Healing A Wounded Heart

Broken heart syndrome is very real. It’s an emotional distress than can cause a heart attack it’s also called self-induced cardiomyopathy, and it can strike even if you’re healthy. Women are more likely than men to experience sudden Intense chest pain. Stress hormones flood the body where there is a shock from a divorce, death or any tragic event. ”In broken heart syndrome, a part of your heart temporarily enlarges and doesn’t pump well, while the rest of your heart functions normally or with even more forceful contractions.” When we allow people into our lives, we take a risk that it will end in heartbreak. It doesn’t matter of you are the one break in it off or the one that was discarded, pain is something hard to deal with.

In many instances when people are struggling with wounds, there’s a tendency to stuff the hurt or hide it in order to persevere. But, you will find out, the results of this will never achieve a way out. Open the door to find peace after your heart was wounded and obtain liberty once again.

Face the Pain

One of the greatest pains in life is suffering from a loss of any kind. We would rather not face the pain because emotions are running raw. The problem is people will live their misery over and over again because they’re not dealing with the uncomfortable sensations. You need to break the cycles of wrongful habits and every time you deny them, you create the pain.

If you feel unhappy or obsess over things all the time, it’s likely that your unconscious mind is switching on your emotions in exactly the same way. Start pushing yourself through the pain and the light will come back on. Remember you need to look for a light in the darkness, it’s always there. If you don’t it’s like being stuck in time.

Reject Harmful Thoughts

Take a break from the battlefield and replace your thoughts or emotions for something good and adventurous. Your thought could be causing you to lose hope and when this happens the game is over.

Never give up. Have hope. Except only the best from life and take action to get it.

Catherine Pulsifer

Think of your favorite song or read a magazine. Whatever you do, distract yourself from the monotonous thoughts. The Bible is full of advice and if you listen for God’s voice, He can replace the adverse idea with his. By bringing Him into your mind, you are more likely to eyfreecom in this area.

The church is like a Field hospital after battle. Don’t forget to talk to God, and to spend time in His Word to defeat the tormenting inflicting pain in the heart. He can reassemble what was lost, so don’t give up.

I start by asking God to help me find an answer or advise, then open the Bible without looking for anything specific and the verse you come to will speak to you.

Dealing With The Rejection

A wound of the heart can come from. A rejection and can occur from a family member a lover, a friend or a co-worker. A natural response. Is to withdraw and to cut people out of your life and this makes sense. Just like when we run away from our pain, isolation adds to the agony.

Wounds can adjust your course and can make you stronger and wiser. Consider breaking those connections because we need to move forward and toxic people need to be discarded. Also, change the look of your home or any areas where you’re reminded of the rejection and treachery. Yes, it’s important to work on our spirit, but changing the environment also plays a part.

Take Step Back

Start deactivating the situation by steppe g back from. The circumstances. If you see it objectively, maybe there were poisonous and causes more harm than good.

Examine Your Life

Examine the areas of your life that are not helping you grow. Maybe the situation or person was more of a burden than a blessing. If it is being around people who have a negative impact on your life, it may be time to reevaluate some of your relationships. In every circumstance see it from God’s view instead of your own vantage point. There’s always a bigger picture in the middle of the pain. God could use it to serve others and make you a more independent person.

But understand that we might never have the answers to some of our questions. The good news is that your story doesn’t have to end on a sour note. We can better appreciate the path we’re on and change course.

Take A Break

You know what? It’s time to get off the bus of torment. Go have fun and have a glass of wine with friends. Play music, take a vacation, play a game just do something different. Start slowing down by pumping the breaks on the craziness of life. Sometimes we need to pull away from our busy lives and just take a look around us to know that God is still there. Through nature, God is able to teach us and speak to our hearts as well. How can we heal when we’re running away from others all the time? You can’t, and by having fun and taking off the pressure to take a pause, we can do this. Get back to living your life again.

Being heartbroken can make to feel worthless but there is a place of wonderful liberation. Remember we all walk through the valley and sometimes things become rather dark when your heart is involved. Frame it as a opportunity, not the end of your Hallandale reverse the negative movie playing in your mind by envisioning yourself as being whole again.

