Ways To Feel Comfortable In Your Own Skin

Everyone had days where they feel insecure in their own skin, battling with their flaws and imperfections.

No matter how confident and secure you are, there will always be days where you battle with your self-esteem and that’s okay.

However, this doesn’t diminish the fact that it’s easy to go through. When your insecurities are getting the best of you, it’s hard to feel comfortable in your own skin and that impacts even the way you see yourself.

What it means to feel comfortable in your own skin.

When you’re coming in your own skin, no matter what flaws and insecurities you have, you know these don’t define who you are but you know you are defined by your strengths.

Being secure in your own skin means accepting who you are, both the desirable parts and the not so favorable.

No matter what anyone else says about you, you are secure enough to know who you are and you know that people’s opinions are nota credible source of validation.

It’s more that just appearing confident and secure, but it’s being so secure that not even your own thoughts can bring down your self-esteem.

On a really bad and insecure day, being comfortable in your skin also means that you do believe everything your mind tells you, but you contradict all the negative self-talk you tend to engage in.

When you’re secure enough, it will naturally show in how you perceive things and how you behave.

I am going to share with you some ways to feel good in your own skin.

Don’t Focus On Your Weaknesses

I know this is easier said than done, but you shouldn’t let yourself focus on your insecurities and weaknesses.

Dwelling on your flaws with negativity impact your self-esteem so it’s much better to build on your strengths.

You can’t always change every ounce of your weaknesses, but you can always use your strengths to your advantage which will encourage a more confident version of yourself.

Don’t Validate Every Thought

Your mind can be filled with so much negativity and doubt so it’s not exacta credible source,

When dealing with self-sabotage thoughts, don’t ever believe the thoughts you are having as most of the time, they come from a place of fear and insecurity.

Instead Learn to question and counter your thoughts. Instead of the thought “I’m not good enough” reverse ti to “I’ve always been more than enough.”

Reversing your thoughts into a more positive light give you more power than you think.

Work On Your Personal Issues

I know this an be difficult but working on your personal issues is one way to feel comfortable in your own skin.

Avoid dealing with trauma and certain problems will always come back in the form of insecurities so it’s best to deal with them earlier rather than repressing them.

When I was young I would tell myself I was a waste and I would never amount to anything. My mother had drilled these thoughts into my head and I started to believe them to be true. I suffered many years with doubt and insecurities. Don’t do the same, deal with your repressed emotions early and they won’t haunt you forever.

If there’s something you haven’t confronted yet, be sure to work on this to lift that burden off your shoulders.

Your personal issues comprise a large portion of your insecurities than you realize.

Dress Up

There’s nothing bad about dress up in way that make you feel good, every now abs again.

Take yourself out with friend or go somewhere and dress in an outfit that brings out the most confident version of yourself. Don’t hesitate to look your best and reap prep for this.

When I was in therapy my doctor told to start getting up early make my bed, get dressed up and have a good healthy breakfast everyday even if I wasn’t going anywhere. At first I thought he was kinds crazy. But it actually works.

It’s so underrated how dressing up can give you more confidence than you Realize and not to mention having a change of environment also does wonders for your self-esteem.

Instead of staying home all day, take yourself out as your most confident self.

Don’t Listen To Society

It’s so uncomfortable that society has this toxic notion of what beauty is supposed to be and look like, but this isn’t an accurate representations what beauty is.

Change the rules and don’t let yourself give in when society tells you that you only deserve to feel confident when you look a certain way.

Confidence and self-esteem co e from within and until you realize that, you won’t feel comfortable in your own skin when you’re seeking validation from all the wrong places.

Surround Yourself With Confident People

It’s amazing when you realize how much the people you surround yourself with can affect how you view yourself.

When you surround yourself with confident people, this will reflect your overall perspective and outlook on yourself.

Instead of constantly being around people who drain you and are considered as negative, choose to be around those that can encourage and lift you up.

