The Benefits Of Being Humble

What is hope for Humility as society celebrates over confidence, entitlement and ego.

People are increasingly competitive, attention-seeking, narcissistic, and obsessed with the lie that they are entitled to everything with working or trying.

Humility involves a willingness to accept the self’s limits and it’s place in the grand scheme of things, accompanied by low levels of self-preoccupation

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Soothe the Soul

Humble people are better able to cope with anxiety about their mortality.

Instead of erecting self-defense against death, humble people tend to find it provides a useful perspective on life and how it should be lived.

When I was recovering from my childhood. I became defensive at everything, I wanted to physically fight for anything that upset me, and sometimes I did, I thought I was entitled to be myself as I thought I deserved everything. I didn’t care who liked me or not I needed to be respected and I thought that by fighting for that respect was the right way to do it. I was disrespectful to everyone I came in contact with but expected them to be respectful and kind to me. That is not the answer to any issue in life.

To bad, it took me over 30 years to figure that out. I would have been much farther in life than I am now. Sometimes it’s a hard lesson to learn.

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

Ephesians 4:2

Humble leaders are not only liked better they are also more effective.

Higher Self–Control

Having higher self-control is one key to a successful life. Surprisingly studies have found that being obsessive with yourself leads to lower self-control.

The humble because they are less focused on themselves can exhibit higher self-control in many situations. Because humble people tend to know their limits.

Less Prejudice

One of the characteristics of being humble is having a low sense of entitlement.

When you realize that the people around you are just as entitled as you are. Everyone can work together for a successful outcome.

Humble people don’t think they are owed things. If you want something you have to work for it, it’s not going to come to you.

Humility leads to a less prejudiced view of the world, encouraging people to be tolerant of others and less defensive about their own beliefs.

More Helpful

Humble people are, on average more helpful than people who are conceited or egotistical.

Have you ever let someone cut you in a shopping line when you seen they were in a hurry or they had fewer items that you? Have you ever paid it forward meaning paying for someone’s groceries when you had extra cash you could spare? Have you ever given food or money to a person to were less fortunate than you? That is being humble, it’s not about you it’s about someone else. When making someone day is more important than what you can give yourself.

It’s not all about money. You can do this by simply helping someone put their groceries in their cart or returning their cart to where it belongs. Going to help somebody because you can see they need it, not because they asked. Visiting people when you know they are alone.

Better Relationships

Humble people have better relationships because they accept other people for the way they are.

Why is Faith Important?

Sometimes, when things don’t go according to plan, we lose faith, not only in ourselves but also in the potential outcomes of our lives. Failure can do that to you, as well as feeling like you’ve been fighting a losing battle in your lives. Sometimes we get to where ”I’m done, I can’t do this anymore. When we feel like that it’s easy to lose faith and hope.

Faith, at its core, is deep-rooted in expectation of good things to come. It goes beyond hope. Hope lives in the mind while faith is in the heart and the spirit. It cannot be explained away by reason or logic, or be understood through a single dimension.

While life can be hard, faith is the knowledge, deep down inside that things will get better. It’s like you can’t see the top of the stairs but you have faith it’s there. Simply put, life would fail to have reason if faith didn’t exist.

We couldn’t drive cars without faith that someone wouldn’t cross the yellow double line and crash into us. Without faith how could we move from one moment to the next without second-guessing every last thing that we did? We all have faith even if we don’t think we do we just have to build up that faith to be stronger.

Without faith, we couldn’t expect things would turn out for us. No matter what the situation might be.

Faith is as important as the air we breathe. The importance of faith cannot be underestimated.

Even when situations seemed bleak, it was there that faith carried you through. People can move mountains with their faith. While there’s little or no explanation for it in the physical realm; it’s the meta-physical fiber that binds us all, carrying each of our deepest wishes and desires. That is where faith lives.

Tragically some people don’t believe in things they cannot see. They explain things away with other causes and effects, they don’t see the small miracles in life that existand work in our favor on a consistent basis. Faith is of huge importance in our daily lives.

Faith isn’t just a notion people have its an important element to all life on earth. Faith is what helps us get through. It lightens the path in times of darkness, it gives us the strength in times of weakness. Without having faith, we are nothing.

