Guard your Heart and Mind

Above all else guard your heart and mind because everything you do flow from it. Keep your mouth free of perversity, keep corrupt talk from you lips. Let you eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left, keep your foot from evil. (proverbs 4: 23-27).

Your thoughts positive, negative, good, oror bad control your attitudes. Your attitudes are the sum total of your thoughts. Your attitudes lead to your actions.

Sosa thought, reap a deed. Sow a deed, reap a habit. Sow a habit reap a character. Sow a character, reap a destiny.

Before you can do a thing you have to think it. Your thoughts lead to attitudes; attitudes lead to actions; actions lead to those achievements. It all begins with the thought life. You achievements will be the sum of your thoughts.

If you believe in the holy bible. This is so fundamental that God destroyed an enter civilization because they had heart trouble. God saw the wickedness of people was great on the earth, and that every imagination of thoughts of his heart was evil continually. This caused Noah to build an ark and the great flood that destroyed them.

How to stay positive with Chronic Pain

Focus on your thoughts so you can reframe them as needed. Practice recognizing it any time you’re thinking of something that might be changing your positive spirits. Once you recognize patterns of negative thoughts, you can change these into positive thoughts and continue your day in a positive way.

Instead of “I’m a failure,” try “I’m doing the best I can right now.”

Instead of “I’m unable to do so many things,” remind yourself “I’m making good progress, and I’ve been able to spend time being there for someone. While it’s normal to get frustrated, I need to remember it’s not hopeless.”

Instead of “ I’m doomed to live like this forever,” try “While permanent problems are no fun, I’m making the best of my situation, and I will keep doing so.”

Instead of “ I’m a burden to my family,” say “I’m grateful for how supportive and help my family is. I give back to them in my own way.”

Praise yourself. Be happy about what you’ve achieved so far each day. Weather that’s putting your socks on or changing into pajamas, that me be a big step for you, so be proud of yourself.

Don’t stress about what you haven’t achieved yet. When you feel up to it you’ll continue your tasks. Not everything needs to done at once.

Relax. Sometimes you can start to feel negative if your feeling stressed or anxious. Take a few minutes to stop and take a break. Try some breathing exercises to help you get back to staying positive.

Give yourself time to feel your feelings. It’s okay not to be happy all the time. You’re allowed to experience emotions like sadness, frustration, worry, and anything else that might go through your head. Instead of suppressing your difficult feelings, take time to recognize and address them.

Hang out with family and friends. Having a distraction to desert your mind from negative thoughts is a great way to keep you feeling positive especially on rough days.

Even going out to dinner is a great way to keep positive and have some fun or having dinner at home.

Continue to do your favorite activities. Continuing with existing hobbies or other activities, as much as your pain allows, will help you stay positive through the enjoyment of doing them. Hobbies can also build up your self-esteem to help you keep a positive outlook on life.

Open up to someone you love. It’s natural to feel upset sometimes. Find a good listener and tell them how you feel. They can offer a listening ear and comfort you. Jut like you would want your love ones to come to you if they are feeding overwhelmed by a problem, you can count on them. If you aren’t sure if it’s a good time ask Hey, I’ve been feeling kind of down and I need to vent. Is now a good time.

Join a support group for people with chronic pain. Support groups are a great way to share how you are feeling with others who may be feeling a similar way. Others may be able to share techniques that they use to manage thoughts and help you to overcome feeling negative about yourself.

Talk to your doctor about your negative thoughts the doctor may be able to prescribe you something o give you more suited advice for staying positive while living with chronic pain. Remember get help immediately if you feel suicidal.

Price River by Helper Utah Parkway.

Where do you go when you have hit rock bottom.

I had finally hit rock bottom emotionally, financially, mentally, and spiritually. The crash was so painful in every way, but I finally had no choice but to face myself brutally, painfully, and honestly.

As I looked back the first thing I said to myself was what the heck did I do to my life, everything I had once planned for was gone all I had was thus useless life.

I also had immense gratitude for the gifts that time bestowed upon me. First of all I had tried to kill myself numerous times. How lucky I was to even be alive. It instilled in me a deep trust in the universe contrary to my appearances ad bank account.

