Positive Affirmations To Tell Yourself.

Why do we need positive affirmations for self-esteem? To understand this we need to understand what self-esteem is completely and what the factors are for Low self-esteem. Once we understand the reason, we can work our way to boost our confidence with a list of positive self affirmations.

What is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. It is the regard for one’s self-worth and self-respect. It is believing in yourself and having faith in your own abilities.

Without humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy.

Norman Vincent Peale

It is true at so many levels. If we do not respect ourselves for who we are then a sense of inferiority and inadequacy fills your life.

Self-esteem is a direct result of self-confidence which comes from self-realization.

People turn into friends, family, and in many cases to strangers to validate their ideas, opinions, and goals. By looking outward for validation, we often give the token of self-esteem to someone else. Our every move is in accordance to make others feel good about ourselves.

Why positive affirmations for self-esteem?

To accept the beauty and uniqueness of who you are is a magical thing. To boost your self-esteem, you will need to change how you feel about yourself.

It starts with you.

When you keep repeating negative things about yourself that you are no good, then this message gets passed to our subconscious. Now subconscious manifests what it receives. As a result, you will keep running into situations which will shake your beliefs in you abilities.

As with a child being told, they are stupid, worthless, and will never amount to anything. From a young age, we start believing it and it can ruin their life, but they keep fighting they can change, but you have to fighting.

You are jeoparding your own good when you talk about yourself (even casually) in a negative manner.

Think about these questions…

Do you often turn to your parents, friends, co-workers or others to validate your ideas?

Do you feel anxious about starting a new project, conversion, or relationship?

Is it that you blame yourself for the mistakes that happen in your life?

Are you confident about every decision that you are about to make?

Do you feel happy, content and full of enthusiasm all the time or is it just the opposite?

The above questions are not a complete list but if you even remotely agree to one of the above questions then it means that you are running low on self-esteem. Will you come to your rescue?

Affirmations, when practiced with full faith and conviction, will instill a new brief in yourself. You will realize that you are doing the best you can and that the higher powers are in a conspiracy to make you succeed.

I was told this way you have to have faith and hope that things will change. We should all have convictions when we have doubt that somethings in your life aren’t right. Which can lead to low self-esteem. Pay attention to that conviction and act on them until you are at peace with yourself.

The proof that affirmations work.

Try these practices are see if they bring a change to your life.

A recent study has shown that even brief self-affirmation activities for students can boost their grade point average in underperforming individuals by the end of the semester.

How To Break The Blame Cycle.

Being blamed when things go wrong is challenging. You can end up feeling as if the world is against you-that no matter which way you turn your being picked on, bullied, or victimized. Whether you’re bearing the brunt of the blame in your relationship or being blamed at work for things you don’t think are called for. It hurts.

The one thing I’ve learned is- If someone is blaming you for something you didn’t do, there’s a good change they are to blame not you.

If you feel helpless in situations where there are people who blame, accuse and act defensively when called out.

Blaming leads to uncomfortable emotions that can eat away at your sense of self, and doubting whether your good enough or if you’re even worthy of respect.

If a person experiences trauma in younger years as a child and/or we’re raised by parents with few boundaries, blaming others may have been a safe way to protect oneself. This pain is full of hurt. Painful memories of how they learned to avoid emotional or physical abuse.

What happens is a separation of self emotionally from others. Rejecting responsibility for any problem that taps back into the need of feeling safe using the mechanism learned- blaming others to take the heat off oneself.

Learning how to minimize feelings and distance oneself from others helped keep the person safe. Unfortunately, as an adult it’s these same emotions that cause problems in relationships as detachment has now become a safe place to retreat to.

Empathy is a quality communication, it’s a skill often missing in relationships in life.Yet, these skills are imperative for anyone living or working with someone they feels blames or accuses them for what is going on. If one person can steer a straight course then the other person can hopefully feel it and they can regulate their own body.

It may feel like a counterproductive thing to do in the heat of the moment when someone is blaming you unfairly. Yet, if you can regulate your own emotions, then the fuel that keeps behavioral patterns alive diminished.

Empathy is not approval, not agreement, waving your rights or being a doormat- empathy makes you stronger more able to assert yourself appropriately and effectively when that time comes.

Empathic resonance-feeling another persons who’s feeling or underlying pain rather than challenging the problem head on.

Perspective taking-seeing things from a Mother’s point of view and may differ from yours and is still valid.

Empathic understanding – imagine if you were in those situations and feeling those feeling- this is what it would mean for me and this is how my mind might function if that were my experience…where you’re saying, ”If I were in that perspective and feeling those feelings. think how your mind would function if that were my experience. It’s not- but if it were, I get it.” it’s kind of an empathic imagination.

