How Smart People Learn
Smart people often don’t make the same mistakes others have already. They learn from others mistakes and success. However, that’s not to say that smart people don’t also learn from their own mistakes. Smart people just take it a step further to include falls that others people have already fallen into.
They Are Not Just Book Smart.
It is a thousand times better to have common sense without education than to have education without common sense.
Robert G. ingersoil
Some people are aware that skills such as effective communication or selling can be acquired through actual time clients and colleagues in that specific field. They are eager to get out into the world to find out every skill that would be required of them should they try to make a name for themselves. This is the key to street smarts.
They A Rest And Recharge.
Hard work is the key to success. Successful people work hard and then unplug so they can refresh their minds and bodies. If you’ve been pushing it to the limit, think about unplugging for a long weekend or more. Once you get back to the grind, you’ll be more effective at getting the results you want.
Arguing isn’t communion, it’s noise.
Smart people have accepted that their own brains will make careless mistakes all the time. Most of which usually go unnoticed until way after their mistake has been made. They purposely initiate minor arguments with themselves just to be 100% sure that they have done the right thing. Anyone who is at peace with the flaws of their own brain is ready for it to mess up by ignoring a simple fact or forgetting the rules of a system they are already familiar with.
They Constantly Learn- wise people never stop learning.
Smart people believe that learning never ends. This doesn’t mean they’re going to school to get a new degree, although they may. Even without formal education, they’re constantly reading and learning from others around them, perhaps from books, trade magazines, or conferences. Or from others who are ahead of where they want to be.
Smart People Evaluate Their Options.
The choices you make and the decisions you make are what define your personality. Never put yourself in a position to choose the wrong path of action by rushing a choice. Smart people evaluate each option at hand before deciding on any one. The basic idea is to dodge making bad choices by always trying out various options before deciding I. A path of action.
Smart People Challenge Norms.
Life Has A Odd Way Of Making Things Work Out In The End.
Smart people don’t simply accept something because it’s common knowledge or because that’s the way we’ve always done it. Instead, smart people challenge norms and fight for the right. These people are called crazy people.
They Take Responsibility.
I Am Responsible For What I Say. I Am Not Responsible For What I Understand.
Smart people know that they are the masters of their own destiny. You don’t hear them complain about the things that stopped them from success. You won’t hear them make excuses. Instead, they push forward knowing that they are the only thing that will make or break their success.
Relaxing Sunday
Is It Normal To Talk Tao Yourself
Go ahead talk to your self. It’s normal-and good for you. Talking to yourself isn’t just normal it’s good for your mental health. If you have the right conversation. One can argue that just thinking things through quietly, without speaking out load, it talking to ourselves.
We talk to yourself for many reasons. This often occurs when we’re experiencing a deepened emotion, such as anger, nervousness, extreme focus or excitement.
We could be doing something as mundane as turning left at the intersection during rush hour traffic or looking for your keys on a hectic morning. Or you could be preparing for a potentially pivotal event, such as a meeting with your boss, a presentation or a promising first date. At any given time, the urge to talk to yourself can happen. Here’s the thing: Giving In doesn’t make you weird or indicate that something is wrong.
If we Speak Out loud, it forces us to slow down our thoughts and process them differently because we engage the language centers in our brain.
Self- talk only becomes concerning if it’s the manifestation of a hallucination.
Self-talk is normal if we do it the right way. Self-talk is part of the development of language. It improves our higher-order cognitive and meta-cognitive skills and is a fundamental part of self-mastery. Because of it’s fundamentally, not only do we self-talk it would right for us to do it well.
Be kind to yourself, it makes sense that talking self critically to yourself serves us poorly and ought to be avoided.
If we talk negatively to our self it will guide us to a negative outcome.
What we say to ourselves, had a tremendous impact on our self-esteem, beliefs about self-efficacy, and overall sense of self worth.
All of this seems obvious, and yet negative self-talk (spoken or thought) still happens regularly. For that are, it’s important to be aware when it happens and to actively nip it in the bud.
