Overcoming Worry

One of the defining sin of our culture is worry. Sometimes we called it anxiety, fear, or stressed out. There are many ways to deal with worry. We either distract ourselves with entertainment. Some seek counseling and more than ever people are using prescribed medicine. So I resort to alcohol or illegal drugs. To deal with worry.

There is a better way to deal with worry and fear. The Bible gives us a prescription for overcoming worry. Of course, it does. It’s healthy and it’s costs nothing just your time. In Matthew 6:25, Jesus commanded us not to worry about the needs of this life. Jesus said for reasons I say to you, do not be worried about your life as to what you will eat or drink, not for the body, as to what you will put on. Is life not more than food, and the body more than clothing?

Worrying is nothing more than fear. Fear and trust are opposites. Trusting God is the antidote to fear and worry. In Matthew 6:30 Jesus put His finger on the root issue He said You of little faith, you can trust your Father. He will take care of you. When a person repents of their sin and puts their faith and trust in God. He becomes their Father. A Father takes care of his children. Get to know your Heavenly Father.

My life was never going so good, as it did before when I let God come into my life.

You can trust God because he has given us life. He feeds all living things. Look at the birds of the air, they do not plant, not harvest not gather into barns, and yet God feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they. How much more valuable are you than a bird. Jesus did not die on the cross for the birds. Jesus became one of us (a human being) to bear our sin on the cross.

Birds work hard, the average bird eats an eighth of their body weight every day. We must work hard also but ultimately God will provide for his people.

Jesus said: And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to their life? Jesus said that the Father has given us life. The Father sustains our lives and the Father determines the length of our lives.

I like Psalm 91. In verse 7 it says: A thousand may fall at your side and ten thousand at your right hand, but it shall not approach you. My religious beliefs teach me that I am as safe on the battlefield as I am on my bed. The Lord has already appointed the day of my death so I need not worry about that. I live my life and prepare myself so I will always be ready to meet my Lord when death does overtake me. I am confident that I will go to heaven. So when the time comes I know where I will go.

How Well Do You Know Yourself?

Science tends to see us as introverts. Ambiverts or extroverts are based on how compatible we are around people. Typing our bodies as endomorphs, mesomorphs, or ectomorphs based on how easily we gain or lose weight. There are even the adjectives like creative, intelligent, and active based on what we enjoy or what other say we are.

Whether you’re familiar with labels. They help us zoom in on specific aspects of ourselves, blurring out all other aspects. The body, however, cannot and does not create such decides. Your mother and body are one and, along with your lifestyle, determine your personality, preferences, a d health.

If you were to tie back all the labels, everything you are, to a single anchor that would be your metabolic personality also called your mind-body constitution, functional energy pool. That’s all you need to know or understand your health.

Your Metabolic Personality.

When you think of what you’re made of, you’re probably thinking genes, cells and DNA, the building blocks that decide, how strong your muscles and bones are or what state of mind is which health conditions you are genetically predisposed to. You’re right, but that’s only one part of the story.

There a whole other part the explains why you’re you. Like, what drives your natural tendencies like cravings or even how you mate your socks sweating too much or feeling hungry all the time or waking up in the middle of the night, even which health conditions you are prone to beyond inheritance. This goes beyond your basic DNA code and forms you essence. This defines your metabolic personality.

There are three types of functional energies, each one coming with their own predetermined set of tendencies.

Energy of movement- light and quick

Energy of accumulation- Slow and Steady

Energy of transformation-Intense

All of us have all three energies, but most of us gravitate toward one or two of them. Sometimes in rare cases all three. This mix is the metabolic personality you were born with.

Everything you have an inclination toward and the way your body chooses to function is a reflection of your own unique energy mix. You will have certain quirks about you, you will like doing things a certain way, you will have specific interests, sadness and pet peeves, you will react to happiness, sadness and stress in a certain way, you will have your own thought processes. It’s what make you, unique- one of a kind.

The metabolic personality you were born with is your happy, balanced state. Stay true to who you are and you’ll be your healthiest self. It will just feel right. Fight or ignore your natural tendencies and the imbalanced you will feel- the not great feeling. The imbalances accumulate and eventually lead to disease.

Your metabolic personality is not as rigid as your DNA blueprint.

It can be influenced and so can be balanced.

You inherit certain traits from your parents, like your hair, of predisposition to diabetes. But if you look closer you’ll notice that you inherit certain likes or dislikes such as the taste in music or a distaste for olives. If you look even closer you’ll find that you develop some of these traits on our own, through your own, experiences and habits. Like if you were lived in Hungaria for a year you probably are a lot of gulosh than you did growing up and may even start craving it.

How you interact with your environment- your lifestyle – and, for that matter, your parent’s lifestyle before you were conceived, plays a role in determining who you are. Not meaning only an emotional, intellectual, or behavioral, leave, it’s more physical that that coming down to how your body functions and how healthy you feel.