Your mind is a very powerful tool. It can be used for good or go to waste when we neglect or abuse it. If we focus on problems we will live in those problems and negativity. If we focus on a positive life and outcomes we can solve our problems and move from our problems to a state of success.

Faith is a pathway for abundance, so hold it at the forefront of your mind. Don’t be afraid to expect the best for yourself. You deserve it.

Have you ever heard the phrase, Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger? There is truth in that phrase.

When Your Past comes calling, don’t answer it has nothing to say.

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If You Can Stay Positive In A Negative Situation You Win.

It’s what we see and how we interpret it- every adversity, every failure, and every heartache carries with it a seed for a greater benefit.

When was the last time you experienced a negative situation? Recall the situation as best you can and how you responded to it. Did you get caught up in negativity or we’re you composed? Can you see how the worry and anxiety draws you into negativity?

It’s only normal to be negative when a situation spirals out of control when we least expect it. A bunch of negative thoughts emerge and we find ourselves unable to break free from it. Our mind have an inherent negative bias. It has be a mechanism that has helped people evolve for thousands of years. However, it can become a hazard when it works against us.

Perception is everything because what you look for you will find. The power of free will means we can perceive something bad in a good situation and complain about it. Someone else will find the good in a negative situation and use it to their advantage.

What’s important is how we interpret what we see? Say someone took the last donut who was raised to leave the empty box on the table. You were raised to ask if anyone wants to split the last donut before you take off with the last on. Instead of focusing on the disappointment of the lack of junk food, try to find a positive. Since you missed the donuts today, buy the box of donuts tomorrow for work and grab the first one. Even if you have to stash it away for break time. Or treat yourself to an ice cream cone on the way home from work.

Life is Neither Fair or Unfair

We encounter many defeats in life. But you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, and what you can rise from and how you can still come out of it.

Has something ever happened to you where you were innocent and though you tried to rectify the situation it was of little help? This is when we may succumb to negativity because we have been wronged against. However, we have a choice and it may not be the easiest one to may, but it is the better choice for our peace of mind. Anger and negativity reinforce a despairing mindset because we feel transgression is perpetrated intentionally. Bad thing happens to good people sometimes. Equally, people believe life is unfair. Life is neither fair nor unfair, it beats on regardless of how much you try to change nature. We are not insignificant in the scheme of things. Rather things are bound to happen, it is not the situation that fuel our suffering but it choosing to respond that dictates whether we remain at peace or get caught up in the storm.

The question we ought to ask ourselves is: What do I need to learn from this situation? How can I evolve from what is taking place?

We can win every time when we remain positive in negative situations because life will pull us into disrepair given the chance. Everyone will tell you how difficult life can be but rarely do we hear stories of life being filled with joy and happiness. Even on social media it has become an outlet for moral outrage and injustices. But that doesn’t help anyone other than pulling us into hopelessness because we are drawn to a false sense of injustice in the world. What you read is bound to create your reality and for many social media is their only source of information. Make your source of information come from real truth. Not fiction.

Let Go and Let God: The way to do it.

It’s something I’m sure all of us have heard in our lives at one time or another.

When you’re in the midst of overwhelming, challenging… Let go and let God.

When things are out of control…let go and let God.

It’s a nice thought, right? Release all your struggles. Let them melt away. Allow them to dissolve into the Almighty power of God.

When I read scripture, I can clearly see that there are times when it’s appropriate to let go and let God handle everything. But I also see clearly instances where I’m called to do certain things.

In Matthew 6: 34, Jesus says, Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is it’s own trouble.

When we are tempted to worry about all kinds of future events. Will I be able to pay the bills? Will my children be safe? Will my family be healthy?

The reality is, I can control very few of these things. Sickness can fall on anyone at a moment’s notice. My work could dry up leaving you financially strapped. I don’t have the power to save my children, only God can do that,

This is why Jesus said in Matthew 6: 27, which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his life?

Worrying about the future does absolutely nothing. It doesn’t change anything, it doesn’t add even a minute to your life, it doesn’t solve any of your problems. It’s a complete waste of time.

