Become The CEO Of Your Own Brain

How to be the boss of your own brain, rather than letting it master you.

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, or bring peace ti all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind.

Buddha

You may have tried to control your thoughts at one time or another. With the aid of self help books, Perhaps he really tried to Be positive and show negativity the door. And this might work for a little while. But sooner or later you probably found yourself back at the starting point.

Here is another way to become the CEO of your own mind – Skillfully directing it to live in harmony with the other players of your self, body, and spirit. I will give you some steps below and you will be a master in no time.

Step 1

Listen and Acknowledge

Like all good leaders, you’re going to have to listen to your disgruntled employee and acknowledge that you’re taking its message seriously. Minds, like people can relax and let go when they feel heard and understood. Practice gratitude and think you’re mine for its contribution. “ thank you mind telling me I’ll always be alone I never find love and have a family.” “ thank you mind reminding me and if I don’t succeed and making more sales I might get fired.” These are important areas of life, and I need to pay attention to them, and do my best to take it vantage of every opportunity that comes up. I also need to learn from past experiences so I don’t keep making the same mistakes.

Step 2

Make peace with your mind

You may not like what your mind is or the way it conducts itself. In fact all that negativity can be downright irritating sometimes. But the fact is, you’re stuck with it and you can’t (and likely you won’t want you) just lobotomies it away. In the book The Happiness Trap, Dr Russ Harris, uses the example of the Israelites and Palestinians to illustrate your relationship with your mind negative thoughts. These two enemy may not like each other’s way of life, but they are stuck with each other. If they wait war on each other, the other side retaliates, and more people get hurt and buildings destroyed. When that occurs, they have a lot less energy to focus on building the health and happiness of their societies.

Yes as living in peace will allow these nations to build healthier and more prosperous society, so making peace with your mind – Excepting that negative thoughts and feelings will be there, and that you can’t control them, can allow you to focus on your actions in the present moment, so you can move ahead with your most important goals without getting fouled up. You don’t necessarily have to like the thoughts or agree with them; You just have to let them be there in the background of your mind, while you go out and get things done.

Step 3

Realizing my thoughts are just thoughts

Most of the time we don’t see our minds. They just feel like a part of us. Like the concept of infused with your thoughts. To refuse mean to get stuck together, undifferentiated. You feel like your thoughts and feelings are you – I still accept them unconditionally as the truth without really looking at themI – so accept them unconditionally as the truth without really looking at them. When we think that we’re failures and boring Then we think I must be a failure and boring. Well, isn’t that nice? Now I feel really wonderful. This kind of simple ethic logic seems to prevail because we can’t see our own minds, so we have difficulty stepping outside ourselves and getting an objective observer’s perspective.

In actuality, our thoughts are passing, mental events, influenced by our moods, states of hunger or tiredness, physical health, hormones, sex, the weather, what we watched on TV last night, We ate for dinner, what we learned as kids, and so on. They are like mental habits. And like any habits, they can be healthy or unhealthy. They also like the other habits take time to change. Just like a couch potato can’t get up and run a marathon right away, we can’t magically turn off our Spinney negative thought Feeling cycles without repeated practice and considerable effort. And even then, our overactive mind will still send us the negative stuff sometimes.

Step 4

Observe your own mind

The saying “know your enemy” Also actable in our relationship with our minds. What a good leader Spences time walking through the offices getting to know the employees, so we need to devote time to getting to know how our minds work day to day. Call it mindfulness, meditation, or quiet time. Time spent observing your mind is as important for time spent exercising. When you try to focus your mind on the in and out rhythm as you breathe, we’re on trees and flowers when you walk in nature, what does your mind you? If it’s like mine, it wanders all over the place – Mostly bring up old worries or unsolved problems from the day. And if left unchecked, It can take you out of the peacefulness of the present moment, and into a spiral of worry, fear, and judgment.

Mindfulness involves not only noticing where your mind goes when it wanders, but also gently bring it back to the focus on breath, eating, walking, loving, or working. When you do this repeatedly over months or years, you would need to train your runaway mind. Like a good CEO, you begin to know when your mind is checked out or it’s just spinning its wheels, and you can gently guide it to get back with the program. When it tries to takeoff on its own, you can gently remind it that it’s an interdependent Any sexual part of the whole enterprise of you.

