You Are Not What You Think You Are

Your mind is powerful: controlling almost everything. It impacts, your health, from sickness to wellness, your mood and the ways your life is going making you a success or a failure.

Try forming a picture in your mind of what you would like to be like then keep a hold of that picture. Every day work on yourself to be a better still having that picture of who you want to be.

Perhaps the most important mental and spiritual principle ever discovered is that what you is going on outside of you reflects what is going on inside of you.

People can sense how to feel on the inside is who you are on the outside.

Jesus wrote what comes out of mouth proceeds from the heart. Matthew 15.

You can tell the inner condition of a person by lookin at the outer conditions in his or her life.

Your mind is powerful. Your though control and determine almost everything that happens to you. It can raise or lower your heart rate, improve or interfere with your digestion, change the chemical composition of your blood, help you to sleep or keep you awake at night.

Your thoughts can make you happy or sad, sometimes in an instant. They can make you alert and aware, or distracted and depressed. They can make you popular or unpopular, confident or insecure, positive or negative. Your thoughts can make you feel powerful or powerless, a victim or a victor, a hero or a coward.

When we are children we have no self-concept. Every idea, opinion, feeling, attitude, or value you have asan adult you learned from childhood. Everything you are today is the result of an idea or impression you took in and accepted as true. When you believe something is true for you, it becomes true for you.

Whatever it may be. You are not what you think you are.

The way I grew up. I was told some pretty messed up things that I accepted as true. It is possible to change with hard work and determination.

Change your thoughts-change your life.

Fear Of The Lord.

I use to think fear of the Lord meant to be afraid of the Lord because if I did anything he would punish me.

But, if fear is a bad thing, then what do you do with the 300 plus scriptures that speak of fearing the Lord in a positive way?

For instance in Isaiah 11: 1-2 says,

And there shall come forth a rod out of the stem of Jesse, and a Branch shall grow out of his roots: And the spirit of the Lord shall rest upon him, the spirit of wisdom and understanding, the spirit of counsel and might, the spirit of knowledge and the fear of the Lord.

This is Jesus fearing his Father. He certainly didn’t dread His Father, nor was he terrified of his judgement. But He honored, revered, trusted, loved and summited to His Father.

In Acts 9: 31 That this positive fear of the Lord that I want to talk about.

If was important for Jesus and the early believers to fear God, then it would be a good idea for us to learn what the fear of the a Lord really is.

I want to give you a few examples.

In America today, we see a total disregard for authority. But the fear of the Lord includes respecting authority- from police officers and government officials to pastors and ministers. If people don’t like those in authority they are being taught to storm the castle and overthrow those in power by any means. But that is not what the Word of God teaches, and it is contrary to the fear of the Lord.

Romans 13: 1-2 says

Let every soul be subject to the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained by God. Whosoever therefore resists the powers, resists the ordinance of a God: and that that resist shall receive themselves damnation.

That’s a powerful message, and it makes it very clear that God ordained governments and expects us to be subject to them. Government, even bad government, is superior to anarchy.

Does this mean that communism or a dictatorship is good form of government? No, but they still have a God-given power to govern, even if their government is not based on the principles of the Word of God.

The same is true in the church

And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets: and some evangelists: and some pastors as teachers: For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying elf the body of Christ.

James 3: 16 says

For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.

This is not the fear of the Lord, and it opens the door to sickness, disease, poverty, divorce, poverty, and more.

This doesn’t mean that all pastors or ministers function exactly the way God wants them to. And it doesn’t means you have to drink the Kool-Aid so to speak, just because they are in leadership.

All leaders make mistakes, and there is always room for improvement. But there are still in a place of authority, and honoring them is honoring God.

Sandpaper People.

Let’s face it there are some dear souls that just rub us the wrong way. Sandpaper people.

So what do you do when someone rubs us in the wrong way? Run? Explode? Ignore?

I know many people that run, they don’t even want to be around them. And I have to admit I have ran from sandpaper people.