Even though you are inclined to do things that pacify you’re metabolic personality, when imbalanced, you may end up doing things that aggravate it instead and this amplifies your negative tendencies.

Between what we are born with, what our parents taught us and what we experience in our lives we need to find a balance that assures a happy, healthy life.

We are our own unique self no doubt about it.

No two people see the world exactly alike, and different temperaments will often apply the same principle, recognized by both different. Even one and the same person won’t always maintain the same views and judgements: earlier convictions must give way to later ones.

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Letting Yourself Go

To let yourself go doesn’t mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let be with compassion, things come and go on their own.

Holding onto pain doesn’t fix anything. Replaying the past over and over again doesn’t change it, and wishing things were different doesn’t make it so. All you can do in some cases is except whatever it is you’re holding on to and let it go. That’s how everything changes. You have go to let go of what is hurting you, even if it feels impossible. Deciding to hold on to the past will hold you back from creating a strong sense of self- a self that that isn’t defined by your past, but rather by who you want to become. Our body’s painful feelings can feel comfortable, especially if they’re all you know. Some people have trouble letting go of they’re pain or other unpleasant emotions about they’re past because they think those feelings are part of they’re identity. In some ways, they may not know who they are without their pain. This can make it impossible for them to let go.

If you find it too hard to let go of the past, here are some ideas that might help.

Understand that the relationships you thought you’d have are going to be different than the ones you actually have.

We must accept the person we are in this moment and the way other people are. As time goes on, we continue to learn that things don’t always go as planned- actually they pretty much never do. And that’s okay: if you become aware of yourself and your part of relationships, they will improve, however, you may also have to accept facts about certain people in your life. Practice gratitude, appreciation, and trust in the process.

Don’t be invested in the outcome when it comes to dealing with people, because it often leads to disappointment.

Have you ever heard the quote ”Do everything with a good heart and expect nothing in return.

Expectations have a way of keeping us stuck because they lead us to fear certain outcomes. There are no guarantees in life, and there’s nothing we can really do to get the outcomes we desire when dealing with others. When our expectations or needs aren’t met, we need to respond rationally and appropriately. Sometimes this means setting respectful boundaries, and other times it means letting go.

Don’t live in chains when you have the key. We live with self-limiting beliefs that we let define who we are.

At Church yesterday morning. The Pastor taught on being the leader of your own life.

We think ”I could never do that! or ” I could never make that happen! If you truly believe that, you will never accomplish your goals. There will be many people who tell you that you can’t do it, you’ll never accomplish your goals. Open up your mind, and believe in yourself you can don’t. It’s up to you to prove them wrong.

Let go of the idea that you can control other’s actions. We really only have control over ourselves a d how we act.

You can’t change another person, So don’t waste your time and energy trying.

I tried to change my husband’s behavior for years, so he would live me the way I thought he should. When I let this action go, and stopped trying to control his actions. Things began to get better. No, things are not perfect but, I learned to be happy with his good qualities and let the others go.

I think this is the biggest part that pushes people to hold onto unhelpful behaviors, like the need to please. We think if I do everything for everyone, they’ll never be mad at me, or they won’t treat me like that anymore. Wrong!

Only Worry about what you think of yourself.

Free yourself from being controlled by what other people thing Start a list and prioritize how you feel about yourself.

Happiness is when you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.

Mahatma Gandhi

You can’t live by your values if your living for the approval of others

Leave room for mistakes.

Have you ever made a mistake or say something stupid? It’s okay. Use the experience to learn. It doesn’t make you stupid to say something wrong or silly, it makes you human, and sometimes even funny.

Accept the things you can not change

Stop wishing things could be the way they once were. Bring yourself into the present moment. This is where life happens. You can not change the past, you can only make decisions today to help how your future turns out.

Don’t take life too seriously

This will allow you to relax and enjoy life’s journey. Laugh with a day myself all the time.

Do what scares you.

Fear holds us back from doing a lot of things because it closes our minds to possibilities for our future end locks us into our comfort zone. Most fears fill us with doubts and what-ifs that imprison us. The more you get out of your comfort zone, the more fear will subside. In life do what scares you, and you’ll grow and succeed.

I often think of this scripture 2 Timothy 1:7: for God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and sound mind. When I fear something in my life. But, the Bible also says in Mathew 4:7, you must not test the Lord. Meaning that if you act foolish, like overuse drugs or drive irrationally. There are consequences for your actions. Use wisdom in your life. You are the leader of your life.

Look Around

Look around, far and near. Where’s the joy, where’s the cheer? Why the fear? Why the frown? Why the smile upside down? Shake yourself from the dust. Scrape your soul from the rust. Know that this too shall pass. For in God we trust.

There is hope. If we sing our hope together. We have faith that it is stronger than the terror. No despair, no dismay. Everything’s I’ll be okay. He is with us night and day.