Step 5

Retrain your brain to rewire your brain

There’s an old and rather wise saying “ we are what we repeatedly do.”To this I would add, “ we become what we repeatedly think.” Over long periods, our patterns of thinking we can access into billions of neurons in our brains, connecting them together and unique, entrenched patterns. When certain brain pathways connect between different components or ideas they are frequently repeated, the neurons begin to fire or transmit Information together in a rapid, interconnected sequence. Once the first that starts the whole sequence is activated.

Auto pilot is great for driving a car, But not so great for emotional functioning. For example, you may have deep-seated fears to getting close to people because you were missed treated as a child. Can you learn to love, you need to become aware of the whole negative sequence and how it’s biasing your perception, Label these reactions as belonging to the past, and refocus your mind and present moment experience. Overtime, you can begin to change the wiring of your brain so your prefrontal cortex if you are able to influence and shut off your rapidly firing fear-based thoughts. And, this is exactly what the brain imaging studies on effects of mindfulness therapy has shown.

Step 6

Practice self compassion

According to self compassion research this is described as a healthy way of relating to yourself. Well we can’t easily change our gut level feeling and reaction that our minds and bodies produce, we can change how we respond these feelings. Most of us are taught that vulnerable feelings or signs of weakness – to be hidden from others at all costs. But this is dead wrong! Expressing your vulnerability can be a source of strength and confidence, if properly managed,

When we judge our feelings, when you check with the benefit of those feelings. They are valuable sources of information about our reaction to events in our lives, and they can tell us what is most meaningful and important to us. Emotions are signals telling us to reach out for comfort or to take time out to rest and replenish. Rather than criticizing ourselves, we can learn new ways of supporting ourselves in our suffering. We may deliberately seek out inner and outer experiences that bring us joy or comfort, memories of happy times with people we love, the beauty of nature, or creative self-expression. Connecting with these resources and help us navigate the difficult feelings while staying grounded in the present.

To be a successful CEO of your own mind, you need to listen, get to know your employee, acknowledge its contribution, realize it is nature, make peace within it, implement a retraining of your employee development program, and treated kindly. It will replay you with a lifetime of loyalty and service to the values and goals that you most cherish.

Is Your Soul Exhausted

Soul exhaustion will drain your spirit in a way you never knew possible.

You’re tired. And it’s a type of tired that has seeped into your bones. You don’t know how to rid yourself of it. It’s so heavy it has become a part of you.

Sadly it’s become your new normal.

Feeling live your have energy is a thing of the past. When your friends and family ask you to do anything after eight-o- clock in the evening. You respond by saying “that’s not going to happen.” You barely have enough energy to keep you eyelids open during a long day at work or keeping up with the kids, let alone go our after you’ve finished the day.

But it’s not just about the immense energy that you need to summon to keep your eyelids open, either. It’s test you seem to have no energy do to anything.

It takes to much energy to clean your house well, talk to friends or family members. It takes to much energy to talk to anyone that are pressing on your heart and soul. It takes to much energy to even disagree with things that people say that that trouble you.

It’s too much energy to hope for things you’ve been dreaming about. You no longer allow yourself to get excited about the good things in life. You feel like you have nothing left to give. And so you just don’t engage in anything.

But, there’s a reason why you can’t summon that energy for these simple things. There’s a reason why you don’t engage, and let yourself dream about the unknown path doing so has left you drained of your emotion.

A Soul that’s exhausted can feel like you’re running a race without an end. It seems like you’re treading on water for hours in the middle of the sea. Soul exhaustion feels like you have no more tears left to cry, not only are your tear ducts empty but your spirit is also.

A person that’s soul exhausted only wants to be in a quiet atmosphere and get lots and lots of sleep. It becomes easy for you to withdraw, craving solitude because it’s easier that engaging with people in your life.

When this happens I hope then you can pause and dig deeper. I hope you take time to stop and think about why you want to withdraw from the life you’ve been living and resist the urge to give into withdraw completely.

You need to recognize and take time to figure out what you need to make your soul feel alive again. The difference between needing time alone and withdrawing from everyone and everything around you is a exhausted soul.

Maybe you need a break from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Perhaps you just need a few days to yourself. Maybe a new routine, job, new group of friends. Perhaps you need to speak up for what you need more of (tell someone). Maybe you just need to get more comfortable with saying “no.”

