There Comes A Time When You Have To Stop Crossing Ocean’s For People Who Wouldn’t Even Jump A Puddle For You.

Have you ever heard this quote? I always thought it was accurate. But today I had a check in my spirit.

I was at the grocery store and I ran into a couple who used to be good friends. I hadn’t spoke to them for a few years.

Today I went up to them and asked how they were. Immediately I got the cold shoulder. My thoughts were “ her and I used to go to convention together. I always drove because she was on oxygen and didn’t have a car. We used to go the lunch all the time.

A few years ago I had stopped volunteering for a group, because I was being taken advantage of and felt like I was being disrespected.

She barely said Hi to me today, and this quote came to mind. Thinking she wasn’t worth my time anymore. I would just ignore her. When I was going to my car after checking out. I immediately felt that check.

Do cross oceans for people because we are called to love all people with no conditions attached. Don’t worry whether or not they are worthy. Cross oceans, climb mountains. Life isn’t about what you gain, it’s about what you give. And it changed my mind.

Just because an old friend doesn’t understand how you feel. Don’t change who you are or how you feel.

Still be the amazing person, you always were. And do not change for anyone, no matter the reason. You don’t have to have lunch with them every week, or have deep conversations with them. But be polite with them. Don’t disrespect them just because they disrespected you.

Your Real Friends Are The Ones Who Will Tell You The Truth

Your real friends won’t sugarcoat the truth. They won’t lie to you just to make you feel better. They will tell you the harsh reality of any situation you find yourself in.

I would rather someone tell me the hard truth, instead of telling me a lie. “Say it like it is please.”

Your real friends are going to tell you when you look like a hot mess. They will tell you when your making a huge mistake. And they are fully aware that this could ruin your day, but they are just looking out for you. Those are my kind of friends.

True friends will tell you what you don’t even know. They notice the things that set you off. They notice the people who annoy you and the people who you are drawn to. They notice if you act differently around people, or a partner who isn’t treating you well.

Your real friends are the ones who don’t care about saying something you don’t want to hear.

True friends don’t fake anything, regardless if it hurts your feelings. Why! Because they want you to live your best life. They want you to be happy. And sometimes we can’t tell when we’re falling apart.

Real friends will be the one to tell you when you have lipstick on your teeth, but will be the ones to tell you your partner is not faithful to you.

If they see how someone is treating you, and are blinded by love, they won’t pretend to like him. They won’t pretend it’s okay. They will let you know. They will tell you the truth that you sometimes really don’t want to hear.

But that’s what real friends are for. To pick you up when you fall apart. To lift your spirits when you have to break up with a crappy boyfriend. To buy you Kleenex and watch sad movies. To drink to much wine with you, and have a girls night out.

That’s what real friends are for. To tell you what you already know in your gut, but are scared to admit it.

Tory don’t do things out of spite, they don’t do it out of jealousy. They do it out of pure love for you. They don’t want you to settle with anything in your life. You deserve better.

Your real friends are the ones who have the highest standards for you. And that’s because they love you with their whole hearts. That’s an incredible friendship. Real friends are honest, no matter how much the truth can hurt.

Bad Habits You Must Eliminate If You Want A Happy Life.

A life filled with toxicity is not created by bad luck or circumstance it is created by a cycle of bad habits and a negative mind set. By conditioning and by repeated habits, consciously or unconsciously.

We all have bad habits in our lives that are ruining and hampering the level of growth in our lives and it is never too late to eliminate these habits to improve the quality of life.

Bad habits are continual practices that deteriorate our quality of our lives. It could be mentally, physically or spiritually. With the chaos of life, it is sometimes difficult for us to slow down, critically evaluate and reflect on the habits that we are cloning. Both the good habits and the bad habits and then amend these habits.

These habits could be the little things we do everyday, the truth is that bad habits are hard to break bit it is possible. If you must eliminate these bad habits you’ll need to work on how the gears in your mind, not creating an anchor around the circumstances and people in you life.

Comparison

This is a major spike in negativity, we induce into our lives, we are often too quick to pull down our own unique blinds and usher ourselves to try and be life others “if I was only like her/him.” We are constantly taunted by the light of the other person we fail to realize that we carry so much more.

