The Truth About Being A Strong Woman

A anonymous man once told me that “Being strong is not rewarded.” Women are expected to be vulnerable. Being strong means that your bitter or jaded about something, and that’s just not attractive.

Hears what being a strong woman means tome. It’s standing up for yourself. It means that we’re full- functioning human, one who is independent and able to do things for herself. It means that I have opinions and beliefs that I stand for, and that I do not settle for less.

It doesn’t mean we do not ask for help. I do, asking for help doesn’t mean your weak, it means I am able to acknowledge that I’m not a super woman, and that I’m going to need other people sometimes.

Being Strong doesn’t mean that I close myself off from others or act like I’m better than them. I’m always striving to be better, live better, love better which is about me rather than anyone else. It doesn’t mean that I force my beliefs down anyone’s throats, or judge them for how they think. It doesn’t mean I’m inevitably bitter or jaded. It fact a strong woman is a woman who loves herself and her world and is therefore positive, loving, and self-assured.

To be a strong woman simply means that I am grounded and confident in who I am.

There is a misconception about strong women: that we are difficult to love. But all in reality, it’s the complete opposite. Strong women are the best women to love. We are the women with fierce compassion. We know who we are and we’re not afraid to embrace that. We love wholeheartedly because we love ourselves and we are not looking to better ourselves, but our partners, our worlds.

If your a man who are intimidated by strong women, perhaps it is because you know this women will push you to be better, will make you see the world differently, and will challenge you.

This is the misconception about strong women: that we are difficult to love

Another misconception about being a strong woman is that we’re incapable of being vulnerable. The funny thing is: to be strong, you first have to be vulnerable. You have to look yourself straight in the eye and acknowledge all the parts of yourself that need improvement, all the parts of you that you try to hide behind a smiling face.

Vulnerability means being brutally honest with yourself; it means setting aside your pride and being open with someone and letting them in. Do not mistake independence and strength with an inability to let someone in. A woman that is confident with herself is a woman that will face love straight on.

She is woman that can be vulnerable in a relationship because she knows who she is. And she will let her significant other discover that person by peeling back those layers together.

The truth about being a strong woman is that the world sees us as a threat. We’re just simply too much, too intimidating, too jaded and miserable, and bitter. But we are none of those things. We are women with backbone. Women who aren’t afraid to b proud of ourselves in a world that might not always support us. Women who know the value of our vulnerability, our passion, our strength. And women who will fight anyone who dares say we should be any other way.

Merry Christmas

I’m wishing you all a very Merry Christmas. I wish you good health, and prosperity. Take the time to restore troubled friendships and relationships in your life. Enjoy the good things in life. God Bless You Everyone. Love to you always.

The Sound Of Silence

Silence is better than unnecessary drama.

Sometimes silence is the best answer, because not everyone deserves your reaction.

You don’t need to get even with a person who hurt you. You don’t need to insult those who insult you. Not all people are worthy of your attention even when it comes to the negative.

Often, the most correct way to deal with uncomfortable situations is not to react at all.

By not reacting to all the things that bother you, you show a great level of wisdom and maturity.

Your energy is way too precious to be spent on reacting to all the things that annoy you. You will only exhaust your positivity which will stop you from seeing the beauty and goodness out there.

Not all people will like you, but that’s okay. People will not always treat you the way you deserve, but that doesn’t mean that you should stoop to their level. By simply walking away you will save yourself from the trouble of trying to win the affection of someone, especially if they are undeserving of it to begin with.

A example of this is: my in-laws have different political views than my husband and I. Every election year she feels the need to tell me, I am wrong in my values and that my opinions do not matter. and how awful I am in my political views. I do not and will never discuss politics with my in-laws. This year was worse than the other years. I kept silent and let her speak until she was finished, then I chose to stay silent and walked away from her. In doing that she knew I was not going to argue with her. And she was not going to change my mind or my value system by downgrading me.

And not reacting didn’t mean that I was okay with how things were. You have the ability to stay calm and in control and say “NO” to drama because peace is crucially important to you.