Start by asking for help you don’t need to do everything alone. Ask for help with cleaning your house, taking care of the kids. Remind yourself it is okay to ask for help. It doesn’t mean you a failure if you ask for help.

Take time to breathe look for the beauty in the world.

Whatever it is that’s exhausting your soul, give yourself permission and space to figure it out. Life is a gift to be treasured.

There Is No Chemical Or Immortality Solution To A Spiritual Problem

For years I had a emptiness inside of me. I tried to fill with any chemicals or immortality I could find.

Once I realized that hole i had in my heart could only be filled with Jesus. I never had to look back. Only forward. Yes, I still have to deal with life on life’s terms, but now I don’t have to deal with in alone.

If you’ve ever have struggled with addiction or immortality. I want to tells you that no matter what you have done or been through their is God that loves you more than you will ever realize. For years I felt alone and scared that no one could ever love me or even want to be with me because I was too broken.

God has paid the highest price to get you back. And He did it when you were at your worst.

Silence – Best Response To A Verbal Attack

The whole point of a verbal attack is to unsettle you, so don’t give them the satisfaction. Stay calm, cool and collected despite any taught or insults. To do this, it halo to breathe deeply, count silently, and mentally repeat affirmations, such as “ I will remain calm.” And dismiss the person’s attack

Ways To Respond To Verbal Abuse

1. Ignore it. Ignoring verbal abuse may sound like unrealistic advice. How do you ignore someone who is screaming in your face and calling you names that make up want to give them a throat punch. Believe it or not, ignoring an attack is extremely effective because verbal abusers thrive on the way their victim responds. Their goal is to hurt you, if you are seemingly indifferent, it will trip them up or keep the abusers from getting their desired result.

2. Don’t Get Emotional. Again – it’s easier said then done. Crying, yelling, falling apart, and other emotional responses are what your abuser is after. Don’t give it to them. Rather than cry when you’re hurt by something someone said, try to focus on how screwed up they must be to treat people so poorly. Shifting your perception of what’s happening will help you to not take it personally.

3. Set Boundaries. Setting boundaries is initially difficult but with courage and consistency, it can be extremely effective. Not just in potentially changing another’s treatment of you, but also in altering your own level of confidence and self-respect. This practice will help you to develop a sense of self-worth. It’s up to you totes h people how to treat you. Try using responses like, “I won’t respond to you if you scream tame, please lower your voice.’ Or “if you continue calling me names, this conversation is over – you can communicate without name-calling.”

4. Give It Time. Letting things cool down before you attempt discourse can positively impact the overall tone and result of your discussion. Agreeing to or insisting that you give one another space for a set amount of time and then revisiting the conversation later helps to keep your responses more rational. You can say something like, “We’re both upset right now, let’s revisit this in a few hours when we’ve had a chance to calm down.”

5. Don’t Add Fuel To The Fire. Meeting crazy with crazy doesn’t help anyone – it escalates conflicts to unnecessary levels. When someone pulls all the crazy out, remain calm, cool, and collected. Don’t respond to screaming with screaming or name calling with name calling. When they go low, you go high. They may realize how belligerent their behaving and it should help to de-escalate matters to a more reasonable level.

6. Anticipate And Avoid. In verbally abusive relationships, there is an abuser and a victim and they go through a recurring and familiar cycle of abuse. The victim begins to know when an abusive attack is coming, they can feel the hostility building and they know what sets the abuser off. When this is the case, and you know an altercation is in the foreseeable future, avoid it. Go visit a family member, stay at work late, if you have children take them out, do whatever you need to do to avoid an explosive environment until the dust settles.

7. Stand Up For Yourself. There are calm and rational ways for a person to stand up for themselves without being emotional or hostile. Find ways to be assertive and confident. If someone is degrading and belittling you, it is okay to say, “Those things are untrue and it is unacceptable to say that to me.” Or “Don’t speak to me that way, I’m worth much more than that statement Implies.”

I get it, some people just want to scream obscenities at you, and won’t listen to reason. Remain silent and walk away. Even if it means staying the night a a family or friends house. Come back when they have calmed down and will listen to what you have to say.

The Power Of Self-Talk

Are you aware you talk to yourself all the time? We all do. Our self-talk makes a huge difference in our lives for better or for worse. The question to ask yourself is whether your inner voice is a friend or an enemy.

