How To Build Confidence When You Know You’re Different

When I was growing up, I knew I was different than other kids around me. Because of my situation of abuse at home I was quiet and socially awkward. I was passionate about music and I learned from an early age it was more peaceful when I was alone.

My teachers thought treated me different because I was quiet and never sat by any other kids, I would sit way in the back alone. When others made fun of me it just made me feel I couldn’t trust any one outside my family either.

I became more passionate about music and writing and being alone.

It wasn’t until after high school and I got me first job that I began talking to people and getting a little more confident. And if wasn’t until I turned 20-years old that I started getting into drugs, that made be feel invincible. Then my social life began flourishing. It wasn’t until I turned 23 that had gotten off drug and met my husband that I chose to retreat back into my social awkwardness. Until I turned about 40 that I decided I was alright showing my differences to the world. Maybe it was because I was getting to tired of holding everything in or I just didn’t care what other people thought of me.

But either way I’ve learned a few things along the way. Here are a few tips about confidence that I’ve learned:

1. Take Pride In What You Can Do.

Be proud of yourself and what you do. And be kind to yourself.

If you got an A on a essay, or you beat a video game, or cooked a new dish for dinner. You created something. Compliment yourself every time you accomplish something no matter how small.

Sometimes the hardest things is just starting to feel better about yourself. Get the ball rolling by taking pride in yourself.

2. Embrace What Makes You Happy.

I’ve always been a fan of a lot of different things, like all kinds of music, scary movies, driving around places I’ve seen a thousand times looking for something different, people watching. (I like to people watch, not in a creepy way, but how they act or how they dress).

When I realized that no one cared that I was interested in so many different things. That’s when something clicked in my head. That no one’s opinion matters but your own.

Embrace the things that make you happy. Yes, I drive around in circles someday’s or maybe listening to classes music one day and country music the next but it’s what I’m comfortable with, and that makes me more confident. So, embrace what makes you happy.

3. Find Your People.

Join a club, find some chat rooms, join a support group. You can even find a convention for something that interests you.

I’ve met some of by best friend at conventions. You would be surprised how many different conventions or support groups there are for your interests.

When you’re surrounded by people who are interested in the same thing as you, you’ll feel a certain kind of peace. I love being at a convention that focuses on old military soldiers and listening to their war stories, and I get to meet some really great people as well.

I Am Me. I’m Who I’m Meant To Be. I Am My Past, My Present And Who I Want To Be. I’m Not For Everyone. But I Am Me. I’m A Work In Progress, A Destiny. I Am Who I Choose To Be. I Am Me.

We Are All Made From The Same Clay, But Not From The Same Mold.

God Has A Plan

If you have a poor-self image, it had already adversely affected your life, but I’ve learned you can be healed and not allow the the past to repeat itself. It’s okay to let go of what’s behind you, and day by day press on toward the good things God has in store for you.

God has a plan for everyone of us and a specific way to bring it too pass. But we have to ask for it, and receive it into our hearts and know it is true.

For many years I did not exercise my rights and privileges as a child of God. Hell, I didn’t even know all of this was possible. Satan had taken so much from me, I believed him when he said I wasn’t good enough for God to love me. I was depressed, oppressed and in the prison my mind had created because I believed the father of all lies. I didn’t know anything could be done about my past. I had a very poor self image as well as the outlook for my future was grim.

I was at the brink of giving up on everything I loved and ending it all. I was tired of fighting, tried of trying, tired of living in a deep dark prison. God found me and everything changed. It went from “it’s over,” to “what do I have to lose.”

I ask you to accept God’s love for you and make that love the basis for your love and acceptance of yourself. Receive His affirmation, knowing that you will change and become all that He desires you to be. Then start enjoying yourself- where you are – on your way to full spiritual maturity.

Let God Be God in God In Your Life. Give Him The Reigns. He knows What He Is Doing.

The Root Of Rejection

Rejection starts as a seed that is planted in our lives through different things that happen to us Satan does not want to plant just a seed of rejection. He wants to plant it deep so it will develop into a root that will go way down and have little needles attached to it. Eventually these roots and needles will become a tree.

