Ways To Help You Identify Your Gifts

Your entire will have new meaning and direction when you recognize your gift and decide on the most valuable way to use it- Steve Harvey said. Act like a success, think like a success.

A gift is not a talent.

Everyone has a gift, but not every person will recognize their gift. Being able to identify it is the key to fulfilling the purpose for your life.

Don’t confuse your gift with your talent. Anyone can learn a talent, but a gift is something you are born with.

Think of it this way, can anyone take singing lessons to improve their voice? Yes, anyone can develop a singing talent. But can anyone sing like Elvis Presley or Whitney Houston? No, their voice was their gift and no one else (no matter how many lessons they take and how dedicated they are to furthering their talent) will sing quite like them.

Ask yourself these questions:

What can I do that I’m best at, with little on my part?

What is the one thing that other people associate with me?

I’ve listened to others connect this gift to me, so how have I used it?

Find yourself and reflect.

If your gift is writing, how can you use it in the most valuable way! Your way might not be in writing fiction-it could be in motivational writing instead. Or, if your give is listening think of all the ways you could use it to benefit he most people.

To live your most fulfilling life, identify you gift by asking the above question.

I have for a very long time wanted to play the Harmonica like my father, I have tried over and over again but, I just don’t have the gift that he had. Mine is writing and listening and being a prayer intercessor at my local church.

You may want to have a gift but, sometimes it’s a gift you were not given a birth. Be happy with your unique gift and use it in your life. Not only will you feel at peace, but with it you can help others too.

Can Complaining Rewire Your Brain To Be Depressed and Anxious?

Actually research does show that complaining Rewire your brain to be Depressed and anxious.

It’s a fact that no ones life is perfect. The truth is that everyone has ups and downs and everyone is waging their own battle most aren’t aware of. However there are those who keep up the positivity and know that life is tough no matter what; and there are complainers.

It’s natural to vent your stress when things get tough, these people choose to turn a blind eye to the positive things in their life and obsess over the odds they face. They use every possible opportunity to vent their stress over these things by complaining to whoever is willing to listen.

Complaining won’t help, on the contrary, not only will it eventually base away the person who is forced to listen, but it will Rewire your brain to be depressed and bring on anxiety. A counselor.

I used to be a horrible complainer, I used to complain about the toilet paper It was so bad. I drove my family away. My daughter would refuse to come to the house. My husband wouldn’t come home after work. And I didn’t know why. I was in a depressed state along time. After seeing a counselor he a said few things I never thought of.

There are three types of complainers:

Those who complain to get sympathy.

Those who ruminate over all their problems.

Those who want to vent, but don’t really search for any real solutions to their problems.

What ever the type of complainer, the psychology behind complaining goes to childhood, with the child learning this habit from someone in the family. Living and growing up with a person who constantly sees the worst in everything is something that affects the child’s perception of the adult world.

My mother complained about everything. Sometimes I think her only happiness was from her silly dark superstitions. I learned my complaining habits from her. I was teaching my children the same thing.

What Complaining can do to your brain

Constant complaining train your brain to behave in the way it has been used most. Complaining like any other activity, activates the neoconservative in the brain and trains them to remember the pattern.

So in a way the complainer teaches their brain to fire the same cognitive pattern every time they complain, and this negative set of emotions eventually triggers depression and anxiety.

Therefore, any effort to change the mindset to a positive outlook will be hard, and the person will be stuck in a loop of negative emotions and attitudes toward life that their brain is most familiar with this pattern.

How to train your brain to be more positive?

Every habit can be changed and all the negativity can be reversed. This process takes some effort at first, but it will get easier with practice and constantly remind yourself that not every thing is as dark as it seems.

The aim is to adapt your brain into creating patterns of thoughts rather than the negative set which it’s used to. However, one needs to want to change in order to change. Who wouldn’t want to get out of that grim loop of dark thoughts.

Be aware of your attitude.

Complaining can come as a default reaction to any thought. You need to become aware of your attitude towards things and understand that everything has it’s positive and negative sides.

Let go of all the bad stuff.

Somethings can’t be changed, it’s just the way they are. I can’t let go of my childhood but I can put it in the past and move forward. Letting go of the negative thinks is better than holding on to them and this is for your own sake. I had a difficult childhood but It has made me the strong person I am today. Instead focus on what cheers you up, all things come to an end, even the bad ones.

Focus on the positive.

There is something positive in everything. If you can’t see it, look closer. Focus on what make the true virtue, such as honesty, love, the positive lessons out of it, your personal growth out of the experiences.

Be grateful.

Always remember that you have been blessed with many wonderful things in your life-you just need to look and see just how many there are. Be grateful for those things, not resentful of the challenges that come.