Use self-talk to your advantage, cheering your self on before an important event, or talking to yourself while completing a task and two great opportunities for self-talk. In fact, a small study had shown that when talking to yourself and naming them out loud helps people find the objects more quickly.
How to Identify Your Personal Strengths
Much has been written about the importance of finding a d developing personal strengths as a vital part of the process of recovery when deal with your mental health.
By understanding and increasing your personal strengths, you can build a reservoir of positive attitudes, behaviors and activities which can increase your self-confidence and self-esteem. This can also help you reclaim a more full and complete life rather than being defined only by your mental health.
Often I have talked to people who are struggling with mental and physical conditions, they are not familiar with a strength-based approach. Moreover, when asked to identify their strengths they are silence, puzzlement or not understanding what their strengths are.
There are many strengths that we have that people have no idea is a strength.
Family
an individual who remains in contact, along with other individuals in a with relationship with these family members. Reflect how much love, support and respect is provided to the person by their family.
Social Connectedness.
This strength refers to the interpersonal skills of the individual as they relate to others. This indicates how many friends the person has, their facility with social skills and their ability to maintain healthy relationships.
Optimism
This strength is rated based on the person’s sense of his/her own future and whether they have a positive orientation about the future. Someone with a strong, stable positive outlook on the future will receive a higher rating.
Talents/Interests
This strength is based broadly on any creative or artistic skill or talent the person may have, such as art, theater, music, athletics.
Educational
This area refers to the strength of the person’s current school or vocational training environment and may not necessarily reflect any specific educational or work skills the person had. This area may rated as not applicable if the person is not currently in a educational or work training environment.
Volunteering
This strength describes the degree to which someone acknowledges the importance of and is regularly involved in volunteer activities that give back to the community.
Job History
This strength describes the person’s past experience and stability with paid employment.
Spiritual/Religious
This strength assesses the person’s involvement in spiritual or religious beliefs and activities.
Community Connection
This strength is based on a person’s level of involvement in and support from community groups, networks, and activities.
Natural Supports
This area refers to unpaid individuals other than family members who provide support to the person toward improving their health and well-being.
Resiliency
This strength is based on the person’s ability to identify and use their strengths to better themselves and to manage difficult challenges in their lives.
Resourcefulness
This strength reflects the degree the person is skilled at finding the necessary resources required to aid in managing challenges.
Going through these strength areas can yield a helpful profile of the strengths a person has which are either already well-established or potential areas for future growth and development.
By building your personal strengths you will find you can enjoy life more and find greater satisfaction and sense of purpose. So get out there and find your strengths.
Don’t Depend On Anyone
If you depend so much on someone they will make you their slave, you have no freedom because you have nothing. Refuse to live on leftovers and be brave enough to do it by yourself. Don’t always follow the crowd.
Do You Feel Like Giving Up.
Life isn’t always sunshine and daisies. Plenty of us have endured hardships. Life can be sad and can even break.
When you’ve lost your job or someone close to you has passed away, sometimes it can be hard to believe that “life happens for you, not to you”
But when you feel like giving up, what can you do? The answer is there’s a lot you can do. It’s our decisions, not our conditions, that ultimately shape the quality of our lives. You may feel defeated or frustrated, but you can make the decision to take the first step toward Chan your state.
Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain and difficulty.
Theodore Roosevelt
The best thing In life won’t be handed to you. You need to get back in the game and earn them.
Why Do We Feel Like Giving Up Sometimes?
The first step to overcoming defeat is to determine why you feel this way. You may know the triggering event, but you need to go beyond the specific thing that happened and get to the root of the problem-how it made you feel. When you feel like giving up, there are three limiting emotions that could be the cause- loss, less, or never.
Loss is a familiar human experience-but that doesn’t make it any easier. Losing someone close to you is one of the hardest things in life. Losing a job can make you feel inadequate and hopeless. And ending a relationship, even when it’s mutual, can eave a huge hole in your life.
Less a feeling that you’re just not good enough. You didn’t get that raise you were going for or your co-worker got a promotion over you. You had a big game and you didn’t bear the competition. But there are always things to be grateful for-and you can always improve. Because progress is success.
