Ways To Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone Everyday

Want to get out of your safe cocoon but don’t know where to begin. The hardest part is taking the first step.

It’s so much to stay within the boundaries of where you are comfortable that it is to face the fear of going beyond them.

By limiting yourself to what you already know, you’re really missing out on some great opportunities, life experiences, and personal growth.

Individuals say to me, how do you do things with no issues? Whatever situation or the activity comes up, your ready to jump in there. I tell them Oh believe me there was time I would say no to everyone or everything that came my way.

Here are some simple steps you can take each day to push your limits.

Take the first step

In theory, all you need to do is to take the first step. It will be difficult. The first day is the worst. The opening line of your story can take a long time. But as you gain momentum, it gets easier to keep moving.

Put yourself in a new environment

It’s best to begin with small changes that will not present any real threat like eating at a different restaurant in a different part of town. Try attending a gun show or art exhibit. The idea here is to place yourself in a new area where you can control the situation. I remember I started getting myself out there by going to a conference on mental health for the weekend. I huge step, I was 150 miles away staying in a hotel with a lady that I didn’t know very well. It was a huge step, that didn’t turn out very well. I ended up having a horrible panic attack at the banquet because their we’re about 300 people in one room.i ran out in the hall and just began to shake life a leak. Sobbing horribly not even able to breath. I have no control over anything there, I couldn’t head to home because we brought the other ladies car. Until it was over I was a mess. I managed to get my licence to facilitate a group to help people handle just what I had been dealing with. And become all the stronger for it. If you don’t think your able for a big change all at once start slower. I like to start big and get it over with. Some people it works for and others it doesn’t.

Don’t pick a safe place

Every time you’re making a choice, one choice is the safe/comfortable choice and on choice is the risky uncomfortable choice. The risky/uncomfortable place is the one that will teach you the most and make you grow the most.

Take a different route home

If you drive or walk a different route, you will see different things. In a small way, that increases your view of the world. That is an easy way to start. After that make more drastic changes. Eventually, you will feel comfortable thinking out of the box.

Make snap decisions

It doesn’t have to be a life or death decision. Anything from choosing a restaurant to shopping. Just make a choice that’s unusual for your routine without overthinking it.

All of those things may seem daunting, flip a coin. I’m serious. Flip a coin over the decision and stick to it. Some people do it all the time and they end up glad that they did.

Eliminating the need for mulling over a decision boosts the process of stepping out of our comfort zones. Plus snap decisions install a feeling of self-trust.

Say ”yes” more often

Saying yes even when you don’t think you’re ready. If you are working, say yes to new projects, new assignments, new roles even when you have not done it before. It opens up huge opportunities in your career. Who knows you might find yourself enjoying something you never got the chance to explore earlier.

Volunteer

Preferably, make it a learning experience. Pick something you’re unfamiliar with and soak up everything you can while also making yourself useful.

I am big on volunteering. I volunteer for a Veterans Organization. I wasn’t sure of doing this at first. But then I got the opportunity to be President for a year. I didn’t choose to be in this position but, rather it was forced on me when the President resigned mid-year. It was a lot of work, but I learned a lot and smarter when it comes to the brave soldiers in our country. I’ve volunteered at a drug addiction recovery center. First it was going to a group and sharing my experiences and listening what others were sharing. Then it eventually began with volunteering at a store that funds rehabilitation for them people. I volunteer at my church once a month. Doing these things help me not to overthink my decisions and past. It keeps me pretty busy and I love it.

Do what you’re afaid of

New mindset. It goes like this. Does this scare me? Then I have to do it. That’s how you conquer fear. It never goes away. You just learn how to ride the energy.

Create challenges to push yourself in areas you want to improve on

Decidecacfew challanges and their triggers for yourself designed to push you outside of your comfort zone in areas you want to develop.

Next time you see someone your attracted to go up and talk to them.

Next time you go buy a cup of coffee or anything else ask them for a discount since your there every day.

Next time you make eye contact with a stranger keep looking at them until they look away.