Empathic joy- feeling happy for another person’s happiness, proud of another persons’ success.

Empathic concern- which is ”I see your suffering so I’m going to take action to reduce your suffering , ” it’s basically a synonym for compassion.

Kick start your empathy by asking yourself: What hurts for this person? Consider: ”Is there some gentle way that I can begin to talk about what hurts?”

If you’re dealing with someones whose default position is to ”blame” you may notice that he or she experiences difficulty in one or more of these empathy areas.

The secret to being empathic: if someone is always to blame, if every time something goes wrong someone has to be punished, people quickly stop taking risks. Without risks, there can’t be breakthroughs.

The secret to engaging empathy is learning how to create a ”pause” in thinking so you can stimulate a more empathic response in both yourself and the other person.

Seeing happiness outside ourselves is like waiting for sunshine in a cave facing north

Tibetan Proverb

In seeming happiness, we need to exit our cave and enter another’s experience what their emotional state is. When we can do this from a place of pure selflessness and engage curiosity without triggering our own defensiveness then we have a better chance of managing our own emotional state and influencing the emotions of another.

It’s about allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, knowing that in understanding ourselves and raising awareness of our emotional respond we can be more present to others.

How The Power Positive Thinking Works.

Richard’s Story-

Richard applied for a new job, but he didn’t believe he would get hired, since his self-esteem was low, he considered himself a failure and unworthy of success.

He had a negative attitude toward himself, and believed that the other applicants we’re better and more qualified than him.

Richard’s mind was occupied with negative thoughts and fears concerning the job, for the whole week preceding the job interview. He actually anticipated his own failure.

On the day of the interview, he got up late, and to his horror, he discovered that the shirt he had planned to wear was dirty., and the other one needed ironing. He went out wearing a wrinkled shirt and no breakfast.

During the interview, Richard was tense, negative, hungry, and worried about his shirt. All this distracted his mind and made it difficult for him to focus on the interview. His overall impression made a bad impression, and consequently, he materialized his fear and did not get the job.

Katie’s Story-

The second story is about Katie, who applied for the same job, but approached the matter differently. She was sure and confident that she was going to get the job and had a good measure of self-esteem.

During the week preceding the interview, she tried to visualize making a good impression and getting the job. She also repeated affirmations to that effect.

The evening before the interview. She was prepared she had the clothes she was going to wear ready, making sure they were stain free. She went to bed a little earlier. One the day of the interview. She woke up early and had time for a good breakfast and then drive to interview before it’s scheduled time.

Katie made a good impression and had gotten the job.

There was no magic used. Everything happened in a natural way. The difference was in their attitude, behavior and approach.

With a happy attitude, we experience pleasant and happy feelings. This brings brightness to the eyes, more energy, and happiness. Our whole being broadcasts good will, happiness, and success. Even our health is affected in a beneficial way. We walk tall with our head held high and our voices are more powerful, our body language shows the way we feel. Confident and happy.

Positive and Negative thinking are courageous.

We affect and are affected by the people we meet. In one way or another. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through words, thoughts, and feelings, and through our body language.

Is it any wonder we want to be around positive people and prefer to avoid negative ones.

People are more disposed to help us, if we are positive, and they dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting ”Negativity.”

Negative thought words, and attitudes, create negative and unhappy feelings, moods, and behavior. When the mind is very, poisons are released into the blood, which causes more unhappiness and negatively. This is the way to failure and disappointment.

Positive Thinking Tips.

In order to turn the mind toward the positive, some inner work is required, since attitude and thoughts do not change overnight.

Realize the power of your thoughts is a mighty power that is always shaping your life. This is usually a subconscious process, but we can make it a conscious one. Even if the idea seems strange to you, give it a try, by being more conscious of what is going on in your mind.

Ignore what other people say or think about you if they discover that you’re trying to change your attitude and the way you think. Some people will always try to drag you down.

Use your imagination to visualize only favorable and beneficial situations.

Use positive words in your inner dialogues, or when talking with others.

A Simple change of your thoughts in a moment can change the whole set.

Smile a little more, this help to think positively.

Once a negative thought enters your mind, you have to strive to replace it with a constructive one. If the negative thought returns, replace it again with a positive one. It is said there are two pictures in front of you, and you have to choose to look at one of themand disregard the other. Persistence will eventually teach your mind to think positively and ignore negative thoughts.

In case you experience inner resistance and difficulties when replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, do not give up, but keep looking only at the beneficial, good, happy thoughts in your mind.