Never is the worst feeling of them all. If you get turned down for a date, you feel like you’ll never find love. If your business fails, you feel like giving up and going to work at a regular 9-5 job. These are limiting beliefs and they only hold you back.
What do you do when you feel like giving up?
The good news is there are concrete steps you can take to change your state. There is a science of happiness m it’s not all up to fate. You can actually reprogram your mind to achieve your goals, whatever they may be.
Resetting You mood.
How you look equals how you feel. Sounds to easy, right? But resetting you mood can be as simple as throwing your shoulders back and taking some deep breaths. Feeling irritated or sad? Smile. Your body can actually trick your mind-and that’s how you change your state.
Exercise is another way to change your state.
Exercise reduces depression and lowers the risk of dementia. It doesn’t have to be something you dread each day. It’s as simple as walking the dog or doing an at-home yoga video. The best exercise you can get is doing something you enjoy so that you will keep up your routine and see all the benefits to your mental health.
Nourish Your Body And Your Mind.
Nourishing your body is about more than looking good it’s about feeling good- not just about yourself but, about the world. When you don’t nourish your body you feel it. You have trouble concentrating and you vey hungry. You have less energy and even everyday tasks make you think, ”I feel like giving up and going back to bed.”
Practice Gratitude.
The simple act of giving thanks can make you happier. Practicing gratitude reduces depression and also lowers negative emotions like envy and resentment. But adopting an abundance mindset isn’t always easy. We’re all human, and as humans, we tend to get stuck in patterns of thinking that can be hard to over.
You can start practicing gratitude with simple morning rituals like incantations. Or writing a gratitude journal. Make it a point to look around you and close your eyes and think of all the things you have to be grateful for. Taking the time to give thankcan be transformative and takes hardly any time at all.
Improve Your Relationships.
You are who you surround yourself with- so make sure you’re surrounded by loving, supportive people. Even the most individualistic humans and social animals and isolation can be another big contributor when you feel like giving up. When you add social media to the mix, you feel even feel more inadequate and disconnected.
It takes work to build your inner strength and overcome hardships, but always remember,
”Success and failure are not overnight experiences. It’s the small decisions along the way that cause people to fail or succeed.” You can change the path you’re on and start achieving again. The power is yours.
When Your Life has been a Constant Struggle
No matter where my life takes me, I will always remember one vivid point in my life that changed everything.
It wasn’t too long along that I feeling that my entire life had been a failure. I was completely fed up with my life and how people were treating me, or at least the way I was thinking they were treating me.
My Children were gone and I felt completely alone. They never called to see how I was doing, they never came over to see me. My husband had completely upset me. We never had any communication. I would try and talk to him, but he wouldn’t remember anything I said. I felt disrespected.
In was so upset one day, after he left for work one morning. I packed some belongings. And left town. I wrote hi a note saying I had to get away. Didn’t know where I was going or even if I was coming back. All I knew was I couldn’t take it anymore. I drove 4 hours until I ended up at my sisters house. Which was not where I was headed especially since we hadn’t talked in months. I still was shaking when I got to her house. I thought I was having a nervous break down.
I think many of us want to find that one moment when it feels like we need to leave our past behind. We realize it time to get busy living.
It was the next day before my husband called me. Wanting to know where I was and why I left. I told him we needed to talk and he hung up on me. After him hanging up and me hanging up. He asked me when I was coming home. I told him I didn’t know.
After that my entire life changed. I had some serious thinking and praying to do. It was time to stop making excuses and really do what I want to do start living. We wait for that moment to come, but’s it frustrating because we have no idea when it will come.
I had decided I had nothing to lose. It could not get any worse than what it was right then.
I went back home 4 days later to talk to my husband. I told them the things that I needed to happen or I was leaving.
But the truth is sometimes we wait and that pivoting moment never comes.
What if you could create it through the power of writing. Writing can help you if you’ve got a lot of emotional baggage, have a lot of pain and anger, or feel stuck in life. It’s benefits has been proven to work.