But you can’t always eliminate conflict in your life by running. You can shrink it down to size and not let it ruin your day or your relationship by the way you deal with it.

Mathew 7:3-5 says why do you see the speck in someone else’s eye but do not notice the log in your own eye? Let me take the speck out of your eye when there is a log your own eye. You Hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of someone else’s eye.

Why is it so easy to see someone else’s fault while totally overlook our own. Are focused on the sandpaper person-what they did, what they said, and how they were wrong. We nitpick every little thing that is wrong with them.

We find the more that is wrong with them the more is right about us. Chances are when we look into our own hearts, we will find our own mountain sized bitterness, pride, resentment. Jesus tells us before we go deal with someone else’s molehill, go get real with yourself and God. Get real then go get right about your own stuff.

The result isn’t just that you are then qualified to deal with someone else’s wrongs. The bigger result is that you are humble and compassionate toward the one who wronged you. Face it we are all wrong on some level most of the time.

Clothe Yourself In Love

Colossians 3: 12-15 tells us to put on therefore, as God’s chosen one’s holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, loneliness, humility, and perseverance baring with one another, and forgiving one another. If any man has a complaint against any; even as Messiah forgave you, so you do also. Above all these things, walk in love, which is the bond of perfection.

Don’t you want others to be patient with you when you blow it? I sure do.

When we chose to bear with one another it doesn’t mean ignore sin and avoid conflict, it just means we infuse it with some patience. Don’t stomp yourself into a confrontation with an agenda of the ways that person needs to change or apologize. (even if the should) We don’t clothe ourselves in anger when we approach a sandpaper people, we clothe ourselves in the love of Christ. Even if you don’t feel an ounce of love for them because you’re so hurt or mad, Jesus loves them and you can ask a Him to love them through you.

Listen Well

James 1:19-20 Know this my beloved brothers (and sisters): let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger, for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

I was listening to a speaker by the name of Graham Cooke a few years ago he said if you get into conflict with the intention to hear a person that rubs you the wrong way lays the foundation for a healthy discussion. Tell them what is good about them- they are organized, they have beautiful eyes, they are strong willed. I love to give people hugs, yes even the sandpaper people. When I give the hugs, I can feel who they are, and they give of vibes to who they really are. Let them know you understand-as much as you can- how they make you feel, and then listen to their heart.

Resist Fear

2 Timothy 1: 7 tells us God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.

Now if you’ve removed that plank from your eye, put on love, chosen to approach your sandpaper person as a listener, then it’s time to flat out tell the truth.

Confrontation is hard for me, I avoid it at all costs, but sometimes it’s unavoidable. I don’t ever want to hurt anyone. Even if they have hurt me, when it comes down to it, I don’t want to confront them and correct them. I want to run from them and hide in my own hurt. But, God has not given us a spirit of timidity. Instead he gives us love, power and self-control. That means we can speak the truth in a loving, kind way. We can trust that God will empower us to represent the truth in a situation and represent Him well also.

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Stop Blaming Others

When something doesn’t meet our expectations, many of us operate with the assumption. When in doubt, it must be someone else’s fault. You can see this assumption in action almost everywhere you look-something is missing, so someone else must have moved it; the car isn’t working right, so the mechanic must have repaired it incorrectly; your expenses indeed your income, so your spouse must be spending to much money; the house is a mess so you must be the only one doing your part; a project is late, so your colleagues at work must have not done their share-and on and on it goes.

This type of blaming thinking has become extremely common with our culture. On a personal level, it has led to believe that we are never completely responsible for our own actions, problems, or happiness. When we are in the habit of blaming others, we will blame others for our anger, frustration, depression, stress, and unhappiness. Circumstances don’t make a person, they reveal him or her.

As an experiment, notice what happens when you stop blaming others for anything and everything in your life. This doesn’t mean you don’t hold people accountable for your own happiness and for your reactions to other people and the circumstances around you. When the house is a mess, rather than assuming you’re the only person doing you’re part, clean it up! When your over budget, figure out where you can spend less money. Most important, when your unhappy, remind yourself that only you can make yourself happy.