It does not matter the circumstances are at the present moment. Think positively, expect only favorable results and situations, and circumstances with change accordingly. If you preserve, you will transform the way your mind thinks. It might take some time for the changes to take place but eventually, they will.

Another useful technique is the repetition of positive affirmations. This technique is similar to creative visualization and can be used together with it.

When You Finally Hit Rock Bottom And Just Don’t Care.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking “I Don’t Care Anymore? I am done, I’m tired to trying, I am physically and emotionally exhausted.

You just don’t know where or what to do anymore. That’s when things begin to change. Your life is completely “off balance” you may be stressed, overwhelmed, or even burned out. When these words I don’t care shows up in your thoughts or speech it can mean exasperation. Listening to yourself to know what’s behind it can help you get clearer, and get more choice and control over feeling better.

About 15 years ago. I totally hit rock bottom, I was tired of caring when no one else acted like they did. I was done, I stopped caring and stopped caring for everyone around me. I was like that for awhile. I was tired of everyone expecting I was going to be there, cook, do laundry, clean, shop. So I stopped.

There is a lot of information that comes from the statement I don’t care and then the actions that follow it.

I slept when I wanted to sleep, I ate when I felt like it, I came and went without telling anyone. I began to notice my own body and my own feelings and that they could give me more.

Our sensations and emotions are there to give us more information about what’s going on and about what we want and need. I began to take steps to find more balance, control and happiness. When we listen to ourselves in attentive or skillful ways things change.

I took me not thinking or caring about anyone around me to realize I did care. I began doing things the way I needed to do for me.

I slowly began changing things. At first I was not sure how the future was going to be. So I began doing something’s my Daddy always told me to do. I figured he was a wise strong man, maybe I should do it his way.

I began Praying at first I didn’t no who too. I was angry at God. For letting my life go the way it did. Why did he make my mother, my mother. He could have introduced my father to someone different. Why was I even born if He knew I was going to end up like this. What was the point. Yes, all these crazy things were going through my head.

I found that when I Prayed I felt better after. I was calmer, could think more clearly, things weren’t a “jumbled up mess” like usual.

My children were teenagers and my husband had moved into the basement for peace and quiet from the kids and I’m sure I wasn’t a ball of joy to be around. So I was basically alone.

I began getting my head on straight again. My Father was Catholic so I started going to Mass even though I knew nothing about religion. But, it kept me balanced.

A long the way I knew I needed to talk about my experiences with my mother that I had been hiding inside me so very long. It was literally eating me up inside.

I began talking about things, and 15 years later I was on my way to really healing from the devastation in my life. It took God, doctors, nurses, and some really special people that were around me to heal.

The sooner you make up your mind, or your mind makes you realize that’s it’s out of control. Work like hell to get yourself back on the right path moving forward.

I know if my Father and Father God wouldn’t have been in my life. I wouldn’t be here today. They saved my life. As well as many others.

Today, I can function healed, whole and happy for feeling like “I don’t care” anymore at that time during my life. Everything has been restored to me. Now I’m on a journey to help others so, they won’t have to live the horrible life I had to live in my past.

People ask me if I would go back and change anything. While there are a few things, I would. I am blessed to have lived and learned from my past. I have more empathy and compassion than most people ever do. And I have helped many people, who have gone through some really bad times. If I had ever helped one person it is worth in to liv the life I had endure.

Where Have All Our Values Gone?

What is happening to our American values? You remember values, don’t you? You know those moral thoughts and behaviors we used to hold dear, like decency, civility, optimism, empathy, and tolerance?

This country was a beacon of idealism a d progressive values to people the world over. It’s the foundation of principles, the U.S. Constitution, and the Declaration of Independence were revered at home and emulated abroad. American children, we’re taught their significance and education and knowledge were cornerstones of our achievement.

A sense of being part of the American community enhanced our citizens. The Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island, symbolizing lofty ideas and values, welcomed millions of immigrants to our shores. The newcomers (our ancestors ) worked hard, contributed to this country, and their children thrived, sharing the American dream.

The values above represented the best of humanity and fostered a culture of benevolence, creativity, and opportunity.

But that was then, and this is now

This is Now referred to as the current ”alt-values” prevail today which are antithetical to those ”best of humanity” values. These words and actions convey anger, rudeness, hate, greed, lying, selfishness, intolerance, and callousness.

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These alt principles and codes of behavior are the trademarks of the incivility we witness on a daily basis, often expressed with rancor and rage. They have become commonplace on television, in social media, and in everyday life. Of even more concern is that these new ”moral standards” serve as models of behavior for our impressionable children and youth.

