Honesty

Honesty is not about telling the truth. It’s about being real about yourself and others about who you really are. Honesty cuts through deception like hot wax and eats away at the deceit. It leads to a full free life.

We need to have an authentic life if we’re going to be successful at anything in life.

Honesty promotes openness and empowers and enables us to develop a consistent life. It’s how we present the facts in out lives. Honesty sharpens our perception and allows us to observe the things around us with clarity.

The integrity of the upright guides them but the crookedness of the treacherous destroys them.

Proverbs 11:3

Integrity is the practice of being honest and showing a consistent and uncompromising adherence to strong moral and ethical principles and values. Integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one’s actions.

The Tangled Web We Weave

The opposite of honesty is deception or lying. Lying is bad whether you are deceiving yourself or others. When you lie, you delude yourself into believing what your saying. You start digging a hole for yourself that keeps getting bigger and bigger overtime. You confuse yourself, confuse others, lose credibility and put yourself in harms way.

The worst kind of lying we practice is in order to deceive, when we lie to ourselves. We start with Messing around with our concept of morality, as well as our dreams and desires. I have lied to protect my secrets of my past. To make people look at me as a strong person. Believe me your only hurting yourself when you do this.

When you lie and you know it’s wrong your inner core wares and rebels against you. You are mentally committed to doing what you lied about because you have to keep up a front about yourself. It’s not who you really are.

When I looked back on what I lied about I was only trying to excuse what my mother did to me. And misrepresent my own shortcoming for why I was like the way I was. It produces temporary pleasure for me. But in the end I felt worse about myself that before I I had lied.

This discouraging path I was on manifested itself in ways that I couldn’t possibly perceive at the time. It set me back by delaying whatI wanted to do with my life. It took away the ability to take chances that my heart was willing to take.

Despite its temptation, ease of use and false promises, lying gets us nowhere in the end. We tend to stay right where we are because we are trying to keep our lies from being found out. It drags us down even more. Instead of moving forward we end up going backward.

Honesty and seeking truth is ways the path to follow. Honesty gains confidence, faith, empowers are willpower and represents us in the best light possible to see the real us.

Telling the truth when tempted to lie can improve a persons mental and physical health.

Respectable behavior is always carried by honesty. Telling the truth and backing it up with actions will show respect and an esteem for what’s right with ethical and moral integrity. It make you a responsible person.

Success for me is not about money, sales, or the amount of friends I have on Facebook. It’s about character, self-awareness, emotional intelligence and honesty and hard work. How we treat ourselves and others improve or lives and the lives of others.

Honesty is the first a Chapter in the book of wisdom

Thomas Jefferson

Honesty is always genuine. We must lay out our cards on the table and be transparent if we want to have a better life for ourselves

How To Wait

For the majority of us. Patience doesn’t come easily. And when it does come, it’s often fleeting. Th of the time, we rush, we interrupt, we get exasperated when people cut ahead of us in line, we charge things not rather than paying cash later, we curse drivers who impede our progress in the fast lane.

From decisions made in haste to words spoken without reflection, impatience causes a vast amount of pain, waste, and damage.

Fortunately, even if we aren’t born with a great deal of patience, it’s a virtue that even the most agitated among us can develop.

The keys to finding more patience in the marketplace or stuck in traffic- lies in finding new ways of perceiving your predicament.

Start Seeing Differently

Most impatience begins as a reversal feeling of discomfort, your face gets hot, or your stomach feels weird. Then negative thoughts begin rolling in like storm clouds- frustrating thoughts about how something or somebody should be moving faster or doing something differently.

It’s these thoughts that cause problems. Our conscious mind is searching for an object to blame for out initial discomfort, but this only makes things worse, because it’s like pouring kerosene on a fire to put it out.

What works better is to reframe irritating. Circumstances. Find creative ways to see and relate things other then getting mad.

Bypass blame: rather the faulting anyone in particular for the fact that you have to wait or adjust your plans, try entertaining the notion that they delay just is, who knows, it may even turn out to be to your advantage; if not for the wait, perhaps you might have encountered a bigger problem- or accident instead.

Be thankful for small blessings: if you’re stuck in a traffic jam, and you have a cell phone that allows you to call to explain. Your delay to whoever is waiting for you, that’s a blessing. And once you make that call you’re free to embrace more blessings, like the opportunity to listen to some great music while actively strengthening your patience muscles. See if you can sit in traffic without wishing I’ll upon a single driver, even if several of them manage to get their cars into the moving lane before you do. Try radiating goodwill instead.