Blaming others take an enormous amount of mental energy. It’s a drag me down mind -set that creates stress and disease. Blaming makes you feel powerless over your own life because your happiness is contingent on the actions and behavior of others, which you can not control. When you stop blaming others, you will regain your sense of personal power. You will set yourself as a choice maker. You will know that when you are upset, you are playing a key role in the creation of your own feelings. This means that you can play a key role in creating new, more positive feelings. Life is a great deal more fun and easier to manage when you stop blaming others.

Listen To Your Feelings. They Are Trying To Tell You Something

You have at your disposal a foolproof guidance system to navigate you through life. This system, which consists solely of you own feelings, let’s you know whether your off track and headed toward unhappiness and conflict-or on track, headed toward peace of mind. Your feel act like a barometer letting you know what your internal weather is like.

When your not caught up in your thinking, taking things too seriously, your feelings will generally be positive they will affirming that you are using your thinking to your advantage. No mental adjustments need to be made.

When your experience of life is other than pleasant-when you’re feeling angry, resentful, depressed, stressed out, frustrated and so forth, your warning system of feelings kicks in like a red flag to remind you that you are off track, that it’s time to ease up with your thinking, you’ve lost prospective. Mental adjustment does not need to be made. You can think negative feelings in the same way you think of the warning lights on the dashboard of your car. When flashing, they let you know that it’s time to ease up.

Contrary to popular belief, negative feelings don’t need to be studied or analyzed. When you analyze your negative feelings, you’ll usually end up with more of them to contend with.

The next time your feeling bad, rather than getting stuck in analyze paralysis. wondering why you feel the way you do see if instead you can use your feelings to guide you back in the direction toward serenity. Don’t pretend that the negative feelings don’t exist, but try to recognize that the reason your feeling sad, angry, stressed, or whatever it is that you are taking life to seriously- you are sweating the small stuff. Instead of rolling up your sleeves and fighting life back off, take a few deep breaths, and relax. Remember, life isn’t an emergency unless you make it so.

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Emotional Scars

The deepest scar is the invisible scar. This is usually considered a psychological and emotional injury experienced by a person. A. Invisible emotional scar is difficult to heal compared to a scar on the body. Because they last as long until the letter part of adulthood. Parental abuse is a form of domestic violence and gives a deep impression to children’s thoughts and personality. Young people criticized or ridiculed by their parents have grown low self-esteem and continue to seek expert assistance.

The abuse leave children’s scars in the rest of their lives. Physical scarring is most painful, but emotional scarring is persistent scarring.

Adults who have been sexually abused as children are more likely to violence, depression, suicide and abuse than children who have not received sexual abuse as children. This theme includes the growth on one or more human beings. Imagine that you must deal with such a horrible environment fear, and you may have to live for years.

I have physical and emotional wounds. Most scars can talk about falling down, or pulling the deep fryer full of boiling grease on top of me showing off an interesting story as a children. I have some scars that represent surgeries. An emotional wound I continue to carry is the remembrance of nerve damage on the side of my face from my mother hitting me, and telling me to shut-up. I have horrible migraines today because of it. I have seen numerous Doctors and so far nothing has helped. I have a appointment to see a neurologist to see what treatments are available. Every time I suffer a migraine I remember those emotional scars, the things my mother said to me I can’t get rid of those emotional scars. Ever time I try to do something and fail all her words keep rushing into my mind.

All abuses are horrible. Each type of abuse leaves a physical and emotional scar.

There’s a quote the says “I suppose I love my scars the have stayed with me long than most people have.”

Yes, we all have scars but the tell our story and simply means you were stronger that whatever tried to hurt you. Wear your scars with pride.

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What Do You Do When You Are Bored To Death

When your attention span growing smaller, impatience is increasing. The more you feel stuck in your situation-listening to co-workers about their weekends, waiting in line at the grocery store or coffee, sitting through a meeting you could care less about the more agitated you feel. You can’t access your social media account on your phone. Or you sit home every hour of every day. The slow passage of time can be painful.