Find Balance and Inner Peace

In today’s modern society it feels like an obstacle to find peace of mind.

But there are ways to find and maintain inner peace.

Inner peace is a choice, and many of your habits determine how much peace you experience in your every day life.

Balance is not only a thing you must achieve but should become a lifestyle.

Here are some ways to experience inner peace and enjoy life on a deeper level.

Focus your attention on what you can control.

Why worry about things you can’t control? Its sours your mood and makes you less capable.

Ask yourself, ”Is this something I can control? Will worrying about it fix anything?

As a human being, you have to know which things are within your control. Anything beyond that can distract you and add stress to your life.

Don’t be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made knows to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. ( Pilippians 4; 6-7).

I stand on this scripture with faith all things are possible. With Faith, Hope, and Love everything will turnout for good. God is in control of everything.

Spend time in nature.

The original humans did not live in a 3 bedroom ranch home and ear microwave popcorn.

Take a long walk in the park or spend a weekend camping. It will feel amazingly different compared to sitting in a building 24 hours a day.

It helps you open your thoughts and mind to new things. And can be very peaceful.

Listen you the wind it talks.

Listen to the silence, it speaks.

Listen to your heart, it knows.

Native American Proverb.

This is so true, opens your ears and open up your eyes and you will find things you never knew existed.

There’s something peaceful about spending time among the birds and the trees.

Be true to yourself

Few things are more disturbing than living a life you weren’meant to live.

It continuously gnaws away at you. Live a life that’s accordant with your values.

It’s to easy to allow society to dictate your choices.

You do t have to spend your life on a career that impressive to others. You don’t have to chase after a fancy house or extravagant things.

Make your own decisions about what’s most important to you.

Pay attention to what you eat

You may not realize how bad you feel, because you’re not used to

When I eat to much chocolate I can tell the next day, because I feel irritable the next day.

Try eating the way you should just for a week. Note the change in how you feel. Research foods that can improve your memory, increase focus, and help make you feel good about yourself.

Now try eating some junk food and sees what happens to your mood and your overall sense of wellbeing. You’ll feel like you’ve been run over by a garbage truck. Say no to junk foods and soda.

Exercise

Have you ever notice how great you feel as you’re walking out of a gym or going for a run?

Exercise feels good, and you feel good about yourself for doing it.

Exercise is not only good for the body but it’s also good for the brain.

Do some good deeds

This is a great way to take your do us off of yourself.

When you do good deeds, you become more aware that others are struggling.

When you are kind you receive kindness in return. You’ll also feel a sense of pride and satisfaction when you help someone else.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Matthew 7: 12

Be assertive

Be open and forward with your needs and desires. You’re not only more likely to get what you want, but you’ll also feel more in control of your life.

Being passive results in having less control which runs counter to inner peace. Be bold without being aggressive.

Don’t let others stand in your way, take full charge of your life. You are in control.

Relax and be quiet.

This helps you see life and it’s challenges more accurately.

Learn deep breath techniques.

Things are often better than they seem. Relaxing in a quiet place can prevent your mind from making a situation seem worse than it really is. Stop over thinking the situation.

If it seems that what you’re doing is stressing you out stop and do some deep breathing techniques this instantly calm you down and clears your mind. If you are unable to do this. Stop and start over until you can. See the different does to your mind afterwards.

Avoid trying to change others

You’ll have as much success trying to change the weather as you do trying to change people.

It’s hard enough to change yourself. How will your ef manage to change so one else?

It’s important to take care of yourself mentally and physically.

Eat properly, exercise, and be true to yourself. There’s no need to please other people. Be assertive and take control of your life. Avoid chasing after those things that society has determined to be important.

When I am dealing with situations I cannot control that are getting the best of me. I say out loud ”GodI give all of this to you, I let it go it’s in your hands.” give him complete control of the situation and don’t pick it back up again.

Al, the accomplishments in the world can not replace inner peace.

Decide for your hand live the life you were meant to live.