You don’t need anyone to validate you. You don’t need people telling you that you aren’t good enough. You don’t need false friends or shallow relationships.

That is why by not reacting, you are in truth saying all that needs to be said.

By reacting to the provocations of others, you are giving them the green light to tramp,e all over you. So rather that trying to control other people, try to control yourself, your thought and your actions.

By choosing this path you are sending a powerful message that you will not tolerate disrespectful behavior of any kind.

It is sometimes better to reset everything, then wait for someone to change or give you closure.

Coping With Loneliness

Loneliness is an experience that means our current relationships don’t meet our needs. You don’t always have to be alone to feel lonely. Loneliness can from up whenever we feel alone, unwanted, or isolated. I was married for years and was very lonely despite him living in the same house. When he would ask me what was wrong and I answered I was lonely he never understood.

Loneliness can come up when:

  • We’re around a lot of people but don’t receive the support or connection we’re looking for.
  • We’re around a lot of people but feel like we just don’t fit in.
  • We lose an important person in our life, like a partner, family member, or close friend.
  • We’re alone and want to be with others.

Some kind of social support is important to well-being. There is no wrong or right social network- people feels satisfied with different types of social circles, friends, and relationships. What matters is how you feel. If you feel supported and understood, your relationships are likely in good shape. If you feel lonely, you may be missing pieces in your relationships.

How Can I Cope With Loneliness?

Loneliness can create more loneliness. Loneliness can make you feel like you don’t belong or fit in, which only makes it harder to reach out. This might seem to confirm that you really don’t fit in, which can make you lonelier. Loneliness can be difficult but it’s still a feeling. It can be changed. When you challenge feelings of loneliness or start to make changes in your life, the cycle of loneliness thinking starts to break down.

All my life I knew I was different than most people at times it made me feel very lonely. Once I began to embrace the fact I was different but not unlovable. Things began to change for me.

Ask Yourself Why You Feel lonely

Do you feel lonely because you don’t have other’s around you! Do you isolate yourself from other’s? Do you feel lonely even when your with others? Understanding your situation can help you take action where it matters most. This is not always easy and I usually don’t advice that people talk with a counselor but if you need to do. I prefer talking it out with the Lord my best solutions have come from Him.

Avoid comparing yourself to others

It’s so easy to look at other people and feel left out, but appearances can be deceiving. People want others to see their best side, but don’t be fooled by the message others show the outside world. Remember you can be surrounded by people and still feel lonely. Even on social media it’s only a controlled snapshot of what people want you to believe. Feeling like you aren’t as good as others is just that- a feeling, not the truth.

Give yourself some time, especially during big changes

It’s common to feel lonely during transitions like starting a new school, a new job, moving to a new city. Whatever your going through take sometime to settle and find your place. Loneliness may only be stop along the way.

Think about the connections you want in relationships. Are you looking for a small group of friends you can be yourself around or the support and understanding look around for groups or organizations. Use your interests and skills to your advantage join in things to meet people who already share in your interests. I volunteer at a few places during my week, so I am able to meet people who have different opinions and likes as I do.

Build confidence slowly. Give yourself manageable challenges.If you feel isolated, simply learning to feel comfortable in public places like a busy coffee shop, your by yourself but there are others around you.

Be patient and active. It takes time to build relationships. It can be a bit scary at first, try to initiate conversations or suggest opportunities to spend time with others. I am a member of a group that helps people in my community that are not able to go to the grocery store or able to fix things around their homes. My group had the opportunity to help a man find a stove so that he could cook his meals. I was very humbled when we took him this stove and he was crying and said “no one had ever done anything like this for him.”

Accept that you won’t be everyone’s friend and that’s okay.

This is not a reflection of your value or worth, it just means that you haven’t met the right group or individuals yet.

Aim for healthy relationships

If you find that you are one who isn’t heard in your relationships, building assertiveness skills can help you articulate your needs respectfully. Your partner is a equal and their needs matter also. If you make it all about you and your needs your relationship will suffer.

What is a warrior?

Being a Warrior doesn’t mean winning or even succeeding. It means risking and failing and risking again, as long as you live.