Next time someone asks you how you are respond by saying you are doing great instead of saying just good.

Just focus on your triggers and don’t make any excuses. It’ll become a habit after a while.

Remember tomorrow is a new day. It helps us remember that what doesn’t kill us generally makes us stronger. You will survive, you will heal, you will learn something, you will have a better chance of emerging unscathed next time.

Ways To Stay Positive When You’re Having A Bad Day

I have had the worst day today then I had in a long day. Everything that could go wrong did. I went to mail my son’s Christmas gift and the lady at the post office told me his address wasn’t right. I went to pick up some Christmas tree’s to donate to those in need, as I was lifting into my vehicle my knee popped and I almost fell. I went to buy some wine bringing it into the house ai dropped it and it shattered. And ruined a gift I was holding. I almost wanted to scream. But I didn’t.

I want to share with you some ways on how to stay positive when you’re having a bad day.

It seems to be Murphy’s law. One had thing happens and the rest of your day goes downhill from there.

We all have had days when it seems like nothing goes right.

Ways to stay positive, even when your life isn’t cooperating.

Develop A Plan

Often we feel just ”off” and we let it affect our day without finding out what it is that makes up feel down in the first place. Identify what’s making you feel despondent.

Example, I package I tried to send today. I didn’t stress over it. I thought okay I can try again to tomorrow. Thinking I hope the lady I went to will not be there then. When I hurt my knee, it knew it was a bad choice to try and do any heavy work. I didn’t let it bother me, I did what I needed to do. I should of got a clue to go home and rest my knee instead of going on. My knee was acting weird last night. I went to buy the bottle of wine when I was hurting and tired. But there’s no used to cry over spilled wine.

Everything that happened to me today can be fixed tomorrow. While the day was irritating. I didn’t let get me upset. I saw some old friends today, I bought groceries, I have a vehicle to drive. Some so many people have way less than I do. I didn’t let the bad things in the day, steal my joy.

Speak positive words to yourself. We tend to believe what we say. Our minds literally go in the direction of our words. Of course, we can’t talk ourselves into being taller, or skinnier, but, we can have a more positive outlook by noticing the good, anticipating a positive outlook and speaking it out load.

It’s almost impossible to shout ”I feel fantastic! and be depressed or mad at the same time. A few verbal affirmations through your day will go along way toward lifting your spirits. I always listen to m favorite music when I’m having a bad day. I can sing along and be uplifted.

Laugh

When you can laugh during a bad day it seems that your day goes faster. There’s so much stress during these days, laughter is the best medicine to distress yourself.

It’s very hard to worry about a situation when your trying to solve it, or working on seeing the good in life.

How Will You Be Remembered?

This has been on my mind lately. It’s been a tough year for most of us.

If you die today, would you be proud of what others remember you as.

There is no doubt you will be remembered whether in a positive of negative way.

None of us want to pass on, but the reality is that life is short. We listen to people talk about how short life is, how we need to make the most of it. And how we need to love those around us especially the ones who don’t have much time left, but too often we let that message go one ear and out the other.

Don’t be afraid of death; be afraid of an unlived life

Natalie Babbitt

You don’t have to live forever; you just have to live. Leaving a great legacy is the most important thing you can do in your life. They don’t have to be possessions or a bunch of money.

Perhaps the most important question to ask yourself is- how will I be remembered when I am gone? When you ask yourself this question, what is your first response? Will others see you as selfish, uncommitted, unloving, and inpatient, or will see all of your amazing qualities- compassionate, kind, giving, and loving? The choices you make now will impact how others remember you.

What Can You Start Doing Now

First, you need to decide what legacy you want to create. You need to think of what contribution you want to make to this world. What message do you want to send with your life to the world and to those who matter most to you? If you had a chance to attend your own funeral, what would you want people to say about you?

We all have a limited time on earth. And yet, we often live our lives as if our time is unlimited, putting things off, thinking that we’ll always have more time.