You have castles inside your bones, coronets in your heart, you are a unique being who has so much value in this world. You deserve to be here, you are loved, please don’t believe anything different. You have magic in your soul, even though to feel broken.

Remembering your unique identity. The timing in your life is perfect. Everything is working for your improvement and your development is good.

Don’t be consumed by what you are not. Live in truth and power.

There will never be another you. That alone makes you wonderful and special.

Your story is valid. It is teaching you something, it has a purpose and you are a living testimony of the purpose.

Negative Beliefs

Our thoughts are keys to our development and improvement, the thoughts we consume are capable of enhancing our lives or putting a stop to our rapid growth and development. Negativity is a bad habit that subtly creeps into our minds, configuring that shades of truth to falsehood.

These negative beliefs can be built from assumptions, challenges, criticisminsecurities, anxiety and fear of the unknown. Constantly harboring negative beliefs is a quick trip to unhappiness.

You cannot begin to change or eliminate bad habits if you don’t recognize them in the first place. The first step to creating any change in life to realize change needs to happen. So start by acknowledging the bad habits.

Negative beliefs are cannibalistic, the more you feed it, the bigger and stronger it grows. People who project negativity typically have low self esteem, they feel bah about themselves and their negativity is simply a reflection of those feelings instead of entertaining and processing these negative thoughts, take change and challenge them.

The mind of a human is capable of anything: you can alter your life to a progressive lane through your thoughts. Rather than ushering in negativity with your words, adopt positive declarations. Instead of saying “I’m behind in life” ask yourself where did the timeline idea come from, and is it valid?

Instead of saying I’m not enough ask yourself who profits off your insecurity and beauty standards?

Instead of saying “I’ll never find love, ask yourself how can I make more room for the love you already have.

Instead of saying “I’m not good enough,” ask yourself how you can be good for myself right now?

Instead of saying “I’m going to fail,” ask yourself since failure in inevitable in life, how can I let it be okay?

We are what we repeatedly do, excellent is not an act but a habit. The routines we continually practice make a huge impact in our lives and most times we fail to employ positive routines to guide our daily activities.

We practice bad habits like checking our phone first thing in the morning, consuming to much sugar, spending to much time on social media, wasteful spending, long term use of pain killers, not drinking water, neglecting our emotions.

Our daily routines kick up your momentum to take charge for the rest of the day.

The quality of your routine and the activities you engulfed in daily outline the quality of your life. Everyday you make choices,you could choose at the beginning of your day as you are waking up to do the thing you know you have to be doing at that moment or the choice to fake back and find comfort in laziness.

Keep Your Head High Up.

Keep Your Head High No Matter What Happens. You’ll Be Alright. If The Moment Hurts, Do Not Fall Victim To Its Pain. Look Ahead. Focus On Dreams. You’ll make it.

So you spilled your cup of coffee on your white shirt before walking into an important meeting. And last night, that text message you sent off never got read, when you were really were counting on a response. and to top off just how great your week has been going, your on the way to get lunch and your check engine light comes on, you had a mechanic look at it over the weekend and he said everything was fine.

Alright the things listed above are hypothetical, however they are absolutely not impossible. You can have those off days. It could be more or less harsh than to spilled coffee or a car issue. Maybe you lose your phone or your keys, maybe you’ll lose a family member of friend. Life happens. But the beautiful thing about it is that, no matter what you go through today or tomorrow or next week or in the next 5 years and so on. You have the power to control your attitude towards it all.

I know it’s superficial to always here “don’t worry, everything will be ok” and “there’s people who have it worse.” You want someone to genuinely understand you and see you as an individual but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. But, don’t worry, your feelings and emotions and the thing’s you have experienced aren’t overlooked completely. You matter. I might not know who you are or where you are, I want you to know from one human to another who’s been through a lot to another.

Breath because you can. Look in the mirror for a few moments and remind yourself how many things you’ve made it through. And you are still here. You’re strong. I know things don’t go the way you want them to. I can relate. But the way life goes is the way it’s going to go, no matter what, accept it and let go of the fear of what might happen next.

Embrace that you’re more than your anger and sadness and you are definitely much more than dwelling on the past and the things you cannot change.

If you have a bad day, make it better by listening to your favorite music or calling someone you love ( not to complain but to have them lift you up.) Maybe talking to someone if just what you need in that moment.