So, dry your tears. Take my hand, never fear. Let’s advance side by side. And let’s cast our fight aside. Don’t forget all the love, that we have from Above. And you’ll see with the dawn. All the pain will be gone.

Building A Bridge To Others

How can people build bridges to other people who might be different from us? We can start by remembering two things.

First, or a bridge to be built there can’t be an obstacle on the other. Side. We can’t strive with all our power to love someone or share the. Truth with them and still have it thrown back in your face. We need to be ready for it. To happen to us.

In 1 Corinthians 1:23, it says a stumbling block that people are forced to deal with or trip over. If you’re trying to build bridges with a stumbling block, we should expect some people to bank their shins and get angry.

Second. God is the real bridge builder. We’re the helpers. God invites us to co-operate in his work, but his work doesn’t depend on our plans of success. This should free us from fear from failure, but not from the need to strive for holiness. We need to be ready to be the instruments that God will use in the world.

We need to open a space where we can hear from God and obey him. Prayers, Praise, and Worship are vital to being receptive to God. We all need to fight against the noise that will keep us from hearing the word of God. When I hear God it’s not a voice it’s a feeling in my stomach I get an unction.

We are bombarded by advertising, calamity in the news, and violent music. The noise drugs us against he troubling truths of the human condition. It deafens us to hear God.

God is silence and satan is noisy. Satan is depicted as God of discordance and the enemy of harmony. Those who obey God create beautiful harmonies. Satan does the opposite. Satan is not a legend or a metaphor or a pre- scientific superstition. Satan is very real and personal malignant spirit, and he uses the noise of our culture and the confusion of our desires to turn us away from God.

Silence is more important than any other human work because it expresses God. We need to be humble and place ourselves where we can be of service to others. I am not afraid to state that I am a child of God and to be a child of silence.

What does this mean? It means that we need to cut out the noise from our lives. Listen to less music browse fewer websites and cut back on Facebook. We need to remember that God created us to rest in him, not the way people lay on the couch, but the a couple can sit together on a bench and share a love deeper than words. We need to have silence with him, it’s the silence with him that reveals himself and he plan to us.

If we prepare ourselves well, then when the opportunity to build bridges comes, the Lord will find us ready to do his work.

It can be haunting to look at the hostile, hurting world. But in reality we are in an exciting and fruitful time.

It’s our job to propose to the world a new truth about itself. That is to be loved into existence by a God who died at its hands, but nonetheless rose again in glory to save it.

Don’t Waste Your Time Proving Yourself.

There it is again, that feeling that I’m not enough. The belief that if I don’t prove myself that I’m going to let people down.

That’s it, the whole meeting was horrible because of me. Everyone is thinking that I don’t know what I’m doing. I need to get my stuff together.

Some times we obsess over simple things in life. So at the meeting, you were having a difficult time. Maybe had too much on your mind. Was worried about someone. We all have those days. It’s part of life.

In the midst of these thoughts. We can get a fighting feeling in your head and stomach. You may feel threatened and lock your focus on what just happened.

My husband and I go on a picnic and there are birds chirping, and beautiful trees around, we are doing something we both love, but I’m in my head brooding about the meeting I had yesterday.

It’s painful to reflect on a time in my life where I found myself stuck in this place more often than I’d like to admit.

It’s normal to experience fear, worry and doubt. It’s normal to feel like you aren’t everything you want to be. Some peop9e have deep discontentment that comes from that. It’s normal to feel like you must constantly be proving yourself to others and yourself.

Just because it feels real, doesn’t mean it’s true.

There comes a point in a person’s life when they realize running on a hamster wheel is not working anymore. They letgo of their struggle and find a different approach.

Shifting from what’s normal to what’s possible.

Try get rid of or avoid what we don’t want in our lives even thought it’s out of control.

Reading too far into things. Overthinking things that are not even real.

Believing in what is untrue, keeping you stuck in a pattern of self- defeating behavior.

Don’t let a molehill become a mountain, because that’s the way you choose to see it. It’s normal, but it doesn’t have to be your reality.

You can learn to shift your perspective to see things differently. Starting with the understanding that fear, worry, and doubt aren’t the enemies you make them out to be, it’s only information that you have the opportunity to respond to. When we don’t get carried away by it, you can use it to inform what matters to you.

Judgments, interpretations, and assumptions are a complete waste of time and energy. Why the need to always expand on what just happened? Stop making things up. It’s not helping. Simply learn to observe what is.

Proving yourself to others will only lead you to stress, anxiety, and burn-out. Instead, express your values, and what matters most to you in your life. Great the results you want.

Your no alone in your struggles. But you also don’t need to be controlled by what’s normal.

Reflect for a minute. What are some areas in your life that create tension, stress, and overwhelm you? What is the source of it? Would if you let it go?

What would you choose to do instead now that you are free.