Are you a warrior? What comes to your mind when you think of that word?

Is it the battle cry of armies racing into battle for causes greater that their own lives? Is it mighty sacrifice, the greatest of all love laid on the line for the needs and lives of others? Is it the ability to overcome the odds, continue on in the face of defeat, never say die, never say quit? When your pushed into action, where is the warrior within you? What does it take to sound your battle cry?

Does it have to be the last straw that gets you going or are you marching on every day, battling the villains that would keep you from victory?

What is the mindset of the Warrior? What makes them different from the pack? What sets them in front when others fall behind and lose ground? Is being a Warrior different from being a leader?

While they make be one leader, one commander heading the argue, there can still be an army of warriors battling together, banding arm and arm, teams of them linked by loyalty and commitment to a noble cause.

I think about this concept, the word and I don’t have all the answers. But I have idea of what it is to be a Warrior. A strength. A tenacity. Indomitable Spirit. Honor. Formidable Bravery. Getting back up when others would have stayed down and quit fighting.

We all face battles in life. None of us are exempt. To wish for a charmed life without problems or battles to face is as silly as spitting into the wind. It will get you nothing but spit all over your face and nothing gained.

How you face your battles in life, how you choose to battle is the mark of a good person. Not whether you have them, but how you manage them.

So, do you face life’s battles like a warrior or do you run and hide, wishing them away?

We are living in a very dark frustrating time. Tensions are high, lines are being drawn in the sand. More and more everyday we are being asked to choose a side and decide where we stand, what we believe. Hate is remnant, and our civil rights are at the forefront of most everyone’s mind.

Yet in the midst of these dark challenges I am reminded again and again that it is how we face life’s battle that is the true test of our honor, courage and love. The hard battles and even the day to day ones, the crabby days, the headache days, the cloudy days,. The tragic days. We gather together, we hold each other up, we ask for help, we reach out to others, we hold up the ones who are in no position to do it for themselves.

Times like these inspire me, sometimes shame me, always makes me proud always humble me and help me remember my priorities. Live like warriors, With honor, patience, love, commitment and compassion for each other.

Never giving up.

We all fail. We will do it wrong. But when we fail, our goal is not to quit but to get back up quickly and battle some more. Battle better. No one said it is easy, this thing called life. But it is easier when we do it together. It’s easier still when we remember to stand tall, arm and arm and fight for the important things in life.

How Faith Helps You Cope With Stress

Having a belief in something greater that your immediate experience can be a powerful force in helping you create inner peace and cope with the stress in your life. We live in a universe that is both mystifying and at times overwhelming. We try to give meaning and purpose to our all to brief lives.

Faith is something bigger, and can help people come to grips with the unknown and perhaps unknowable. No one right away exists for finding a sense of spiritual connectedness. For many, this belief may take form of the belief of God and become to have a relationship with him.

However others may take a more global or vaguely articulate higher power. Or it may take form in community values, or nature. And belief in the human spirit.

Whatever form your faith takes you faith can be a powerful stress buffer, enhancing your ability to cope with life’s more serious stresses. Faith can help you cope with illness, and it may even help you live longer.

Faith can provide meaning and purpose.

Having a deeply felt belief system can help you cope with many of the distressing questions that surround the meaning of existence.

Faith can strengthen stress-effective values.

All Religions should promote the values of hope, faith, and love. Not condemn feelings of anger, hostility and aggression. These are human reactions that everyone has to deal with at some point in their life. We needed learn coping mechanisms in our life. A relationship with “a higher power.”

Faith can provide hope and acceptance.

It encourages a sense of optimism and hope that everything will work out for the best. Faith also helps you accept what doesn’t work out and what you cannot control.

Faith unites you with others.

It can help you create meaningful relationships with people that have the same faith and value systems as you. Having others to share with an lower your stress levels. Belong to a bible based church will put you in contact with others who are less fortunate the you which allows you to play a helping role which reduces stress.

Faith can calm you.

It involves prayer and contemplation, which like meditation and other forms of bodily relaxation can result in changes that reduce stress.