Do We Prevent Ourselves From Finding Happiness?

Two Things Prevent Us From Living In Happiness. Living In The Past, And Observing Others.

Living in the past: when we spend too much time thinking about what we did do or wishing that we hadn’t done. Or focusing on how things did not go the way we wanted them to. I know for me some certain thoughts or triggers bring up the past. Things I wished I did but didn’t. It’s funny how you go back and think of what you should have said or done and dwell on it for days or hours. Why, when you can’t do anything about it. Like if someone is talking about their mother, or someone asks about mine.

It just keeps us stuck in the past unable to move forward. I have learned to practice mindfulness. It teaches you to be in the present moment and over time you spend less time thinking about the past. Rehashing, I for one am guilty of this. We spend so much of our mental energy on our past. Think about all time you would free up by being mindful and the stress you wouldn’t have.

Observing others: trying to keep up with the Joneses. We try to be like everyone else. What they have they have, and what you have you have. Stop trying to be like everyone else and be yourself. We all want to be successful and happy but, we won’t get it is like someone else. We get it by being ourselves. Don’t spend your time watching everyone else spend you time on being a successful happy you. No faking or imitating others. Just because it worked for them doesn’t mean it going to work for you in the same way.

We can be our own worst enemies when it comes to finding happiness. Overthinking and rehashing thing from our past. Comparing ourselves to others and the judging ourselves for not being at that same level. We are too hard on ourselves. Healthy competition is fine, using some one else as a goal post to strive towards in good. However we need to recognize that what’s right for someone else might not be what’s right for you.

It’s time to stop getting in our own way and preventing ourselves from finding the happiness we all want.

Every Challenge Is An Opportunity To Succeed.

The ability and desire to embrace challenge is already ingrained in our minds, whether we realize it or not.

The challenges we face are real, and so is the opportunity not only to overcome then, but to grow and prosper in the process. You maybe faces challenges, your boss is watching you, it may make you nervous but would if he’s not watching you for a bad reason. Would if it’s a challenge for an opportunity? You might have huge college loan depths, children or special issues.

We all have the ability inside of us to succeed. One of the ways I face a personal challenge in the past was to separating the issues and concentrating on them one at a time. When you break it down it isn’t so scary to look at. .

Look clearly and critically at each of your challenges, the things you may have been referring to as problems, and list them on paper, so you can really examine them. Few of us like to look at unpleasant situations in the eye, but that is just what you have to do if your going to change anything you see as a challenge.

But there is one thing above all others, that I encourage you to accept as you begin to turn challenges into opportunities. It is Never compromise who you are personally to become who you wish financially. This is the only rule I have in my life for every challenge I need to overcome.

Attract What You Expect

Attract What you expect, reflect what you desire become what you respect, mirror what you admire.

Anonymous

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothing she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty is a woman is reflected in her soul.- Audrey Hepburn.

“Attract What expect, reflect what you desire, become what you respect, mirror what you admire.”

Let’s take a closer look at this quote.

Attract what you Expect: Your thoughts are powerful they are vibrational and they create movements, revolutions, and global changes. If your thoughts are that powerful. We should begin practicing and choosing to hold ones that are uplifting and will create ripples of love and strength. The thoughts you focus on are what can manifest in your life. You are deserved of good things. Expect good things.

Reflect what you desire: You may be one of those women who have criteria for an ideal mate. I know many women that have done this. None of are perfect. But what is you want a man a man perfectly fit with great abs. Then you need to learn how to meal prep and go to some yoga classes or Pilates class a couple times a week. We become the reflection of whom we desire. If you go to the local bar to find a mate your going to find a drinker there. Would you like a drinker as a mate.

Become what you respect: Surround yourself with motivated, inspiring and loving people. Choose a mentor that can add value to your life. We all need mentorship. All the world’s leaders has a mentor an accountant-ability partner someone’s who will ignite passion in them or encourage them to stay on course when the roads gets rocky. When I see someone I respect I learn from them.

Mirror what you admire: Audrey Hepburn in someone I’ve always admired. My father named me after her sister Katherine. I also admire old films, how the actresses carried themselves. Being graceful, poised, polished and refined are examples of actions I admire. By being mindful of our actions, and authentic self with polite behavior is far more admiring. Then be a reactor who fake and rude.

This can be mirrored by sitting or standing up straight, listening without interrupting, remembering to say please and thank you, choosing an appropriate dinner conversation, being mindful of the company that’s around the table and always having good manners. These are all great habits and behavior is important to how we treat others.

I few years ago I met a lady that was very negative about herself and others. She would say how terrible things were in her life someone did this to me someone did that. Don’t get wrong she was kind and friendly enough. She was just negative. When I told her to think positive she would smile and then keep on with the negative words. After a few failed relationships she began you realize she needed to change. You cannot have a negative attitude all the time and expect positive things to happen in your life. Positive thoughts and words create positive things. Negative thoughts create negative things.

Are You Afraid To Die?

Hatred, violence and death threats have escalated. Many people have been targeted because of their race, cultural beliefs or their religion.

It’s a scary thought when you think about it, knowing that you might be walking down the street one day and have someone attack you for no reason.

Are you afraid to die?

I am not afraid to here’s why.

Because of the type of things I have happened in my life. I have come close to death a few times, even pronounced dead by the doctors. Yet I’m still here.

I am not afraid of dying, I know where I’m going when I do. I know it’s a far better place than where I am right now. While I don’t like to be in pain. I’m afraid of an extended period of pain I might have to endure.