They will inspire you with their positivity and energy that you need to overcome the doubt you’re struggling with.

Realize That Nobody Defines You But Yourself

You’ve got to stop listening to what others say about you because people will always drag you down along with them.

Nobody likes seeing songs comfortable in their own skin, which is why people always try to diminish someone’s self-esteem when they see you’re secure in who you are.

Never listen to what others say about you when they’re full of negativity and doubt.

Instead keep moving forward with your confidence and realize that you’ll go place, no matter what flaws you have.

Keep your head held high and ignore the people who try to convince you that you worth will only be defined by your shortcomings, your mistakes, and bad decisions.

With these ways I hope you’ll find it easier to battle against your insecurities and become capable of Choosing confidence instead.

No matter what anyone else tells you, you deserve to feel confident in who you are and aren’t defined by the failure and mistakes you make as a person.

Life is too short to live with self-sabotaging action and thoughts so choosing a confident life is the best thing you can do.

You Survived What You Thought Would Kill You. Now Straighten Your Crown And Move Forward.

What Is Spiritual Death?

Spiritual death is the separation of the soul from God while people are still alive. Sin causes Spiritual Death. Spiritual death is different from physical death. A person can be spiritually dead while still being physically alive.

  • Physical death is the separation of the soul from a body when a person dies
  • Spiritual death is the separation of the soul from God while people are still alive.

We are all born Spiritually dead. after Adam and Eve sinned, the death sentence was pronounced on them and passed down to all other human beings. Therefore, all people are born with a sinful nature with the propensity to sin, in other words, we inherited our sinful nature from Adam.

Causes Of Spiritual Death

1. Disobedience

2. Not Spending time with God

3. Not practicing spiritual disciplines

4. Not focusing on God and the things of God

5. Living in sin

Just as the things in the above list will cause spiritual death, doing the opposite can reverse it. When a person sins, he is alienated from God’s presence because a Holy God cannot look on sin. Spiritual death can reverses by genuine repentance abs by living a righteous life.

In General 2:17, God tells Adam that if he eat of the forbidden fruit he will “surly die,” Adam and Eve ate from the tree of knowledge of good and evil, but they did not die physically. However, they did die spiritually as soon as they sinned. They became separated fro God. They could no longer have fellowship with Him. There were no longer in a personal relationship with God.

That separation from God is seen in Genesis 3:8 when Adam and Eve heard the voice of the Alford and hid themselves from the presence of God.

Another example is in the New Testament when Paul describes spiritual death as “being alienated from the life of God” in Ephesians 4:18.

Little pieces of our souls get chipped away the more we ignore or go against our gut instincts and desires. The more we try to appease others instead of following our hearts, the more of our soul we lose. Spiritual death happen anytime we go through a traumatic event or lose sight of our true selves. Fortunately, many people have begun to awaken their soul within, and have starts the process of “soul rebirth.”

Throughout life, one true spirit becomes muddled under the weight of responsibility, stress, circumstance, loss, grief, and ask the other things we go through as humans. The years spent on this planet enduring hardship take their toll on our spirit within, which causes our soul to become fragmented and lost.

However we can gain back our souls through following our hearts, rejecting all the doesn’t align with us and treating ourselves with compassion and love.

Signs You’re experiencing A Spiritual Death

You can’t remember certain parts of your early life.Maybe you have blocked out certain memories in order to protect your soul from pain or grief. Maybe you went through traumatic experiences that your brain has chosen to forget so that you can move on. However, truly moving on might mean revisiting these old memories and coming to terms with them. I know my memory was so fragmented about my childhood that it didn’t even seem like I had one. With years of therapy and God by my side. I was able to revisit it. But I know there is so much blocked out there is more. With bad memories blocked we cannot even begin to heal. If this feels like something your dealing with you might be experiencing soul death.

