Observe Don’t Just See

Observation is a fundamental way of understanding the world around us. Being human we are well equipped with senses destined to neurons, which pick details from every aspect of our lives. Where we just look and listen to things around us. Close attention to details to details such as focus analyze reasoning and memorizing.

We have to be selective for collecting useful information because human senses are highly bombarded by lots of information. Our brains do many processes. It not only helps you to be more aware and smarter but will enhance your performance and social personality. It is a highly important life skill which many people take for granted.

Designers are creators, they innovate their ideas. A lot of people have done exceptional work from every part of the world. But there is one thing which is common in all, which is the perspective of seeing the world differently. They observe things in a way that no one does. And that clearly shows in the kind of execution and detail they put into their product.

If you make listening and observation, you will gain much more than you can talk.

Observationv is the action or process of observing something or someone in order to gain information.

Out observation skills inform us about objects, events, attitudes, and phenomena using one or more senses. Additionally, being able to observe and gather information about the world is important because it’s the basis of communicating well.

Improving your observation skills allows you to listen with more than just your ears and make better decisions. It also enhances your ability to interact with others and to respond in an appropriate manner. Both are keys to success at work and at home. In the workplace, a good employee not only listens well but is also aware of what is happening around them.

Observations are what you perceive with your senses. Perception is taking what we observe and organize it to give it meaning. Our perception is determined by our past experiences, culture, values, and beliefs. Because each person signs different values to each of these influences, the same object or event is perceived differently by different people. This is why multiple eyewitnesses to the same crime often have very different description of the same suspect or event. Although our eyes may see the same thing, we filter, and perceive it differently.

For a very long time, I lived in a black bubble not observing anything around me. I felt like no one cared what I thought or cared at all. I was in a very dark place. I followed the rules. I took care of what my family needed. I was on autopilot. I went through the motions with absolutely no feeling because in my past experiences feelings hurt. I felt like I was in a coma for 40 years. I was achieving the goals of life but there was not happiness involved.

Another limit to our perception is our human brain. Optical illusions point out these li it’s. Looking at an optical illusion, you may think that a straight line is curved or a still image to be moving. You don’t always see what you think you can do.

Despite the limits of our brains, people have a remarkable ability to focus, and that ability enables us to accomplish our goals. Even when we are focused we may not see everything we are focused on Our misconception about how week we can focus on a task makes us prone to distractions.

Distractions:

How often are you distracted by working on something? It’s a question that’s almost laughable, fight? Most of us are distracted more than five times an hour. We get emails and phone calls. We take breaks and browse the internet. People stop by for a quick chat and friends send us amusing instant messages. Detractions happen every day.

Managing your focus and knowing how to handle distractions are valuable skills hat can easily be learned. These skills improve your focus and prevent costly mistakes in your life.

What distracts you the most? Noise, too many emails? Maybe stress from an upcoming deadline? We have so many things that compete for our attention. I have to admit mine is cleaning the house, once I start I cannot stop because if I do I’m done. I can’t go back to it. Something I have to turn off the phone to get anything done.

Has this ever happened to you you set aside time to do something to focus on a task, but then something distracts you? When you finally get back to your task you only have a few minutes until your next task.

Tips:

Be honest. Tell people that you are doing something and you can’t have any distractions. And you will get with them later.

Let people know. If the conversations around you are disruptive, ask the them to quiet down or if they can move to a different room.

Use visual cues. Wear headphones if you are able. I use headphones and listen to up beat music when I clean house. It helps me move at a faster pace. And get things done.

Be considerate. Respect those who need to get things done. Don’t interrupt others while they’re trying to stay on task.

Pre-plan to do tasks that need your direct attention. Have drinks or snacks on hand. Stop for lunch to keep energy levels up. But get right back to work after. Keep a steady pace while doing tasks.

Stop for lunch, tak

Work is hard. Distractions are plentiful, and time is short.

Adam Hochschild.

Tensions Caused By Trapped Emotions

Shoulder Tension- Burdens and Responsibilities.

Next Tensions- Fear and repressed self-expression.

Upper Back Tensions- Grief, sorrow, and sadness.

Middle Back Tension- Insecurity and powerlessness.

Lower Back Tension- Guilt, shame, and unworthiness.

Stomach- Inability to process emotions.

Steps To Forgiveness

Forgiveness is an important action that can lead to a place or greater healing and peace. Forgiving and letting go of anger and resentment had even shown to benefit a person’s physical health. Studies have shown that forgiveness can bring lower stress hormones, strengthen the immune system, lower blood pressure, and reduce body pains. However, as we know, forgiveness doesn’t come easy. While difficult a few steps can lead to greater understanding, awareness, and can equip an individual. With the necessary tools to forgive and move on.