Write your own history: keeping mind that you are always suffering your own experience. Eventually, the irritating circumstances you are dealing with will be one, and you’ll be left with the choices you made. Do you want to look back on losing your cool or do want to look back on having made an honorable, embarrassment free escape from a bad situation? The choice is yours.

Whenever you feel the burn of impatience, just keep your eyes on the prize of your own equanimity.

Expand your Empathy

Learn to see the complexity of a situation. This means understanding that human beings have complicated lives in a complex universe, all the variables of which can possibly know or appreciate at the moment. Just remembering this fact may allow up to amplify our sense of empathy with others, and soften a little.

Pull Tolerance From Positivity

It’s easier to have patience when we’re awash in good feelings. When we’re newly in love it seems nothing can disturb our sense of well being. When your in a positive way, we seem to take in all in stride.

When we are generally happy, our ability to comfortably tolerate annoyances skyrockets. We can use that dynamic to our advantage.

This doesn’t involve gritting our teeth and bearing reality. On the contrary, it involves actively noticing and cultivating positive feelings. Pay attention to pleasant, everyday sensations and experiences like the pleasure of eating when your hungry, putting on warm socks when your feet are cold, or seeing a beautiful bank of clouds in the so. This is called ”cheerfulness practice, ” and it can do a lot to lengthen our proverbial fuse.

There will always be things that push us to impatience. But practicing with little annoyances shows us we can build a greater capacity for humor and perspective overall. So when the truly big challenges come along, there’s grace. Waiting for you.

I have a difficult time during Christmas. I absolutely dislike shopping at Christmas. The mass of people come out and waiting is difficult. My Pastor gave me some advice and it helped me tremendously, He said:” look how long God waited for you if he waited years for you surely you can wait for others for a few minutes.” Great advice.

Feeling Lost in Life.

I’m convinced that one of our missions in life is to learn what we need to become better versions of ourselves. That is why we do d ourselves in situations we don’t have the tools to handle. Then when we don’t know what to do with the circumstances and the associated emotions, we are presented with a learning opportunity.

Many times I have found myself in situations where I feel lost, not knowing where to start. They are mostly life-changing situations, events that demand us to make life-defining decisions even though we don’t understand what is really going on.

Proverbs 3: 5-6 tells us Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths.

For some people it’s the loss of a loved one, for others, it’s losing a job, or being in a car accident, or beings assaultedm a breakup, a divorce, even though we don’t understand what is going on God has plans for good and not for evil to give you a future and a hope.

Sometimes our situations seem traumatic. We the to overthink and only on a specific situation. We start to feel anxious about how we are going to get through it and maybe at the same time, sad or guilty about what’s happening. We question our decisions, ”Why did I do that?” or Why didn’t I do this?” or both. We tho kof the should haves, could haves and would haves, and then we blame ourselves and give the situation or people involved. The power to impact our self-confidence and self-esteem.

I have found most of the time everything works out for the best if you leave it to God. I always ask, seek and you will receive. For every one that asks receives and he that seeks will find, and to him, that knocks the door will be opened.

So don’t give our power to other people we start making divisions based on what other people say. Don’t give your power away to anyone. For example, I let other people tell me what kind of vehicle to buy for 25 years. I either hated my ride or ended up trading it in because I was not satisfied. Which was putting further and further in debt. I made the decision to trade-in my last car, not because I didn’t like it, but I ended being stranded during the winter months because it was dangerous to drive. I finally chose I vehicle that I wanted, and that was right for me. My husband absolutely hated it, but I just told him that he wasn’t the one driving it I was. I’ve had this vehicle longer than any other one I’ve ever had. All through hard work almost have it paid off. I was a huge decision on my part. And I felt empowered.

Some decisions we have to make come from negative emotions. Fear of the future, fear of failure or success, sadness for the past and sometimes guilt and regrets and anxiety.

I always try to remember what is the middle of anxiety. I right? I being anxious about myself. No one is to blame but me.

You may be thinking how are you supposed to deal with all the emotions and understand what do you need to learn from the situation all at the same?

Know yourself. You are not your situation. Pause and reflect on who you are set aside from your situation, what do you like, what don’t you like, what do YOU want, what could you accept, and what couldn’t you accept.

Respect yourself. Once you know who you are and what you like and don’t like. Learn where your boundaries lay. Act according. Always think, who you are and how will this will impact your life. Will it take you closer to where you want to be or to the person you want to become.

When I am in a situation and I don’t know what to do. I ask God, what do you want to teach me through this situation? What do you want me to learn? If you think about it that way, any situation you are in will help you learn what you need to through what you are going through.