Having Intention

We live in a world of intense distraction, where multitasking is commonplace. And the results have been predictable. We have trouble focusing and managing time. People who are the best time managing time. People who are the best time managers know how to focus, do what they do, and move on to the next task. When you do too many things at once, gets nothing done.

When we are not able to focus, we are lacking intention. What is intention? Intention is mentally giving direction to something- like determining the perferred outcome of a goal. Intention is knowing what you want from an activity. It is where the drive to focus and execute the activity stems from. You cannot focus without directing your attention to one thing intensely one thing that you approach with purpose.

Having Small-Scale Intention

In order to have intention on a small scale, such as approaching a single task or project with direction and a goal in mind. You must define what you do accept in your process, and what you do not. Avoiding what is unnecessary is a key part of having intention. For example: if you’re intention is to ask your boss for a raise, you would go into the meeting with your boss prepared to sell your accomplishments to him or her. You would avoid bringing up conflicts with coworkers and you shortcomings as an employee.

Having Marco-Scale Intention

The principle above are applicable to the scale of your entire life. Intention is the first link between knowing what your life to be like and actually living that life. The second link that follows intention is action. What is your vision for what you want in your life? What don’t you want? For example: if you intend to have a happy healthy marriage, you would set your mind on being loving, communicating well, being respectful, and having a shared life purpose. You would exclude any kind of abuse in your relationship. Another example: You want to be a good person, and you would exclude negative activities that distract you from bringing our your fundamental goodness.

Ahurde that people encounter with good or “pure” intentions Is that the desire to do something positive is there, but the results are thwarted by negative events. That’s why it is so vital to exclude what you don’t want when you’re trying to set and act on positive intention. If you protect your intentions like you’d protect a small child from harm,you’ll be more likely to succeed at actualizing them.

Stop Trying To Calm The Storm. Calm Yourself, The Storm Will Pass

Everyone’s been there. In the midst of an argument when things get serious. Heated words are exchanged. One thing leads to another, and before long your ready to tear out each other’s hair.

We think of confrontation as an aggressive thing but it shouldn’t be a defensive maneuver of a counterattack. A healthy, fruitful confrontation is marked by empathy, calm and commitment. Also a smidgen of hostility. Unless you’re from some kind of guru, you’re likely to have some trouble shifting back down to neutral after one of those arguments.

Learning how to regain your composure is more that personal development. Losing your cool in the workplace can cost you your career.

Here are some ways to channel more positive energy:

Walk Away

It’s the oldest trick in the book, but it works. It can help both people and helps balance your environment. But wait until the other person says everything they want to say.

Clear Your Mind

After you have walked away from a argument, stretch yourself with a walk in the fresh air. Push all the negative words that the person said and replace it with positive memories such a a good weekend or a recent gathering with friends. This kind of neurological substitution can really works wonders. If your walk takes you to a quiet place, consider having a brief break and re-center yourself.

Engage In Another Task. Sometimes emerging yourself in a new effort is the best way to calm down. Calm your nerves by vigorously working to attain a reasonable goal.

A Few Words About Empathy. You have to be clear. But there are two kinds of clarity. The first kind is easy. “I feel this way.” That’s clear if somewhat unhelpful. The second kind takes a little more work. “ I believe that you feel this way.” That’s empathy. And empathy changes everything. The whole idea of any kind of conflict management is to understand why the person is doing what they’re doing that’s driving you crazy. You can often solve the problem or learn to tolerate it or generate a work-around. Try to cool down a bit. Take a breath. Now check your assumptions. Try to see things from another perspective.

Ask yourself if you’ve had and role in the offending behavior, even indirectly. Could it possibly be true that your own actions have contributed to the behavior you’re objecting to.

What Are The Spiritual Disciplines?

I added 12 spiritual disciplines that lists 12 disciplines that are created to become closer to God.

Spiritual Discipline is defined as “training expected to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior. Discipline is not part of the sin nature, but it is a natural component of the Christian life. Almost nothing of any significance in our lives is ever accomplished with out it.

Self-disciplines can be described as those behaviors that augment our spiritual growth and enable us to grow to spiritual maturity. This process of spiritual growth and development begins to take place the moment a person encounters the risen Christ and comes to Him for salvation.