You deal with anxiety, depression, or other mental health issues. Of course, mental health is a complex issue, but experiencing periods of anxiety or depression could mean that your soul is going through a rebirthing process. You’re trying to shed your old skin and fully comes to terms with your new self. This process doesn’t happen overnight, and it certainly can produce uncomfortable feelings.

You don’t feel “whole’ during a spiritual death. Parts of yourself feel incomplete or broken as if you can’t fully see the world around you. Your viewof the world and yourself is fragmented, and you feel that parts of your soul are scattered in places that you haven’t yet found. If you feel parts of yourself is missing you may be going through spiritual death.

You feel numb to the world around you. Everything around you looks bleak and meaningless. You try to get excited about things and do your best to fit in, but you never can seem to feel right about how the world works. So, you try to block out all your feelings instead, finding it easier than faking emotions.

You have trouble sleeping at night. Oftentimes when we go through soul deaths, our subconscious is at work trying to sort out the transition we’re going through. For instance, if you have left behind a soul-sucking job to follow your passion in life and run your own business, you’ll likely have some sleepless nights as your soul tries to catch up with your latest decision.

You feel stuck in life in the process of spiritual death. Many Times when we go through a soul rebirth, we feel trapped, like we are living the same day over and over and going no where. Feeling this way simply means we need to change our direction a little bit, and truly listen to what our souls want. Many people get this feeling in life, but remember, you’re not a tree, you can always get up and move toward something you’d rather have. Your on,t one decision away from an entirely new life.

The secret of change is ti focus all your energy not of fighting the old, but on building the new.

Socrates

A traumatic life event leaves you not feeling yourself. if you through a bad breakup, divorce. death of a loved one, or near death experience, you might not feel the same afterward. A piece of your soul is taken away each time you go through a “soul death.”

Spiritual death makes you feel that life isn’t living up to your expectations. If you feel let down by life, this means your soul is longing for something more, but you haven’t found it yet. Wishing for something more in life often points to a soul death, because you want to strive for more than life has given you.

You feel pulled in multiple directions. If you feel like life is trying to push you down different paths, you might be experiencing a soul rebirth. You’ve recognized test yo-yo have limitless potential within yourself, and you don’t want to waste it any longer. However, you can’t decide with path you want to take because you see yourself succeeding and thriving in various ways.

You use substances to escape from the real world. a part of soul death, you might find yourself reaching out for something to hold on to, or some outlet to escape into. Many people who drink or do drugs probably don’t recognize that their soul is crying out for attention, and their higher self is longing to be loved.

You find yourself questioning everything you thought you knew. If you find you’re second-guessing your beliefs, lifestyle, and everything about life in general, your soul might be in need of a new direction. Often, going through a soul death means leaving behind stagnant beliefs and ushering in a more open-minded viewpoint.

You long to have a purpose in your life. We all search for a deeper meaning of life, but a soul death usually causes us to search a little harder. You might feel completely fed up with your current life, and long for one where you can wake up with excitement, knowing that the day ahead promises earning and fulfillment. We al, have a purpose in life but sometimes we have to dig a little deeper to find it.

If you feel this way, make sure to go with your gut and don’t second-guess yourself. The on,y way to fully awaken our true selves is to leave behind what no longer serves us so we can step into our most authentic being.

You feel you have no control over your life. Even if you feel that you’ve found your purpose, you might feel unable to change your circumstances. You might not know which direction to turn, or how to turn your dreams into reality. You feel powerless to change your life, even though you want nothing more to do so.

You feel like you don’t belong anywhere. You want to belong somewhere but haven’t found your place yet. In times of soul death, we start to feel vulnerable and lost, and seek comfort and safety. Feeling this way requires us to take a long hard look at our souls in order to find output what we want the most, and find the courage to go after it. wOnce we follow our hearts, our soul will begin to come alive again, and we feel part of something bigger.

You constantly feel tired. Not just physically but, mentally too. You can’t quite put your finger on it but you just know that your soul is tired, and no amount of sleep can cure it. The never ending drain of daily life is starting to wear on you, and your soul longs for an escape.

