become conscious of your own habits, both internal and external. Where is your attention? How do you spend your time? Are you practicing habits that are helpful to your stated goals? Is what you say you want in life consistent with what your life really stand for? Simply asking yourself these questions, and answering them honestly, helps to determine which strategies will be most useful for you. Have you ever said to yourself I’d like to spend more time by myself or I’ve always wanted to learn to meditate, yet somehow you’ve never found the time?

Many people sadly spend more time washing their car or watching reruns on television shows they don’t even enjoy than they do than making time for aspects of life that nurture their hearts. When you will remember that what you practice you become, you may begin choosing different types of practice.

Big John Coal Miner Statue

Big John is a towering coal miner entirely covered in glossy black paint made in 1964 This statue is in Helper Utah.

When Life Seems Unfair

Have you ever felt like life is unfair? I’m sure we all have. It’s easy to get frustrated when people who don’t follow Jesus or care about Him seem to do well in life. A business person who cheats to get a big contract, the people who party all the time who is robust and healthy while you or your love one’s struggle with finances or medical issues. It make us feel cheated, like maybe we’ve been good for nothing by following Jesus in his will and ways.

If you’ve ever felt this way, your in good company.

In Psalm 73 David writes a whole list of how the wicked prosper then, he says, “surely in vain I have kept my heart pure.” But the tide of his thoughts turns when he recalls him time in God’s presence. “Then he understood their final destiny in Psalm 17.

When we spend time with God and see things from His point of view, it changes our perspective completely. We may be jealous of non-believers now, but we won’t be at Judgement time. As the saying goes, what difference does it make if you win the battle but lose the war.

Let’s praise God’s for his presence in this life and His promise of the life to come

Psalm 73: 25-28

He is all you need, even when life seems unfair.

Song By Ryan Stevenson- The Gospel

A restless generation. We’re turning over every stone. Hoping to find salvation. In a Worlds that’s left us cold.

Can we get back to the Gospel? Bactto the arms of our first love, there’s only one way to the Father and He’s calling out to us.

To the captive, it looks life freedom. To the orphan, it feels like home. To the skeptics, it might sound crazy to believe in God who loves. In a world, where hearts are breaking and we’re lost in the mess we’ve made. Like a blinding light, in the dead of night. It’s the Gospel

The Gospel that makes a way. It’s the Gospel that makes a way.

It’s the cure for our condition. It’s the good news for us all. It’s greater that religion. It’s the Power of the Cross.

The amazing news of the Gospel. Is not that we can receive Jesus into our lives. But that He’s already received us into His.

In my own life, it means forgiveness. When I know I deserve to fall. It called me out of darkness and carried me to cross. In a moment, my heart was changed. Like a blinding light, in the dead of night. It’s the Gospel.

This song it so true. I was at the point where, I went to a doctor and he said “I don’t know why you haven’t killed yourself yet? I was in a very dark place. It was what that Doctor said that actually got me thinking. Why haven’t I killed myself yet? I had fought to live my entire life when I wanted to die.

It was God who kept me alive, Did He really have a purpose for my life. I believe he did. I didn’t know then what it was. He is using my story to help others find hope. Yes, It’s that simple.

Garbage In Garbage Out

We need to treat our bodies well so that God can work to His full extent.

You would pour water into your gas tank into a vehicle and expect it to run. That would be ridiculous. But what about your body, it will only take so much punishment. Scientists have been warning us about the use of tobacco and alcohol, nervous tension, obesity. And yet we chose to press our luck.

In Genesis 1: 29 and 2: 16, God gave Adam and Eve every herb and tree that yielded seed. The diet God gave his people in the beginning was fruits, grains, nut and vegetables. After the flood of Noah he could eat every moving thing that eats, but to not eat the blood. Some people argue that God gave Noah permission to eat things like snakes and cockroaches. But in Genesis 7: 2 it shows us the Noah knew the difference between clean and unclean animals.

I think this goes for every area of our lives. For example if you watch horror movies it can change your mood. It can make you angry. I used to love horror movies, but after watching them I became angry and just plain mean to everyone around me. That’s not how I wanted to life my life. Some people say things like that don’t change who you are. I disagree. How about watching pornography? Or hanging out with friend that steal?

1 Corinthians 15: 33 says “Do not be deceived: Bad company ruin good morals.

What words come out of your mouth? Is it Good or Bad? What you are saying out load affects the energy and people around you.

When my son entered the Service one of the first things they taught him was Garbage in Garbage out. He had never heard that before. And didn’t understand what it meant at supper that night he learned. He told me they have great food, even a dessert table, ice cream, pudding, cake and so on. Being a dessert lover my son enjoyed himself. About an hour after supper they were called to do a ten mile run. His Sergeant said to them “garbage in garbage out.” If garbage goes in it has to come out. He never had dessert again after that. For some reason his story has taken a tole on me.

It’s the same with what you put into your mind. When your constantly putting garbage in what do you expect will come out. Garbage right. It’s not like you wonder why is this happening to me. Or I don’t know why this is happening. Take a look at what you’ve been watching, doing, reading eating. You will probably find your answer.

At some point, what we see and hear moves from being in our heads to being in our heart

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God has made it clear that living a blame life life takes determination to follow his ways. In psalm 101:3 we are given the instruction to be careful, watchful and aware. When we see evil, in any for, we are to put it to silence and cut it off.

We must constantly look upon what is good set God’s Word before us everyday. We must look to Him whose walk is blameless. What ever is true, noble, right, pure, what ever is lovely, admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy think about such things.

Erase the evil- embrace the good. We want places of peace and harmony and filled with love. Is that what you invite in?

What we bring into our homes invades our minds and eventually our hearts. And what is in our hearts will come out of our mouths and dictate our actions.

Luke 6: 45 says: The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of the heart his mouth speaks.

We all have a Guilty Pleasures, What’s yours? Mine is having friend time and enjoying a couple of beers on Friday nights. Sometimes it can feel God wants to ruin our fun but when we know God’s character and how He is good and knows what’s best. I would be just as happy having friend time and drink a soda, or water.

Make Peace With Imperfection

I’ve yet to meet an perfections whose life was filled with inner peace. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other. Whenever we are attached to having something a certain way, better than it already is we are almost engaged in a losing battle.

Rather than being content and grateful for what we have, we are focused on what’s wrong with something and our need to fix it. When we are zeroed in on what’s wrong it says we are dissatisfied, discontent.

Whether it’s related to ourselves or a disorganized closet, a scratch on our car, a few pounds we would like to lose-or someone else’s imperfections- the way some else behaves, or lives their life. The very act focusing on imperfection pulls us away from our goals of being kind and gentle.

This has nothing to do with ceasing todo your very best but with being overly attached and focused on what’s wrong with your life. It’s about realizing that there’s always a better way to do something, this doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy and appreciate, the way things already are.

The solution may be to catch yourself when you fall into your habit of insisting that things should be other than they are. Remind your self that life is okay the way it is right now. That in the absence of your judgement, everything would’ve fine.

This was a hard lesson for me to learn. It took me awhile to realize that everything would turn out fine without me poking my nose into everything that was going on. One day I thought to myself I’m stopping what I’m doing. I’m not going to sweat it. It gave me so much peace when I learned to simply walk away and let things be.

As you begin to eliminate your need for perfection in all areas of your life, you’ll begin to discover the perfection in life itself.

The only thing we can be perfect at is love.

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfect in love.

1 John 4: 18