Based on the legacy you want to leave behind, identity three to five specific goals you can set for creating your legacy. Then for each goal, figure out the first step you can take and start making it today. Don’t keep pushing it off, or else you will never start.

Thinking about this the last little while. When I was struggling with my past and had so much hate toward everyone. I remember when I was suicidal. I only want to die, to put myself out of my misery. If I had succeeded. What a legacy I would have left behind. A poor lady, that had no love, happiness or strength in here life.

I am not that person today, thank God.

I am the loving, kind, helpful person, I always wanted to be. And I keep working on becoming a better person everyday.

A powerful legacy can often be created with simple action. Simple acts of kindness have been known to change lives in powerful ways. Do your part to make the world a better place.

One person can’t change the world, but can change the world around them. Stop worrying about the fact that you can’t do everything or that you can’t do it perfectly. Maybe you don’t know what kind of legacy you’ll leave behind and that’s okay. What you can do is the right thing.

What is your favorite charity? Would you like a tree planted in your name?

Leave behind some legacy letters, to your friends and family that are close to you that can be read after you’ve passed on. It’s something they will likely treasure the rest of their lives.

You don’t have to earn a noble peace prize to have a legacy worth remembering. At the end of the day, it won’t matter how much money you have in the bank, more how great your skin looked. What will matter is the type of impression you left those around you? People will forget the superficial things, but they will never forget how to made them feel. Your kindness and compassion.

Nonverbal Communication Keys Types

Nonverbal communication is colorful and full of intrigue. A shrub of the shoulders and a roll of the eyes allows us to say, ”I don’t like you, ” without uttering a single word. Better yet, a warm smile and an outstretched hand says ”Im so glad to see you.”

In every personal encounter, we send and receive nonverbal communion cues whether we realize it or not. While the world encourages us to be ourselves, there is a time and place for nonverbal cues. When we are at work, it’s wise to take note of how we communicate with both our words and our gestures.

Facial Expressions

The first and most obvious clue to nonverbal communication is a persons facial expression.

Even though we only have one face, it can exhibit a wealth of expressions. From a half smile, to a full-blown smirk, to a casual eye shift, our facial expressions demonstrate a range of emotions. Instead of delving with all the nuances like a quirk of the lip or a twitch of the eye. There are three prominent expressions.

Have you ever heard the quote: if my mouth doesn’t say it my face definitely will.

This is so true where we like it or not, our facial expressions sometimes says more that our tongue.

Smiling- A smile generally indicates happiness or contentment.

Scowling – A scowl or from indicates discontentmebt or frustraion.

Lack of expression -An expressionless face can indicate two things the indication of disinterest or boredom, or a face of disdain.

An expressionless face is hard to decipher, so if you suspect you’re exhibiting what’s know as stone face, it might be nice to poo in a smiles from time to time.

Have you ever sat in a room full of people and just watched their facial expressions? It interesting what you can find out about people just watching their body language.

Eye Contact

People place a lot of stock in eye contact. If you’re talking to someone and they don’t look at you at all, you’re going to feel put off and ignored. But, the fact that someone’s looking down a lot can mean their shy. Someone lacking in confidence tends to have trouble making or maintaining eye contact.

If you struggle with eye contact, it’s the kind of thing you have to practice to improve. Like public speaking, it must be practiced. And it’s a nice skill to have because it allows people to see you’re engaged and interested in what you have to say.

Of course, extended stretches of eye contact have the opposite effect; it can make people feel uncomfortable. You’ll find the happy medium the more you practice.

Gestures And Movement

While our face is a dead giveaway for our moods, the entire body is a barometer. If you had watched a heated debate through a glass conference room. There are somethings you might have witnessed:

  • Frequent and even wild hand gestures
  • Finger-pointing Arms waving in the air
  • Raking fingers through their hair
  • Invasion of personal space in order to send a message of hostility

On the other hand, if everyone’s sitting peacefully around a table you can still note nonverbal communication cues. What if someone has their arms crossed? Knowingly or unknowingly, they could be saying ” I’m closed off to you and your ideas.”