We have to trust in something higher than ourselves. Faith and trust in God to take care of me, to provide for me, to handle all of these overwhelming circumstances, there is a real sense in which I’m called to let go and let God.

Be anxious for nothing. Cast all your cares upon the Lord because he cares for me.

I can say to God, Lord, I don’t have the power to control my life. But in light of this, I am letting go of the control I think I have over the situation. I am giving up on trying to figure everything out. And have control over my life instead I am trusting in God with all my heart. I know I can’t handle this on my own.

When it comes to worrying about life’s circumstances, we can truly let go and let God.

This may sound completely opposite of what I just said. But do not let go and let God when it comes to Prayer.

Even in contradiction, we are still called in the midst of trials, challenges, and heart-rending circumstances. We are still called to be active and Pray.

We are simultaneously called to let go and let God and still be actively engaging with God in Prayer.

In Philippians 4: 6 it says do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made to God.

How do you overcome anxiety? How do you receive peace from God?

Be actively, persistently bring your requests to God. By taking hold of each care that lays heavy on your heart and casting it upon God.

Jacob in the Bible wrestled with God and his Angels until God blessed him. We must not let go and let God, we must run to God and wrestle in prayer and remind him and us of his promises he said he would keep. We must fight against our sinful tendencies to worry and seem to put to death our sinful desire for control.

So, when our life is overwhelming. We can trust God and let go of our desire to control our lives and instead joyfully submit to what he has for us. At the same time labor in prayer and fight for holiness.

You believe in God for your soul. Believe in him about your property. Believe in God about your spouse or your child. Believe in God about your losses and bad debts and declining business.

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Yes, I struggle and stumble and fall. Yes there are sins that I still give in to.

But nothing can stop God’s plan to make me more like Jesus until that final day when he returns and finishes the job once and for all. Even when I am faithless, God is still faithful.

Jude 24 says, Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before the presence of his Glory with great joy.

I am called to fight against my sin.

To put to death my flesh.

To fight against the tempations of Satan.

The phrase ”let go and let God, ” highlights paradox in scripture. We truly can trust God to provide for us and care for us and help us grow in go holiness. We can rest in glorious truths. We can stake our lives upton them.

God will be faithful to do what he has promised. If we have faith and trust in him.

Filter Your Mouth! Understanding The Power Of Your Words

Words matter. Out tongue has the power to build or to destroy. One of our strongest assets Is the ability to communicate through many means but particularly through speaking. The words we chose, the tone and infliction can fill a person’s soul for flight or bore holes in their heart. We’ve all done it. We’ve all had it done to us. How do we think before we speak?

Words Kill, Words Give Life, they’re either poison or fruit you choose.

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When you enter a room do you bring energy or suck it dry? Watch people. Listen to their tone when they address each other. Pay attention to the words they use. Then turn that observation on yourself. How do you measure your words? Do you inspire others or make them flinch? Watch their reactions.

Listen More Than Talk

Some people process aloud, so don’t offer solutions too quickly. Let them walk through their feeling and emotions so they can untangle their thoughts. Listen with an open mind. Focus on what the other person is saying and hold your opinions. Once you have the entire story, only them can you offer to help. Sometimes they have to work it out themselves.

Don’t Be To Quick To Judge

Every individual has a story, take time to find out what it is. Try to see past the mask, the guarding and limited information. Try not to come up with advice or a solution.

The best advice I’ve ever had was from my father: If you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all.

Choose Your Words Carefully

Eliminate from your vocabulary all the words that draw negative energy into your life and others. Replace these life-draining words with positive energy raising conversations. Capture negative self-talk, change the way you talk to your self. Use positive affirmations or quotes anything to stop the degrading internal and external conversations

When my son decided he was going to marry a girl I didn’t really like I was shocked. She had a tendency to be negative and rude to people, she thought because her family came from a higher income bracket she was better than anyone. She was sometimes abusive to others. Not even a year after they have married the marriage was having issues. She didn’t want him seeing his family because we were in a lower income bracket. I was devastated and so was he. I mistakenly start taking bad about her and actually praying the God would in their marriage.. Yson had to leave the country for his job and she left him so she could get a job in a different state. They were on rocky terms in the marriage. I was praying every day that there would be trouble and the marriage wouldn’t last. Until I realized that my son really did love her and went into a depression every time they would talk about separating. I stopped talking negatively about her and started Praying God would make them happier and stay together. Their marriage started to get better they were happier. They are married for 6 years now. While she still has issues about us, they will come to visit, but while he spends time with us. She stays away. While this isn’t the best daughter-in-law relationship I wanted. At least my son is happy. I was speaking poison into their marriage instead of happiness making the marriage unhappy and my son unhappy. Instead of life.