Whether we realize it or not, we all go through many soul deaths and rebirths throughout our lives. Changing jobs, cities, and lives are all forms of soul death and rebirth, as you leave behind some that didn’t work for you any longer and embrace something that you hope will make you feel a little more whole.

If you take away nothing else from this post, please remember this: life is too short to be unhappy, so if your soul needs a little rejuvenating, please listen to your heart and do what it longs for. You might lose parts of your in the process, but you will gain back so much more of yourself that you didn’t even know existed.

Transformation is often more about unlearning than about learning. – Richard Rohr.

Reaping And Sowing Seasons

We should be cautioned not to speak evil of or complain against our present season. You are in between your sowing and reaping seasons, but our tongue can destroy the seed we have sown in tears, causing us a harvest wind.

In this season, we will be tempted to complain against people, murmur while laboring and working and may have a nasty attitude towards life. We are being tempted to compare our lives to that of others and despise our humble beginnings. If we do, we will have a grieved Spirit.

We must cooperate with being quiet and waiting part. Do all thing without complaining against anyone or anything. We will then be found innocent and faithful, and will return with great joy, caring our harvest.

To be faithful, we will be found faithful. We must remember that complaining is a great harvest destroyer.

The root cause of grumbling and complaining is being discontented with their life.

When people complain, they are saying that what the Lord has given them is not enough. If that doesn’t convict you – it should.

It is possible to poison our seasons, with complaining and murmuring.

People Can Change, But That Doesn’t Mean They Will

Most people agree: Everyone makes mistakes.

We might use this phrase to console all of the one who’s done something they regret or boost self compassion when you mess up your self.

Perhaps you add the reassurance “You’ll do better next time, orWelcome to use your experience to improve your future.

Yes, saying imply that people can change- And they absolutely can.

Anyone can make an effort to alter specific habits or behaviors. Even some aspects of attitude and personality and change over time with some dedicated effort.

Well people can change, not everyone does. How can you tell if someone ever really address certain behaviors? What factors make improvement more likely?

Change is complicated, and it doesn’t always happen the way we envision. The following reminders can help you maintain a realistic perspective about this process.

You Can’t Force Change

Simply telling someone you need to change usually doesn’t work.

Before someone can make lasting changes to a specific behavior or traits they have to really want to make those changes.

You can certainly offer encouragement and support or set an example of positive change, but you can’t control anyone’s else’s actions.

I used to volunteer to be a Facilitator for a group that taught people how to cope with difficult situations in their lives whether it was depression, anxiety or or just needed to have some encouragement in there daily lives.

One thing I learned very quick was who really wanted to change and who were just there for the attention. Some cameYou’re in her cope with their problems, and some came and walked being better than than when they first started the group.

While you may give people an ultimatum to inspire change. Sometimes it doesn’t always work. For example if you say to someone either stop drinking or I will leave. The ultimatum may seem like it will work they probably won’t commit to a lasting effort unless they truly care about the consequences.

Change Takes Time And Effort

If you’ve ever resolved to change something about yourself, you likely understand this decision is only the beginning.

After setting a goal such as “To stop showing up late,” you probably explored the reasons behind your frequent lateness:

  • Trouble getting up in the morning
  • Frequently misplacing your keys
  • A tendency to lose track of time

Once you have a cleared idea of what you could do differently, you probably tried to put your plan into action. Maybe you tried setting your morning alarm 15 minutes earlier or attached a key hook on the back of your door.

But even the best intentions don’t yield immediate improvement. You might need to experiment with different strategies to find one that really work.

When hoping for change from someone else, don’t expect overnight success. While encouraging them and praising their efforts can build up their determination to keep changing they don’t always do the thing they need to change.

Change Doesn’t Always Follow A Linear Path

Even someone with a sincere determination to change won’t always succeed the first time, or the second.It’s easy to slip back into old habits at first, sometimes without even realizing it.