If someone’s resting their hands on the table with a relaxed and open posture, they’re conveying a message of openness and willingness.

What is someone at work is fiddling with they’re pen or coffee mug and not looking who is speaking with them. This could be a sign they’re bored with the subject. Or it may have nothing at all with the speaker, they may be preoccupied by they’re personal life. Either way it’s a signal they’re not fully present.

Tone of Voice

There’s not a lot of delineation in this example. If someone’s volume is elevated and they’re speaking rapidly, they’re excited. Either something is wrong or they’re amped up. But, if they’re speaking in calm, slow tones, they’re probably conveying their message without any cause for concern.

The way we inflict our words also impacts how they’re Interpreted. For example says, I thought you were coming to Florida this weekend, it could mean they hoped you were coming and theyre glad to see you.

The same person can also say I thought you were coming to Florida this weekend meaning why are you here on Sunday evening? You’re late. So, the inflection of your words conveys a message as much as the actual words we choose.

Personal Touch

Remember, when we were watching the debate behind the glass window where there was finger-pointing and invasion a of personal space, it indicates attack mode. Someone’s aggressively conveying they’re out to get someone or prove a point. In this line of attack, someone can also reach out and grab someone by the arm to shock them to attention.

We usually consider physical touch in a positive and personal light. If someone is sitting somewhere crying, someone is likely to put their hand on them and ask them what’s wrong. These signs of touch are meant to be conforting while forging a connection. Someone can give a light touch to a person’s arm as they say thank you.

In any instance, bad or good, touch is designed to strengthen the message being sent.

Appearance

This example is a bit more controversial. We’re taught to judge a book by its cover. We can’t assess a person’s intelligence or demeanor by the clothing they wear. Yet, however there are certain setting one’s appearance does send a message. This is why people wear suits or dresses to work and casual wear on the weekends.

My husband wears overalls to work because he fixes things for the power plant and farmers in the area. But when he comes home he puts on sweat pants and a t-shirt.

Our everyday attire and hairstyle send a message, imagine a woman who always wears bright bold tones. Perhaps she wears orange suits with red blouses or yellow shirts with royal blue shirts. This woman is not looking to be a wallflower. You could probably guess she has a high level of self-confidence.

On the other hand, just because someone chooses tones of gray, it doesn’t mean they’re shy. The might simply prefer a simplistic style. To them, less may be more.

I wear bright bold colors during the spring and summer seasons, but during the winter I wear a lot of browns, grays and dark greens. It doesn’t mean I change who I am, it’s just because in the spring and summer I’m happier. And During the fall and winter I’m kind of low key. Because of the darker seasons I am so excited about the weather but I am still confident and outgoing.

Either way, how we present ourselves to people and situations tells a story. Men are told to take out hats off at the dinner table, put a comb through our hair and wear our Sunday best to church’s. It shows we put a little thought into the interaction. My church doesn’t have a dress code, but I still wear nice clothes, black pants and a nice shirt, their are others that wear shorts to church. The way people dress, says nothing about they’re relationship with the Lord.

Your facial expressions and body language as well as how you dress can send a message. As well as how you act. Their are individuals who don’t realize this. You can watch a person and learn a lot about them.

Book Of Life

The book of life is the heavenly record (God’s Book). Jesus Himself determines whether the names that are recorded in the book of life remain in that record and are supported by His confession that they belong to Him at the day of judgment.

Those who have received Christ as their Saviour have their names in God’s book and can rejoice.

Like 10:20 Notwithstanding in this rejoice not, that the spirit is subject unto you; but rather rejoice, because you names are written in heaven.

His book has the names of those who are destined because of God’s grace and they’re destined because of God’s grace and their faithfulness to participate in God’s heavenly kingdom.