I had always written letters to myself and my husband but threw them away after I wrote them. My therapist had told me to write letters my mother. To let go of the emotional pain I felt towards her. We I started to that I just started writing to myself and my husband.
It has turned my life around, but it took that pivotal moment in my life to finish it.
“I hated my Life.”
Why did my life turn out like this? I definitely didn’t expect this after leaving home. I had thought I got off to a good start. I was married, had successful children, I had started going to college, not being able to finish because I would have had to leave my children for a year to finish my degree.
My life started on a crash course, when I had my first child I had almost died while having her. I spend 3 weeks in ICU only to get out and been diagnosed with a identity disorder, because of my childhood. It had messed up my relationship with my husband, I lost my job. And so the struggle began.
Most people thought my life was great from the outside it looked like a good life. But from the inside it was horrible.
I Was dealing with anxiety, depression, plus having to raise a child. At my last baby your baby check-up the doctor told me I couldn’t have anymore children because I would be risking my life.
I thought my life would be better if I had another child- a son. Thinking I could save my marriage by doing so. I had gotten pregnant without telling anyone I was risking my life. My doctor told my husband at my first ultrasound. That I shouldn’t have gotten pregnant, my excuse was I wanted a son, and I knew I wouldn’t die.
When I had him I started hemorrhaging and they had to do a complete emergency hysterectomy right after he was born.
That just added to the stress after that. But I had a beautiful baby boy. He was my Gift from God. While he was growing up he didn’t know how many times he kept me from committing suicide.
After my children were raised and gone. I lost my one purpose for living. So I thought.
I had some hard times in my life, but I just try to remember how far I have come. I am truly healed and ready to fight for what I want.
Never stop thinking life can get better. If you don’t get up. Sometimes you have to fight for the quality of life you want. You are worth it. You deserve to be respected and happy.
After he left for work
You Don’t Have To Particulate In The Drama People Create.
Just because someone invites you to drama does not mean you have to attend.
This is true statement. But not frequently followed.
How many times have you been drawn into someone else’s drama?
How many times do you get involved with other people’s problems or negative thinking?
How many times have to felt your being manipulated by the drama people create?
How many times have you let other people upset you or feel drained by someone else’s drama?
How many times have you gotten so involved that you say things you shouldn’t, when you’re forced into emotional situations?
Each time you tell yourself that you won’t get involved is such a situation anymore, but yet you get involved again.
It’s like our emotions feed off someone else’s drama.
Next time someone is telling you about their problems, sharing their negative though, worries or fears, or just criticizing or manipulating you, wait a moment before reacting.
You definitely owe it to yourself, not to let anyone manipulate you, or make you feel bad.
Stop for a moment and think.
Are you willing to participate in this drama?
Are you willing to spend so much energy on someone else?
Would you it be benefited by this drama?
You can refuse to attend someone else’s pity party. If you refuse, if you can’t refuse, consider developing willpower and self-discipline. So that you become stronger and more assertive.
I have learned to be a good listener, but my goal is to lift someone up, not let them drag you down with them..
I don’t like indifference and not caring for other people. You can be a loving caring person, without getting involved in the drama. You don’t have to be part of their drama.
But realize there are people you intentionally or unintentionally create drama for themselves and for other people around them. If you participate. They will use this tactic with you over and over again. If you don’t participate they will understand that you are neither an actor on the same stage with them, or a spectator, and will probably stop inviting you into their drama.
A little emotional detachment will be good for you.
Try thinking about something that makes you happy. A vacation, being with someone you love, or think about a success you have experienced. This will take your mind off the other person’s drama.
It’s okay to find an excuse to walk away.
It’s your decision, whether to accept the invitation and take part in this drama scene or walk away. It’s your decision, whether to stay calm and save your time and energy, or take part in the drama that doesn’t help anyone.
Emotional Detachment for a Happier Healthier Life:
Let go of negative thoughts and feelings.
Get rid of emotional burden.
Stop taking things personally.
Stop letting people’s problems weigh you down, they are their problems no yours.
Drama belongs in the Theatre not your life.
From Pity to Praise 