It often helps to reconsider your strategy and explore other message for managing triggers before trying again.

That said, true commitment to change generally shows up and noticeable effort and progress.

Say your partner tease a you when ever you disagree.

After some discussion, they admit they do this to lighten up the mood because they don’t like conflict. When they realize it hurts you, they agree to stop. They succeed for a few months but eventually fall back into the habit.

Why’s Can Change

Various factors combine to make up personalities, values, and beliefs, and behavior. The biggest factors include genetic predisposition to certain traits, childhood environment and life experiences.

In the past, experts believed that personality traits tended to remain relatively fixed, once developed. More recent finding suggest personality can change through life, even into older adulthood.

In fact our personality seems to change mostly between the ages of 20-40 years old.

While it is possible people can work to address areas in their personality that they feel dissatisfied with, their are many people who seem to lie about how they have changed.

What About People Who Cheat Or Lie?

Many People wonder whether people who do hurtful things like lie cheat or manipulate can really change those behaviors.

Well in theory anyone stop doing something if they choose to do so. But the problem People who live in what prompted behavior and their willingness to address that emotional trigger.

Infidelity and lying happened for a number of reasons, If those underlying causes go unaaddress the behavior won’t change.

The same goes for manipulation. Many people learn to manipulate to get their needs met, this behavior can develop in childhood as a defense mechanism.

It’s often difficult Cute address in green strategy of coping and survival, but people can, and often do, learn new behaviors with support.

Considering broader behavior patterns can help. Someone who regrets their actions and expresses interest in growth may succeed at making changes.

But someone who insists they’ll change “this time” Yeah shows no remorse and makes no effort to do anything different. They may not be ready to address their behavior.

What Usually Can’t Change

While people are generally capable of change, there are some aspects that are less likely to change.

Core Personality Traits

While personality does continue to develop into childhood, core beliefs tend to remain relatively stable throughout life.

These traits known as the Big Five include:

  • Openness to experience
  • Consciousness
  • Extraversion
  • Agreeableness
  • Neuroticism

These key elements of personality tend to evolve in smaller ways instead of changing completely.

Someone who is fairly introverted in early adulthood, for example, probably won’t swing toward extraversion. Instead, they might work to become more social by seeking out and cultivating important relationships.

People who do not want to make changes in personality may find it most helpful to address beliefs as coping mechanisms associated with specific personality traits not as traits themselves.

Say you are fairly and already and have a tendency to procrastinate on projects and chores. When you notice the straight occasionally causes problems in your relationships, you make a greater effort to complete things on time and keep your living space more organized.

You didn’t really change your level of consciousness. Instead, You change your response, perhaps by reminding yourself to stay on task when you feel distracted or telling yourself your partner doesn’t want to see dirty laundry overflowing in the hamper.

Emotions

Emotions and emotional responses may not change easily either. Even unpleasant or painful feelings can have a lot of significance, and it’s tough to turn off emotions. Even when you can you shouldn’t this can affect your well-being.

By acknowledging and accepting them instead, you can teach yourself to react in more helpful ways.

Mental Health Conditions

Similarly, You can’t entirely get rid of most in mental health conditions, whether that depression, anxiety, or a personality disorder. But you can improve your symptoms are seeking treatment and learning new ways to cope.

Your Situation Is Only Temporary

Sometimes, we have to go to the circumstances that we don’t understand. Knowing that all things work together for our good encourages us and gives us hope for the future. Here’s a remarkable promised for today:

And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.

Romans 8:28

You may know that you are loved by God, but are you persuaded? Between the head and the heart God desires to do his work and you.

But as for me, I know my redeemer lives, In Job 19:25, Job said when he was tested and tried on all sides. Illness, grief, pain, suffering, spiritual attacks, and to top it all off, His wife was no help when in her depression, she counseled him to curse God and die.