Whatever you are rooted it determines the fruit of your life – good or bad. If you are rooted in rejection, abuse, shame, guilt, or a poor self image – if you are rooted in thinking, someone is wrong with me (your tree) you will bear depression, negativism, lack of confidence, anger, hostility, a controlling spirit, judgement, a chip on your shoulder, hatred, and self-pity. It can lead you to say to yourself “well, the real me is not acceptable, so I need to produce a pretend me.”

All the areas of your life that are out of order can be reconciled through Jesus and the work that He has done at the cross. It happened for me, and God can do it for you. But you must believe it is true and don’t settle for the bondage that Satan has over you. Be determined to be free.

You Can Be Delivered From The Power Of Rejection

I Never Knew You

Is it possible to spend your life in church and your eternity in hell.

Imagine, for a moment what would be like to die and open your eyes in hell. Even more terrifying if you had spent your life in church, supposedly doing all the right things.

Not everyone that says to me “Lord, Lord,” will enter the kingdom of heaven; but he who does the will of my father who is in heaven. Mini won’t tell me in that day, Lord Lord, didn’t we prophesied in your name, and your name cast out demons, and in your name too many mighty works? Then I will tell them, I never knew you. Depart from me, you who work iniquity.

Matthew 7:21-23

The three verses in the book of Matthew are probably some of the most troubling scriptures to me. They probably because they describe me in the body of Christ, who are face value, are seemingly doing the right things, Yeah death or refused entrance into the eternal reward of righteousness.

Messages in the church today are blessed with a tremendous anointing to moving the gifts of the Holy Spirit. During church services, prophecies, words of wisdom or words of knowledge seem to just flow out of them (have I not prophesied in your name?).

Many have stood face-to-face with some of the most wicked spirits that hell produce, casting them out of their victims, and sending them back to the abyss (and in my name cast out demons?).

Others have large and far wiki ministries and mega churches. They fed the poor, supply relief and found his Third World countries. They have seen multitudes come to Jesus and receive salvation and physical healing (and in my name done wonderful works?).As they stand before the Lord of Lords expecting to hear “Well done, good and faithful servant… enter into the joy of the Lord” (Matthew 25:21). Words were ringing in their ears throughout eternity, I never knew you depart from me you worker of iniquity.

The groups will also include mini Sunday school teachers, pastors and evangelist. Song leaders, choir members and musicians may also be in these numbers, along with elders, deacons and stewards. From the most influential member of the laity to the least, Mini run the risk of being rejected entrance into the kingdom of heaven.

How can this happen? It seems impossible that people with ministries, that we have judge is successful and blessed, bar into such a spiritual wasteland. But nonetheless it could happen.

Scripture Must Interpret Scripture

One of the biggest mistakes we make when reading our Bibles is that too often we use our denominational doctrine or religious traditions as our standard or scriptural interpretation. This is backwards theology. We met with scripture, Incontact, interpret our doctrines. When we allow doctrine or tradition to interpret scripture we run the risk, like the Pharisees, of falling into religious tradition.

It seems that religious people’s spiritual lives Are usually created around doctrinal traditions rather than God’s words and it’s entirety.

many times people believe that once you’re saved, you’re always saved. I get askedmany times people believe that once you’re saved, you’re always saved. I get asked sometimes does your church speak in tongues? The sad fact is, they do not want an answer from God‘s word but only want to argue doctrine. When we are just people witness, for the most part, they will use the name of Jesus only to create another convert to their doctrine and to their religious philosophy. Many times they do more harm to the kingdom of God then they do good.

Many people will tell you that Christianity and other Bible believing religions are false. Many people say things that they think are scriptural but are not. I tell you read the Bible and research it for yourself. Many people are on their way to hell just like the Pharisees because they believe the other people are telling them to scriptural doctrine.

There’s a easy way to tell: if it doesn’t line up with God’s word, it is false.

Fellowship with God is when shared values are in place are genuine biblical fellowship occurs. This fellowship produces our mutual cooperation in God’s worship, God’s work, and God’s will being done in the world.