For 40 years I could not forgive my mother for what she had done to me, I total hate for her.

Know exactly how you feel about what happened and be able to articulate what about the situation is not okay. Then tell a trusted couple of people about your experience.

Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better.

Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with that person that hurt you or condoning of their actions. What you are after is to find peace. Forgiveness can be defined as peace and understanding that comes from blaming that which has hurt you less, taking the life experience less personally, and changing your grievance story.

Get the right perspective, on what is happening. Recognize that your primary distress is coming from hurt feelings, thoughts, and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended or hurt you in the pastor 10 minutes ago. Forgiveness helps to heal those feelings.

At the moment you may feel upset practice stress management to soothe your body flight or fight response.

Giving up expecting things from other people in your life, that they do not choose to give you. Recognize the enforceable rules you have for your health or now you or other people must behave. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, peace, and prosperity and work hard to get them.

Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that hurts you. Instead of mentally replaying your hurt seek out new ways to get what you want.

Remember that life well-lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, and thereby Go in the person who caused you pain power over you, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Forgiveness is about personal power.

Amend your grievance story to remind you of the heroic choice to forgive.

My mother went to her grave keeping the reason why she did the things she did to me. I will never know the reason why she treated me like she did. I was kept away from her family, so I had no knowledge of what her childhood was like. But I still go every Sunday and put flowers on her grave and tell her ”I love her.”

My advice is to forgive whoever has hurt you, and speak to them with kindness. It will help to be happier and healthier. Forgiveness is an excellent way to start the healing process.

I am not my mother’s sin, I do not have to pay for what she did to me for the rest of my life. Be strong and move on.

Kathy Hyatt

Are You Ready To Stop Feeling Like A Victim

Everyone gets attacked, injured, cheated, fooled, and harmed during their life- if not physically, then emotionally. A and everyone gets harmed by unpleasant events. We’re all victims, in moments to life’s challenges and difficulties- live’s lifeness.

It’s physiologically healthy to acknowledge the suffering and feelings of powerlessness that accompany such experiences. And yet there are those people who feel like victims all the time, regardless of their circumstances. Those with a victim mentality are always being victimized at least in their own mind. They maintain a constant victim identity and see life through perpetually victim-tinted glasses.

I lived my life with this mentality for 30 years. Before I learned I was just making myself a victim and wasted a huge part of my life thinking this way.

We all know people who seem to be constantly commenting on some injustice done to them- how others are denying them what they need, want, and making them do what they don’t want to do. Or how life is against them, and the universe is designed to punish them, personally. Perhaps you yourself are someone who experiences life this way.

Neither feeling like a victim of life, or loving someone who’s convinced they’re the victim of life, is easy. Both are painful.

Break Free Fron Victim Mentality.

Take ownership and responsibility for your own wants and needs. Determine what you want and what’s important to you. Name it and do what you need to do to make it happen- for yourself. Don’t waste time blaming and getting angry at those who don’t want or need the same thing you do, don’t wait for them to come on board to help you get what you want. Get busy taking care of what’s important to you, and leave others out of it.

Practice saying ”NO” if you don’t want to do something and don’t (realistically ) have to do it, don’t do it. Remember that you are allowed to have needs, just like other people.

Stop blaming. When you hear yourself going into blaming stories, whether against other people, the world life. Whoever say STOP! to yourself out loud, and actually turn your attention away from your blaming thoughts.

Become aware of the root of your sense of powerlessness. Before you construct the next narrative on who’s stealing your power, get curious about the underlying feelings of powerlessness that proceed with all situations, you’re not actually attending to you’re suffering or helping yourself feel better. By claiming the victim role, you are intensifying your pain. With the victim identity in play, you’re not only suffering because of whatever happened, but you’ve also now added to that suffering the fact that you don’t get what others get is out to get because you’re cursed, life and everyone in it is out to get you, and basically, the universe hates you.

Turn your focus on helping others. When you’re a victim mentally, the whole world is about you and your pain. Acknowledge your suffering with kindness, and then consider how you can help another being. As counterintuitive as if may be, the more you feel deprived, you more need to give. Offering kindness is the unrest antidote to ”Poor me.”

Practice gratitude. Victim mentality focuses you on your suffering, specifically what you’re not getting. Try flipping your perspective and focusing on something that matters to you that you do enjoy and that you do get. Shift your attention from what you’re missing to what you have.

Write a list of the ways you can change the bad situation. When you feel like a victim, you convince yourself that there’s nothing you can do to change your circumstances, but that’s almost never true. Get busy with how you can try and improve the situation, even if it feels impossible.