Do you have temporary tedium or chronic dissatisfaction? Temporary tedium is episodic. Hopefully you don’t have to wait for something or tolerate a waste of you time more that a day.

When you have chronic dissatisfaction it comes from feeling bored with your life. Finding joy with your work, the people in your life or your everyday existence.

The effects of negative boredom can lead to harm in your health to your ability to perform at school and work. A lack of external stimulation can lead to drug and alcohol abuse, depression, anxiety based on the desire to checkout of a meaningless or undervalued life. Besides feeling uncomfortable there are reasons to try and limit you’re boredom.

The best cure for boredom is to make sure you have regular challenges and interesting things to do so incidents don’t throw you off too much. We need to have work, and hobbies that are stimulating and fun, you will still need to make sure you maintain an emotional balance. Everything one needs some down and boring time to rest your mind and nervous system. If you are overwhelmed with challenges and interesting things to do, you patience level for time wasters will be slim.

I struggle in this area. My mind never stops going until I go to bed. I never stop. I can actually watch a movie, listen to a podcast and play a game at the same time and still manage to learn something. With my mind going all the time I do not manage to rest and give my nervous system a break. It is very dangerous to do this I know. But I have a difficult time not do it. I tend to just push my way through everything.

An example of this: About 5 years ago, I fell on the ice shoveling snow. I caught myself with my arms. I knew I had hurt my shoulder but thinking it would heal on it’s own. I kept do everything I had to do. About 4 months later it wasn’t healed, so I decided to go to the Doctor,

He did some X-rays and they found nothing wrong. At about six months I went to a different Doctor and they did x-rays again and it showed I had bone spurs caused by arthritis. They told me could have surgery but it would just come back. I said no to the surgery and when on. By this time my shoulder and my upper arm was bothering me. I had decided I better go to Orthodontist. He said I had a torn rotor cuff and bone spurs and that I needed surgery I finally agreed to have surgery. I was told it would be a 30 minute surgery it turned out I had torn my bicep tendon off my shoulder the doctor had to replace it because It was unfixable. I ended up layed up for 6 months.

While this has nothing to do with being bored, it does tell you the more you accept something to worse it becomes. Sometimes without us realizing it.

Have a plan or expectation for how you are going to use your time. The disruptions and delays are bound to be more annoying than if you suspect there will be delays.

Plan ahead for dead zones. Take charge of your time by planning for delays and distractions. Carry something to read or to do with you at all times to deal with lines and waiting rooms. Have you car radio set to an interesting station, or soothing music to cope with traffic jams. If you get stuck in a boring meeting, what an you notice about the people in the room? If you have a piece of paper plan how you will make the next meeting more interesting, or map out your career plan in the future.

Don’t take the delays right distraction personally. You might feel disrespected or that someone has control of your time, which only increases your agitation.

This is a good opportunity to practice curiosity. Does the person who has a hold of your time need some compassion? Is this a good moment to breathe and relax so you have more energy when you regain control of your time? There is often a gem of wisdom in the moment that you can’t see when your impatient, irritated or bored.

Has life become meaningless and hollow? It’s a good time to reflect on the purpose of your life. You boredom may be a sign that you are In a transition. Acknowledge what is changing so you can move on.

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It’s Time To Stop Running

The season you’re in right now is significant. But when it feels like life isn’t going the way you hoped, it’s easy to run from it.

God is working through the season that your in. The time you have is significant but for God to work through it, you can’t run from it.

Be Happy Where You Are

Many of us continually postpone our happiness indefinitely. It’s not that we are consciously set up to do so, but we keep convincing ourselves. Someday I’ll be happy we fell ourselves we’ll be happy when out bills are paid, when we get out of school, or get married, then when our kids get older.

Meanwhile, life keeps moving forward. The truth is there no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be be happy anyway.

Adored D’Souza stated-for a long time it had seemed to me that life was abut to begin-real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. The prospective has helped me see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.