Be compassionate with yourself. Instead of beating yourself up choose forgiveness, and decide what you can do different next time. Instead of being your worst judge, learn from your mistakes and try again in a different way. It was explain do me. That every situation is a mountain every time the same situation comes around it’s like running around a mountain. How many times are you going to have to run around the same mountain before you learn the lesson.

Check reality. When do you feel like you are not enough like you are a failure, or like you just too afraid to try, ask yourself what is the evidence of that and who says that? If the answer is you’re the only one saying that, look at yourself and the situation from a different perspective. We all have tough situations in our lives at one time or another. We have an opportunity to learn from everyone.

Be in the present. Despair and depression usually come from looking at the past, and the anxiety that comes from what is going to happen. When we focus on our past we relive the painful situation over and over and best ourselves up about it. When we focus on the future we worry about what’s not even happened yet. We worry about everything past and future. Worry about the present and the future will worry about itself. The past is gone there is nothing we can do about the past. Focus on what you have learned from your past and move on to the present situation at hand.

Think before acting it’s very difficult to be objective in an intense emotional state. We can become impulsive and tend to find quick solutions to our problems. They is a saying that goes ”Never quit on a bad day.” Avoid making important decisions on emotionally charged times. Think before acting.

Do what you have to do. If you want to see results you need to do the work. Be clear in your goals. Then commit yourself to do what you have to do every day, focus only on what you need to do at that present moment, knowing that next day, week or month you will also do what you need to do until you accomplish your goal, until you are on the other side of the difficult situation. The best way to move forward is to make sure you take each step.

The only impossible journey is the one you never begin.

Tony Robbins

There Are Two Types Of Pain In This World

The one’s that hurt you and the other that changes you.

No pain, no gain they say

Who exactly ”they” are. I have no idea. They are a very opinionated bunch, giving short, one-sentence answers to all of life’s issues. I don’t kike ”they.”

They are stupid. Life just is solved with one-liners. I’m afraid it takes a bit more thought to in-riddle lives more important problems. Nevertheless ”they” are most definitely onto something.

The things in life that we end up appreciating most are the things that we work hardest to achieve. Being difficult to achieve requires much more effort. An effort that humans have evolved to avoid exerting.

We like our comfort just as much as we like the air we breathe, and although we may believe that we need comfort we don’t just as much as we need oxygen, the truth is that we don’t.

A comfortable life is a boring life. On the other hand, an entirely uncomfortable life is a miserable one. So what do you do? Aim for the middle.

Life is best lived by surrounding yourself with comfort and then facing yourself into uncomfortable situations. Buy a nice car.

Find a beautiful husband or wife who loves you. Wear comfortable clothing. Treat yourself well and pamper yourself. Then when you’re at the top of your game challenge yourself.

Comfort is wonderful when we are in a resting state. However, remaining in a resting state isn’t living. It’s sleeping. I promise you that you’ll have more than enough time to rest once you’re dead. For now, make things a little painful for yourself.

Pain can be difficult to deal with- it’s uncomfortable. What you have to keep in mind is that there’s are really two types of pain: There’s the pain that simply hurts you and weakens you, and then there is pain that makes you stronger, makes you grow, and changes you for the better.

Your task is to learn the difference between the two.

Luckily, that’s a simple task. Just about everyone knows how to differentiate pain that will make you- physically and/or mentally-and pain that is necessary to transform you to a better, sharper version of yourself.

Each o us has a different threshold for pain. The truth is that the pain that you feel is all in your head and because it’s in your head, you can learn to adjust and bear it.

After working hours on a project, doing your, best to meet a deadline you think is impossible to meet, it can be hard to convince yourself to continue pushing forward.

You hate the fact that you have to put it together, but people are counting on you. The thought alone hurts. Just the same, changing your diet, exercising, training yourself always is a good idea. Remember your brain is a muscle it needs training in order the function correctly, if it gets lazy you can’t do the things you have and need to do.

Human beings are creatures on habit, we don’t like change. But if we don’t change then our lives won’t change. Our dreams will never be realized and well be stuck in the same mediocre life until we kick the bucket. That thought scares me, it hurts me.

It’s the most excruciating and horrifying reality that you can find yourself in- spending an entire lifetime living the wrong life. If you want to live the life of your dreams then you’re going to need to learn not only to bear pain but to embrace it.

Embracing the right kind of pain will change your life for the better. It will motivate you. Excite you. Give you a reason. To get up early every morning and run after your dreams.