Job 19:25; Job 2:9

What encouraged by neither his circumstances nor his loved ones. Even his friends reproached him, Saying if all of this had happened to him, It was Shirley because he sinned against God.

But Job knew! He knew that his savior lived in right up and take a stand for him. He knew that God will silence the enemy of his soul; The enemy of his family, the enemy of his health, the enemy who sits only to steal kill and destroy -John 10:10.

I encourage you to hold firmly to this promise: “ The god of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet – Romans 16:20. Have confidence that your situation is temporary. God has already foreseen our way out.

You know in whom you have believed: The all powerful God, the creator of the universe, the Lord of Hosts, The good Shepherd, the Alpha and the Omega… also known as the Lord God, the one who is, who was, and who is to come, The Almighty – Revelation 1:8.

So be persuaded that you were in his hands and that in Him, All things work together for good.

While we don’t look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen. For the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal. – 2 Corinthians 4:18.

Things You Should Do When You Are At Your Lowest Point In Life

We have all seen successful people, all the fame, fancy cars, and big houses but we never realize that they also had low moments. One thing is for sure what they did made them into who they are.

If you feel, that you’re lowest point of your life and have no other way up, you have come to the right place.

We have all had our lowest moments and it’s the ability to pass through these moments that makes us str.

Never be hopeless like I have been in my past at the lowest point in my life. Through all my experience. I’m going to share with you how ti walk through this path of your life and change your attitude in a completely different way.

There are 5 things you should definitely do when you are at the lowest point in your life.

Think About Yourself

The first thing you need to do is ask yourself a few questions. Ask how can you solve it? What are your mistakes?

Have you done everything you can? It’s obviously no, because you would never fail and feel this low if you have tried everything you possibly can until now.

I asked myself “where did I screw up? What do I really want in life?

You must lay down a plan of what you can do to improve every day whether it’s cutting down on spending money, being more assertive, or taking the time to sit down with your partner and discussing what needs to change to make you happy or make you want to stay in that relationship.

This would give you a clear indication of the mistakes on your part and the answers to how to solve it. Do accept the mistakes on your part.

Think About Successful People

Many successful people may have a bad past but their ability to focus on fighting back during tough times eliminated all the possible chances of failing.

By acquiring the same habits of not giving up when the going gets tough, you will,earn the secret of achieving success no matter what it is.

Most importantly, you will learn, that no matter how deep you fall, it’s the ability stand up for yourself that makes us stronger and successful each time. It’s the way of getting better in life.

Be Grateful

Remember all the good people (Parents, Partner, or children) and feel the gratitude for having then in you’re life.

Remember ask the good things that have happened to you in life and feel grateful for them. The feeling of gratefulness gives you hope and empowers you to hold on.

Watch the people around you who are in a worse situation than you are and be happy and satisfied.

Take Action

Even if you feel gratitude for all the things you possess and the ability you have to do so much more. If you don’t put it into action with great persistence, it won’t have much effect on helping you feel better.

Put into action with the combination of consistency and the burning desire to change your life and you will autonomy feel the importance of yourself. When we realize all our mistakes and work on improving and developing a feeling of importance by putting your best foot forward.

Develop And Show Your True Personality

The worst feeling is not being able to be true to yourself any situation. After spending enough time realizing your potential along with your guilts. Work on being true to yourself. It will free you, you will feel liberated.

It will help you change your life into being a more purposeful, happier person.

Remembered to do something in life that will help other people. I chose to forgive my husband for his past decisions and asked if he could also forgive me. Then we started new on building our marriage back on new terms. It is the strongest walk against all the barriers I’ve faced in life.

We must learn through the journey of life that the greatest good I. Life is what you can do for others.

After a few years of facing the lowest point in your life, you will come to the realization that it was the best opportunity to help you become not only a better person but a stronger person as well.

When you’ve reached the lowest point in you’re life. The only way to go is up. And think what do you have to lose.

Apply it to your life when you are at your lowest point and it may make you more successful in your endeavors.