Our unconscious is impacted by the words we say in the same way that it is when other people talk to us. How we speak to ourselves can be a powerful tool. The power of self-talk is the most underutilized available resource to aster our minds and improve our lives. Our thoughts influence our feelings, choices, and actions. Positive thinkers are more optimistic, confident, and successful. Their effect is contagious and uplifts friends, co-workers, and loved ones.

Our Role Models

Starting in childhood, our self-talk develops over time. If you’ve ever watched young children play, you’ve overheard them talk to them, their dolls, action figures, and their friends in words and tone are similar to what they’ve heard from influential adults, especially their parents. How parents talk to them and also how they talk to them and each other provide role models. Gradually, children internalize that voice.

This usually is a positive development that helps children master tasks, comfort themselves, and learn to interact with peers. Unless your childhood was less than perfect. Patient teachers and parents teach children patience with themselves, but undermining, critical, or angry role models teach children to talk to themselves with doubt, frustration, and scorn.

Codependents grow up in dysfunctional families where parents generally provide ineffective role models, ranging from neglect, emotionally reactivity, over control, disapproval, or blatant verbal abuse. Even when we’ll-meaning parents tell their children they shouldn’t feel ashamed or sad, parents are inadvertently shaming their children’s authentic feelings. This can lead to internalized shame which can have major detrimental effects on adult functioning.

The Trio- The Critic, Perfectionist, And Pusher

They work in connection reinforcing one another and can make life a living heck. The Perfectionist sets up idealistic standards, the Pusher push’s us to achieve them, and the Critic faults us for never succeeding.

  • The Perfectionist

Expects us to be superhuman, ensuring that we fail to meet its unattainable standards.

  • The Pusher

Is a relentless taskmaster, depriving us of enjoyment of life and pleasure.

  • The Critic

Tells us we’re never good enough.

The Perfectionist and the Pusher can help us achieve our goals if we have positive perfectionism. But of all three, the Critic does the most damage and can undermine our self-esteem. Trying something new and making decisions can be near impossible because of the anxiety that things won’t turn out will. In actuality, we’re afraid of our own inner critic. The Critic is also as essential difference between positive and negative perfectionism. This trio creates anxiety, depression, and inactivity.

Many people aren’t even aware of the extent to which they accuse, blame, and deny themselves. Many people live with the tyranny of the should’ve. They order themselves around and second-guess themselves after the fact. There are those individuals who believe that they must push and punish themselves to improve or achieve anything. Their afraid that they’ll end up as lumps on the couch. Never mind that they’re pushing and reproaching themselves into depression by creating greater unhappiness and dissatisfaction in their lives and those of their families.

The power of self-talk can swamp our with anxiety and rumination and overpower us with shame and painful emotions. It can offer comfort and encouragement or make us feel anxious and inadequate. It can provide self-discipline and organization or make us feel overwhelmed and defeated. It can ruin our lives, job opportunities and relationships, or it can be harnessed to raise our self-esteem, achieve our goals, and uplift our outlook and enjoyment of life.

Changing Our Self-Talk

Although we’ve become accustomed to these inner voices, they can be changed. But, it first requires our becoming more aware of them and developing mindfulness about our self-talk. There are some steps that have to be taken to reform these voices that include gaining an understanding of their motives and standards and learning to modify and counteract them. There are several steps you can do immediately.

1. Practice Mindfulness. Unless you’re actually aware of your inner voice, you can’t change them. Begin by writing down your negative self-talk on a daily basis. Write down your negative self-talk, should include all your should and shouldn’t s this will make thrum more conscious and provide you with choices.

2. Self-Distancing. Practice positive self-talk by addressing yourself in the third-person. This has the effect of self-distancing by shifting the focus away from yourself.

There has been research done that proves that by calling yourself by name, you begin to talk to yourself as you would a third person, it helps regulate your emotions because you are less emotionally involved and acquire a larger perspective. In effect, your emotional brain is less triggered, and you become wiser. This simple change has a profound positive impact on reducing shame, anxiety, and depression. It provides you with increased clarity and better judgement in dealing with work and relationships.

Affirmations

This builds thinking habits. We should spend each day and throughout the day we should repeat positive self-talk. Not Surprisingly if you say a prayer each morning, but negate yourself the test of the day, which words do you think will have more impact? Of course the Positive ones.

Try to make your positive self-talk outweigh any negative self-talk. By doing this you can develop an improved outlook and attitudes, which can lead to better health and de and greater success in your relationships and work.