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Why You Should Write a Journal.

Life is an endless journey and each day starts a new chapter in your life. But are you keeping track of your life and the different adventures that it brings.

If not, this might be the right time to start writing a journal that captures each day of your life and every thought that crosses your mind. Here are some important reasons for writing a journal.

Establish Future Goals.

Journal writing allows you to write down your experiences and thoughts and use then to identify your future goals and aims. Writing down everyday experiences helps you in identifying various mistakes that have been made or decisions that have proven to be unfruitful. This exercise will allow you to clarify the future course of action that will enable you to achieve your goals

Problem Solving.

Journal writing will help you to solve your problems more easily. Just like talking to a friend about problems helps reduce stress and provides relief, writing in a journal helps clarify the problem in your own mind and allows you to concentrate on finding a solution. Many avid journal writers believe that journals are similar to friends with whom one can share thoughts, problems, and feelings.

A Memory to Remember.

Life changes rapidly and although certain significant events are stored in your memory, many other events seem to be forgotten. Writing a journal will allow you to keep track of your life and the events that took place. The journals can serve to be a valuable piece of letter writing later in life in life when you want to sit back and reminisce over the past years.

Personal Growth.

Writing a journal facilitates the growth process as you establish goals, achieve emotional stability, and connect to your inner self. Over a period of time, you will start to realize the small changes that affected your life and how writing down helped you to avoid the same mistakes in the future.

Tap Into Your Inner Creativity.

Writing a journal can prove to be an important way of relaxing and just letting your thoughts flow. It is not necessary that you write about your day’s experience. But rather you can count down anything that you may feel important for the day. Writing about the ideas that flow through your mind can allow you to tap into your inner creativity and might a, so be helpful for individuals that want to identify their pass on or interests.

Observe Don’t Just See

Observation is a fundamental way of understanding the world around us. Being human we are well equipped with senses destined to neurons, which pick details from every aspect of our lives. Where we just look and listen to things around us. Close attention to details to details such as focus analyze reasoning and memorizing.

We have to be selective for collecting useful information because human senses are highly bombarded by lots of information. Our brains do many processes. It not only helps you to be more aware and smarter but will enhance your performance and social personality. It is a highly important life skill which many people take for granted.

Designers are creators, they innovate their ideas. A lot of people have done exceptional work from every part of the world. But there is one thing which is common in all, which is the perspective of seeing the world differently. They observe things in a way that no one does. And that clearly shows in the kind of execution and detail they put into their product.

If you make listening and observation, you will gain much more than you can talk.

Observationv is the action or process of observing something or someone in order to gain information.

Out observation skills inform us about objects, events, attitudes, and phenomena using one or more senses. Additionally, being able to observe and gather information about the world is important because it’s the basis of communicating well.

Improving your observation skills allows you to listen with more than just your ears and make better decisions. It also enhances your ability to interact with others and to respond in an appropriate manner. Both are keys to success at work and at home. In the workplace, a good employee not only listens well but is also aware of what is happening around them.

Observations are what you perceive with your senses. Perception is taking what we observe and organize it to give it meaning. Our perception is determined by our past experiences, culture, values, and beliefs. Because each person signs different values to each of these influences, the same object or event is perceived differently by different people. This is why multiple eyewitnesses to the same crime often have very different description of the same suspect or event. Although our eyes may see the same thing, we filter, and perceive it differently.

For a very long time, I lived in a black bubble not observing anything around me. I felt like no one cared what I thought or cared at all. I was in a very dark place. I followed the rules. I took care of what my family needed. I was on autopilot. I went through the motions with absolutely no feeling because in my past experiences feelings hurt. I felt like I was in a coma for 40 years. I was achieving the goals of life but there was not happiness involved.

Another limit to our perception is our human brain. Optical illusions point out these li it’s. Looking at an optical illusion, you may think that a straight line is curved or a still image to be moving. You don’t always see what you think you can do.

Despite the limits of our brains, people have a remarkable ability to focus, and that ability enables us to accomplish our goals. Even when we are focused we may not see everything we are focused on Our misconception about how week we can focus on a task makes us prone to distractions.