It’s crazy to say this but I would do it all over again for the incredible strength and growth I had gained in my darkest hours.

Sometimes hitting rock bottom is a good thing it sure was for me.

Reflection and Realizations- at the bottom, you realize how far off course you were, and that your life choices were simply not sustainable. It’s in those dark moments of despair that your anger and frustration become so great and you declare once and for all to never accept such mediocrity from yourself or from others again.

Seeing your dysfunctional behaviors- are finally revealed if you never hit your lowest point, the dysfunctions continue to go unnoticed and unchecked, playing out under the denial radar and inevitably creating bigger dysfunctions and a harder fall down the track. Until the bubble bursts, and cleverly deludes yourself into thinking everything is just peachy, and your life ends up being built on a big fat lie and a false foundation.

Gaining Fresh Perspective- Hitting rock bottom of questioning everything that you’ve ever thought to be true. You question your motives and other’s motives, your beliefs, you fears, why you did things, why you didn’t do things, why you attracted certain people and circumstances, why you succeeded in something’s and not in others. The very fabric of your life is turned upside down and examined in raw detail. It’s from this point on that you build again from the ground up, with a fresh perspective based on your renewed sense of clarity.

Self-awareness of Bad Habits & Behaviors

At the bottom, your disempowering pattens and behaviors become glaringly obvious, and the triggers that kept you repeating those behavior patterns come into sharp focus. You realize that hitting rock bottom was not only inevitable but necessary, because those behaviors were simply not conducive to your growth. On top of that, and perhaps most importantly all the roles you have been playing pops into your conscious awareness. It becomes quite clear that you’ve been a kind of puppet, playing the same role over and over, and keeping the drama going over and over, like a well-paid actress(actor) in a soap opera. It’s not until you break the mold and start the journey back to your true self that you stop playing those old, scratched records and begin to create new conscious outcomes. I had it explained to me how many time are you going to go around the mountain before you try to go through it or up it, everything will stay the same until to change what you’re doing.

Trusting in life

You realize at the bottom that you were, in fact, not where you thought you were in life. You let your ego run the show with grandiose ideas about what you could do- not knowing you didn’t yet have the foundation to successfully accomplish those things. Ego’s death grip losses when you come to this realization, you start to trust life’s and choose to live in the moment more often. As you surrender to you higher self more and more, you align with your right purpose and right path. And it feels good.

Humility-

You gain humility. You see that life is not all black and white and that you don’t know everything in fact you know very little and then you decide to be a student of life rather than a juror.

Compassion-

You gain compassion. You understand what it’s like for people in the depths of despair, shame, guilt, grief, and fear. You cannot help but come back from the bottom feeling immense empathy for people with human conditions.

Letting go-

You are able to let everything go because nothing is working anyway. Letting go of the old leaves space for the new and some new ideas, People, opportunities, talents, and gifts start to flood into your experiences. As you empty your cup you fill it up again with stuff that you actually want, instead f accepting unconsciously assed on to you. Life hands you a cup of reality.

Taking responsibility-

After you have hit the bricks, you begin to accept full responsibility for the outcomes in your life. You see that blaming is futile, that complaining is dumb, and that making excuses is for the unenlightened. You realize it was you who created all the good and all the bad in your life. You dug the hole in which you were trapped and only you can dig yourself out. And finally become whole.

The only way is up-

The good news is once you’ve hit rock bottom, you know you can’t go any lower and it’s only up from here. Use the bottom as a springboard to push yourself up to the surface, away from the darkness and back into the light.

Trusting yourself-

Hitting rock bottom wake you up and how you were relying on externals to make you happy. Instead of needing outside validation you begin to trust yourself and start a journey within to find your own sense of worth and sense of self. This new inner sanctuary becomes the foundation for your happy and meaningful life.