Practice empathic listening. When listening to other people, try listening with the intention of feeling what they are saying from inside their heart. Stop focusing on what you need to do about what they’re saying, or anything else that has to do with you. Listen as if you were just ears hearing, without putting yourself in the way.

Practice forgiveness. When you play the victim role, you’re deciding to hold onto bitterness and anger and the certainty that you’ve been wronged – often without even investigating what the other’s intention may have been. Instead of poisoning your own experience with resentful thoughts, try practicing compassion and understanding for the other. Start a new habit: make dropping resentment and trying out forgiveness a daily practice.

There’s another good about living as a victim, or with a victim, but with awareness, a desire to change, and new habits, you can outgrow the mentality. A life lived with gratitude and kindness is far much better than one of resentment and bitterness. Empowerment and self-command are available to everyone and with a good attitude. And behaviors, they’re yours for the taking. The first step is to decide that you’re ready to stop being a victim.

Taking Control of Emotional Reactions as Part of Problem Solving.

We all encounter problems routinely. Some of them are caused by our own mistakes, such as sleeping through the alarm or missing a meeting. Some are caused by others, (a

Just about everything we do throughout the day involves solving some kind of problem, it’s just an unavoidable fact of life. What we can do, however, is to learn to manage our problems. This involves, in part, managing emotions that arise when a problem occurs. It also involves being aware of the effect our regions to our problems have on ourselves and others.

Our ability to regulate our emotions in problem situations greatly influences how effectively we are able to solve the problems we face. In fact, emotional regulation is frequently the determining factor in whether or not a problem is solved and how easy or difficult it is to do so. For example, when a problem occurs, many people are able to quickly figure out the size of the problem and regulate our emotional reaction to stay calm and able to deal with it. But that’snot always the case. New or even bigger problems are created when the size of your reaction is mismatched to the size of the actual problem. Who wants that?

If I had an hour to solve a problem I’d spend 55 minutes thinking about the problem and 5 minutes thinking about solutions.

Albert Einstein

Einstein had a point. When a problem occurs, many of us just swoop in and start trying to solve it without fully understanding what happened. We may overreact or shut down emotionally, making us unavailable to solve the problem at all. This wastes time and energy and often results in the creation of new or bigger ones.

Defining a Social Problem May Include:

Understanding that started or hidden social rules- what’s expected in any given situation. As long as everyone follows the hidden rules and is doing what’s expected, there is no problem and everyone feels okay.

Understanding the reactions of others, especially when our behavior is unexpected.

Understanding the perspectives and emotions of others.

Conflict can arise when someone has a very different point of view or interpretation of the ”rules” in the situation. For instance, if a student who became really upset by a teacher’s perspective as he had a different point of view. While the teacher considered the student’s behavior ”unexpected” the student felt it was fully ”expected” based on his point of view. This is why when working with students with social learning challenges, it is so important to spend time first defining the actual problem from multiple people’s perspectives. That way all people recognize what the actual social-based problem is.

Are You Ready to Stop Feeling Like a Victim?

A victim according to the dictionary is a person who has been attacked, injured, robbed, killed, cheated, or fooled by someone else, r harmed by an unpleasant event.

Everyone gets attacked, injured, cheated, fooled, and harmed during their life- if not physically then emotionally. And everyone gets harmed by unpleasant events. We’re all victims, in moments, to life’s challenges and difficulties life’s licenses.

It’s physiologically healthy to acknowledge the suffering and feelings of powerlessness that accompany such experiences. And yet there are people who feel like victims all the time, regardless of their circumstances. Those with a victim mentality are always being victimized, at least in their own minds. They maintain a consistent victim identity and see life through perpetually victim-tinted glasses.

I was in this state of mind for many years. I had been a victim for a long time. It took me 30 years before learned I didn’t have to live like this anymore.

We all know people who seem to be constantly commenting on some injustice done to them-how others are denying them what they need, want, and deserve, controlling them against their will, and making them do what they don’t want to do. Or how life is against them and the universe is designed to punish them, personally. Perhaps you yourself are some who experiences life this way.

Neither feeling like a victim, or loving someone who’s convinced they’re the victim of life, is easy. Both are painful.

How to Break Free From Victim Mentality.

Take ownership and responsibility for your own needed and wants. Determine what you want and what’s important to you. Name it, and do what you need to do to make it happen- for yourself. Don’t waste time blaming or getting angry at those who don’t want or need the same things you do don’t wait for them to come on board or help you get what you want. Get busy taking care of what’s important to you, and leave others out of it.