Understand Your Next Words

Listen attentively. Remember what a person says. Don’t interrupt, Don’t pretend the problem Isn’t a problem. Stay away from phrases like it’ll be okay, ( it might not be) or Get over it (it’s dismissive). It’s not the end of the world. Don’t discuss your problems as if they’re similar to theirs. Avoid minimizing their situation. Don’t change the subject, let them talk. Then measure your next words as carefully. Try to decern how your words will be heard or felt if you were them. Remember that not everyone responds the same way you do. I personally like it when people are honest and direct don’t sugarcoat anything. But, not all people are comfortable with hearing the truth all at once from the same place. They need it sugar-coated to deal with it.

Give Good Feedback

When someone has shared something difficult with you, be sure to summarize it before you jump right in with advice. Try saying correct me if I’m wrong I hear you saying- then summarize what they told you. Say it back to them nicely. Remember is they’re sharing something stupid they did or admitting they were wrong, you don’t need to remind them, they already know. Words like I told you so or what we’re you thinking does nothing to move the conversation forward.

After a person has barred their soul to you and you have successfully held your tongue. Ask for permission to give them advice by saying I have some ideas, do you want to know what I think? If they say no leave it at that until another day, but if they say yes stay on your single-focused takeaway point. It will be tempting to give them all your thoughts but that can be like giving a drink of water out of a fire hose for the receiver. Give them one idea and then leave it alone. Be able to set boundaries with them. Be a loyal friend. Give positive statements that keep your listener attentive. Then finish your conversation with you know they are wise and what are you going to do? Respect them enough not to solve their problem, but rather encourage them to think through a plan and execute it.

always be aware of your body language and what it’s broadcasting. Turn to the speaker, make eye contact and don’t be doing something else while they’re talking. Listen and occasionally respond with a supporting word or two.

Remember, it’s better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. And you catch more bees with honey than you do vinegar. Let your last words that we’re spoken be inspiring.

Ask For Permission

The Power of Empathy

Empathy for others doesn’t necessarily lead them to change their behavior, but it does help you to better navigate situations.

Often discussed as something that we might do (or perhaps should do) to be a good person, feeling empathetic helps us make connections with others and understand them better. It’s different from having sympathy for someone, which means to look at the suffering from the outside and feeling sorry for them. Empathy is feeling someone else’s pain or seeing through their eyes. It’s also a precursor to compassion, which is empathy in action-a commitment to do something that relieves someone else’s suffering.

Experiencing empathy can make your own life better. Empathy can open your heart, letting in more feelings, but also softening some of the tough experiences. As we build empathy for others, we understand them more and can connect with them differently, which boosts our resilience -the ability to bounce back after challenges.

After I left my parent’s house, I had built up a huge wall around myself nothing and nobody could break down. I had decided I was tired of feeling and caring about anything and anyone. It took about 25 years to break down that wall I had to break it on my own because I wouldn’t let anyone else near it. After I decided to choose God it took another 4 years to let him in. It ended up being the toughest challenge of my life. But, once I did things turned around 360 degrees for me. Total life change. I don’t care if anyone makes that choice or not I’m just saying it worked for me. God’s mighty power can teardown the emotional walls we build around ourselves. For me it took a long time.

The worst life choice we make is not allowing anyone in.

Empathy is about opening your heart. This can be very difficult, but our hearts can hold a lot. It’all about allowing the wall to come down and allowing all those feelings to come pouring out. The wall can only hold so much pressure before it starts to crack. We must allow the walls to crack if we’re ever going to heal.