Be humble.

Arrogance and the thought that everything should belong to you are poison to the mind. Instead focus on your true values and don’t put yourself on a pedestal for anything. Focus on your happiness instead. And then when you are focused on negativity and you can’t let go easily, take a trip to nature and relax. And creative activity serves to vent out all the negativity you have gathered. If I can not for some reason be out there in nature. I read my Bible, you cannot read the Bible and be negative for long.

It’s important not to get caught in a negative loop and rise above it.

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God Puts People In Your Life For A Reason

Everyone that comes into your life, and everyone who has been called to be in your life is the for a purpose. When God wants to bless you.

He will send a relationship that bears fruit. This could be a friend, a co-worker, a significant other, an old acquaintance or a new one. God puts people in you life a strategic times because He knows you need them.

It doesn’t always make sense to us, but He sees the bigger picture.

Unfortunately, God isn’t the only one who places people in our lives.

The enemy place people into our lives as well, in the hopes of steering us away from success, away from happiness, and ultimately, away from the Lord. The enemy puts people that he knows would draw you towards the to plague your mind, and prevent you from reaching your full potential. We have to be careful with who we give access to our lives.

Not at first, a least.

Too often people push away what is good for them in search of something toxic. Whether it is a poisonous relationship, or a friend that supports poor decisions, these people that enemy employs take residence in our hearts and our minds, and wreaks havoc. It isn’t until the damage has been done that we realize that this wasn’t the person God sent us.

Other times, we know that someone isn’t good for us, and decide to spend our time with them anyway. The bad influence friend. The troublemaker that we allow into our lives, those who we know for a fact we should not be hanging around with but do anyway. Like Jacob in the Bible we try to wrestle with God, insisting that we know what’s best for us.

And, eventually, when the dust has settled, we learn that He was right all along.

Who are you giving access to in your life?

The First Words When We Wake Can Set Our Day

Have you ever heard someone say “Did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed this morning?”

When I wake up every morning. I say Lord what am I get to do today. Instead of I have to do this or that. Believe it or not it sets up your day in positive way.

I get to go to work? I don’t have to you to work. Think of how many people in the world that don’t have that opportunity. I get to go shopping how many people don’t have enough money to go shopping. It’s a blessing that we get to do things, not a punishment.

I believe that it is important to go to bed happy buy if you think of all the things you get to do tomorrow.

Every night say gratitude statements like I am thankful for the my friend calling me today- I am thankful that my children are successful in life. I’m thankful that someone loves me or that I am getting to a place where I can love myself.

When you sleep peaceful you naturally wake up feeling refreshed and ready for the day.

Here is a few tips:

The night before a busy day, do what you can to make your morning go easier. Lay out clothes, set up the coffee pot, make sure you know where your keys are and your not scrambling to find them. Actions like these can help your day get off to a calmer start.

Use an alarm instead of the alarm on your smartphone. When you use our phone as an alarm we tend to start looking a notifications, you subject yourself to the outside worldly demands on your attention before your feet even hit the floor. Don’t let e-mails, texts, and social media notifications rule you waking up moments. Claim ownership of your attention with a screen free morning routine.

Avoid using alarms that jolt you out of a sleep with a piercing noise.

Don’t sleep with your bedroom pitch black, you should be able to see the sunlight it gives for much less abrupt, more natural way to wake up.

You woke up! Did you ever consider saying a prayer thanking God for breathing new life into you today. I always do this and then ask the Lord to send me someone to bless that day.

Instead of dreading your day or get stuck in worrying about what could happen. Imagine how it would feel to have the day you want to have.

Engage in something you find pleasurable first thing in the morning. I’ll do anything for coffee in the moment, so it’s the first thing I do. I also enjoy taking showers in the morning it wakes me ready to start a new day.

Some may like listening to a inspirational podcast or exercising.

Give yourself a reason to look forward to starting your day. With the right approach you can have a great morning.

Facing Your Demons

Whenever people struggle with personal change such as trying to be more assertive, happier or just more comfortable with driving on major freeways when traveling. Here are some ideas:

There are all kinds of way out there for making specific changes. There are a huge choice of diet programs and an overwhelming number of approaches to reduce anxiety but no matter what they are you still need to face your fears. You must confront the parts of yourself that you wish would disappear.

Facing the parts of yourself that you don’t like, or are afraid of, is one of the most difficult tasks you will do. I was at a time in my life when I fearful of standing up and talking in front of a crowd.

On day my pastor asked me to get up and tell the church my testimony. At first, I said no. But then someone told me a great tip. When I’m up there speaking don’t look at their faces look at the top of their heads, not their faces. I spoke that day doing this and it was easy. I was so proud of myself that I did it. Now I can stand in front of any crowd and speak with no fear.