There is no doubt that we live in a dangerous world, both at home and abroad, and we must certainly be vigilant and protect ourselves. But in the all-encompassing service of strengthening our forces and intelligence agencies, we could lose sight of our basic human values and diminish the essence of what made this country so exceptional.

Citizens in a democracy are encouraged to either criticize or support political parties and policies. But in the current alt-values climate political conflict has become filled with insults and invective.

The discordant words and behavior of political leaders can be toxic to the core values we cherished. If the new norm consists of demeaning and disrespectful utterances, or bullying and belligerent behaviors. We invite the de line and degradation of our nation’s better valued and our quality of life

Demagoguery engenders anger hatred and fear, and these emotional viruses can easily spread among a vulnerable population through a process known as social contagion. These negative emotions insinuate themselves into the social atmosphere, wreaking have with people’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

What does Positive Energy Have to do with Stress?

Our bodies give off an energy that affected the people around us, which in turn affects us.

Negative energy has a tendency to interpret things in the world in a pessimistic way and is self-limiting. It creates significant stress in your life, and exacerbate the stressful situations you already face. It just keeps adding stress to you in such a way eventually you break.

So, developing positive energy is an important way to reduce these stresses. You need to help yourself maintain a positive frame of mind by surrounding yourself with positive energy.

Negative energy has consequences that may not be obvious and even to those people, you come in contact with.

Some of the insidious effects of negative self-talk are:

Negative energy increases the perception of stress. When your inner energy and dialogue, are negative, it can actually exacerbate your perception of what you face, making something that is annoying feel unmanageable, or something that’s a little stressful seem like a nightmare. Negative energy from other people around you makes you feel negative all the time. When you can change your negative energy to positive you can change yourself and the people around you. If you feel negative all the time and can’t get out of that rut you need to change the way you live your life drastically.

I went from a negative childhood into a negative marriage it took time to get out of that negative energy rut, but making the choice to change made all the difference in the world.

To transform your mood from negative to positive surround yourself with positive people energy, feelings, and people and things will begin to change.

I am healthier, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my back. I surround myself with positive energy and most importantly when someone around me is giving off negative energy I ask them to stop while I’m around them or I walk away. I am to important to be around negative people. And so are you.

These are things to change your negative energy like uplifting music, Inspirational books, positive people, practicing positive affirmations, being loving and kind to yourself, and reframe your thought.

Remember you are allowed to change your thoughts. If a negative thought comes in tell it ”NO” get out. And change it to a positive thought. You may have to do this several times like many habits they can be difficult to change. Keep at it. Don’t give up.

Once you give off positive energy you can help other people change their lives too. Be part of the solution not part of the problem.

Tips For Getting Through Hard And Chaotic Times.

Let go of expectations.

The more expectations we put on things we can’t control, the more frustrated we get. When we expect things to go a certain way or people to act a certain way, and then they do, we feel frustrated, annoyed and even angry. We don’t see that we set ourselves up for failure from the very beginning.

I used to live my life expecting things to go and certain way. I would plan out in my head who was supposed to do what and why. And expected to go exactly the was it was in my head, then when It didn’t I would become hysterical and scream and cry and complain. I was always stressed out, angry and confused for days after trying to figure out why everything didn’t go as planned. I was disrupting my own life.

If we just take things as they come, with acceptance and compassion we have a much greater experience and much fewer conflicts. People’s words and actions hurt less. Delays and obstacles seem less frustrating. And we keep our focus more on the present.

Appreciate the small wins.

Sometimes life is so hard, so chaotic, so painful, that it’s okay to take the pressure off. Sometimes we just need to make it through the day. One minute at a time. One obstacle at a time. One small win at a time.

The more we focus on small wins the more we can ride whatever chaos throws at us.

Find your Grounding.

When things we rely on to keep us grounded give way. It can be very unnerving. Like the earth beneath us is suddenly slipping away.

Sometimes Life throws wrenches in our plans and sometimes we can no longer count on our homes, families, or our jobs to give us the security we long for. The instability can be rattling and make us want to break down in defeat. In these times we can find simple ways to ground ourselves no matter where we are or what we’re facing.

A cup of tea, a walk outside, or even a daily check with a good friend can be all we really need to find some footing amongst the instability. We can’t always fix things right away, but with a little bit of mindfulness, the smallest habits can provide massive comfort.

Never underestimate a cup of tea to break the chaos in a difficult situation.

Seek Silver Linings.

Look for the good things in every situation. No matter what you’re going through in life you can always find them if you look.

Create Magic Within Chaos.

Life can be chaotic. And exhausting. But there is still magic, small wins and silver linings. The more you look for the, the more they’ll keel you grounded until the chaos clears.