It’s the pain that we need in order to live a for filling lives, without it, we are stuck in a world of ineffective comfort. To change effectively is to experience pain and push through it. It’s to accept that the pain as not only a necessity but as a tool, a force that helps you continue making progress.

Pain is your friend if you allow it to be. Introduce yourself to the things that make you feel uncomfortable and realize that those things can do you no real harm. They may make you feel bad, but at the end of the unpleasant rainbow is a pot of gold.

The next time you feel pain, say with a smile on your face, ”Good at least I know I’m going something right.”

Let Go and Move On.

Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.

You are changing. The universe around you is changing. Just because something was right for you in the past doesn’t mean it still is. This could be a relationship, a job, a home, or a habit.

It happens slowly as you grow. You discover more about who you are and what you want out of life, and then you realize there are deliberate changes you need to make yo keep up with the changes happening around you and within you.

The lifestyle you’ve been living no longer fits. The specific people and routines you’ve known forever no longer align with your values. So you cherish all the memories, but find yourself letting go and moving on.

If you’re currently dealing with this process you may feel a bit awkward and that’s okay. This feeling is normal. It’s been right there with you on more occasions than you can count.

Reasons to let go

Someone’s negativity is rubbing off on you- you are the average. Of the people, you spend the most time with. In other words, who you spend your time with has a great impact on the person you are. And the person you become. If you are around cynical and negative people all the time, you will become cynical and negative.

You have grown apart from someone -sad but true, no matter what you do or how much you explain yourself, some people will gradually evolve away from your core values as time goes on they will prove over and over again that they are committed to misunderstanding you and clashing with your needs.

You are truly unhappy with your current circumstances

It’s always better to be struggling at something you love than succeeding diligently at something you despise.

Your goals and needs have changed

What was right for you then is necessarily right for you now? Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but realizing that you have changed, and then learning. To start over with your new truth.

Fear is holding you back (remember fear is an emotion) part of letting go and moving on is facing the fears and disappointments of the past that are binding your spirit.

You catch yourself living in the past

If all you do is attempt to relive something that has already happened, you’re missing out. The mental space you create by letting go of things that are already behind you gives you the ability to fill the space with something fresh and fun.

An old grudge is still hurting you Holding on to the weight of anger, resentment, and hatred will not only hold you back but also block your present blessings and opportunities. You’ve just got to drop some things to move forward.

You aren’t learning anything new

Living is learning. All positive change is the end result of learning. If you aren’t learning you’re simply dying slowly.

Holding on is like there’s only a past, letting go and moving on is knowing in your heart that there’s a bright future ahead.

Accept the truth and be thankful. To let good to be thankful for the experiences that make you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and grow. It’s the acceptance of everything you have, everything you once had, and the possibilities that lie ahead. It’s all about finding the strength to embrace life’s changes, to trust your intuition, to continue taking positive steps forward.

Distance yourself for a while

Sometimes you need to take several steps back in order to gain clarity on a situation. The best way to do this is to simply take a break and explore something else for a while. Why? So you can return where you started and see things with a new set of eyes. And the people there may see you differently too. Returning where you started is entirely different than never leaving.

Focus only on what can be chamged

Realize that not everything in life is meant to be modified or perfectly understood. Live, let go. Learn what you can and don’t waste energy on things you cannot change, and if you can’t change it don’t waste energy worrying about the things you can’t change Focus on something you can change. If you change something you don’t like, change the way you think about it. Review your options. And then reframe what you don’t like into starting point for achieving something better.

Claim ownership and full control of your life

No one else is responsible for you. You aren’t full control of your life so long as you claim it and own it. Through the grapevine, you may have learned that you should blame your parents, your thoughts teachers, the education system, your friends, the government… But never blame yourself. RIGHT? It’s never your fault…WRONG. It’s always your fault because if you want to change if you want to let go and move on with your life, you’re the only person who can make it happen.

Take a chance

When life sets you up for a challenge, there’s a reason for it; it’s meant to test your courage and willingness to make a change on something new. There’s no point in denying that things are different now or being fearful of the next step. The challenge will not wait even if you hesitate. Life only moves in one direction- forward. This challenge is your chance to let go of the old and make way for the new. your destiny awaits your decision.

Focus on today

Decide right now that negative experiences from your past will not predict your future. Figure out what the next positive step is no matter how small or difficult, and take it. Ultimately, the only thing you can ever really do is keep moving forward. Take that leap without hesitation, without looking back. Simply forget the past, look straight ahead and forge toward the future.

The Floor is Yours

What are you holding on to that’s holding you back? What’s the first step you need to take to let it go?