I think if you apply these habits in your life you may look back after years, and think that the lowest moments are the greatest moments of opportunity you could have had, Tough times don’t last but tough people do.

It may feel like an eternity but as difficult as it may seem, it will shape you into a very strong person. And that it’s not worth giving up on your life. You deserve to be happy. Especially after some really low points in your life. Be strong and courageous for yourself.

Understanding The Seasons Of Life

The seasons in how they relate in our lives is the key to understanding how God works.

Blessed is the man Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, not sits in the seat of the scornful; but his delight is in the law (the will and ways) of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night ( Psalm 1:1).

We are told over and over again in Scripture to do the will of God and to find the will of God.

The Will Of God

“Be not comforted to this world; but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is good and acceptable, and the perfect, will of God” (Romans 12:2).

“Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise but as wise. Making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is (Ephesians 5:15-17).

Nebuchadnezzer learned that God rules over all. No matter if they are a follower or not.

“This decision is by the decree of the watchers, and the sentence by the word of the Holy ones. To the intent that by living may know that the Most High rules in the kingdoms men. Gives it to whoever He will, and sets over it the lowest of men” (Daniel 4:17).

“You shall be driven from men; and your dwelling shall be with the animals of the field. You shall be made to eat grass as oxen. Seven times shall pass over you, until you know that the Most High rules in the king of men, and gives it to whenever He will (Daniel 4:32).

The Most High is sovereign over the kingdom of men and gives them to anyone He wishes.

Seasons

“He will be like a tree planted by the streams of water, that produces its fruit in its season. Whatever he does shall prosper” (Psalm 1:3).

“To everything there is a season. A time for every purpose under heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:11).

Understand that God has a Plan for Your Life.

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).

Lessons on Life

There was a man who had 4 sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away. The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer and the youngest son in the fall. When they had all gone and came back, he called them together to describe what they had seen. The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted. The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise. The third son disagreed; he said it was covered with blossoms that smelled sweet and looked beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen. The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment. The Father explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the trees life. He told then that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that came from that life can only be measured at the end, when all seasons are up. If you give up when it’s winter, you will miss the promise of your spring,the beauty of your summer,and your fulfillment of your fall.

We like the pear tree in this story all go through seasons.

Understand:

  • We are all going through a season.
  • All seasons have a purpose.
  • If we don’t fulfill the purpose off the season then we will cause problems for the other seasons.
  • Preparation is the key to have a success season.
  • We can bear fruit even if we don’t cultivate and p,ant the land that season.

Winter Characteristics

Short days

Cold

Darkness

Death

Winter Benefits

Intimacy

Evaluation

Sabbath

Planning

Automatic

“ that you put away, as concerning your former way of life, the old man that grows corrupt after the lusts of deceit” (Ephesians 4:22).

Spring Characteristics

Transition

Preparation

New Life

“Lo, the winter is over, the rains are over and gone” ( Song of Song 2:11).

Summer Characteristics

Long days

Harvest

Growth

Summer Benefits

Reaping what you’ve sown

Celebration

“Bur the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control” ( Galatians 5:22).

Autumn Characteristics

Transition

Preparation for Winter

Autumn Benefits

Preparations

Resume Routines

“And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart” (Galatians 6:9).

How To Respond To The Seasons Of Life

  • Choose faith over frustration

“But the plans of the Lord stand firm forever, the purposes of His heart through all generations ( Psalm 33:11).

  • Choose gratitude over grumbling

“Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. Do not quench the Spirit ( 1 Thessalonians 5:16-19).

“ Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7).

  • Choose good over gain

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of a believer” (Galatians 6:9).

  • Choose to fear God rather than fear life

“The fear of the Lord leads to life: Then one rests content, untouched by trouble” (Proverbs 19:23).

For God has not given us a Spirit of fear, cowardice, timidity opposite – He has given us the opposite – boldness, confidence and the power of live and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7).