If your a Christian you probably believe that God is in control of everything. And you know the blessings you will have when you have to leave this earth.

If you know where your going you have nothin to fear. I know when I take my last breath, I will wake up and see Gods face.

The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 5:8 Apostle Paul says we would be absent from the body but we would be with the Lord.

For if we have been unified with Jesus in a death like his, we will certainly also be united with him in a resurrection like his. (Romans 6:5)

If you believe that you have a soul, And believe the Bible is your instruction manual for life, and you obey God at all costs no matter what situations come around. There is no reason to fear death.

Signs Your Soul Is Speaking To You

The soul is the truth of who we are-

Marianne Williamson

If we believe that our souls are the truth of who we are, it’s not surprising that so many people are having a hard time.

Everything in our society takes us away from the depth of ourselves. Our souls need to be fed in order to flourish and thrive but, the problem is too often we don’t fed it.

Many of us feel the urge of our soul. But ignore that urge. We need to listen to it and shed outdated ideas on what it means to feel whole inside. And we need to feel whole in order to be happy.

It is a challenging time when people are experiencing a darkness in their soul and the confusion that goes along with it.

Their some people that say our body needs to align with your soul. I think it’s the opposite-that your body should align with your soul. If we did everything that makes our soul happy we would be better off.

Awakening to your soul is not only normal but necessary for the evolution of your soul. Awakening should be a deep urge to discover the truth that lies behind your soul.

Our bodies do have a lot to do with our soul. To if feels like I’m being pulled between who I should be and who I’m meant to be. I’ve talked to others that say it feels like they’ve lost themselves in their roles to the point they don’t know who they are anymore.

If we would listen to the call of our soul. Then and only then can we move in the direction of thriving. If we don’t listen our emotional and physical health suffer.

Our soul is relentless and with go to exceedingly long lengths to get our attention.

Signs Your Soul Is Speaking To You

  • You are beginning to notice to realize that all the material things in the world isn’t going to fill that hole anymore.
  • You have this feeling the something needs to be expressed through you. That you need to seek something, but you don’t know what it is.
  • You realize the while the roles are important, you feel like their is just something more.
  • You desire meaningful relationships the feel real and true. You have the urge to be around self-minded people.
  • You notice that you value system is changing. And you need a whole new priority list.
  • You are curious and open to the idea of having a deeper connection to something greater than yourself.
  • You begin to realize that there are spiritual laws at work but you don’t know how to tap into them. You feel drawn to the unknown. Maybe to find the light in your soul.
  • You may have a urge to align with your inner soul. To find out what it about.

We all need an awareness and the understand the awakening of our souls. An awakened so leads to exciting new ideas.

To know your soul is a true freeing experience.

Stuck In Survival Mode

When worry takes over your life.

When you can’t stop feeling worried or obsessed with what is threatening your stability in life, a stress response based on past traumas or recent ones.

With the world in its state it very hard to not let it take over our lives.

Survival mode is the term we are giving a pervasive sense of fear, stress and anxiety over issues that are not a real threat, though they are experienced on a daily basis in the form of vivid mental hypotheticals. If we listen to most media channels or even social media we can be frightened and have very vivid thoughts.

Survival mode is an overactive stress response that drives people to obsessively think about painful things: things past and things to come, endlessly analyzing and solving for “would if.” In the worst version of brain overdrive you can imagine. all the time . It’s a anxiety so powerful that it takes over your life.

This state can come in varying degrees Forming and horrible sense of panic to manageable but overwhelming worry. Regardless it’s always something that keep you outside of your life unable to truly engage in enjoy it as you see others doing. Space I want to do itRegardless it’s always something that keep you outside of your life unable to truly engage in enjoy it as you see others doing. Living in survival mode, you want to run but don’t know where. Nothing feel safe except checking out at your body so most in survival mode we end up drowning themselves in busyness or live and problems of other people. This is never healthy what’s the stainable for many reasons, the most dangerous of which being the lack of connection to self, and with that, a lack of self-care. This is a powerful issue that causes Many people a whole lot of pain.

The more long-term trauma happens to be, the more this behavior loops will be engrained into you mental memory. No matter how bad your trauma. You can absolutely help yourself, soothe yourself and move through this issue steadily but surely.

There are three parts to every what, why. Here are some ideas to make your own rules:

The What

Survival mode is like a cousin of PTSD in that it results from trauma (likely long term trauma) sometimes trauma that happen consistently for a short amount of time. It can also be from traumas that happened in a pattern so they created a sense of a new confirmed reality in you. Traumatic experiences change the way you define your world.

What do I mean about trauma? They’re experiences that evolve terror, extreme stress or an overwhelming panic that causes you adrenaline to spike far past what it might during a really exciting movie. They’re usually fear-inducing situations that don’t match the average of you life experiences in their level of severity. What’s most relevant level of your experiences reset your “normal” because your brain can’t make them make sense with the rest of your life, so it raises the range of expected events to include terror and evil and “run for your life.” Your brain with hurt for other comparable information so that you can put this to some order, if you’ve been through trauma, you might find yourself putting yourself in more dangerous situations. That’s a way that you feel “in control” of the intense fear- a way to create “normal” between all your emotions that accounts for the vast extremes. When you go through a trauma, your brain wants you to rearrange everything else to feel, comfortable with these truths- because otherwise, it’s intolerable. It cannot predict or protect you if you cannot make sense of the logic behind something. You cannot anticipate it-or align it with anything else.