Gratitude-

Finally after hitting your lowest point yo become grateful for all that your have from that time forward. You’re sure that your situation can only get better from here, and it does. Simple things like fresh food, a smile from a stranger, warm clothes on your body, a bed, good health, becomes like treasure. You existence is a constant prayer of gratitude to the universe and to yourself for not having the courage to move beyond hard times and choose life when you could have chosen a number of other options just to make the pain go away.The jewels mined in your darkness moments are what give you courage, wisdom, and richness that cannot be learned anywhere else.

Old Gas Station In Helper Utah

This Gas Vintage Gas Station hopefully will become a vintage motorcycle museum. This was the mans dream to what it will become.

How to get out of your comfort zone and overcome fears

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While this is a little drastic for what I’m writing about today. It’s something I want to do. A couple years ago I never would’ve thought about it at all.

The Ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way we grow. But often we are afraid to even take a step towards it.

Comfort zones are not really about comfort they are about fear. We need to break the chains of fear to get outside. Once we do we will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone.

What are the things you believe are worth doing, or are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential of disappointment or failure. I can tell you mine was talking, I was punished for 18 year for talking being hit or locked away., being told what I had to say was not worth anything. That no one wanted to hear what I had to say it didn’t matter. It took me many years to get the courage to even say to someone “Hello.”

Here’s a exercise I want you to try. Draw a circle on a piece of paper on the inside write everything within your comfort zone. On the outside everything outside your comfort zone. This process will allow you to clearly identify your discomforts and comforts, and become clear of what your aiming for. Take the list on the outside of your circle and go deeper. Remember your primary goal is trying to overcome your fear.

How does fear apply to each situation be very specific. Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks? Are you afraid of being ignored?

One way to get outside your comfort zone is to expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort. Let’s say in a social meeting if you start feeing panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay a little longer than you normally would before retreating in to your comfort zone.

If you stay long enough and practice often enough it will start to feel less uncomfortable.

Some of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams. Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from that experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance for success.

Don’t try to just jump out of your comfort zone all at once you will become overwhelmed and jump right back in. Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to try something like public speaking start be taking every opportunity to speak in small groups like families or friends. when I started this I would get very emotional and cry every time. Tears are okay, tears are just words your heart cannot say. You will get stronger as time goes on.

There is no substitute for this step right hear. If you want to become better at something you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start imitating them. Almost inevitably their influence will start to have an effect on your behavior.

Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses. Don’t say “Oh I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.” Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance on moving forward.

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will involve failure and setbacks that’s how life is for everyone. Everyone looks foolish at one time or another. Be happy to roll with the punches while others poke fun.

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your comfort zone. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

Actions

Our actions are the practical manifestations of our thoughts it’s quite clear that we must bring about change in the way we think in order to create happiness and a sense of fulfillment in our life. A good thing about our brain is that it willingly adapts to any change that we bring about in our thinking patterns.

Affirmation are not always positive. They can be negative as well, curses created by witches are negative affirmations. The truth is that most people are given to making negative affirmations. When you think repeatedly that you are not going to succeed in a particular area in your life, it is a negative affirmation. Affirmation both negative and positive impact your neurological functioning of your brain.

Positive affirmations are like mantras (repeating frequently) they have a scared and spiritual force about them. Let’s be clear about creating positive affirmations. They should not be weak. Thoughts such as “I should or I ought to abstain from” are weak.

Examples of negative affirmations are “I can’t do this or It is difficult” on the other hand positive affirmations are “I can, I will, or I am going to” your brain is always adapting to your thought patterns and directs your organs to act accordingly.

When we keep mulling over our misfortunes, the perceived wrongs committed to us by those we have loved and stand by so sincerely. We never stop cursing ourselves for the mistakes that we think we have committed, what would have happened if I had done this or that? What would happen if I do this in the future.

This is not to suggest we should not learn from our mistakes or plan our future intelligently. The only thing is we should stop thinking over and over once we have learned from our past and decide about our future.

Quite often we love to wallow in misery, we enjoy creating self-punishing thoughts or being gloomy and pessimistic. This needs to be avoided.

Steve Harvey Video’s

Are not to help you become rich in money but rich in life. I used them you better my marriage, my life experiences, my relationships with my families and friends.