When I was struggling years ago, I was still going to church and struggling. I had a wall up so high not even God could reach me. I fought and fought and prayed and cried for God to help me. I was tired of living with the pain and punishment I felt all the time. There were time I thought even God can’t forgive me. Being the stubborn woman I was, I kept crying out to go. It was a hard fight but finally God began to listen to my prays and one day. I just knew he forgave me completely. The experience I had was mind blowing.

Don’t ever think you’ve done go much wrong that God won’t forgive you. He will sometimes take extra work on your side. But when it happens it will be intense. You can get in the book of life no matter what if you start living right.

Isaiah 62:2 reads thou shalt be called by a new name, which the mouth of the Lord will name.

A prophet I listen to all the time, was talking about a vision or dream someone had was in heaven and looked in the Book of Life but she could not find her name, then she suddenly has a revelation and she knew why, because God had given her a new name.

Revelation 3:12 reads I will write upon him my new name. Only the Redeemed of the Lord will enter in.

The Booj of life will be used along with the books of judgment and the final judgment to separate the righteous and the wicked.

Revelation 20:12 reads And I saw the dead, small, and great, stand before God; and the books were opened which is the book of life, and the dead were judged out of those things which were written in the books, according to their works. Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.

I was listening to a study on Revelation and the pastor was teaching on purposes. We all have a purpose in their lives, if we don’t live out our purpose. We will not get into the book of life without living our purpose.

Asking Wrongly

You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions (James 4: 1-3).

This passage makes this very plain. It addresses some of the problems present in the original audience.

When I was young I learned this lesson, I alway told people the God never answered “My” prayers, I never understood the reason why.

We read in verses 1 and 2 that there are many quarrels and fights that are motivated by covetousness and inordinate desire. Such motivations are just like the jealousy and selfish ambition that characterize earthly wisdom. What is covetousness except the jealous desire to have what belongs to our neighbor? Is not selfish ambition often the result of coveting another power or position?

These desires were resulting in murder. Some commentators take the word murder literally since the audience was formerly Zealots and not above taking the lives of others. This not probably the best interpretation since the condemnation would be harsh if those in the audience were actually killing one another. The word used for murder can be used for murder here can be used figuratively and such used in keeping with James’ warning concerning the tongue. The murder being discussed here was not being perpetrated against physical life, but rather against another person’s character.

If we manifest the disorder of vile practices that result from earthly wisdom our prayers will be in vain.

It is not until you can with a kind heart and the will of God to come forth that our prayers will be heard.

For example: Year’s ago I was praying that my daughter-in-law would have I’ll done to her, because of the way she treated our family. I prayed some pretty awful stuff. She hurt me so I wanted to hurt her. And my son and her relationship had taken the brunt of all this hate. They were struggling and in turn my son would call me to vent. Little did he know I was praying about. God brought to my attention that I was hurting my son as well as her.

It was not God’s will for any of us to be hurt. So, I switched what I was praying towards her. Praying for peace and happiness for them and for myself to accept my daughter-in-law as the one my chose to love and take as his wife.

Their relationship problems stopped and although they don’t come to visit often. I have come to accept this as normal.

If we pray negative prayers they will not be answered that way we want. We have to pray our will as God’s will. With love and respect if we want to have them answered.

When we pray we need to pray this way:

Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed thy name, they kingdom come; as earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil (Matthew 6:9).

God is about love and peace not about anything negative. I can pray for 100000 dollars God will not ever answer that prayer cause he knows I’m going to spend that money on earthly possessions. But if I pray for a person that needs a blessing of some food in their cupboard that is much more likely to get answered.

Be consistent in your prayers. I’ve prayed for my marriage to be saved and it was in God’s timing only. Not mine. I prayed for God to heal my cancer, and I was healed. It takes focus and time with God to get a breakthrough in anything. It has to be within his will.

When we do not ask the Lord to meet our needs, or if we ask him to do so with the motives, we will miss out on the wisdom and all the other blessings that God offers to His children. Do not doubt whether you will receive it. Believe and receive your prayers as truth. Don’t pray for your own agenda. Search your heart and ask God to purify your motives so that you might pray in a manner pleasing to Him.