Facing that pain by really feeling it without denying or numbing yourself shows courage, and if you can feel compassion and offer forgiveness to those parts of you (despite a strong desire to turn away), you will come to accept and care from them. As you would take care of a distressed child. Just as the distressed child is soothed by a comforting response. So too, are those parts of yourself. Getting to know yourself and approaching yourself the compassion with self-awareness.

You can become more accepting of yourself you will be able to tolerate the discomfort that comes along with change. In the end, you will be proud of yourself for standing up to your fears.

Feeling Inner Peace

What is inner peace? All of us have a picture in the back of our mind of what inner peace is. You have even been in this state many times, sometimes for moments even for hours and you know what inner peace feels like. We need to learn how to grow and create that feeling without being dependant on things turning out a certain way. We need to create inner peace as something we are able and be able to share and give it to others. We need to become in the center of our peace, radiating our souls light outward, instead of reacting, or waiting for situations, relationships a d events in your life to be arranged in such away that you have peace.

Inner peace is like being in the eye of a storm. All around you is craziness like rain, hail, and wind but in the eye of the storm it is calm and peaceful.

Creating inner peace from the higher levels is learning to open your heart. It means you are not focused or attached to an emotional level to th8ngs that happen in the world around you. You know who you are, and you let things flow around you without touching or affecting your sense of peace. Opening your heart means remaining one and loving no matter what another person does, no matter what occurs to you, what happens with your job. It means choosing to feel peaceful no matter what your outer life looks like. It is easy to be loving, the challenge is to be loving when those around you are closed, afraid, or negative.

Anything you are attached to or your must-have it a certain way, any belief or concept that is inflexible will be an area in which your inner peace can be affected. The goal is to take that sense of inner peace and affect everything in the outer world, touching it with energy.

Your body can be the receptacle of many thoughts that are not peaceful. If you can bring your body to a state of peace and rest, by relaxing it with physical touch or mental relaxation.

I can take a walk outdoors and see the beauty of the trees and the mountain, the skyline. Smelling the fresh air puts me at peace. Some people do breathing exercises or listen to relaxing music. Meditation tapes can do this as well.

You will begin to experience levels of inner peace down to feel inner peace. Start by finding a sense of peace within. Give yourself one opportunity in the next week to feel inner peace. I have had to put earphones in sometimes to remove the outward noises from others in my family will listening to relaxing music. The point is to do what you have to find that inner peace.

The value of inner peace certainly feels better to the emotional body but, it is more than that. It is the ability to affect the outer world and create and manifest from a focused place of purpose and an inner sense of who you are. When you are tranquil and calm, when you slow down and feel relaxed you are able to think at higher levels. What you bring forth from inner peace is for your higher good.

Plan your life from a sense of inner peace and operate from it. Before you speak, you bring in this sense of peace you will find the world-changing into a very different place.

One of my favorite verses in the Bible is in Romans 8:31: if God is for us who can be against us. I think of this verse often when I am getting out of my peaceful place.

Hold your head up high. You are a Child of the high God. Be at peace.

Choosing The Path Of Humility

Choosing the path of humility will keep you from thinking too highly of yourself. When living a humble life. Consideration, respect, and generosity come with ease. We don’t get upset with trivial things or compare ourselves to others or don’t act selfishly when we can’t have our way.

Developing Humbly:

When who spend time with others, we don’t focus on ourselves. Which makes it difficult to be selfish. Some people always think what’s in it for me? If we can have the attitude, how can I help this person enjoy their day? You are giving the gift of Joy.

What God has given us by grace we should give away. It was freely given to you, so freely give it away. We need to realize we are not always right and don’t have all the answers. But being humble sometimes if just being there for someone.

Practice mindfulness and focus on the present. Sometimes, I say things like I have to go to the store but when I get there it’s like being on autopilot. I don’t see other people, their reactions, the looks on their faces. Or even if people could use a little help. That’s not how I want to be. Some day’s I get focusing on the store I volunteer at. Or my son living so far away.

Be grateful for what you have. I thank God every day that I woke up to have a new day. And that I have food to eat, a roof over my head, and running water.

Some people don’t have anything at all. Be grateful your not homeless or suffering hunger pains from not having anything to eat.

Ask for help when you need it.

Many of us will recognize a form of pride that lies in being able to solve our problems. Humbly, therefore, lies in recognizing when we need help. And being able to ask for help appropriately.

Humility may sound old-fashioned, but that does not mean that a little humbleness is not important now as ever.

In a era in which many complain about growing selfishness and focus on the world, perhaps we should strive to develop a more humble approach.