Distractions:

How often are you distracted by working on something? It’s a question that’s almost laughable, fight? Most of us are distracted more than five times an hour. We get emails and phone calls. We take breaks and browse the internet. People stop by for a quick chat and friends send us amusing instant messages. Detractions happen every day.

Managing your focus and knowing how to handle distractions are valuable skills hat can easily be learned. These skills improve your focus and prevent costly mistakes in your life.

What distracts you the most? Noise, too many emails? Maybe stress from an upcoming deadline? We have so many things that compete for our attention. I have to admit mine is cleaning the house, once I start I cannot stop because if I do I’m done. I can’t go back to it. Something I have to turn off the phone to get anything done.

Has this ever happened to you you set aside time to do something to focus on a task, but then something distracts you? When you finally get back to your task you only have a few minutes until your next task.

Tips:

Be honest. Tell people that you are doing something and you can’t have any distractions. And you will get with them later.

Let people know. If the conversations around you are disruptive, ask the them to quiet down or if they can move to a different room.

Use visual cues. Wear headphones if you are able. I use headphones and listen to up beat music when I clean house. It helps me move at a faster pace. And get things done.

Be considerate. Respect those who need to get things done. Don’t interrupt others while they’re trying to stay on task.

Pre-plan to do tasks that need your direct attention. Have drinks or snacks on hand. Stop for lunch to keep energy levels up. But get right back to work after. Keep a steady pace while doing tasks.

Stop for lunch, tak

Work is hard. Distractions are plentiful, and time is short.

Adam Hochschild.

Tensions Caused By Trapped Emotions

Shoulder Tension- Burdens and Responsibilities.

Next Tensions- Fear and repressed self-expression.

Upper Back Tensions- Grief, sorrow, and sadness.

Middle Back Tension- Insecurity and powerlessness.

Lower Back Tension- Guilt, shame, and unworthiness.

Stomach- Inability to process emotions.

Steps To Forgiveness

Forgiveness is an important action that can lead to a place or greater healing and peace. Forgiving and letting go of anger and resentment had even shown to benefit a person’s physical health. Studies have shown that forgiveness can bring lower stress hormones, strengthen the immune system, lower blood pressure, and reduce body pains. However, as we know, forgiveness doesn’t come easy. While difficult a few steps can lead to greater understanding, awareness, and can equip an individual. With the necessary tools to forgive and move on.

For 40 years I could not forgive my mother for what she had done to me, I total hate for her.

Know exactly how you feel about what happened and be able to articulate what about the situation is not okay. Then tell a trusted couple of people about your experience.

Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better.

Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with that person that hurt you or condoning of their actions. What you are after is to find peace. Forgiveness can be defined as peace and understanding that comes from blaming that which has hurt you less, taking the life experience less personally, and changing your grievance story.

Get the right perspective, on what is happening. Recognize that your primary distress is coming from hurt feelings, thoughts, and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended or hurt you in the pastor 10 minutes ago. Forgiveness helps to heal those feelings.

At the moment you may feel upset practice stress management to soothe your body flight or fight response.

Giving up expecting things from other people in your life, that they do not choose to give you. Recognize the enforceable rules you have for your health or now you or other people must behave. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, peace, and prosperity and work hard to get them.

Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that hurts you. Instead of mentally replaying your hurt seek out new ways to get what you want.

Remember that life well-lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, and thereby Go in the person who caused you pain power over you, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Forgiveness is about personal power.

Amend your grievance story to remind you of the heroic choice to forgive.

My mother went to her grave keeping the reason why she did the things she did to me. I will never know the reason why she treated me like she did. I was kept away from her family, so I had no knowledge of what her childhood was like. But I still go every Sunday and put flowers on her grave and tell her ”I love her.”

My advice is to forgive whoever has hurt you, and speak to them with kindness. It will help to be happier and healthier. Forgiveness is an excellent way to start the healing process.

I am not my mother’s sin, I do not have to pay for what she did to me for the rest of my life. Be strong and move on.

Kathy Hyatt